 It's important to have friends in your life who can like sometimes call you out on your bullet and not just tell you what you want to hear and be like no you know break up with that person he's terrible for you or she's terrible for you or like get your act together and my friends did that for me and I'm very excited about it. See Garrett understands exactly what I keep trying to teach all of you. What is up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about mental health so I like to take things that are happening in the YouTube community or pop culture and teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being so for any that kind of stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton a ton of videos and I love my subscribers so much let me tell you why let me tell you why yesterday I got blown up I got blown up in my comment section on my last video on Twitter in DMs on Instagram and people like have you seen the new Garrett video have you seen the new gear video I've seen the new gear video I'm like no chill and you know you all just brought it to my attention I'm like okay cool and Tristan and I were talking about it like it's it's funny I'm like wow people can say this it's just like well yeah you just got a bunch of Shane Dawson fans of course they're gonna tell you about Garrett watch the new video I'm like alright point taken but anyways thank you all of you I love when you send me like recommendations and let me know what's going on and you want to hear you know the mental health aspects of these videos so yeah like Tristan I watched this last night and this was this was such an amazing video like y'all know how I am you know how I get like I kept pausing it like it took Tristan and I maybe like an hour and a half to watch that video that kept pausing it I kept taking those there's so many things and like I could honestly make like 10 videos about different subjects in this video alone but I'm trying to calm down so I'm gonna try to compact it all into this video so Zach here's what we're gonna do all right you're gonna play a clip I'm gonna talk about the subject like I think Philip DeFranco is really good and like talking about a lot of things in a short period of time so now let me try to fill ed this video you ready Zach good bless you so the first thing is I'm gonna be honest I'm gonna be completely honest I wasn't subscribed to Garrett why why was I not subscribed to Garrett even though I love love love his content so much it's because he's inconsistent he's inconsistent like I feel like you gotta earn my subscribe right my subscription and like he just he just hasn't been uploading in in this video he talked about a little bit but you guys I made a video about Jordan Lay not that long ago Bobby Burns ex-girlfriend did y'all know they broke up what anyways I made a video about that like when she made her anxiety video she put up a trailer and said video coming tomorrow then it came out days later well Garrett made the same the same mistake and he said coming soon right and like here's the thing here's anxiety tip for all of you like do not give yourself these types of deadlines do not do those kind of things because then they make you more anxious like all of you I don't know if you've noticed this about me I don't tell you my upload schedule I don't tell you if I'm gonna do a video every day I don't tell you if I'm gonna do in two videos a day or three videos a day you know why because on the day that I don't feel like making a video I didn't promise you anything you see what I mean like I think accountability is very good and all of that but like if you're somebody who struggles with this and you have a lot of up-and-down days like do not set set yourself up for failure like this so hopefully Garrett learned his lesson I'm gonna touch on subscribing to Garrett which I did a little bit later in this video the video I figured would be called organizing my insane hoarder life in 24 hours what do you think that's possible because you started filming a week ago so it's not 24 hours so what just happened is I lowered the camera and I genuinely said to Shane like Shane like you can't say that stop because I was like you're gonna ruin the video concept like the idea because I thought that was such a great title organizing my place in 24 hours but that's the thing about Shane is I can't pull that in front of him he kind of just called me out so in that clip right there like Shane showed up and like Garrett's talking about how like he was uncomfortable like Shane like called him out Shane called him out for BSing him right and like yeah this is what I keep telling you guys like you need people around to tell you what you need to hear not what you want to hear so throughout this entire episode about like hoarding and just Garrett you know kind of like opening up about this stuff there's so many similarities between addiction and just mental health issues as a whole this is why I really try to like teach all of you like people think that addiction is over here a mental health is over here it's the same thing like what Shane had to do with Garrett is what I have to do with when working with people trying to overcome addiction like you have to call him out on their BS constantly constantly gotta call him out like Shane was like making faces at Garrett because he knew he knew Garrett was just full so Shane is a very good friend to keep around because he will not cosign on your BS he's gonna call you out on that stuff oh my god you're like totally kissing Shane's butt right now leave me alone oh I just got the chills this looks like a serial killer is like planning area I told you it's a work in progress this is an intervention I love that I didn't think about it like that but it kind of actually is perfect so this is what