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Okay Let's get into it copyright disclaimer under section 107 of the copyright act 1976 Allowance is made for fair use for purposes such as criticism comment news reporting teaching scholarship and research Fair use is a use permitted by copyright statute that might otherwise be infringing Non-profit educational or personal use tips the balance in favor of fair use No copyright infringement intended all rights belong to their respective owners Before we get started. I see seven people left and guess what happened Emma Payne lives in Chesterfield with fiance Lee Hamlin and their 10 children Mitchell's 10 children is insane So you went into labor 10 times and push 10 babies out 16 mason 14 Jordan 13 one 12 one year a mate Dylan 6 Le5 3 18 months and 4 month old Charlie Boy got in there quick. He got it. He got a 18 year old 18 month and a 12 month. He was He was nothing. What do you say you? Settle down boy Working mother Sam Zendall Ellis lives near Studley with her husband Darren and their two children Moira 3 and McCoy 2 Sam also has a 13 year old daughter Ella who stays with them once a month The two wives have agreed to sw- wait what? Moira 3 and McCoy 2 Sam also has a 13 year old daughter Ella who stays with them once a month Once a month was mad enough For how long? Wives have agreed to swap lifestyles and homes for two weeks to see what they can learn about each other's lives Imagine swapping wives and walking into a household with 10 kids when you got to What? What happens when a career mom has to stay at home to look after 10 children yesterday? I came in and off he was on his own and he had that in his mouth So why don't you bring the attention so as it happened instead of leaving it to five six Bullshit you can shit how does a husband who likes structure react to a shake up in the routine? The baby smirk, what are you doing? What is he doing it? I just realized we watch in the preview and what happened It's all chill. Let's move along Everybody had a wash and brush this team. Yeah, are you sure Emma Payne and Lee Hanlin are full-time parents to 10 children Being a mom means everything to me. You get so much love From these kids just looking at them and getting a smile and I love you It's so rewarding I'd say my mom's on dad. For example, if I Mean it is rewarding, but not ten kids worth of rewards Maybe two three full tops, but like ten you did that ten times You got to be in shambles down there. It's great. All right within in this house. We're left to Emma She'd have a life of how would you a Lot of people judge big families. They say that big families are uncontrollable Disrespectful, but until they actually meet one hands-on they can't mom's a good mom cause she like Plays for you as in she's funny She does stuff we all this And his turn who's talking but it's not all fun and games when your mom and dad to ten kids buying food for a family of 12 is ectic Who's that a bag of dog food? Goodbye from 18 to 20 loads of bread a week 8 to 10 pounds milk a day people are staring at us as if we're feeding 10,000 a day Did she say 8 to 10 pounds of milk per day? We got us taking stuck back man. We need to we need to regroup hold on. No, you don't need to regroup With 12 people go ahead tie them tools now for living under one roof Emma and Lee run their house with structure and discipline Someone start taking these in the family have set mealtimes Right who's been told off at school today then and Everyone mucks in with the chores the soup look nasty always needs help and I wash the pots and wash the Emma had her foot. I will say salute. They got ten kids No issues as WDNA first child when she was 16 Ten kids later and at the age of 34. She's hoping to pursue a career I'm finding it difficult because I've got ten children for employers to take me on Now if I lied and said I've got to they probably accept me lie But mom of two Sam's end all Ellis has no such problems she works full-time running her own sweet shop I think I'm far better as a working mother than I would be as a stay at home other I Would be unhappy tie her to give him a vasectomy who somebody get it done You know I'm saying she's 36 though. Let's be real about it. Let's that's science says That it's almost the end of the road so, I mean You know I'm saying Nevertheless they should have a discussion as a family and see who should potentially Get it done. I am not an earth mother Crafting and drawing and coloring and getting the class seen out and doing what you need at 36 At 36 it ain't the end of the road talk to me About about 38 after after 30. It's a high-risk pregnancy. We do know this stuff, right? When you have a kid after 30, it's a high-risk pregnancy When you in your prime having kids is the best time and when I say in your prime go look it up The best time to have a kid is in between the ages and Don't quote me. This is science talking or whatever somebody talking not me 18 and 25 pump them out They bound to be healthy 100% I Sam and husband Darren of parents to three-year-old moya and two-year-old McCoy Sam also has another daughter 13 year old See now y'all saying 38 38 is high-risk. That's cap. Hey Siri What ages a high-risk pregnancy? Okay No, my I was 35 35 But nevertheless my initial point was still right so y'all argue with me to solidify what I say. She's 36 That's over 35 Come on now talk to me Who has lived with her father since she was three? That's enough. I don't really often come here anymore at first. It was hard Because Ella lives with her dad I have to mentally detach myself from her I regret completely leaving her with her dad. I would love her to live here with me She doesn't want to in Sam's end all Alice's house although weekends of family, of course not That's a daughter that a mom left at the end of the day. You leave your daughter as a mom. You do Me time so I'm doing three different meals tonight As a working mum who runs her own sweet shop time is precious and Juggling work and the kids can be an added strain All right, stop you two Both Moira and McCoy can be devil children. It's a constant battleground in this house To grow Sam's business Darren has put his carpentry work on hold to look after the kids and help out in the shop That's my responsibility. I don't really have a designated role as such. I just do me bit But that's not quite how Sam sees it Despite putting in a full day's work when Sam comes home, there's more work Generally most roles in the house are mine With regards to Darren He is like a fourth child because I do