 What's up you guys? So a big part of what you guys have been giving me feedback for when I was creating the approaching system Is that a lot of people want to know information about how to stop over thinking? You know you get that moment where you see that pretty girl when you're out and you just you're thinking about talking to her You're thinking about talking to her but you have all these thoughts running through your head and then up well She just walked away Yes, but it's so long thinking that the opportunity passed you by or You walked up and you talked to her and you were so stuck in your own head that while you were talking to her You couldn't focus on what she was saying and the you know the opportunity that you had was very very weird Okay, these are very common things I see with guys when it comes to overthinking so in this video And I'm gonna talk about is just like a little sneak peek of what I'm gonna be covering more extensively in the approaching system But we're gonna talk about overthinking today We're gonna talk about why it's not good where you should try and reduce it How to deal with it and what are some practical steps that you can do to kind of help cut down on this problem? I'll go over one good practical tip that I think will help you guys Okay, and I'll also kind of illustrate this through a couple stories that I've done so overthinking is not good I'm thinking you to tell you guys this that's why a lot of people brought it up But overthinking makes it a lot tougher for you to actually walk up and go up to the girl You're interested in and a lot of times you end up leaving the opportunities on the table Like she just walks away because you're just you're trying to psych yourself up to go talk to her and she just leaves Or a lot of things can happen during that time Okay, I also too while you're talking to the girl like a big part of having a good interaction is being present to the moment And if you're not present with this person then she's gonna think you're weird or it's gonna come off as a little awkward It's just not gonna go it's not gonna be fun for either of you So you want to reduce the amount of like messages and words and voices that are going on in your head all these different thoughts That are happening, which are probably not helping you out. Okay, essentially how to stop thinking All right Now when I first started going out, I couldn't do this very well I suffered from overthinking so badly like I remember one time I was going out and I was like I'm not going home until I talked to a girl and so, you know about an hour went by and I saw this girl who was kind of just hanging out. She was sitting down. It was like a perfect opportunity Honestly, she's she's cute Not like ridiculously hot or anything. She was she was a cute girl She seemed very nice and I walked up and I forget what I said in the beginning I think it was you know something about me think that she was cute or she looked like she was You know, I don't know. I forget what I said, but the After the opening line, I remember I was in my head so much I was thinking like like just say whatever dude just say whatever and so I was like, so how's it going? She's like, oh, it's going good. I'm just sitting here talking and then and then I Was like, oh cool. That's awesome and then I was stuck in my head again thinking about what I'm gonna say what I'm gonna say and Like because I was overthinking so much I kind of forgot what she had told me and I asked her how is it going twice I Asked how is it going two times in a row and she was like, um Yeah, it's going good I actually got to go right now and she just walked away and I was sitting there or sorry I was actually standing I was standing there. I was just like I can't believe what just happened like Why the fuck did I say that I? Don't know if you guys have ever had moments like these But this is how it was when I first you know started to work on this area of my life Okay, now let's fast forward to about a couple months ago when I filmed the infield for a lot of the approaching system You know the one of the first times I went out I was super frickin nervous like I hadn't gone out in six months This would be a perfect time for me to start getting in my head for me to start overthinking too much And yeah, sure there was some thoughts that probably weren't helping me out But when an opportunity presented itself, I took it, you know, there was one girl who was I remember she was standing on on the beach This was actually before we started recording and oh my god. She was so gorgeous She was like like the classic LA girl like you see that's like probably in the magazines or whatever And I remember being so in my head before I walked up and talked to her But as soon as I walked up, it was like right as rain. We communicated back and forth. We talked She seemed like she wanted to hang out later. So I was like cool. Well, let me get your phone number And so I got her phone number. We were texting all the all later that day and it was like a perfect interaction The ironic thing is is that for both situations I don't know like I was really nervous this I was a little bit less nervous for the second one But it wasn't that much of a difference in terms of the nerves and the amount of thoughts going in my head I was still dealing with those. It's just I dealt with them in a different way before I started talking to her and During when I was talking to her I did different things than I did in the first one So one of the things that I did is something that I'm going to show you right now Which is I allowed myself to warm up Okay, I got myself into the social mode and warming up is a super important thing I mean right before you're about to do a physical exercise if you don't warm up properly You're probably gonna hurt yourself Same thing can happen with a social interaction if you're not ready to You know actively go out and talk to a random stranger who you think is attractive and be able to make some progress with that person You might hurt yourself in the process of being able to do it So work your way up and start with smaller things beforehand. So this is one of the things that I like to do before I mean, how's it going? How's it going man? How's it going? Hey guys How's it going? How's it going you guys? From San Francisco. How's it going man? How's it going you guys? How's it going you guys? I love your dog How's it going you guys? How's it going? How's it going? Okay cool. Yeah, I mean it's pretty simple. I just like to say hi to people sometimes if you know There's not a lot of people around You know, maybe I'll call a friend or I'll do something like that Okay, that I go over how to warm up much more in-depth in the approaching system But if you think you're just gonna start and just go up to a level 11 right away Yes, you can do it and I can show you how but it's a lot more difficult than for a lot of you newbie guys out There that are still learning how to do this a warm-up is super super important if you warm up properly Everything else is easy. Okay, but not having a good warm-up It makes every single approach that you do that much harder and every time you talk to a new person You feel like you're having to work yourself up You feel like you're getting you having all these thoughts go through your head The best way to get rid of overthinking is action. Okay, the biggest threat to anxiety Is action and if you take the right kinds of action You're going to find yourself not thinking so much when you're in the in the interaction And you're doing what women say that you always should be doing you're just being yourself You're being your best self and that's really what it's all about So there's more on that in the practical approaching system But I thought you I thought I'd give you guys a little sneak peek right here So the link is down below if you're interested in it again guys There's we're going to have the lowest pricing for the next about seven days So for seven days a little bit less than that maybe like six and a half We're going to have the lowest pricing there if you don't sign up within the next week That's fine But you're probably going to pay double the prices that are being offered right now So I encourage you to purchase it now and I'll talk to you guys soon. See you on the inside