you know an intervention can look like so some of you have seen the show intervention and like that that that is what we call like a formal intervention that is like worst case last case scenario where people are gonna cut them out of their lives and all that but this is something very easy you can do if somebody in your life is struggling with something like it's time to go over there and just say yo we care about you we're sitting here but like here's the thing too one of the one of the tips I want you to take from this is that they when they came over they're like we're gonna do this right now you know and girls like oh well you know we can schedule it no no no we're doing it now like when you're talking with a drug addict or an alcoholic like that's what you have to do if they're ready and if they have that moment of clarity it's time to do it now because Garrett talked a million times about how he procrastinated this thing literally and the clothes you wear the same shirt every day you're like me so why do you have so many clothes it's just funny because and I want to say this real quick before before we continue is that I am not a materialistic person it's funny that this video is about me having so many things and stuff because I've always felt very much of the mentality of like yeah there was like a fire and I lost everything like who cares because like stuff the stuff and whatever um but that's what I thought sometimes our inner dialogue and our physical environments don't match up which is a weird thing to process sometimes and the really dark thing is like and I was it sounded like I was joking when I said this to rightland earlier I was trying to tell him I was like I've been working in my head and heart I've been working so hard in here and going on like an emotionally exhausting journey and looking at stuff and weighing at the pros and cons and living in I was like I've been doing this for a week you know I was saying it was 24 hours to try to like salvage the video but really it's been like a long time you could even argue five months of this for me that right there was one of my favorite clips one of my favorite clips because it was the clarity and this self-awareness that's what we all need we need self-awareness so Garrett saying like it felt exhausting it felt like he was doing a lot of work it felt like he didn't like hold on to things and he wasn't materialistic but what he says is that his actions were not lining up to his mind like this is why I tell all of you we talk about the problem but focus on the solution like this is emotionally exhausting so it feels it feels like you're putting in work it feels like you're doing something it feels like these aren't issues but then you sit back and you're like wait a second wait a second like my actions aren't lining up with my words like yesterday I made that video about Carlos and I said how you need to be a better judge of character and see if people's actions line up with their words you need to do that with yourself like I have to have practice a lot of self-awareness like do my actions line up with my words right like I try to tell people on a regular basis that's why you get a real version of Chris I teach my clients like at all times I want to be me like if you see me whether it's on YouTube or you see me in a treatment center running a group or you see me at a grocery store you are meeting the exact same version of Chris because I'm constantly working on making sure my actions are the same as my words you know what I mean but yeah I'm really proud of Garrett like this is such a journey and he was able to see his own growth that I really hope he's proud of he's as proud of himself as other people are in his life so my big thing and pretty main theme of this video what I do with things and we're gonna learn a new word right now and it is the word personification so the official definition of personification is this the attribution of a personal nature or human characteristics to something non-human in simpler terms it basically means giving human characteristics or some form of life or personality to something that is not human and this isn't crazy uncommon you see it in movies and television shows and in pop culture all the time and a less abstract version of this is everyone kind of does this with like their pets people personify their cats and their animals that's why we dress up little dogs and costumes and stuff people do this but I just do it with like everything like lamps and coins and candy and scary dolls and records so this clip right here where Eric is talking about personification like this is why therapy in any form is very very beneficial journaling is a form of therapy like it's important to get down to the root cause and Garrett figured out he figured out why he does what he does like for example we often tell people with addictions that drugs and alcohol are only a symptom of the problem when I work with people I'm trying to get down to the root of the problem like even when I'm working with people about their depression their anxiety their trauma whatever it is it's like let's get down to the root of the problem because we can't just look at the surface level stuff like because if we don't figure out why it's happening then we're never gonna change it where the problem comes in is that I do this with so many things that it starts to stand in the way of my life I was accumulating these things and I wasn't knowing how to let go of them and that was creating a lot of problems that were leading to other problems like having a place that was so crazy that I felt embarrassed anytime that someone came in because it was like oh no I can't have like a guy over because it's too disgusting in here because there's like too many things everywhere so I can't throw anything