 these people I can't stand either so yeah I don't want to be like you know I'm basically a humanitarian so I don't want to relish the deaths of these people at the same time these people seem to relish the idea of genociding Jews and so it's like it's a real ethical quandary for me like I just don't like the moral asymmetry right if you're just talking about making peace with Israelis yes this would be a moral outrage but you're not right at least the leadership is not it's always death the Israel death to Jews and so it just makes it really hard for me to be empathetic even though all of my sort of instincts are to be empathetic that makes sense would you would you prefer a male boss or a female boss excellent question the old me would have preferred a female boss but the new me would prefer a male boss and not only that I don't think women should be allowed to work oh god that's how that's how like family my thinking on this has evolved so devolved depending on your perspective so why why do you prefer a male boss to a female boss because male bosses can cut to the chase and do what needs to be done without the sentimentality that female bosses great but male bosses aunt is nurturing they aren't nurturing it's painful working for like a really good effective male boss right someone who's actually on top of their game yeah and not not not accepting of any bullshit excuse my language these are the people that make effective companies female bosses sort of like to nourish as you say are nurturing they'd like they put up with sort of subpar it's very funny they'll put up with subpar performance but then they'll snap you know they're just they're not they're less predictable than a male boss and sometimes it's like the predictability actually makes it clear about what your role is and what you need to do what you need to accomplish to not be the recipient of wrath you know and once you know those rules you can just get your done your work done effectively and efficiently so yeah this notion that female bosses are somehow better is not true because they lead to a sort of miasma like a company becomes a miasma of just false starts in a just chaotic decision-making just not clear but I have to say like male bosses can go over the line and be inflexible and therefore not pivot when they need to pivot so yeah we're talking about some gross generalizations we're talking about tendencies we recognize for every cliche that we say about male or female bosses that there are you know a great deal of exceptions but who do you think's more likely to take offense at something that you might regard as trivial a male boss or a female boss well my first instinct is to say feel about female bosses but then upon reflection and thinking about my actual work experience I find that a lot of male bosses are prone to paranoia have you ever worked for somebody who is paranoid yes and I don't detect I haven't experienced like a paranoid female boss yeah and paranoia is it's hard to be around it creates a lot of stress you know what about taking things personally there's more likely to take things personally yeah female bosses will take things personally but a paranoid person will take everything personally who's more likely to micromanage male boss male boss that's not my experience it's like it's an extension of nurturing right I think female bosses are a lot like mothers and male bosses are a lot like but father so female bosses tend to be more nurturing which also comes to the downside of smothering and smothering and micromanaging I think are synonyms like who's more likely to say cut me on every I agree let me know everything that you're doing all right that's much more likely to be a female boss than a male boss I agree I think you're right I'm wrong the more I think about it you're exactly right male bosses are more interested in the actual outcome they're not so much interested in the sort of day-to-day process they're more transactional and female bosses are more relational yeah relational and I've been fired by a female boss just because she didn't like me yeah who's more likely to fire you just because they don't like you a male boss or a female boss it's a female yeah you make somebody uncomfortable and who's going to who's going to reward and even demand conformity more likely a male boss or a female boss obviously you know females prefer people coloring you know within the lines that they have a much greater need for conformity that's why female students tend to do better at school because they're much more likely to color within the lines yeah that's definitely female bosses as well I think that was my problem that was because I was I don't I didn't and I still don't really dress particularly well you know I dress kind of sloppily and my hair is often a bit messy and this rubs yeah who's that who was that like more likely to upset a male or a female boss yeah a female boss for sure yeah who's more likely to be upset you don't participate in company extracurricular activities yeah totally female boss a male boss is that's truly results oriented we'll just make it clear what needs to be done and knock and not care about anything else yeah you know and that's the environment I prefer to work I've never had a male boss say copy me on every single email that you send no right exactly no I've never had that happen ever in any case but you know money talks bullshit walk so if you can deliver the goods you know a male boss doesn't care how you got there because they're not they're not there to make friends they're not there to you know create a