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If you're not a member, you can bypass that with super chats and I'll be able to see your comment. I might bring it up on the screen if it's in line with the conversation or if it's interesting. But if you want to bypass all that, the cash app is on the screen. Please consider supporting the channel and the work via cash app. YouTube doesn't take a cut of that. So that comes directly to the channel. But again, thank you guys for being here. I gotta be a better host. But yeah, so this is kind of breaking news. Apparently Simone Biles' husband, which is what people know him as, did an interview on the Pivot podcast. If you guys don't know, the Pivot was kind of the split off from I Am Athlete. So they have their own situation and they conduct interviews of athletes and people who are sports adjacent. And on this episode, which aired three days ago, they interviewed Simone Biles' husband, who was actually a star free or strong safety currently in the NFL. And during that interview, the question came up, fair question, funny question. But how in the hell did you bag, arguably, arguably, the greatest Olympian of all time in Simone Biles? You know, with the Olympics, especially American Olympics, you have to name Michael Phelps. You have to name maybe Michael Johnson. And you have to name Simone Biles. So the sister is a huge deal. And basically, his response was, if you guys haven't already seen the video, his response was, she bagged me. And not only that, I didn't know who she was. So let's start there and we'll kind of go down the list of the different things. A lot of the conversation that's happening currently is about the whole who's the prize? Who's the catch? He alluded to believing that men are always the catch slash prize. I think it's synonymous. And obviously, those are fighting words on Twitter, TikTok, Instagram. So a lot of the conversation is there. But also, he said that he didn't know who she was. The other part of the conversation, in the large effort that we're seeing to shame him and shame their relationship, the other part is we don't believe that you didn't know who she was. So let's start there. Before we get to the prize talk, because some of y'all might know how I feel about the whole prize thing, some of you guys might not. Again, if you're just joining us, please consider becoming a member to chat. Cash apps and super chats get priority. We will be moving this over to Patreon at somewhere at the halfway mark. But in the meantime, y'all get this for the free ski. But also consider becoming a member on Instagram as well. But yeah, so he didn't know who she was. So I did a case study. It was one of my first case studies. I think it's entitled Zion is the Victim Here, something along those lines. So if you go to the channel, just click on the logo and you scroll down on the homepage, scroll down to where it shows you the case study playlist. Click on that playlist. I try to bucket things based on their playlist to make it easier to find. And then scroll down on the case study playlist. You should watch some of those case studies. I'll be dropping some heat in there. But scroll down on that playlist and you'll see a case study I did about Zion Williamson. And the thumbnail says, no risk. And one of the key points that I made during that case study is that athletes don't have the type of res that people assume that they have. And I think it applies in this Simone Biles situation as well. We were at that time talking about Zion Williamson, who was messing with a porn star and who had impregnated a pass-around basically to put it in good terms. And I made the point that, contrary to popular opinion and popular belief, two things that really hinder athletes from developing res is the fact that number one, and I think this is first and foremost, a large number of athletes are simply genetically gifted. If you are 6'5 with a jawline and you have clout because of your physical abilities, you do not have to be charismatic. That's the reality, right? So with that being said, women come to them. Girls come to them and as a consequence, they never actually have to develop the ability to navigate getting female attention like the 99% of men have to do. In addition to that, high-level athletes, the guys who make it to the pros, that sport is their life. And very often it's their life from the moment that they can run and catch a ball, right? Like kids are being bred now from the age of four and five to make it to the league by the time that they're 22 or to make it to the NBA by the time they're 18. So in that life, your life, and I think this is also true for people like Jama Ran, your life is your sport. So between practices that are sanctioned, between very often practices that are run by your dad who's probably the head coach of whatever team that you play for, camps, AAU, private workouts, if you come from, let's say you're the son of a former athlete or your parents got some money, you're not really outside like that to learn the intricacies of women and female nature. And you don't have to because you're handsome, you're physically gifted and you're well-known. So that's the first thing. So athletes don't have the type or amount of res that we might assume. So when the brother, brother Owen said that he didn't know who Simone Bowles was. What people missed was the 90% of the podcast where they talked about his road to the NFL. The brother is from Missouri. He was a standout in high school, but in college he only became a standout his senior year. So he went undrafted. So his life between whenever he started playing football and now has been football. And he alluded to during spring and summer workouts and things like that, the school thing he went to Missouri, they didn't have NBC. So he wasn't watching the Olympics. So when