away you know what I mean and I would try to organize but even when I did it was just me shoving all my precious things or cool things that I love into like closets and stuff and then it wasn't functional and that meant that I couldn't ever have like a proper upload schedule because I always like no I don't want everyone to film because like I have to like clean my place and do all this stuff and it's gonna be like a three-day process because I'm terrible at cleaning so in that clip Garrett's talking about his fear of change and I just made a video about this fear of change and like this is a point that I didn't even touch on in that video so like a lot of us don't want to change we have these different things so I was telling you guys the other day about like setting up an inventory looking at your good qualities and your bad qualities getting you know working on or getting rid of the bad qualities right like this is part of that fear of change and like what you have to recognize what Garrett is doing here he's recognizing that the way his house is it's causing other issues in his life right it's making him not do work okay so it's affecting his his job his income and all that it's affecting his friendships he doesn't like to invite people over and do all the things that he wants to do so what I want all of you to do is like just look at your life and value your life like evaluate your life like take an inventory and say okay which things in my life are negatively affecting my quality of life right maybe you're afraid to go out maybe like you love doing something but your social anxiety is causing you a problem like see what is affecting you negatively and hold it on that and work on that and then I kind of thought this is getting like so deep or like going into my mind here and then I thought no if I move to another place I can like kind of start over and have like a new life and be more organized and stuff but I took all the stuff from the old place and just put it in here which is why it was like this for so many months so right there Garrett was talking about he had the idea of what we call a geographical okay a geographical is when we run away from our problems we think that if we go somewhere else our problems are just going to go away we're going to be fine we're going to be better but the problem with a geographical is no matter where you go this thing is always with you okay so no matter where you go you're always there so it's it's a tricky situation as kind of case by case like if any of you want me to make a video about geographicles and like the good and the bad types of geographicles let me know down in the comments like for example when I was getting sober I had to do a geographical but I did it in a way that helped me recover rather than just bringing my problems with me so that's something that you want me to talk about like the difference between running away from your problems and running away to heal just let me know yeah that was that literally it's only been maybe two minutes three minutes and we just cleared out a whole section and you just helped like probably 15 people who need weird crap so what Shane said was very real to give my cool stuff back to the world I love that because I know that I found things in their stores that I was like how is this here like see donating is fun too because that stuff served its purpose and you had fun with it but you're doing well now you're in a different part of your life and you can buy a new one that's true yes yes yes yes yes right there that is an amazing clip that is an amazing clip this is what I try to teach all of you all of my clients this is what I try to teach everybody the best way to work on your mental health is to quit thinking about you so much what helps you get out of your your own mental struggle is to think about others for example for example I used to hate sharing I used to hate sharing my story used to not do that and like people reminded me like Chris it's not about you you need to do it to help somebody else I'm like oh okay that makes sense so like for example for example like my social anxiety like when I when I was scared to like do groups in front of large amounts of people when I'm afraid to you know make videos and things like that I remember it's not about me I need to do this to help other people so what Shane is helping Garrett switch uh do is switch his mindset it's not about what Garrett's losing it's about what Garrett's giving to the less fortunate so then you feel good about it so now what you're actually doing is you are rewiring your brain to have a positive reward for the behavior rather than a negative one right so this is what you should do I'll never forget like maybe a month or two ago one of you subscribers like deemed me on Instagram and said hey I don't like subscribe I don't like to comment so here's here's what I want to say about your video and they had a lot of good experience and I said listen when I read that I as I immediately thought how many people in the audience could benefit from hearing your story right and I was like so she said that she gets anxious and I asked her I said what's your fear you're afraid of being judged or like what is it and she's like yeah I'm afraid of being judged I'm like you need to quit thinking about you and post this because it's not about you your post can help other people she posted it and I watched the comments and the replies on it and people were saying thank you and stuff like that so if you're somebody who struggles with that type of social anxiety quit thinking about how it's going to affect you and think about how you might be able to help other people and yeah and I was just kind of having a panic attack like I have never understood what a panic attack was until that night like I started