 But then you can ground, which is share your perspective and stay, sit there and say, like, hey, look, you know what I value is being better for myself. I value martial arts. I value it because it disciplines my mind and all these reasons. But you know what I like is when I can exchange with somebody on that level. And I guess a better question, here's the challenge, rather than ask you, what is your value? Like, how do you live your life that reflects your beliefs? Now, she may or may not answer that question because it's still deep. But either way, guess what? Your identity is the most important thing here. Your technique is a slave to your identity, to the types of women that you want, and then feeds back into it. Kind of makes sense? Yeah? Oh, just kind of. Does it really make sense? Hey, we've got to move on because we're running out of time. They only give me 55 minutes. Plenty of time. Hi. Yes, sir? I've been thinking like recently, when you get to a good stage of pickup, you've met a lot of beautiful women, you've dated them, seduced them. And I've got to a stage where I find myself walking down the street. And I'll use the excuse that I've met more beautiful women than that one to not go over and speak to her. Have you ever been in that kind of position? Why do you need to approach somebody? Like, see, this is the thing. You're defining yourself by pickup alone. You have to approach, right? So if I say this, whoops, so I say self-expression. I turn it into that. So let's say like opening. Anyway, I'm putting myself out there as a form of self-expression. Now guess what happens? I have some experience with women, man. I've dated really hot women. You know what? I'll tell you this. I value connection. I value sex with somebody. I value intimacy. And I've had that with hot women, but I've also had the complete negation of those things with the most attractive women that I've had relationships with. Or even if they're just quick fly-by-night relationships. And what happens is when I express myself, especially if I need attention, if I'm chasing something, I want to validate something, guess what happens that self-expression? Through experience of interacting with women, I achieve this. Self-exploration. That means I explore who I am, man. When I'm interacting with this beautiful thing called seduction and this beautiful thing called life, fuck. I change as a freaking human being, man. It's beautiful. But I learn about what I'm insecure about, what makes me angry, what makes me jealous, what makes me sad, all that sort of stuff. And through self-exploration, then I can find this other thing, self-acceptance. Now, you might be thinking, jeez, this is way too internal. Guess what, man? If you are living this sort of lifestyle with women and having sex on these levels and interacting on these levels, you're going to come to some shit which you didn't know was there. And you're going to have to look at it and internalize it and learn to accept it and guess what happens. And this is actually interesting, man. One of my good friends. In fact, one of the coolest guys that I talked to, he actually said this. He said, man, and I'll tell you who it is afterwards. He says, look, if you have the skill set to fuck a chick in a night and bang a bunch of bitches and do whatever, and he's like, I've done it, man. I've been the best in the world. But if you don't learn how to get what you like, get the life that you love to get a real life, then it's pointless. You are on the same field as that person who can't approach a woman. Like, why have you done it? In fact, you're worse because you haven't grown. You haven't let this thing influence you. That guy's name is Eric Vonsito, aka Hypnotica, and definitely an awesome dude. And one of the guys that I really look up to about a bunch of stuff. When I was coming up with this process, I always felt bad that people wouldn't get what I mean by that. But dude, going up and approaching women, she's hot. What the fuck, my partner, Janelle, who I work with who is, if you ever get a chance to work with us live, I mean, she'll change your fucking life. But she's like, hot chick, what does that mean? You know, what does that mean? If you are only looking at a woman for her physical traits, don't get me wrong, you absolutely should, man. Follow your urges. Follow your sexual urges. But if you're only looking at those things, then you're not looking at yourself. You're disrespecting the potential of what you could have with any woman. You're disrespecting the potential of what you really value. I'm actually, I'm not coming down on you in any way. I'm just saying, open your mind to the possibilities of so much more. So don't beat yourself up if you don't approach a girl. Like, shit, man, beat yourself up if you let a beautiful opportunity slip through your hands, but you got to know how to cultivate those opportunities. I think the best ways to connect are sexually and emotionally. Sexually can happen very quick, and it can happen very raw. And I would say learn some techniques towards that, or learn some techniques to build bridges with people emotionally, and those are the things that stick, man. Routine, entertainment, all that stuff, that almost conflicts with emotion and sex. We can't be in that state of being. It gets entertainment, it gets attention, but I would focus on what it is you really want, what validates you, what makes you feel like you're the best possible man you can be. What makes me feel that I have an amazing sense of sexuality, an amazing window of what women are noticing. I got to put that stuff out there. I got to assert myself in that way. Awesome. Thank you. Yeah, cool? Yes. Cool. All right. Hi. Oftentimes, I use alcohol as an anchoring game. How do you overcome that? Well, I stopped drinking. I'll tell you this, dude. This is a funny story. So it's so funny because I'm out of date. When I started in pickup, I didn't drink. And so I was pretty good. I was pretty tenacious. And the two guys that I would go out with, who are somewhat legendary, is Captain Jack. And still to this day, man, I've never seen anybody do what he did. In fact, I'm in contact with it. We're talking about a bunch of stuff. But I mean, he would go up to a girl, passively talk to her for 15 minutes, and he would leave her there. It was so clean. It was so unreal. It was unreal. And then there was Sin, who was this really aggressive, do this, this, this, that. You get laid. And he still kind of promotes that message. But they were like, man, you don't drink. And I'm like, dude, when I drink, I'm crazy. Then I started to drink. And then I went nuts. I could open better. I could be crazier, do more brazen things. But I couldn't get that level of intimacy as well. Now, I'm not saying you can't. Some people totally can. But for me, it like conflicted with that. The thing is that we had this competition way back when. Like in 2007, who would be the best pickup artist in the world, and I fucking won that motherfucker. But you know what? It was like the most miserable time of my life. Like we had a lay competition, all that sort of stuff. And it was like highly publicized. And that's kind of how I became known about stuff. But man, it's a tough thing. You're the person who's going to have to decide where or when that stops. But I think the window to that, again, when you're going through that triangle, it's like, look at your identity, man. What do you like? One of the best questions anybody can ask themselves is, what am I attracted to? What am I attracted to physically? What am I attracted to emotionally? What am I attracted to morally? It's important shit. Then what's attractive about me? What do I want a girl to notice?