he said he didn't know who Simone Bowles was, he wasn't bullshit. He did not know who she was. And I think the fact that people's reflex is to dismiss men. And for me, I think it hurts more when it's black men. Black men's truth or black men's perspective. That's something that I have an issue with, but we've talked about that a little bit and we'll probably touch on it more. But that's the first thing. So there's not enough reason to not believe the brother. He said he didn't know who she was. He probably didn't. And in addition, kind of like I've been talking about with some of the case studies, kind of like I've been kind of touching on with the Yellow Flag series. I hope you guys have checked that out. I've got three more dropping. The last one was the one about her job, what her job says about her. But again, Yellow Flags don't mean she's a bad woman or she's off limits. It just means like, proceed with caution. And really the big picture is men, we have to be more strategic. We have to be more observant. And we have to be more analytical when we are assessing our future with women. Cause like we've said before, if things go wrong, you get no sympathy. So you have to do your job on the front end. But anyway, I mentioned that to say that part of the reason, and I think a lot of people are missing this, part of the reason why he was successful or they've been successful is probably because he didn't know who she was. Psycax, another YouTuber, he talked about this theory that he had that in a relationship, you have the admirer and the admired, right? And contrary to popular belief, women do not want to be the admired. He says that women want to be the admirer. And he alluded to, you know, if you're looking up to her, it means she's looking down to you. But anyway, one of the things that I hope brothers picked up is part of the reason why she, obviously he's a good-looking dude. So that's first athletic the whole nine. But part of the reason she probably was so enamored by him is the fact that with him, she wasn't Simone Baugh. She was just Simone. When you are Olympian, all-time great Simone Baugh, can you imagine how the type of world that you have to navigate? Can you imagine the lack of trust and maybe even the contempt that you might develop for people? Knowing that people just want to consume you, knowing that people just want to take advantage of you, people just want to be around you because of what you are, not necessarily who you are. So I hope one of the things brothers picked up is he was successful because he didn't give a shit that she was Simone Baugh. Well, he didn't know enough too. And even if he did, based on my assessment of him watching the interview, he wouldn't care. He's a Missouri football player, like football is life. So as we are having some of these conversations and simply trying to complain about women, simply trying to slam dunk on only fans' models, simply trying to regurgitate our ideals of who we wish women were, it's important that we take some of these things into account and we learn from some of these pop culture things that happen. So that's first. Brothers, and I've said this before on multiple occasions, stop pedestalizing women. It doesn't do what you think it does. It doesn't work the way that you think it does. Women want to feel normal. And that is all the way from Simone Biles, all the way down to the girl at the check cash in place. So that's number one. That's on one side. That's the lesson for brothers. Now the lesson for sisters. I've said this before. I would say this a million other times. And it's one of the clips actually on Instagram that's doing pretty well. I called it the basketball analogy. But basically to reiterate, I asked the young lady on the podcast what position she played when she played basketball. I think she played in high school. And she said she played a forward. And I asked, I was like, yo, if your school just got news that a five-star recruit was coming to your school, what position would you hope that they did not play? And we kind of all agreed, I don't want her to play forward. Because then I can't play. I want her to play some other shit. I want her to play point guard. I want her to play center. Center might even be too close. She might be a transitional center who could play power forward and who could play small forward. I want her to play. I want her to be a guard basically. And ladies, I have to say it for the millionth time, it works the same exact way in love romance dating. If we want to put it in historical context, Queens don't make kings. The late Queen Elizabeth was married. Her husband's name was not King anything. It was still Prince. Now again, maybe that changes in the future, but this idea that a high-powered woman levels up her man like from a proximity standpoint, it's not true to the degree that a lot of our sisters unfortunately believe it to be. Any brother that I can call right now that I know personally. Well, part of the reason I know them personally is because I know what type of dude they are, they wouldn't give a shit if you were a millionaire. And if they did, they wouldn't be any friend of mine. Men don't give a shit. Men care about is she beautiful? First and foremost, and the easiest way to know this is like you having conversations with men about women. And if you're a woman with male friends, you know this as well. You're having a conversation and you're talking about or he's talking about a woman. The first thing the fellas are going to ask is not what she does for a living. It's not how many Olympic gold medals that she has. It's not her pedigree. And I'm not saying those things are not important. The first thing men are going to ask is what she look like. Show me her Instagram. Is she blessed in the front or blessed in the back? That's what men care about. And, you know, we