relationship only of this stuff right they're just the outcome and in a way there's a certain piece in that yeah who's more likely to say we want you to bring your whole self to work and be who's more likely to then get offended if you have a dad to do that they watch yeah no feel but you know I told you my stories about that you'd be the perfect person to talk to you like who's more likely to say you know this little thing that you're doing it's it's you got to cut that out right so I had a female I probably told you this but I had a female boss that we just didn't gel into personally and she was a bit of an imposter and she could tell that I knew that she was a bit of an imposter and but I never really said anything but there was certain you know facial expressions that kind of betrayed the truth and so once during a meeting she interrupted me while I was giving my report and I sort of called her out on it and then right in the middle of the meeting she just stands up and gives me the finger eight people at least right just she stands up and gives me the full on finger you know and which was like so unbelievably out of line in this particular setting and yet she was you know you know now there's no blowback that came to her that I was aware of for this basically atrocities she came like she was basically almost like pulled out a handgun you know it was like that bad you know and nothing came of it you know like women have this aura of impunity and invincibility and untouchability that they could just say and do things that men simply cannot do question in the chat chat how often do female bosses manipulate their employees through erotic power I have never once seen a female boss try to manipulate male employees through erotic power it obviously all the female bosses I know have been without arrows I believe that's true yeah yeah female bosses would just and they would have breakdowns you know full on emotional breakdowns which is intensely awkward I don't know much more into team building like team building exercises yeah they're there they're there I'm not feeling the love you know or you know all of their speeches somehow feeling based I'm not feeling this right now much more likely to have speech codes explicit or implicit but to actually enforce them yeah yeah now I work in real estate once I tell you this like three months in real estate and this I work for this paranoid lunatic you know who I hate it who I would not mind watching be beheaded I mean I hate oh god forbid so much you know the same time you know there's something about the authoritarian nature of the way he ran the place that it did actually function efficiently but I hated myself every minute I was there yeah I noticed men are much more comfortable with hierarchy and male bosses in general and women bosses much more want to create a sense of set some sense of egalitarianism that goes hand-in-hand with much more clickishness so that you know other people who get into their clique are favored while I noticed male bosses just much more transactional and results oriented yeah I had a female boss and she had like a I don't know what the word is it's not a mole or a freckle it's bigger than a freckle it's like a just a facial what's the word impairment or disfigurements like a giant disc coloration by her lip mm-hmm and it just it was like an eye magnet it was so like off-putting right I couldn't help but look at it you know and just the presence of this it it sort of distracted my attention while talking to her because I was trying not to look at it I was trying not to have any relax reaction to it I was trying to just not see the elephant in the room you know but the elephant was right there always like whacking its trunk at me and I think this unease that this thing caused created this friction between us that ultimately led to my being axed because I couldn't like to suppress my discomfort have you ever had that situation probably I can't recall one right now but but I mean disfiguring mocks on someone's face are highly discompobulating and people who commit motor dramatically much more likely to have you know some kind of disfiguring scar or something on their face than the normal like it's it's a freaky thing yeah otherwise she was pretty attractive but she had like this Achilles heel this flaw you know and I wasn't trying to I just didn't want to be it's not like I was looking at her in any way that wasn't professional it was just it was a fact of her face you know that was hard to that could be ignored and God what a curse that must be to have that so all the all the teachers that I had the closest relationships with male teachers like the teachers who regarded me the most highly because the the many my male teachers noticed that I challenged them more than any other student they'd ever had and they said that partly an admiration you know and a large part in annoyance but for my female teachers getting challenged or my female bosses getting challenged was not something they enjoyed yeah yeah women are definitely in an authoritarian mindset when they're when they are giving instruction so they're they're basically it's the mother-child dynamic that they have and they don't want to take any lift from their children or their employees and they in that sort of the pattern from which they operate and they're all lovey-dovey until you step out of line and then it's hell gets you know on the gates of hell become right man men to be a man is to generally enjoy competition and to understand that there are rules for competition women generally don't like