 Do narcissists know what they're doing to you? Do they realise the negative effects that they are having on you? Do they realise that they have all of these narcissistic tendencies and behaviours? Narcissists cause problems and difficulties in the lives of those who they engage with. They have no care or concern for the damage that they cause or the effects that their behaviour has on the people around them. Their behaviour may often seem counter-intuitive to what they are trying to achieve from you. But they will still continue repeating the same behaviour and receiving the same result. Narcissists are known to have a lack of awareness of their behaviour and the effects that it has on people. They are known to dodge accountability. They are constantly in survival mode. They only engage in self-seeking behaviours because they are only concerned about their own welfare and interests. They will serve their own interests in disregard of the truth or interests of others. They only care about their wants and needs. But they know they can't do this openly. They can't go around telling people that this is how it has to be. They can't just tell people that they need everything to be about them. They need everything to revolve around them. They know that most people would not want to be around someone like that. They know that most people are not going to willingly put themselves in that position and that is why these narcissists have to be covert. They're not going to openly display it because they know that it's not socially acceptable but they have to make certain that they get whatever they want or need. They have to make certain that the situation always works out in their favour even if it's not morally right. Even if it's dishonest or insincere they have to use deceptive and manipulative behaviours to ensure that they are always getting what they want. The narcissist often becomes very controlling when they are trying to avoid experiencing any narcissistic injuries. It makes them have to control everything around them because they cannot deal with failure so to minimise their risk of failure they have to mislead you. They have to give you the wrong idea or impression. This is what can often guarantee their success in things where they would normally fail. They have a predatory mindset. They exploit you and make use of situations in ways that might be considered unfair or underhand. They target your weaknesses and vulnerabilities. They will do whatever it takes to win regardless of the price to be paid or the effort needed. They will go out of their way and dedicate their time and effort to get the result that they want. They will do whatever is needed for them to succeed in any way that is possible and by any available tactics which is typical behaviour of a narcissist. They are scavengers. They're not going to play by the rules. They're not going to fairly compete because they already know that they are weak and virile. They know that they are lacking the power to perform. They know that they are not capable of competing against those who have greater power and influence than they do. They know that they're not capable of bouncing back if they were to fail or be defeated. A normal functional person will be able to deal with their loss and they will work on their weaknesses because they realise that until they work on their weaknesses they won't be able to be stronger. They won't be able to feel good about themselves but the narcissist hits their true self. They believe that their true self is what causes all these things to happen to them so they disown that part of them. They don't want anything to do with it anymore. They will ignore any weaknesses associated with their true self by using denial, projection, blame shifting and gaslighting and they will develop more deceptive and evasive tactics which then just makes them even worse and that is why narcissists tend to get worse as they get older. Because rather than working on themselves and trying to be better they choose to fine tune and perfect their craft of manipulation. They only become both fake and dishonest. They don't work on becoming better or stronger. They just work on becoming better liars and manipulators. They become better at deceiving you. They cannot accept that they are weak. They cannot accept that they are cowards. But that's just who they really are and to default their lies, deception and manipulation. They have to lie and deceive. They have to create this alternate reality because it allows them to exist in a fantasy where they are something that they're not. It calms them down. It reduces their pain and discomfort. It helps them to deal with who they really are. But it's just a fantasy where they are refusing to acknowledge or accept who they are or what they've become rather than being honest and truthful. They choose to lie to themselves. They choose to live in denial in the alternate reality and they blame others for their failures. They may not know that they are narcissists. They may not even know what a narcissist is. But they know why they have chosen to commit to the actions and behaviors that they are displaying to you and the reason why they have chosen to do that is because they are weak and cowardly. They lack the courage and willingness to confront pain, danger and certainty or intimidation. At some point they made a choice to use these non-confrontational coping mechanisms because they don't want any conflict with who they really are and when you try to confront them on something they have said or done it may seem as though they are running from you but that's just the illusion. In actuality they are running from themselves because everything you are and everything you stand for reflects a part of them that they don't want to acknowledge or witness but they know what they are doing they are making a conscious choice to ensure that they always win and don't have to deal with failure or loss. It is a choice that they have made in an attempt to get whatever they want whenever they want it because they can't accept that there are going to be failures in life and that you can't always win everything every time you can't always be better than everyone they choose to live in this delusion they choose to run from the reality that they are not always going to be better than everyone they are not always going to get what they want that's just a part of life but they can't accept life in their minds life is unfair life is against them so they create their own version of reality by being deceptive and manipulative they know exactly what they are doing they know that they are fake and dishonest they know that they are lying to you they are fully aware of this but if they were to have any care or consideration for you it would pose a risk to them getting what they want and narcissists are self-serving they are only engaged in self-seeking behaviours they only care about their own welfare and interests so in their minds if life has to be difficult or unfair if reality has to be against them then they will continue running from reality and existing in this fake world that they've created for themselves for the rest of their lives never acknowledging the truth never stepping foot into reality never experiencing real life ever again Thanks for watching and I'll talk to you soon