can continue to shame and minimize the fact that men are visual and men are sexually driven. Or we can try our best to try to understand it. And make decisions and accommodations accordingly. But the reality is just like I said with male athletes, Simone Biles, part of the reason she probably found herself on that dating app in the first place where she met Mr. Jonathan Owens is that she, in addition to probably not trusting people like that and not wanting to bag a male girlfriend who cared about her because she was Simone Biles, she probably didn't have the options. That people would assume. And I think especially in our community, right? Like our community is very, especially, you know, I feel some sympathy for sisters. Like, you have to be more blessed physically to compete on the black side of town, then on the white side of town. That's just the reality. White dudes like their women built like little boys. But most black men, we want ba, ba, ba. So the gymnast physique is not a physique that any brother I know has ever asked for or has ever added as a plus with regard to the woman that he's interested in. We might still knock it down and we might tell our homeboys. Yeah, bro, I was messing with this girl with a six pack. But when we are idealizing a woman that we envision for ourselves, best case scenario, we're not envision, we're not envisioning a Simone Biles. And we just have to be honest about that. And again, as a society, we've kind of come to we've kind of agreed upon like this unspoken thing that his money is our money, but my money is my money if I'm a woman. So with that structure, it doesn't matter as a woman, if you make twenty thousand dollars or two hundred thousand dollars or two hundred million dollars, because not only is society not going to expect that money to also be the man's. Most women aren't going to view things that way. So when I'm seeing these comments of nigga, you Simone Biles husband, shut up. Or how dare you think of yourself as the catch as a man and all that stuff. I'm like, y'all are severely missing the point. If we lived in a society where being a high powered, successful, well-known woman made you a catch, that would be different. But the reality is it makes a man a catch. And again, I want to preface it by saying I'm somebody who believes I default to women are the price, but I believe the relationship is the prize. What you guys are capable of building is the prize. So this competition that we're seeing happen about who is more valuable in a relationship, I think it's a waste of time because in some facets, the man is more vital and more important. But in other facets, the woman is, especially if you're somebody who's interested in kids. I know during my experience having my daughter, it was some shit like either I was incapable of doing as her dad or just didn't come naturally to me. It wasn't a strength. And if I'm being a bit more cynical, like it wasn't something I was even interested in doing. Right. So in from that framing, her mom is 1000 percent to catch. But there are other times where it becomes more apparent, the value that I bring, simply for being a man. And again, I mean, to use the to use the basketball analogy as well, like the forwards have a role and they have a duty and they have a place they're supposed to be on the floor. The guards have their own duty and where they need to be on the floor. And we rely on each other's success to be successful. The point guard sets up the forward for play. The forward set screens for the point guard sometimes to score. So there's a symbiotic relationship and a symbiotic reliance. However, in our community in particular, we are stuck in competition. And the results are there that it's not working. But again, I think we we don't trust each other. And on top of that, I also think that. Unfortunately, sisters, I think it's coming from your delegation in particular. There is an entitlement associated with. Male and female relations. Most women baseline feel entitled to a good man. Like good man should be part of the. Package that I'm supposed to magically receive when I turn 25 or 30 or 35. And because I'm entitled to it, there's no further effort that's necessary from me. That's why if you survey 100 women, 99.9% of them think that they are. Good women. Because again, they're they're thinking about if they are Simone Biles. The accomplished Olympian. As opposed to thinking about if they are Simone. The accomplished NFL athlete's wife. Because again, any man who's worth. His weight does not give a crap what you bring to the table financially. He cares about how you can help grow his table. That's the reality. So what I encourage women to do, if you're listening to this now, if you're listening to this after this airs, start by working backwards, start by identifying the type of man that you think that your skill set is best suited to. And work backwards from what would he want from a woman? Going back to the basketball analogy, is he a point guard? I can't be a point guard, too. Is he a center? I can't be a center too. Because if you guys are both playing the same position, not only will you each not have the ability to identify each other's strengths, but you'll be in competition. And I think, again, another missed opportunity with this Simone Biles and Jonathan Owen situation is people miss when she said out of her own mouth, in a few years, people will call me Jonathan Owen's wife. So by the looks of things, she understands the assignment. He's a brother who's working and has worked all his life, not just to get to collegiate the collegiate level of his sport, which is, you know, a statistical anomaly, but also to work his way from being undrafted to now being a recognized NFL talent. He understands competition. And guess what a brother like that doesn't want to do when he gets home. So