have to accommodate him like I do the children Bro kicking it Stand on that talk to me and you should be ashamed of yourself as well, sir Yeah, don't think you're out of the woods, buddy You get tongue by I gave up my job, bro. You Willingly you ran home to do this. Don't you feel demasculated and masculated? What are you doing? So look to that woman for going out being a breadwinner coming home and taking care of her family You sir deserve a divorce Nagging him to do things getting him to do things asking him to do things over and over again That's not just me that ringing him a cup. That's men in general No, whoa, whoa, whoa, don't group us with you Don't do that Don't do that Don't do that. Man, that is not real life. He is living. You are living. No, you have provided You have provided a What's the word i'm looking for? What's the word man? You have provided a Simulation that your husband is loving on the daily basis I'm telling you when it comes to men They're gonna take as much as they can from you if you allow it Put your foot down Forcing your man to be a man is crazy. You know, all right It's the day of the swap and the two wives are preparing to leave home But when you've got 10 kids saying goodbye can take some time See you later I just hope the new wife looks after my kids Still or they meet their new husbands emma and sam have a chance to explore their new homes Well, it smells lovely not for me to decorate Three it's 10 kids. No Two kids i'd say right i'm really hoping this is for the jumble sale because it says not to three months on it So otherwise it means i'm getting a newborn a chilling out Relaxing ma'am. You don't even know you don't know you don't even understand what you just walked into Where dad plays i'd say there are three beds. So there are one two three young boys in here I found receipts for lots of sweets To the owner shop We've obviously got a few girls as well now. I haven't found the baby So we're on to at least six children so far. I've just seen bunk beds in another room One two three four five six seven eight nine there are 10 Children in this house Oh my god, and there's two the more I think about it though 10 kids as long as everybody is like if I got a full-time nanny like an au pair Maybe two of them with 10 kids like Well, i'm saying because I could there's no way you could put 10 kid responsibility on your wife I just don't feel like that is an appropriate thing to do that is insane 10 kids with an au pair make sure everybody is get the attention they deserve I'm gonna rock out Two kids not that bad by the same woman too. That's that's very salutable I know dudes that got like 12 kids by 12 different women. That's tough The babies don't take care of no, I've got the patience for 10 children. I've hardly got the patience for two Each wife has left a written manual as a guide to the running of their home Right in terms of running our house. We run a tight ship. How could we not? Lee and I share most of the chores and the children are very good at doing their bit too Lee seems quite involved in the housework Um so far so he does seem like he's a great help And he doesn't seem like he has to be asked to do things like my husband I feel like I do everything in the house and damage is really little So she's having to run a business a house. I don't know how she puts up with The most important thing in my life is my children and my partner Nothing comes before them. I can think of nothing more rewarding than being a mother surrounded by my children Uh, it's the exact opposite of me being a mother. It isn't enough for me I also have a daughter l of 13 from a previous relationship But wait a minute. She lives with her dad. I will we know that though She just basically said it being a mother isn't enough for me Which is an insane statement to make out loud But I understand it though Like, you know what I'm saying? You have ambitions But your ambition has got to come second to your kids once you have them And in your first relationship, no offense. That is not what happened That's why you sat back and you let that happen You let you let oh, I wish I didn't let him know you you exactly what you said You let that man take her because being a mom wasn't enough and you wanted to figure some life stuff out El mom Say that the kids are definitely on par with the shop in terms of my priorities. Oh my life. How can you say that? That's so terrible Definitely on par with the shop put me I also have a daughter l of 13 from a previous relationship But she lives with her dad. I would say that the kids are definitely on par with the shop in terms of my priorities Oh my life. How can you say that? Oh my god, this is a this is a terrible mother I'm trying to see I defended you now. I got more information that you wrote down You wrote that down. See y'all to make me pull out the pointer flag UK No disrespect, but like that's that's tough That's so terrible. No wonder thoughts not we are Talk to her Hello Okay, you're Ellie Fallon and Shannon that should be quite good. I'm Sam Hey, Callum This is gonna be impossible This is charlotte you to ball Hello. Hello. Hi. Yeah. Hi. I'm Darren. Hi. Yeah Hello. Hey, darling. Hello. Come here McCoy Hello, darling. I'm Emma. I've got 10 children 10. Yes So can you imagine what your mum is thinking right now? Oh, I'm shocked and I'm not even there 10 children. Oh, that's a lot No sooner than they Like okay, let's let's take some bets Not bets because I don't know betting is let's let's do some predictions here. Who do you think is going to fall in line easier? This husband This husband right here or his wife who's gonna Accomplish or fall in line and be like, okay, this is smooth. Like I could do this. This is easy Who's gonna have an easier time doing that? I'm I'm border. I'm I'm gonna go with him I'm gonna go with him Can you imagine what your mum is thinking right now? I'm shocked and I'm not even there 10 children. Oh, that's a lot No sooner than they've met Darren is off to his weekly football match Right, daddy's got to go football Emma's left to cook dinner for the kids Unlike in her own home the children choose what they want to eat What would you like on your pasta? Oh, do you like cheese? Yeah. Yeah. Will you eat it? Yeah, good girl. So I'm putting pasta and butter on the plate Yeah, so I love self to the cheese Right I am so not a waitress and I feel like one right now So how you doing at your house? You got 10 kids Oh, they started After a busy day at work the last thing I want is Awkwardness I think Sam would benefit