competition and so when they are forced to compete they there aren't any rules like as a male we're raised with rules for how to compete since a very early age but when women unexpectedly find themselves in in a competitive mode they tend to to not follow any rules yeah you know years ago I went on this reading page and I was still an active reader and I read Tacitus like the whole works of Tacitus and Tacitus observed that women that rose to power the Roman Empire were the most sadistic in there you know in their dispensation of punishments they you know men could show like Caesar was actually quite forebearing with his enemies it was sort of led to it which actually was a feature of his personality to allow him to rule because he would sort of co-opt his his competition and get the fight for him and he was he was not particularly punitive but Tacitus observed that women were generally very sadistic in their when they had power and it makes sense to me they don't like to be crossed and what about female teachers versus male teachers I had many wonderful female teachers but yeah overall I did better in school and I had better relations with my male teachers that sounds true to me I remember being like 13 years old and having a English teacher in high school and there was definitely like some personal animus between us that was kind of emotional in nature female teacher female teacher yeah and this never happened between male teachers yeah male teachers were just very just dispassionate you know and authoritative and I had I had a really I had a really good I was pretty lucky looking back at it I mean I you know about my high school experience was actually pretty good I think compared to most because I have a lot of fun memories of high school both teachers and personally friends would would you get into power struggles with your teachers that happened to me a lot particularly with female teachers but also maybe not except for this one particular one but it's not worth it so I see similar similar things going on between female teachers and female bosses versus male teachers and male bosses because I think the the number one most important factor here is that there are significant differences between men and women and how they operate whether they are bosses or parents or athletes that the male female difference is a significant one so do you think female teachers and female bosses very similar psychology very similar sociology yeah I mean I think the paradigm is obviously like women operate from a familial that the familiar familial relational yeah well yeah mother child familial and men operate from like a militaristic or a you know hierarchical dispassionate approach and I don't know men just kind of I think naturally fall into line they just naturally can accept hierarchy it's like this sort of recessive gene that gets triggered when you're in like a very stark hierarchical environment even if you're not particularly militarily inclined you just kind of recognize the pattern and then you adhere to it and when did you get your first male teacher do you remember the grade yes by 6th of 7th grade yeah and out of all your teachers who are you closest to you remember one one or two particular teachers I had a history teacher that I was pretty close to on a personal basis and then I had math teachers that were I found to be like really exhilarating as a child as a high school student like I found math really enjoyable in high school such a like it was such a pleasure you know and recently I you know I started looking up somehow these math problem videos come up on my YouTube feed have you watched any of these no now I know and most people are like really traumatized by math but there was always things that I didn't feel like I learned well enough in high school and now I'm sort of kind of re-learning them just as a sense of nostalgia and vengeance I I just want to sort of fill in the gaps because I feel like I'm I feel like I missed a few strategic like a few key concepts in my math career quote-unquote that had I mastered them earlier and not miss them and not misunderstood them I would have just meant much better I just would have like had had much more success in the math field so anyway I've been watching these videos and they're just kind of really relaxing to watch like how to solve particular types of algebra tea problems or calculus problems and it's super I can't believe I'm like watching them enjoying it with such pleasure and almost like a reverie like there is something very satisfying about solving a math problem you know yeah that's awesome what else are you being listening to online you know I'm listening to less and less stuff online like you know I've basically written off Charles was named Charles Moskowitz no Charles Charles Chuck Johnson Charles Johnson I've written him off I actually think he's mentally ill and I don't listen to anymore I don't think he speaks with any authority or credibility I'm still listening to Richard but Richard's basically you know just kind of a miltose cultural critic but same time I just have sort of this like residual habit of listening to Richard so I just keep it going out of nostalgia for nothing else you know I don't know why maybe it's come to the end but I become less interested in my own opinions or the opinions of other people you know I just sort of questioning the value of like what does it mean to have an opinion and why why is it can't why does it really matter you know like who cares you know if I have the right HPD opinion does it really move the needle anywhere you know