ladies, again, if you're listening, be like Simone, because we don't give a shit what your last name is. Our job is to change it. And like I said, with the water analogy, when I said women are like water, women are chaotic in the whole nine. The other thing that I talked about was the Bruce Lee quote, where he said that, you know, be like water, my friend, water, if put in a cup becomes the cup. Not only ladies is your strength in your ability to be violent and chaotic and to shape the world, literally and figuratively speaking, your power is also in your ability to conform and contort yourself to the vessel that you're placed in. You're supposed to conform to me, not the other way around. And even when it happens the other way around, those women tend to not be satisfied. Jada Pinkett Smith. Right. So I hope these are some of the things that we're picking up on. Because again, I think oftentimes we have this side who are saying, you know, men, one thing men have is audacity and they're missing the point. And then the other side of men are saying, look at these bitches, they don't listen. They don't, and they're missing the point. But the point is, fellas, stop pedicelizing these women. They just want to be people. They want a man that they can follow. They want a man that they can conform themselves to. She wants to start using your lingo, not the other way around. Ladies, what position do you play? And what position are you recruiting for? And unfortunately, I've seen this firsthand, especially in the interviews. If you look at the Kevin Samuels started this conversation series, early on, I used to go on a list or based off of a list when I interviewed people. And one of the crossover questions that I would ask men and ask women, I'm sorry. And then have women ask men is if you were the opposite gender, what type of individual would you be? Every time without fail, the fellas came up with an idealistic almost a Puritan version of a woman that they wish that they would be, right? I would be a woman of grace and caliber and all that good stuff that unfortunately sometimes we look over in the real world. But women, again, without fail would always say, and my sister included, again, this stuff hits home, my sister included, I would be a male version of myself, which in my opinion is a subtle way of saying that I don't even know how to conceptualize men's value. So I will simply just superimpose myself on manhood. Because deep down, I think I could do a better job than you guys, you guys are fucking up. Now, again, we can go down a rabbit hole with that, you know, the roots of that, that's kind of pun intended, but of that disposition. But if we plan on moving forward sustainably in a way where at the very least we can just have conversations, we're going to have to throw that out the window. Because unfortunately, and this is another thing that I have grown to know, based on my my time on YouTube, that again, to reiterate, I will be slightly tapering off, because I'm taking my talents to Patreon. So please consider becoming a Patreon member. Um, the passport bros are a real thing. And, and shout out to Courtney Michelle, me and her have this debate, like, consistently, almost on a weekly basis. She believes consistent with most women, especially women in our community, that these men are the dweebs. These men are the lambs. These men are the little dick energy dudes who don't get to use a colloquial term, don't get bitches. So they have to go over seas to acquire prostitutes. And illiterate foreign women. I was never on that side of the argument. I was simply just saying, brothers, uh, the grass ain't always green on the other side. And when it is, especially when it's too green, bringing it back to sports, it's astroturf. So just go in with realistic expectations. Um, and also the idea of saving yourself and, uh, discarding your community never sat well in my spirit. But I have to report, and I told this to Courtney as well, the dudes who are on the internet calling themselves passport bros are not the people that I'm worried about. I'm worried about the brothers who ain't saying shit. I'm worried about our sons. I'm worried about, uh, boys, black boys right now who are in high school, who are in college. And unfortunately the branding of black women is not good. And unfortunately a lot of that is bolstered by some of their personal experiences with black women. And the reality is, let's be real, everybody doesn't have the political and historical education to put it in full context. Most people, just like human nature, um, dictates are interested in self preservation. And now that I even think about it, I think that's what the save yourself energy kind of comes from. But again, as somebody who has some consciousness, it doesn't sit well with me. But when I'm thinking of these 18 year old boys, 17 year old boys, and even Dr. Tia Son Johnson has talked about it, and he's done some of his research on it as well. They are reporting that these black little girls are mean. And that's if they like you. And don't let them grow up and move to Atlanta. Move to New York, move to LA, move to Philly, move to Chicago, move to some of these cities where not only is that entitlement there, but also the sense of you can't tell me shit as travel becomes more accessible, as the world becomes smaller, as social media shows us everybody's green grass, the natural consequence. And right now we're still in the early stages, so it's retirees and military guys who are really at the forefront of this. The white community, they've been on that shit. These white, these rich white men with Asian wives. That was phase one. Now we're getting into the phase where it's becoming accessible to most men. And I think the situation from 2020, I don't want to mess up YouTube, kind of expedited this, right? Because now work from home