From just making one meal putting a foot down. She really needs to say like this is how it's going to be from now on You don't need scrambled eggs. You'd like scrambled eggs. Why don't you try the pasta a bit more? She's so busy. Darren's got his football When does Sam get that break? All right, this is it then. You're going to be very brave eating my foods, but I'll do my best. All right, wish me luck Sam is facing her first night cooking for 12 but at the Hamlins, it's a team effort I like to Sort of be it gotta be a team effort spontaneous sometimes and Do things like Surprises allergies and buying the things and just It's nice to just be a reminder. She's appreciating my husband doesn't ever do anything like that It's a real problem in our house because I do so much in our house And I don't remember him ever really doing anything. She might cheat. She might cheat in this episode Has that ever happened? spontaneous like that It was just really nice to have somebody to help me do the dinner. It was wonderful Lee is completely different to Darren's the husband Lee is um It seems to be a very thoughtful person. It seems to be a constant thing how to make other people happy With regards to the morning I'm concerned that it's going to be really chaotic because we're on a tight deadline and there's a lot of children to get ready there I'm kind of both excited and scared about what tomorrow is going to bring I'm not even gonna lie when you have this much kids. You've got a plan severely ahead All outfits got to be laid out on the couch. You know what I'm saying? Like the minimal at least all outfits got to be laid out. Uh, you know what I'm saying like The older kids y'all got to take care No, no, no, I would even do the older kids too because I don't want them to like feel like I'm not giving them enough attention So I do everybody. You know what I'm saying? I do everybody. I know the older kids are older But when they make that decision to do it themselves cool But like having 12 kids you got to make everybody feel like we're giving you attention and Doing that for them Will give me a moment with them. You know what I'm saying? You got to have your priorities and on the order when you got 12 kids you got to be on point Working mum of two sam's and the ls is now living traditional mum Emma Hamlin's life looking after 10 kids All right to take that in You're amazing I'm keeping you If it was my life, I would be going to the shop sort of five six days a week Whereas here every day is just about children and housework Gotta be at 12 kids Getting 10 kids up and seven ready for school is no easy task But the hamlin's work is a team Okay, we've got to do your hair This house doesn't seem to have as much as a routine as I was first led to believe It is organized chaos And I think that it would probably be served better if the children had their assigned role I don't know some that well yet It's 12 of them I get where she's going with it. But when you when you hit over seven No, man, when you hit over four kids five kids It got it guys gonna kind of be organized chaos I feel I could I could talk to him could have a laugh. Do you know what I mean? So I know he popping out kids. Look at him. He got the look look at his outfit He got the baby shower outfit on right now Why he washing dishes just in case? You know what I'm saying? Let's get tough out of here You never know any Darren could go down on his list of friends Could you do a little bit more here for me? Where's Alfie? Just to check he's all right So I'd just like to know he's with somebody in a room Shall I then did you find Alfie? He's in there. Okay, cool Alfie seems to wander around and I find him in lots of different places on his own a lot I just went into the room and he had a dice in his mouth He's just at an age where he's just prone to so much danger Normally Emma Hamlin's morning involves cooking breakfast for a brood of 10 But as a working mum it's rush rush rush to get off to the sweet shop You show lot Oi, don't do swerving Oh When kids curse it's such a joyous occasion But not mine like I don't like it. Like when other people's kids curse, I'd be like, dang Yo kid cursing That's funny Come here, please. Don't swerve babe. Come here. Have you finished your breakfast? We'll go and eat your breakfast in place I was really disgusted that McCoy just swerved and Darren did nothing Mitchell swerved me once and I chased him around the house and he used to borrow soap I've got 10 children that are controllable Huh Borrowed soap is extreme like all I have to do is tell my daughter don't say that and she literally cries for like five minutes Just from the word don't say that Because she internalizes that she's done something that she's not supposed to do and she's genuine genuine I don't know how she feel about it, but she cried about it and And in this house, it seems like they are getting uncontrollable. They're gonna end up having kids that it got as bones After a busy morning routine stay at home mum Emma now faces a seven-hour shift in the shop Oh, they smell lovely Yeah 88 It's okay. I've got to tell Darren what sort of life this is for Sam. She's getting up Doing the breakfast getting the kids ready for the day out at Jasper's coming to the shop and Darren's doing what not a lot by all accounts There's two pence change. Thank you so much. Nice to meet you I so get a manual now. I'd love to sit down and say read this word for word and appreciate this woman After spending the day at home with 10 kids Sam has a few issues to raise with Lee The reason what I need to talk to you is I am getting concerned about Alfie Because I feel that probably because Emma's not here that he's um getting into potentially dangerous situations I really don't mean this is a criticism I came in and Alfie was on his own and he had that in his mouth Okay You weren't in the room, but you weren't off. You weren't on You're criticizing me saying I'm not there with Alfie, but you don't know what we're doing So what time I'm not criticizing that you weren't there Yeah, you're criticizing me on camera on my children So rather than getting defensive Well, I'm not saying for a minute that you're out in another room sat with your feet on and I know this is hard to take But please understand I've got to go through this with you because But the thing is if I were busy doing something Emma would always know where Alfie and Charlie is Always I can't be doing other things in the house and you're not shifting the responsibility of that one to me I'm not shifting. No, I've