sweating and I started like freaking out and feeling really anxious and being like I don't know what's going on right now you know what I mean I was internalizing it which might sound kind of dark but I was because I wasn't trying to lose my my shit in front of my friends you know what I mean right there right there where Garrett was talking about his panic attack this goes back to the last video I did about exposure therapy right so Garrett like being exposed in that safe place with his friends around in a safe environment he was having a panic attack right but by the end of the video he was fine so on my exposure therapy video that I did uh just yesterday or the other day about Shane Dawson I saw some comments I saw some comments where people like no I can't do exposure therapy because it makes me feel uncomfortable it makes me sick it makes me you know and all this it's like yes that's the point that's the point you have to like you have to push yourself and you have to be uncomfortable you have to go through those things that's what I'm trying to explain like you guys I'm never going to sugar coat this thing for you improving your mental health is hard it's hard but it is worth it I promise you that so yeah there might be you know like for example with Garrett right he went through seven five or seven hours I forgot how much time it was five or seven hours of being really uncomfortable dealing with his anxiousness and like them throwing away stuff you dealt with that for five to seven hours but now he is at peace because he sat in that uncomfortability for hours on end so I hope that inspires some of you like the way I see my my mental health improvement and the way I try to do it if that person can do it I can do it too all right and I want you guys to look at that with me too like I am nobody special I am nothing special so when I share my experience with you guys like I want to inspire you to do these things too like if I can do it you can do it too when Shane came in when you guys all came in I was like ashamed I almost wanted to be like get out like get out I don't know what to do right now I don't want anyone to see me like this but like I can't live like that you know and you kind of made me realize some stuff about like that you don't have to be like that because you came in and you were just like it's okay you're not good at this I am you can have people help you and I guess I just didn't really realize that well yeah I mean it's like the same thing as for me like I was doing youtube all by myself for like what 10 years or I don't know and then I finally was like oh you know you came along Andrew came along Rylan all these people that are like no like let's help let's do it together and I was like scared yeah and now look I'm so happy you know I gave up control and now I'm happier and you gave up control and look at everything we threw away I don't even remember what you threw away but I'm so glad you did like I almost just did cry oh like this is this just warms my heart right here this clip warms my heart like this is what I'm trying to explain to you like I know I do a lot of videos like telling you which friends to cut out of your life but these are the friends that you need in your life like how many of you don't talk about your mental health and your mental state because you're so worried about being judged you guys all of us are going through so much crap on a daily basis like don't worry about that and if that person judges you they're not a great friend but like you see that like Shane and Rylan and Morgan and Andrew like they're amazing friends like they're not judging him they just they sincerely want to help and that's something that I struggled with especially as a guy you know with that pride and ego and I got to be manly and not vulnerable like I have to open up to people and and I have to realize that people do want to help me and they want to support me and they're not going to judge me you know like these are the type of people that you need in your life and that's really that's really what I'm trying to turn this community into is just where we support each other and don't judge each other you know what I mean but like as your friend it has been hard for me to watch you not upload consistently because like you always have so much going on you're always in this chaos and you're always whatever so it's like that's why you're not uploading as much that's why you're not I've always I mean I could chill like a montage right now of how many times have been like hey guys like I'm coming back now or there are things I needed to sort out or they were this but really the truth of it is that I was always living in chaos and so many respects like not sleeping right not eating right not having my place organized not having like a bed to sleep on that's not stuff that I'm gonna be like hey YouTube check this out I guess I didn't know why I was failing so hard at this because I'm really excited to be on YouTube just as much as I was the first time you made me upload you know my first video like I'm proud of you I'm very proud of you I did not think this was gonna happen so yes yes right here he talks about living in this state of chaos living in the chaos and so many of us do this like one thing that breaks my heart when I read your comments is is your acceptance of your mental illness but you don't want to do anything about it like that's not what my my channel is about and I want you guys to learn from my channel there's a reason why I said we talk about the problem but focus on the solution right so like Garrett I hope this inspires you like Garrett notice how his life was chaotic his life was uh manageable but he took actionable steps like remember pain is inevitable suffering is optional all right we have to take action steps