is becoming more normal. So if you're a brother, you work in tech, you can be anywhere, especially somewhere like Columbia that's only an hour behind the East Coast, so really you can work a normal schedule. Number one, that sense of adventure that's kind of in all of us as Westerners makes travel very appealing. That's number one. Number two, the fact that your dollar can go so much further in some of these places. I got a brother right now. He lives in Brazil and Colombia. I didn't say or, I said and. He's got a place in Brazil and Colombia. And mind you, when I was a loan officer, I did some of his paperwork when he was buying his house. He's not a super high earning brother. He makes good money, but he's not, you know what I'm saying? But like right now, even this apartment that you see, I know how much that I'm paying. In Colombia, with the same amount that I'm paying, downtown in a nice ass new bougie area, I could probably rent a five bedroom house. Again, I haven't even gotten to the women yet. Now, with all that being said, not only the adventure of being able to see the world before I die, that's kind of in all of us and it's growing, you know, because of social media and FOMO and all that good stuff. Number two, my money goes so much further so I can actually enjoy my life. I can have a full meal with drinks in the whole nine in Thailand, for example, for three dollars. Whereas here, I might have to spend 150 by myself and then last, but certainly not least, the women. And let me not say the women specifically, the dating experience. Again, this is what I'm hearing from the brothers who are actually doing this and not on the internet talking about it. Again, I want to make that distinction. Some guys are lame, they don't get hoes or whatever and they're trying to shoot overseas because they think it's going to be easier. It's not. It's going to be easier in some ways, but not totally. I'm talking about the brothers that you don't hear about. The brother that I'm telling you guys about good friend of mine came out as like six foot eight. We've had conversations about women, so I know he gets... I've met some of the... But what he's reporting back is the disposition of women is different. Now, ladies, if you're watching, you have two options. You can continue to be dismissive and maintain your entitlement. And wait for your boas that will never come because he's leaving. Or you can take this serious and at least intellectually consider what are some of the driving forces and the real world factors that are leading to this great exodus. And how can you position yourself to not be a victim of it? And again, just to remind ladies, this idea of I can have a kid by myself and shit like that. Go look up the success rate of IVF. Don't even look up the cost yet. Just look up the success rate and then come back and let's talk about how valuable men actually are, especially if you want black babies. But again, I don't want to go down that rabbit hole. But what these guys are reporting, I was talking to a brother the other day, shout out to Jammin. Brother lives in LA. I say that because it's important context. In the United States, you know that the most beautiful women are going to be where New York, LA, if you're black, Atlanta, Houston, places like that. So he has seen beautiful women. He is not unfamiliar with women who are genetically gifted. He went to Columbia recently. Brother said, I'm moving next year. He said, number one, the physical fitness on average of these women compared to the women that were encountered with in America. And again, this brother's in LA is night and day. But that wasn't even what stuck out to me. He said that in Columbia, for instance, and I'm just using Columbia as a case study, a woman who would be considered a six there might be considered an eight here, just on the beauty scale. Right. And I'm not a huge fan of the scale, but this makes this argument for me. So because of that, and you can see it in some sense in cities where there's a high concentration of women, but to a greater sense, if you're overseas like Ethiopia, for instance, people were talking about, what's that lady who the guy, only fans, Ruby Rose. Ruby Rose is Ethiopian. Now here, she's an IG model. She's famous for having a nice body and being pretty. In Ethiopia, she's regular. If you don't believe me, there is literally a special where Chris Tucker talked about that. He said that he went to Ethiopia and every corner, he saw Halle Berry. This was like early 2000s, 90s. That's Ethiopia. Don't get me started on South Africa. Don't get me started on, you know, Nigeria. I got a thought saying, you know what I'm saying? Ghana. Because my whole thing, if you're going to lead a country, go to a black place and we cool. I ain't got nothing to say to you. Or somebody Afro-Latinas in Colombia and the Caribbean, the West Indies, Brazil, places like that, I'm cool. I ain't got nothing to say to you. You're still keeping it black. But because of that, there's a level of humility that these women have. So whereas in the States, what's beginning to happen more and more and more is that even a quote unquote five, again, using this archaic scale, a five would think that she's a 10 and she should be treated and accorded with 10 perks. But in some of those other places, eight think she's a four. So she's talking to you and expecting you to talk to her like a human. So if she likes you, she likes you. There's no conversation about you have to take me on a $300 day. There's no conversation about I'm not going to cheesecake. There's no conversation about a real man would, a real man would, a real man would. A lot of these women are socialized to see the inherent and implicit value in men. And in those places, it's not about your ability to tap dance. It's about if we get along. And in some of those countries, like