bought it to your attention. That's not the only thing I need to bring to your attention That's one of the things that I found and that's just bullshit. You can shit show it at your house Can we do that really went left Look about it not in front of the kids. You don't want to talk to you son I think well, why don't you go and have a cup of tea and calm down then? I'm not good calm down. This is my house. Don't dare tell me what you're doing I'm not asking you to come out. I'm not trying to patronize you. You should have done it with your children Nah, he definitely don't she doing it look like I I sightly see it. Why don't you calm down and get yourself a cup of tea First and foremost, that's I'm a grown man. I don't want to do that I want to I want to talk about what I'm talking about right now See this See See It's a lot out. I'm not gonna say nothing. Just she's entitled to speak her mind, of course, but there's a lot of energy death here. That's That's that's kind of like, you know, I'm saying A lot of us talk about you in front of the kids. So I'm really sorry. All right. You're right. If things have gone wrong, why don't you dealt with emerald? So she's clearly obviously not emerald, is she? But then again, she never could be emerald anyway In no way shape our form. This is 10 kids though After some time out Lee's calm down I'm not gonna put any blame on you whatsoever I was wrong, right in leaving you We all we with all the kids and to do the things with the kids, right? And I'm wrong and I apologize And I you've been with my kids Any any dad would be proud to have you as a wife. Thank you I'm sorry He made it up The shop might be closed but according to Sam's manual Emma's day is not over as she heads home to cook dinner for Darren and the kids Hello, oh, yeah Right quick question. Okay, um rice. How do you do rice because I ball it up every time basically Can I ask you something? Yeah in the manual? Yes The bible yes, it says that you never ever cook. It says that you do not a lot All right. Okay. Maybe I do a lot more than she realizes I'm not saying that you're lying to me. No, but it's like contradicting things Hmm I'll have to keep checking the manual There's a bit bullshit going about it needs to be confronted He tells me one thing. She tells me another who's doing that sleepy face dad No one ever wants to hear that they're crap never sound perfect not by a long shot, but No one wants to hear their crap. That's that's so it's it's hard to it's a hard pill to swallow Yeah, no, that's just human nature. Nobody ever wants to hear like Criticism so I felt when dude was getting criticized by his wife But you know Another issue in the manual that Emma's came to explore is why Ella's lived with her father since she was three It must have been so hard if you want to make that decision Well, I think she might feel guilty for doing that In some way. Yeah, but she doesn't She doesn't like let it affect her very much Do you think she's got this active life to stop thinking about emotional stuff? Um It's a possibility. She just has a Look at it. She's always had an energetic life. It's always Busy busy and go really I was talking to Ella earlier on and she is straight away Said that she's got a really good bond with her dad. She loves him to bits because he's always been there and I felt a bit sad because she should still have that bond with Sam It's the weekend and Emma Hamlin's back at work I don't feel bad for the mom That's the same situation. I mean don't feel bad I'm not one bit Because at the end of the day the moms be choosing that So I could care less It's weird being Sam because in my home I interact with the kids a lot more In Sam's world the priority is the shop Um Then the children where's really it needs to be the kids class. There you have nothing very much. See you. Bye As Emma arrives home to spend a night in Darren has planned a night out for them both Right tonight Can't go out because some bible says Saturday evening Darren might go to the pub or go to see his friend's band It's extremely rare that I get to go out with my friends. All right Okay, okay. No, I'm just quite quite hurt by that actually quite actually true hurt there That's nothing that's really pissed me off to be honest Don was totally disgusted about what Sam's writing the manual for a Saturday evening Um by all accounts. It's a load of bullshit. Why do you think she's done it though? I have no idea at all If that I feel she's gonna be interesting Like aftermath situation when they come together Because I borderline want to say I believe it but the way he acted I don't know in the way. She is. I don't know I don't know That bad and I'm such a lazy fucker and go out all the time and do fuck all without her Well, what's what she wasted her time with me for? Right with the manual in dispute Emma decides to show it to Darren I meant ending on all sides by Darren and the kids But Darren never offers to take control of things and let me relax He makes me feel uncomfortable leaving him in charge Like to know why she feels uncomfortable leave what she thinks I can't I can't look after the kids or Well, I would like to know what that's all about me too because you couldn't look after your 13 year So, who are you to tell me? What are you talking about? And you still don't prioritize your two kids first the new ones. So How dare you? They're my kids at the end of the day. She knows full well that I'd fucking Walk through broken glass for him. So as for not being able to fucking trust me like One of you is lying and I ain't even gonna lie man. I think I want to be on bro's side because of her past his wife's past because like I I'm not feeling it Uh You can't tell me I don't know that type of person That's a no don't want to hold no accountability wants to go blame Project my blame I play playing game but project Like I ain't going for that man. I know I believe he'd be doing him But I also believe like it ain't to this extent You yeah And I feel that not everything in there's true The warm embrace is crazy, ain't it? Well feeling, um, it's I would In my eyes is a really nice bloke He's found out that his wife is now seeing him in a totally different light It sounds like she's got no respect for you He just does not like him at all and what's she doing with him? She's not happy Just thinking if I'm some shit why have we wasted all this time kids are not the reason to stay together as much as As much as I love my kids We can't keep making each other's lives a misery for it. My my gut feeling is Is enough enough