 The narcissist wants what you have. They have a desire to possess what you have. They have a desire to do what you have done. The reason for this is because they have a lack or deficiency of something. There is something desirable or essential that they are missing in their lives, which can then cause them to become fixated on you. It can cause them to develop an obsessive attachment to you. It can cause them to think about you to an extreme and excessive degree. They pay attention to you. They invest their time, effort and energy in you because they are expecting a return on their investment. They believe that by devoting their time, effort and energy into their fixation on you, there will be a worthwhile result. They believe that they are going to get something out of it. The narcissist wants what you have. This may be your time and attention, your money, power or success, your physical appearance or it could be your happiness and contentment, your security and stability. If you observe their actions and behaviors, you will know what they want. They can often reveal this information to you without even realizing. They might take up a lot of your time and attention. They might try to steal your money, strip you of your power or sabotage your success. They might focus on your physical appearance or try to compete with you in that area. They might try to take away your happiness and contentment. They might try to destabilize you or make you insecure. Whatever they are trying to do to you will reveal what they want. And if they succeed in taking this away from you, it will often be the very thing that they display to you. By doing this, they are trying to project their feelings of envy and jealousy onto you. Narcissists do not want to reflect on their emotions. It's too painful for them to deal with. So when they witness something that you have that they want, they will try to devalue or discredit it. They will try to sabotage or take it away from you because they are envious and jealous of you. They will then display something of a similar nature in an attempt to make you express those emotions for them. You need to identify that those emotions do not belong to you. They were projected onto you by the narcissist who is envious and jealous of you. You do not want what they have. Knowing any sane state of mind would want what a narcissist has. The fact that they possess it makes it undesirable. But they will try to trick you into thinking that you want what they have because it then helps to regulate their emotions. Their feelings of envy and jealousy towards you. You need to recognize that they are the ones who are fixated on you. They are the ones who have an obsession and can't leave you alone. And the reason for that is because they want what you have. They are envious and jealous of you if that was not the truth. They would have forgotten about you a long time ago, but they didn't. Because they want you to remain in their lives. They want you to remain in their experience of life. The narcissist wants what you have, but they cannot produce it on their own. They need to get it from you and whether it's your time of attention, your energy, money or success, whatever it is, they will try to take it from you because they cannot produce it on their own. They lack the capabilities and potential to produce anything great. They lack the energy and they know that their best opportunity is to cling on to you for dear life because you have what they want. You have what they need to survive. And they have a lack or deficiency of something which you are able to provide when they focus their attention on you. Suddenly all of their problems disappear. It distracts them from their lack or deficiency. It makes them feel like they have something and the more you try to escape, the more they realize just how much they need you. The more they realize that they have to trick you into believing that they have what you want just to keep you around, but it is just an illusion. And you will never find what you want any narcissist. And most often whatever they display to you is what made them envious and jealous of you. They want what you have and they cannot produce it on their own or find it anywhere else. They can create the illusion but they know that it's not real or authentic which is why they will remain fixated on you but they will never get what they want from you. They will never be truly satisfied because they're like junkies. They have this compulsive habit and obsessive dependency on you and that is why they keep coming back to you because you distract them from their empty miserable lives and while it might not make them happy for a moment where they would otherwise feel dead, you make them feel something. Thank you for watching. I hope this video is in it with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you are like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaches and queries can email me at natsforvicoachin at gmail.com. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.