I'm hearing back, it's about if she can prove herself to you. If she can prove herself worthy of getting on your train. If she can prove her water clear to be put in your cup. That's a different conversation. And again, I only bring this up. I'm not a passport, bro. Technically, unofficially, anything like that. But we have to be honest about what's happening and the consequences of what's happening. Because again, women being hypergamous and women wanting the best possible man that she can attract, it doesn't work the same way the other way around. The 666 thing that people are circulating. This is your best opportunity to find that men around the world are not tall like that. Men around the world are not making money like that. And again, we're not being honest about these things. Some of you guys, I'm sure, saw Richie Mack's recent episodic conversation that he's been having with a sister that he met overseas. And apparently her husband is there as well. Conversation aside, watching this woman, in my opinion, embarrass herself in front of Richie, the other two women, the other man, and her husband. It was heartbreaking, man. And in more ways than one, unfortunately, she exemplified everything that men and now boys are talking about. But for whatever reason, the conversation always goes back to the onus solely rests on men. And to be fair, I default to that assumption. I think that change has to start with leadership, which is men, unfortunately. What that might look like, and this is what I was debating earlier on in my live streaming career, what that might look like is real consequences for the female behavior that we claim to dislike. And men washing their hands of it, boys washing their hands of it and saying, fuck it, I'm gonna just play video games. Or fuck it, I'm gonna just fuck bitches and get money. Or fuck it, I'm just gonna go overseas. For better or worse, those are some of those real consequences. What happens when my daughter's old enough to date? So again, there are real consequences for what's happening and we can't be dismissive. And again, this Simone Biles situation, it should be a wake up call in a sense to what's happening. And a wake up call, especially to women of what's successful and what men actually care about. For all the Simone Biles out there, we don't give a shit. Now we can care in accordance with, you are also a great ass woman and you on my team, you make me look good, you're multiplying my vision in the whole nine. And again, I'm only speaking for a certain caliber of man. I'm not talking about the bums that some women unfortunately are dating. And if they were honest with themselves, they date those bums because they're easier to control. If they're honest with themselves, they date them bums because they know they don't qualify for the kind of man that they wish they can turn them into. But that's beside the point. Those men want a woman who is a compliment to what he has going on. Those men want a woman who makes him look good. And how good you look independent of him is not as high on our list as you might assume. But again, brothers, to bring it full circle, women don't want you to see her or to see them as Simone Biles, the Olympian. And I'm sure it was refreshing that for the first time, probably in a long time, she met a man who didn't give a shit that she was extraordinary. And her case is about her accomplishments and other women's case about her looks. In other women's case, I got a PhD, whatever the case may be. Real men don't give a shit and we're not supposed to. In the book, Way of the Superior Man, David Dieter talks about how masculine energy and feminine energy always find themselves, even if the masculine energy is in a woman and the feminine energy is in a man. So ladies, gentlemen, make note of that. If you're a feminine man, a feminine woman is not going to find you attractive. Ladies, if you're a masculine woman, a masculine man is not going to find you attractive. And I said this kind of jokingly on one podcast, but the sexiest thing a man can say to a woman is no. And the sexiest thing a woman can say to a man is yes. All right, I'm done yapping. We're going to take this thing over to Patreon if you want to join the conversation. Again, I will give a little bit of time. If you are an OG-level member and you would like me to drop the link if you have some words or if you want to have a quick banter before we head over to Patreon, that is part of your perk. But yeah, if you are a member on Patreon, we're going to head over there and come one, come all. Anybody who's a Patreon can pull up and we'll talk about this thing. And hopefully you guys, we can put heads together and maybe you guys saw something that I didn't see. And maybe we can have some conversation about strategies to reverse some of this damage that we're seeing happen. First and foremost, let me shout out some of the cash app. Shout out to my brother, Dub Will. Shout out with the $10. Yeah, I'll see that, yeah. The $10, shout out to him. I don't know if my sound effects work, but we'll try. If y'all can hear that, somebody put a thumbs up. Again, this was impromptu, so nothing was set up. The Zion, shout out to you brother. Shout out to you with the $5 cash app. Thank you so much. All this goes to supporting the work that we're doing. Again, something I didn't mention in 2024, I want to revisit events. As some of you guys may or may not know, we did an event in Atlanta last year. Didn't go from a promotion standpoint. It didn't go as great as I wanted it to. The actual event was phenomenal. Anybody who actually showed up, shout out to y'all. But it was one of those events that it felt like it was too short. Anybody who's in the chat can attest to that. So we're going to spend a block on that. Try to grow that. No offense, but some of the other conversational