Let's not let's not waste any more of each other's time And watch when they get together. She goes no, I didn't mean it like that. I'm what I'm what I was saying what Sona I mean most of Sam's evenings are usually a mix of working chores, but tonight it's family games at the hamlet Simon says Simon says touch your ears stroke your belly Lou your turn Simon says we're gonna be tools Which one? On the one that's on the floor I've been much more patient with these children than I am with my own And I've been having much more fun with these children than I do with my own Oh my god this lady gets worse and worse about it That's making me reflect on some of the things that I'm lacking as you should you lack a lot You lack a lot In in my own family life, I think Sam's nice and she's like She's done good to get to know us and I know it would be scary to Find out that you're walking after 10 kids and She's been good Yeah After last night Darren's been reflecting on his relationship with Sam I shaved it off because Sam's always said it makes me look too young So I've kept it really for that reason because I've been unsure But you know at the moment I'm gonna do what I'm gonna do Talk about it. Take it. Take your masculinity back In my hair There's a huge doubt in my mind at the moment. So Yeah, I'm not just gonna chuck it in because we'll see what happens from the end of this I mean, I wouldn't have cut my mustache off, but I mean, okay Maybe this might help her to realize that I'm not such a shit person At the Hamlins Lee's taken son Mason to football training Leaving Sam to juggle cooking a roast for 12 with keeping an eye on all the kids Where are the children? I thought they were going out in the garden What you doing Dylan? Are you sure you're shutting the gate? Come in please because there's nobody out here with you. I thought No, Shannon's gone to the shop. Oh one of my Bernie. What's going on? Oh Fallon says you're trying to hit her with something You're not doing that. Well, I'm gonna be watching out the window now. Okay, bro. Got a kid. What is those? Ain't that a sharp object? Like head shears, what is all right? No, should I do the fetch first or the chops? I'm stressed I'm getting along getting really upset It's goddamn kitchen. I feel like I'm you know from the moment I come in here. I haven't really left I don't know whether Lee's back yet. So I need to check This has been a miserable day for me. It's been probably my lowest point I think your lowest point was saying that you like these kids more than you like yours You ain't say that verbatim, but you you definitely alluded to it Um, I am very tense about this rule change Not for the children. I think it's going to be great for the children I just don't believe that Lee is going to be receptive to it. And I think it's um It's uh, affecting everything in me today It's rule change day and both wives are preparing to bring new regimes into their homes You want to sit with daddy? Right Darren, I feel strongly that you are lovely people But need guidance to become a lovely family It's time for you to see what Sam feels her life is like So from now on you will run the shop and I will stay home with the children Okay Okay, you do all do a really good job of helping out in this house. But it's very sort of hit and miss And for the next few days, you've got your own jobs So if they don't get done The only person here you've got to blame is yourself And I have actually written down a chore list which we'll look at after Ella, I feel that your mum should make more of an effort spend more one-to-one time with you So each week we now have Ella time where you get to be with your mum alone. How do you feel about that? I'm hoping that the new rules that we put in place Will contribute to helping and be able to work if she wants to so as an experiment I've got a part-time job Parenting is the hardest job on the face of the earth. I don't know of a harder job So I've arranged for me and you to just go out doesn't have to be for very long But I want you to do it to see if you enjoy it and to remind you why you work so well together Is that one all right? I'm good because I'm really looking forward to that one. In my house everyone puts Yeah, you might get some because she ain't she don't love her husband at all See out here going on a date real life date their weight In your house. I see chaos. So there's no structure So from now on tv is off And you will have to use your imagination on how else to occupy your children They'll get used to doing something else then. Okay. Okay. It's my stop winding him up Um, I think it'll work for for the time like yeah, no problem It take about three days man. They take about three days. I know these things About three four days if your kid been watching tv all they like take about three four days Of no tv They might ask here and there after that fourth day. I'm talking about toddlers now I don't know nothing else about nothing else, but about four on that fourth day. They gonna be like, all right I'm gonna leave it alone We're done here. Let's get the perc. Let me can I get some bubbles? Can I get some crayon that you got to be actively doing stuff with them though As Darren is now doing Sam's role both at home and at work He gets on with the chores leaving Emma to be a hands-on mom Right then she will do it Because I gave them a pen and a piece of paper and they were drawing around my hand They got so into it I've had all this one-to-one tonight and it's probably the most I've had in weeks I'm so proud of myself for Bringing this into this family because I really think we needed it Although the Hamelin kids do chores Sam's now assigned them specific tasks. So they know what they're supposed to be doing So tidying up Callum and Dylan They're gonna need a bit of supervision with that in a bit of direction You know, but that is their job. And if you don't see them doing it, you've got to let us know obviously Ellie and Fallon haven't really got anything but you can always I think it's a good idea to try and get them to do a few bits I'll pick this up put that in the bin I'm very surprised that the rule changes the hardest job I feel there's been a lot of thought going into it A lot of positive thought You ought to put on one of Jordan's chores or I'll get in your bath Gently Let's love each other It's a brave set of rules I've put in Don't let them boys be boys, man. They're boys. Go ahead punch your brother But this is a house with 10 children So I've got to be a hugely organised tomorrow as it's the first day