 the reason why narcissists do what they do. Hi everyone, I'm at the Lake District you can probably see all the mountains in the background there just staying at a house here it's a lovely house got a nice pond there with a stream at the back it feels like I'm really out in nature big five bedroom home with five bathrooms so yeah I'm just out here just relaxing just trying to enjoy despite everything that's been going on as you know but yeah it's a really nice day it's a cool house things are good now on to this message the reason why narcissists do what they do why do they do it why do they hurt us so much so persistently even when you've sat down and you've told them everything you've been through in your life all of the things your family did to you all of the things your exes put you through and then they still go and do the same things to you after everything all of the pain all of the suffering that we go through with these people then it's like as soon as we leave we just run into another one and before we know who they really are we tell them everything we've been through everything that bothers us and they just go into the same thing again and again and it's just like when is it gonna end I get it you know the amount of times I've had to go through this you know it looks like I'm having a good time now and you know it is a beautiful day I'm lucky to be staying at this house in the Lake District and I'm looking forward to the day but as you know you know I've been through so much pain so much suffering with these kinds of people and it's like no matter what you tell them like all of the things you've been through they just put it through they put you through it all over again it's like when is this nightmare going to end I guess the question many of us has is why why do they do it and the answer to that question isn't as strange as you might think it actually might be something very relatable although it may also be something you don't want to hear but as you know I'm not the kind of person to sugarcoat these things I am just going to tell the truth whether people want to hear it or not if you're watching this video now be prepared to hear it why do narcissists do what they do why do they hurt abuse us manipulate us gas light us why do they lie about everything they do why do they smear our names why do they try to ruin our lives the reason why they do all of these things is because they think that it will make them feel good they think that it will make them feel better about themselves and I'm sure that's difficult to hear it's like oh okay so you're just gonna come along and just destroy me and ruin my life just so you can feel good okay wow if that's what you've got to do to make yourself feel better but yeah that's why they do it that's why they do all of these things and like I said you know it's well some of you might be thinking you know I said it would be relatable how the hell is that relatable well what I meant by that was why do we all do whatever we do while we may not be trying to abuse someone like if we're trying to help people if we're trying to make other people feel good why do we do that it's just like with a narcissist everything that people do it's because they hope that it will make them feel good they hope that it will make them feel better about themselves so if there is one thing that we have in common with these people it's that we do things to make us feel good although we may engage in very different behaviors that's where we don't have any similarity at all the reason why they do all of this stuff is just to make them feel better and when they do all these things with such urgency and desperation what does that tell you how do you think they must feel to be compelled to engage in this behavior they must feel pretty bad they must really hate themselves as we know it's just a false self it's a false image that's not really who they are they didn't take the time and effort to build themselves from scratch but the foundation and the structure it's not something like they spent years and years to become the person that you see today no it's just one day this they just decided that's who they are and that's why it's not real it's fake and that's why it falls apart so easily you question them on something you tell them they're wrong boom it all falls apart they go crazy they act like they love themselves it's really just the false image that they love and that's not really who they are they abandoned who they really are a long time ago so it's all about feeling good through the false image that's why they only engage in superficial things they don't really care about anything that's deep or meaningful it's all about supply but yeah that's why they do what they do it's just so they can feel good thank you for the donation Leafs in 2021 I appreciate it got two premieres later today and it just finished tomorrow's video just now as well I woke up nice and early to finish it off so now I've got the rest of the day now to explore this beautiful place I'm going to visit a 200 foot waterfall and of course there will be pictures and videos on my Instagram I hope that this live video has been beneficial to you and I might do a live video later as well on my other channel spiritual secrets so keep an eye on that and I look forward to seeing you in the premieres later today have a good day everyone