lists, platforms that we're seeing who are doing events with sold out venues, they're not fucking with us. Let's just keep it a buck. I'm going to put a lot of my focus, time, energy, and effort and money into scaling that as well as launching the card game. So again, yeah, all this support goes towards those things. And there are some perks, event specific perks that are associated with the tiers on Patreon. So please y'all check that out. Let me read this super chat from Pimp named Slickback. Appreciate you, my brother. He says, Simone Biles has a father. Something most of these birds don't have. There's a reason she has no problem playing her role and has a ring. I'm not a fan of calling women birds, but you have a point. When I talked to Dr. Johnson, I asked him, what women have you seen that are the, that I guess have hope? For those of you guys who don't know Dr. Johnson, he's a PhD in Black Masculinity Studies. He founded Black Masculinity Studies. And the three-part interview that I did with him, it's in the Listen to Black Men series. Again, homepage, you'll find it. It's easy or playlist, you'll find it. It's easy. He said that the two women that always are the most receptive are women who have active and loving fathers and women who are mothers of sons. So in that sense, we dropped the ball with our girls as well. Some of the reason why a lot of these girls are so women are so batshit crazy beyond reproach, unwilling to even converse about things that don't immediately glorify them is that they are unfamiliar with even having conversations with the first man who was supposed to love them. And this is where we're supposed to be empathetic. To that experience, the empathy goes only so far though because at some point it now becomes your responsibility to undo and walk back some of the damage that you had no role in creating for yourself, just like we have to as men. But I think as men, we do owe a bit of empathy with why women have some of the disposition that they have because a lot of that is rooted in our failings and vice versa. A lot of our failings are rooted in the failings of our mothers. And I've talked about like the first failing being that a lot of our mothers didn't choose great men to be our fathers. People don't want to say that, but that's the reality. Or a lot of our mothers were so vindictive or whatever that they fractured our potential relationships with our father. So this happens with girls too. So empathy is still big and high on my list. But again, yeah, appreciate y'all. I'm about to take this over to Patreon. So yeah, click the pinned link to Patreon above and join us over there. I said I would drop the link for channel members. I'm going to give it like five minutes. If you're an OG level channel member, you can call in, give your quick thoughts before we head over to Patreon. If not, I will see you guys all on Patreon. The lowest tier on Patreon is five bucks. But I would definitely consider the $15 tier. It really helps out. But the $5, it helps out tremendously as well. At $5, you have access to the, we'll call these after dark segments where we head over. We head over to Patreon. So yeah, if anybody wants to come up who's an OG level member, speak your piece, do that. So I'll give it a little bit and then I will set up the Patreon. And I forgot how the hell I did that last time. All right, we've had Shad's pimp named Slickback. He just became a Patreon executive producer level member. Appreciate you, brother. Your perks will be coming soon. Also, tap in with the chat on Patreon as well. You now have access, brother. But yeah, the three tiers, conversation list, executive producer and then VIPs only. And all the perks are listed under each tier. Like I said, for the foreseeable future, I will be shifting my focus to sustainable content, which means Patreon and the subscription model. I'll still drop on YouTube periodically, but it won't be my focus. If you guys want to know full transparency, YouTube has, I've been averaging $2,000 a month on YouTube on ad revenue. So again, this idea that YouTubeians are making a shit ton of money is only true if you're putting out bullshit. But with my average five, six, 7,000 views, I'm not really making money, which is why things like Patreon, you guys support Cash App. Superchats is invaluable. All right, let me do a quick check who the OGs are. Also, I mean, Money, Marriage, and Media, you're grandfathered in, man. You know what I'm saying? I'm pulling you up. I don't care if you're OG. Jeffrey Bell and Patrice Jay, like I said, this is exclusively part of the new more regimented system that I have to implement. So if you're an OG level member, you will have access to come up on the stream. But in the meantime, Money, Marriage, and Media, I'm going to let you do a monologue, man, so I can set up Patreon. That's cool. What's going on, my brother? Man, it's been a minute since I had a camera on. I'm just trying to tell you. Man, listen, me too, man. Me too. I don't stream no more. I was low key discouraged. But again, I'm going to let you give your thoughts. Let me set this up and then we'll head over to Patreon. Cool? Yeah, that's fine. That's fine. I'm trying to fill out this Patreon thing myself. So it's all good. Yeah, no problem. So there are a couple of things that Alan brought up that I think are interesting. And at some point, we've got to start addressing them, especially if we're talking about building a community. The things that stick out to me the most are, when we start talking about how women behave in other countries, at some point, we have to address the fact that because this hits home for me because I am a father, like I have two daughters. And one of the things that I struggle with is that, okay, if I'm raising them here, I still have to raise them. So how am I doing that? What steps am I taking