and they're going to be looking to me So I've got to sleep well and make sure I've got all my wits about me for tomorrow We're running late this morning. It's half past seven already Sam's still in bed fast asleep Mason and Jordan are getting kids uniform sorted for me This rule change is not going to work for very long if I'm doing everything, is it? We're all late today, aren't we? It's lucky if it becomes a common occurrence then I shall open my mouth and say something As Darren is now working at the shop Emma can be a stay-at-home mum and she's involving the kids in the housework You're good at helping McCoy. Well done Why because you can't why is it a surprise? I hope I'm bringing structure to the house. The kids have come down loads Just with me being in charge for one day. It's so cool I said was that a roach? Was that a roach on the wall? I hope I'm bringing structure to the house. The kids have Come down loads. Just with me being in charge for one day. It's so cool Can I open now? You're such a good girl At the hamlin Sam is now up Under her rules everyone has specific chores to do but Lee suddenly decides he needs to go out Wait, it's half past nine now Yeah, but how far is Sheffield? About half an hour away How long is it gonna take to get ready? I'm trying to get in my head because I can't do a schedule if you're gonna go back in dinnertime I'll get back as quick as I can Thank you darling that's my fault But I need help we're from you tonight so while I'm Sam I need a job up this morning with your seniors in the way in bed, you know what I mean? You couldn't wake me up. I've got to get stuff done I've got to get the excuse I've got to get stuff done No, I've got to get stuff done So first day at the new rules and your attitudes that I'm doing what I want to do regardless No, I'm not doing what I've got to do. I'm doing what needs to be done I'm doing what needs to be done for my family Why is it every time we have a conversation or a disagreement you have to start bellowing? I'm doing stuff what needs to be done for my family because you're just not ever And you're not capable of being ever You've just said that basically you've got tea time so what about seven hours go to Sheffield Start some paperwork Sam, go buy your head love That's mature, real mature, real close So I sleep in bed when kids need to be get sold She's coming up their way. If you were gonna use that as a martyr stick Did she come on babe? She's taking this wise swat a little bit too far ain't she? She says that as a martyr stick, you should have woken me up Oh fuck yourself Nice Don't defend me She's out of today She's gone I really hope that Darren isn't treating your wife the way you're treating me Because I tell you what he's far more mature and far more classy to ever speak to somebody like that Now he's far more submissive and he's far more further under my foot My bet I am a guest in your house and telling me to go and act myself in front of all your children must make you really proud You know what does make me proud? The woman that I've got not you I've passed nine in the morning, I mean yesterday's close Right, I'm running about this morning like an headless chicken to make sure my kids at school While she's in bedroom sat on her lazy ass that's not taking piss Come on Emma's coming home today I said so if you all don't get her I'll go and get her Take your pick It's over Out Tell me now do you want me out of here Sam Sorry Hey, hey, hey Me I just want her to out me out Baaay Okay, well this does mean it's not cooperative at all Yo, just get out of my house I don't need to tell you why, just get out now This is my house Right, get it out Right, just don't, don't all right come down this is my fucking house Get out of my house Get out of my house No, fucking get out of my house Cameras out Yep, it's not like A little bit controlling A fucking animal He's had his girl since she was 16 so I'm pretty sure she Now, now, now She might be a little brainwashed I thought of them kids, I don't look like one or two any of the children now I think she really had to leave In studly things are going from strength to strength Who's coming to give me a hand in the kitchen? Coming Gonna help Day one of the rule change is insane Goidaboy Or are you gonna go and play in the garden for a bit? Oh, you wanna help daddy? Okay, Dad The children are going to get more attention And to more involved And the family's not here, there, and there They're all as one now I hope Santa brings us lots of presents, says Tommy Cool And I can, so where's the cat? Reading the children's stories is not something Well, now to be fair, his wife, what they were doing in his home was not It was not orderly, it wasn't, nothing was So of course when you try to go implement it somewhere else It don't work really at your crib He just was being shh, you know, about it, you know I think I've done a great deal of it I enjoyed myself Where's the dog? And it was nice for them Where's the bunny rabbit? And where's the parrot? As Darren is looking after Moira and McCoy Emma has time to spend with Ella You're a big sister At home, and at this home as well Yeah, we're just over there So how many girls have you got? We've got four girls and six boys Girls outnumbered Yeah This family, her family train, her family tree is intact for centuries She's such a cool kid She's spoke about how she loves doing nails and makeovers and things But she, she has to do it with Yeah, yeah This, this lady let Darren be a man And he, and he, the other husband is so used to being a man In his household, leading household She tried to come in and lead Like, you can't, there's no, like how? Like, in a household who, there's a, can only be one leader And are we not saying, is anybody disagreeing with me? Like, if the man is up to par then he should be leading Even if the, even if the woman is the breadwinner Doesn't matter It doesn't matter At the end of the day, I, like I, let me lead Let me, let me, you know what I'm saying? That's a, that's a us decision Just because you get to make them up the bread, you pulling all in, all the scratch I'm still the man of this house You understand? Like, like it gotta, it gotta be like that, man Or it ain't gonna, it ain't gonna, it ain't gonna work too much, man We're the friends because mom's quite busy But she's so happy that we've done it tonight I'm hoping that my mom will keep that ruling Now I ain't gonna lie, the woman of the house is the strategic backbone And she is necessary to run everything, but Like, let me feel like I'm