 something that I call force framing and this is kind of a sneaky technique, but what it does is it kind of frames conversations. I have a whole program about framing. It's called the love frames toolkit and this is it's about like setting up or setting a precedent for a relationship. So setting the underlying meaning for some kind of interaction or something that's going on between you and another person is called framing and so the idea of force framing is setting it up so that you kind of like throw this meaning onto something that he's doing and it's it's like you misinterpret it right you you kind of take something and you interpret it in the way that you want it to be interpreted and it's kind of like a flirty fun kind of exciting thing to do and so I'm just gonna give you some ideas on how to do this with him because it's a lot of fun and when you start doing it it can completely change the interaction that you have going on with a man right so it's like you know think about it one kind of thing that happens a lot with men and women in terms of framing is like sometimes that guy will like check out a girl right and he'll be like looking at her and she'll like catch him checking her out and she'll be like hey were you checking me out you know and he's like hot red handed and kind of like embarrassed and he's like oh you know I don't know but it but it's setting up this precedent that he likes her and he's you know looking at her and hitting on her and so that's one of the ways that you can do that and you don't even have to catch him checking you out you can just have him you know he's looking at you and you're like are you checking me out right now or like if you're like hanging out together and you like walk in front of him you like turn around and look at him you might be like well were you just checking me out right now right and and if he's like whoa whoa no no no I wasn't you can say something like it's okay I like it right and so what you're doing here is you're basically setting this frame where you're saying you like me I just caught you liking me right looking at me in a way that's more than friendship and it's okay right you're giving him permission you're like hey no it's cool I like it which is basically saying I'm interested you're interested in me and I'm interested in you and it's kind of like this fun little flirty way of having a conversation right or another one might be like stop checking me out right like you just it doesn't matter if he's actually checking you out or not right because a lot of times what we do as human beings is we're like walking through the world completely in our subconscious mind we don't know what's going on we're driving we don't even remember getting to where we got to or we're walking and you know suddenly we're suddenly we're somewhere we get on the the subway or something we aren't paying any attention we're listening to music and so we're most people are just walking through their lives totally unaware of anything and so if you tell somebody that you're you caught them checking you out right it's it's almost like they're not even aware maybe they were you know they're they're like wait was I checking you out was you know did that just happen I'm not even sure right and so you you can kind of do that and kind of have this flirty conversation going on between the two of you by just being like oh hey stop checking me out stop checking me you know and just doing it in a fun kind of flirty kind of way like oh are you checking me out again like no no no it's okay it's okay I think it's cute no I think it's cute you know I like it I like it right and you're you're doing it and you're just making it fun you're making it flirty you're making it playful you're framing the interaction so that it's moving out of this hey we're just we're just friends and we're having friendship conversations to this sexual realm this romantic realm of like we're actually interested in each other