personally to ensure that they are able to interact with potential husbands? Now, of course, my daughters are young. I mean, no, this is six. But it gets scary when Alan mentioned about what do you talk about when or what do you think about when your daughters get of age where they would be old enough to date? Because the thing is, is that like passport pros, I don't get concerned about that. Number one is because statistically, that's a small percentage. I think what's a bigger issue is boys now who have the mindset that I'm just not going to try. Playing video games, nah, I'm good. Dealing with women is not the juice. It's not worth the squeeze. And it's not worth the time or effort. And if this was, if we were talking about a career or a job, we would label them as being lazy. But again, where does that leave us though? Because I'm not going to necessarily say it's being lazy because there are too many examples in social media as to why these younger boys are saying, well, no, it's not worth it. I don't want to go through all that. There's too much rejection. It's just not worth it. So again, it falls back to as a father, what do I teach my daughters? You know, because then you still have to worry about, let's say you raise them right. Okay. And they grow up to be wives. Well, you're still faced with another dilemma. And that's the, that's the numbers. The numbers don't lie. So in our community, the marriage rates for women, it's less than 30%. So if you're raising a black daughter, there's a 70% chance that she's not going to get married. If that's the case, the average woman in this country does not make enough money to make it to the end of life through retirement. And there's a 70% chance that she's not going to be married. So what are you supposed to raise her to do? You know, is she supposed to be hyper independent? I don't know. I don't have an answer for this. And this is something that unfortunately, no one is willing to talk about. And I think that's a shame because at some point we have to address it. I mean, again, what do you do? I don't know. I mean, you can take a stab in the dark here and say that I want to raise my daughter to be wise, but I got two of them. So again, if it's less than 30%, what does that mean? Scary thought and for a reason, that's one of the things I'm glad about, that my daughter's also young. I can kick the can down the road a couple more years before having to deal with that. It may just be that my daughters will always be under my protection. And that's something that I got to deal with. So it is what it is. All right? You know, it's always interesting to hear or to watch these channels that specifically talk about dating, right? Manisphere, RP content, whatever, it doesn't matter. But what I find interesting is that very rarely do we talk about how we're raising our kids. And I think that's one of the issues that causes the gender war is that we never discuss the fact that we're raising our kids to be soldiers. And again, you have to address these things because otherwise it's just going to continue. You know, so we could talk about passport bros, but ultimately, you know, that's just a small percentage of men. Now, they're not all, I agree with Alan that they are, they're not all undesirable men or men who don't have luck with women in this country. I think that because the reality is to pick up your life and move to another country is not a simple thing in order. And that's a feat in itself. Most men, they're not going to accomplish. So if you are passport wrote, you know, that's your thing, you go ahead and do it. I've always been a proponent of, you know, you take what you build where you're at. It's just my philosophy. It doesn't work for everybody, but you know, I'm okay with that. But I think that another interesting point is this Simone Biles of her relationship. You know, I took key from another YouTuber who made an example of about the differences between men and women as far as peak sexual marketplace value is that women reached their peak sooner and it shoots up higher. So it's like a flame. The flame burns hotter, but with men, we hit our peak later in life. And if you think about it, that's kind of what Simone was talking about, how in the future, you know, she is going to be known as the wife of her husband. So it makes you wonder though, because about, how do you say this, about when should we start talking about when should we be looking to pair off as far as marriage goes? I don't know. I think it's an interesting conversation. Because again, if what I just said is true about women reaching their peak early, do you try and get married during your peak? Or is that still too young? Something to think about, because again, who are you marrying is another question. Because again, you're at your peak, but the guys around similar ages are not. They're not even close. I think this presents another problem for the gender war. Because again, who is vetting these guys for you? Most of the time, women are left to their own devices. And unfortunately, women a lot of times are bad at make selection. Just be honest here. I mean, if you want proof, look at the divorce rate. You know, it's close to 50%, but most divorces are initiated by women. Hold that thought, brother. We are going to transition over to Patreon. I just dropped the link in the chat that takes you directly to that video on Patreon. Again, the very first tier is all you need to join us. So yeah, I will see you guys there in the next five minutes. And also pull up, brother. I got you. All right. Y'all take it easy. Yeah. If this is your first time here, thank you for joining us. We're heading over to Patreon for the after dark version unfiltered. Everybody pull up who's a Patreon member conversation. So click the link in the chat and I look forward to seeing everybody there. Peace.