leading You know what I'm saying? Even if you gotta tactically come in and maneuver And maneuver what you want to be done at Like what you, like, you know what I'm saying? But beside every man is a great woman So get in my ear and help me lead Give me direction Give me, you know what I'm saying? Let's talk together and build a plan But like, just straight leading is crazy The one one day week alone with my mom thing Because that's good While Sam spends the night in a hotel Hey, this is peak That is funny Lee has time to calm down and think things through Lee, be fair I have decided to carry on my wife's swap I have decided Sam can come back tomorrow But if she thinks there's gonna be a lot of begging and apologies It ain't gonna happen I'm coming in, I'll take your bag for you Okay Lee's spirit is disturbed Do you wanna come float at kitchen? Because I'm just gonna wear some of the breakfast stuff while I'm chatting If that's all right with you She came back, everybody at school But everything done Point proven I do owe you an apology for insulting you Bro, didn't you just say it wasn't gonna be no apologizing? Well, thank you for apologizing But I just want you to understand I just don't want to get into any more long-winded conversations with you Because I am afraid of what's gonna happen And you know, that's the honest truth If you do decide on the next couple of days There's things that you don't want to get off your chest I owe you that to shut me off and listen Okay Right, I owe you that Sam Thank you I'm dying to He got anger issues though See the kids Right, well can we just Obviously I'm gonna approach it all with great trepidation I just want to get through one day Without, you know, some sort of rock or something kicking off Go sit down Day one was crazy, Lee Day one of seven you kicked all of it like that At the table and eat So sit at the table now, please You don't walk away when there's food In studly, Emma Hamlin's can That's what I've been trying to tell my daughter Like, sit down, please Continuing with her no-nonsense approach to the kids' new routines I hear you McCoy, you are eating some So all kids do that, huh? I hear you Push that plate Like I won't push it back in front of you Bro, go eat your food McCoy, you are eating some Don't eat it, we have nothing else You're staying there until you eat No cap, y'all That's how you do it, low key There's nothing left You eat there I'll call the shots at the end of the day This is not a debate, buddy No one can seem to take control No one's showing them the right way They're just saying, yeah, go do whatever you want When, really, no The children, they shouldn't do what they want They should be showing boundaries Do you like that bacon? Yeah Well, try some then And then you can go out Good boy The rest This is how you gotta hit them, though This is how you, when y'all had kids, watch this When they get two, no, when they get like three Even two, you can start at two When they start understanding This is how you hit them When you want them to do something Thank them for it So let's say if you want them to go sit down and eat Thank you for going to go sit down and eat Like a big girl, I appreciate it They're gonna walk right over there And sit down and start eating I get out, watch If you got kids, try it Thank them beforehand I just started doing that with my daughter Like a week, two weeks ago I'm 10 and 0 Undefeated with that method That's it It's lovely and thick As part of the new Oh, that's snot down, isn't it? Rules, working mum Sam has a part-time job At a local news agent Hiya That's it 80 pence, please She had to go to work 20 pence change Thank you Thank you very much Bye-bye Cheers I'm a natural It's wonderful to be out of that house It's wonderful to feel like an adult again And a woman, you know, an individual And not just a mother Back home from work Sam discovers that Lee hasn't done His share of the chores The plan was that When we left at 11 o'clock Lee would be going to the shop To get some shoes for two of the children And get the salad for dinner I came in here at 3 o'clock I asked him who was picking up the children He wasn't sure And he said that he hadn't got the shoes And he hadn't got the salad The word's useful as a chocolate teapot That would be from breakfast this morning Then I'd take it I haven't been here So I don't really understand what's happened today Well Let's be frank This is what you do at your house anyway You go to work You come home and still continue to do stuff Like so Obviously I didn't expect to come in and find the breakfast stuff there From this morning When you come in from dinnertime I wouldn't have thought that would be the norm If you've been at home all day You told me not to do washing up No I said that I want the kids to look after things in the evening When they're at home The rest of the time it's up to me and you Right But the washing up's not my job My job is the washing and the drying I think we've got confused then Because I thought I'd made it clear That's their jobs when they're at home But obviously if they've been to school all day And you've been at home all day And Emma's been at home I wouldn't expect them to clear up from this morning So was I not clear about that then? But we've got the baby shower shirt on again If y'all confused like in America This is the The Burberry is Baby shower uniform You've got to wear this to your baby shower in America I'm not wearing this you know I'm not wearing me in spoke to like a child I'm not wearing it son That's funny because I'm having to You know you might take it as me speaking to you like a child I'm just terrified of any way I say anything to you In any way, shape or form So I'm starting with You're here another day Oh here we go So here we go again Straight away Straight away You haven't done you know I've spoken to you really nicely about those rules So just think to me It doesn't matter how anybody approaches you Lee If you don't like what you're hearing You're going to find an excuse not to handle it And the latest one is I'm speaking to you like a child Yeah I really don't know how much I can take of this You how much you can take of it Yeah because you've been on receiving end of lots of abuse Haven't you It's stopping right It's stopping it's stopping it's stopping I'm going to broadcast it's stopping Kerry Give us a kiss Thank you Come and give me a cuddle I've got to go Well that's two days it was so dumb It's him it was his fault though You're consecutive consistently not trying to do stuff like Cuddle