we can't just sit there and say oh everything's terrible my life's chaotic this is just the way I am no you can start healing you can start moving forward and take little baby steps to do so little something called self care that's right no but I'm serious in this new place there have been many things that I have been working on personally about myself self-care being one of them some others include washing my clothes ever now that I have a washing machine in my place not playing spider-man until the sun comes up the exception of course being last night when I played spider-man until the sun came out brushing my teeth more often than what I just kind of remember to no but seriously that has been such a fun part of living a more organized cleaner life like I can be a lot more um I don't know hygienic and take care of myself better but yeah speaking of baby steps like I love this part I love this part so much like this is what I keep trying to tell all of you who struggle with things like depression or anxiety like Garrett like just saying things like he does his laundry he's trying to brush his teeth more he's trying to uh take a shower regularly this is what I'm telling you about like you don't need to run out and go see a therapist you don't need to run out and go to like you know a dance party or something whatever you wacky kids are doing these days you don't have to do anything like that do small self-care things a day like if you want some neuroscience when you set small achievable goals for yourself like today I'm gonna make sure I brush my teeth today I'm gonna make sure I shower today I'm going to clean my kitchen whatever these small goals are you actually get boosts of dopamine and serotonin so make small little goals this is why self-care is so important like it seems stupid it seems trivial but when you set these small things up for yourself I promise you you will feel you will feel better and you don't even gotta believe me believe in science but yeah in closing I guess I want to just say if you ever need help with anything in your life try not to internalize it too much try to reach out to someone talk to them about it because I've learned so many times especially with Shane that's something that I've done pretty often with him is like opened up about an insecurity of mine and it's brought us closer or he's helped me get through it or you know I talked to Andrew a lot about stuff so the last thing I want to talk about with that is right here like Garrett had this clarity that I did and he's retraining his brain and basically what he realized is like he sits he sits in the problem too long he sits in it for way too long but as soon as he calls somebody as soon as he reaches out he starts to feel better right and this is something that we have to retrain our brain to do like I used to be like my problems are my problems I don't want to bug anybody I don't want to talk to anybody and I would sit in my problems for days or weeks at a time but then as soon as I would call somebody I would feel better and I'm like what why did I wait so long right so I started to shorten so rather than waiting two weeks until I called somebody and asked for help I started waiting a week and then after that I started waiting five days then I started waiting three days then I started waiting two days then I started waiting one day and then it's like I'm dealing with an issue I'm talking to somebody about it and that's the way I retrained my brain because my brain is now associating reaching out for help with me feeling better so to end this video to end this video I want to say I'm super proud of Garrett I hope all of you are inspired and can take some real good lessons from this and it helps you do something in your life that you've been struggling with but here's the thing we got to keep Garrett accountable we have to keep Garrett accountable so here's what I'm doing like I said I was not subscribed to Garrett because of his infrequent uploads right I am now subscribed to Garrett and here's an issue I see with a lot of people they do something like this but then they don't follow through so Garrett told us that the main reason he wasn't uploading much was because of his dirty health so now that's out the window so will he keep uploading so what I'm going to do is I'm going to set a calendar reminder in my phone right now from one month from today all right so November 21st we are going to see how many uploads Garrett did okay so I want all of you to do the same and we will keep Garrett accountable and we'll tweet at him and we'll see if he did I don't know like Garrett does a lot of effort he puts a lot of effort into his editing I think if this is his full time gig I would think that he should be able to pump out at least one video a week at least one video a week that's what I'm thinking so by the end by next month let's check back and see how Garrett's doing the other thing I hope they kind of do a follow-up or I hope Garrett keeps herself to daylight is he keeping his house clean right or did he have a relapse all right but anyways anyways that's all I got for this video but down in the comments below like let's let's let's ask this question like do you struggle do you struggle with sitting in the problem and not getting into the solution or do you struggle with not reaching out for help and if so why all right or do you struggle with sharing your story any of the topics I talked about in this video anything that you can relate to let's have a conversation down in the comments below all right but anyways that's all I got for you with this video let's all tell Zach he did an amazing job as well down in the comments because I had a ton a ton of clips in this video all right but anyways if you like this 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