before I go I'll see you later He plays victim a lot He's used to what he's used to I'm sure later when he's calmed down He'll say all the right things in all the right places But it's just paying lip service Because if he was truly sorry He'd be learning from me with some mistakes And we wouldn't be here again Within ten minutes of being in the same room as each other He's a selfish selfish little man In Chesterfield Sam Zendall Ellis has spent a second night at a hotel Going into a house of ten children I had to either sink or swim And I actually thought based on my opinion of myself As a mother that I would sink very quickly I haven't sunk but that has mainly been down to those children And I'm really gutted that I haven't got to say goodbye That we didn't get to have our family night You know, woke up this morning wanting to see them So yeah I think I've really discovered a new side to me As well as throwing Sam out I took somebody else's kids for you to wake up And know that you could be a great mother Lee's also insisting that the other side of the swap finishes Hi, it's me Are you alright? What's up? What the f*** is up? Yeah, I know what she's like I so know what she's like I'm coming, it's alright I'll not do the table meeting Just come home, that's fine, not a problem No, no, no, we've got to do the table meeting Come on That's the appropriate amount of negativity that we strive to listen to Come up here a minute please Lee's calling then to the swap Right Because it feels like Sam's a lunatic Right True True And for the past three days He's been trying to put an end to it and things Okay, sorry Hand on me? Talk to me I feel so s*** Because things were going so well here But Sam's, it seems it could be that I'm wrong But it seems like Sam's totally fucked it up at my house Express your feelings, tell her how you feel I'm gutted that I'm going out early But my priorities are Lee, Pamela and friends So if they need me, that's where I'm going to be Have a safe journey, see you later He is a big baby Can we please do the round table? Let's stop for a second, let's see if we're going to get that You do not get a round table You do not get a round table You've been good She got to work on herself a little bit I feel like she did during that first week When she was feeling her, the other mom's role He's a new man Who decided it was going to be over then? He did, he kicked me out He kicked me out in the street in my pyjamas If it wasn't for him I'd have had a wonderful time It's hard because there's ten kids But he is just unreachable I tried my hardest to be nice with a woman I've said all the nice things about her You cut it out, you're lying Every opportunity she wanted, an argument She wanted tussling all the time She just constantly wanted Which is what her husband said Her manual is nothing like her house I really tried to be honest about in the manual I had some bits in that manual that really broke me In what way broke you? In some of the things and what you think about me And it's just been really hard It's something we need to talk about I don't think it's anything I haven't said to you The man is sitting here in her face Expressing his feelings And the comeback was It's not something I didn't say to your face Come on bro I was an absolutely lazy pig You don't know nothing But there's nothing in that manual I haven't said to you Oh my, it continues After what I've been through the last week I don't really think that that's fair To bring that up to me at the moment Why do it, because I think it needs to be said Well I don't think it needs to be said at the moment Right, well that's your opinion Stay in the ground Again, no, no, this is it I think if you genuinely caught what you written In that manual Is what you think about me Then I don't see why we're together anymore Because I'm just a waste of space I've just lived with the man I've told you that it's been abusive all week And what you're now concerned about Is how you feel It's a month off That's a wife And family life is back to normal at the Hamlins I think since We don't care about this Even bangers imagine, okay Alright, I guess that's good But like The swap, I've realized what I've got I see My life as being how I want it to be He literally chose the perfect woman for him Like literally got her at the age that they were young And you know what I'm saying And has I'm not gonna say it, but has I'll say like this brainwasher Not even, because it ain't a brainwash Yes They have sculpted each other Into the human beings that they want to be For each other We never went into the swap Because we got problems You know, we didn't have any problems We were apple adjusters But I think all it's done is Made things stronger for us But there are changes for Emma As a stay at home mom I'm now doing a midwifery course Full time Because I've got lots of experience In that field Obviously One thing I've realized is that me and Emma Need to spend time That's good Just me and Emma At least he got that We need to be Lee and Emma As well as Mum and Dad The swap has also had an impact At the Zendall Ellises Despite whatever flaws we have In our relationship We want to make it work And we want This is how you know right now I'm gonna tell you Bro got his mustache And his gold teeth back She's back in control To be the best sort of Okay, he's still naked face Okay Team that we can be really Do you agree with that? Yeah No Yeah, no, no, I would I would, yeah You don't want to be here But we still got things We got to work on, but yeah Ready, steady They're probably not together anymore Having enjoyed being a mum of ten Sam's outlook on parenting has changed If I push you too hard My attitude in respect of Ella And the impatience that I had With Moira McCoy Since I've been back From the swap has been Considerably different I kind of made a decision While I was away That I would make a lot more effort With Ella when I got back My relationship's improved quite a lot With my mum Cause I would talk a lot more About things Like, but before We might have been Like a bit more quieter And stuff One of the things I did get From living with Lee It did make me reflect On the nice qualities in Darren Particularly how much effort He puts into our relationship And his role as a father The fact that Sam's Now appreciates me a bit more Is a good thing I suppose About time, to be honest Go on You have to go really fast See, her opinion of you at the beginning Which I still think you don't like her If you say so Tell a little like how to subscribe to her