 Sadly Alec Halawaka, the man who Zoe Quinn accused of domestic abuse and sexual assault before it was proven has taken his own life and it has the internet divided and we really need to talk about mental health and cancel culture and everything that's going on right now. What's up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution. If you're new what I try to do I try to take topics from the YouTube community and pop culture and I've been kind of branching out into different aspects to a lot of people have been sending me topics about cancel culture and stories like this so anyways if you're into that make sure you subscribe and ring the notification bell. So to start off check it out first off I'm not monetizing this video but I'm going to extend the free copies that are available of my new book cancelled until YouTube cancel culture until end of day tomorrow so end of day September 1st all right and this isn't me just trying to peddle my book all right those of you who are just now meeting me like I was attacked by cancel culture earlier this year the book I share my experience but I also analyze a bunch of other situations that have gone on and like I don't know man like just read it and try to just understand what what these people are going through because at its worst we have what just happened to Alec where he ends his own life and I'm going to be talking about in this video there have been other creators or other people just in general who have ended their own life because of the online hate mob or like they get into this really dark space a great example or multiple great examples of this I highly recommend you all check out the book um so you've been publicly shamed by uh John Ronson I just finished that book there's multiple stories in there about people being publicly shamed and things like that and ending their own lives and like man we gotta we gotta do something about this um so anyways I'm gonna try to keep the story brief I had to go and do some research because I just heard about this but this all happened very very quickly within a week the allegations came out Alec lost his job Alex took his own life so Zoe Quinn um people have their opinions about her I really don't have any I don't know much about her um we'll talk about some of her history in a minute by anyways uh she accused um Alec of some very serious things in a twitter thread uh she has deactivated her twitter but you can find what she stated in other videos it's it's pretty rough all right but anyways after that came out the internet hate mob came after him and he ended up getting fired now he was a game developer for an indie uh an indie company um and yeah like a lot of things came up about you know what we've talked about on this channel like in the pro jared story like different power dynamics and things like that but yeah it sounds like they were in a consensual relationship and it sounds like there was some abuse going on um but anyways his sister Alec's sister today just released this statement and his sister and you'll learn why in a minute had to private her twitter all right so here is what his sister Eileen had to say Alec Halaka and by the way I'm sorry if I'm mispronouncing this brother and best friend passed away this morning those who know me will know that I believe survivors and I have always been I've always done everything I can to support survivors those suffering from mental illness and those with chronic illness Alec was the a victim of abuse and he also spent a lifetime battling mood and personality disorders I will not pretend that he was not also responsible for causing harm but deep down he was a person who wanted to offer people care and kindness it took him a while to figure out how over the last few years with therapy and medication Alec became a new person the same person he'd always been but without any of the darkness he was calm and happy positive and loving obviously change is a slow process and it wasn't perfect but he was working towards rehabilitation and a better life in the last few days he was supported by many manitoba crisis services and I want to thank everyone there for their support I want to thank Adam Saltzman for staying up late talking with us and reminding Alec that there was a future my family has and always will be the most important thing to me please give us all time to heal we tried our best to support Alec but in the end he felt he had lost too much I currently do not see a place for myself in games or on Twitter I will be looking at the responses to this post I appreciate everyone who has reached out to me over the last few days for anyone who is in a time of darkness I encourage you to reach out for support there are always people who will be there for you all right so yeah we need to talk about few things because yeah this situation has the internet split and it's it's sad all around all right the reality is is that we don't know we don't know okay like has Zoe Quinn done shady things in the past yes does this automatically mean that she's lying about what happened with Alec no but does it mean that she's telling the truth no but the thing is is that people are just losing it on Twitter right now and it's just the worst like so people are screaming at Zoe Quinn being like Alec apologized because something that Zoe Quinn said in her statement was that Alec has since apologized right so people are you know questioning the timing and why'd she do this because apparently she was having financial troubles and things like that but listen to me very carefully anybody trying to blame Zoe Quinn for Alec's suicide like that is absolutely brutal and not cool like we saw this happen when Etika took his own life and people were blaming Keemstar like blaming someone for a suicide is just the worst now I saw like when I was researching this I saw someone who was talking about this Zoe Quinn situation and they brought up valid points and they were talking about people like Andy Signor or most recently Pro Jared or people like Chris Hardwick it happened to Johnny Depp these are men who were falsely accused of very serious things by women but that doesn't mean that we can just you know say oh well this person's lying this person's lying like this is why the court of the public opinion is just insane it needs to be handled in the court of law like I can tell you from personal experience I have more female friends than I than I want to even like count that have been sexually assaulted have gone to the authorities and nothing happened because they didn't have enough evidence because they didn't believe them like you guys like one of the reasons the whole me too movement happened was because this happened this happens all the time now like does it mean does it not mean that there are some bad actors out there who are going to make false accusations does it not mean that there's you know there are you know both women and men can do this and just make up stories because of a breakup or because of ulterior motives of course but it's not it's not our place to decide that you know what I mean but like on the other side of it the people on Zoe side I get what they're saying too because like I said I have friends who have been through this and not been believed and people are saying like you guys are now using this as an excuse to not believe women and it's disgusting and it's like yeah like just all around it's it's just sad and like everybody wants to be judge jury and executioner here's my opinion on the whole situation and those of you who know me I am not a licensed therapist I am not a licensed psychologist but I have many opinions on mental health matters because I worked in a drug and alcohol treatment center for a little over three years we specialize in dual diagnosis so addiction as well as mental health and I am currently working on my CADC certified alcohol and drug counselor to work with people with mental health issues as well so we we know we know for a fact that Alec had some sort of personality disorder which is a type of mental illness and you guys like I don't know if you've ever known anybody who has a personality disorder I don't know if you've ever struggled with a personality disorder but yeah I've worked with many many people who have had personality disorders some of you might have dated somebody with a personality disorder like it sucks for everybody involved it's very easy to think that the person with a personality disorder is trying to hurt you they are trying to harm you like one of the reasons I talk about borderline personality disorder so much on this channel is there's such a stigma like people have such a ah like a hatred right towards people with BPD like oh this person is purposely doing it like many people with personality disorders are victims of something themselves and this doesn't excuse their behavior but some of them are trying to work on it like there are many people who have found ways to manage their personality disorders and it sounds like Alex Alec was doing this and I empathize with him like I empathize with you know his sister was saying he was going to therapy and he was trying to become a better person and all these things and whatever happened with Zoe Quinn you know it sounds like you know it was you know years ago and I feel for the dude because those of you who don't know me too I was a drug addict for almost 10 years and I was a piece of shit all right while I didn't do the things that Alec was accused of I was an awful person I was an awful boyfriend I was also an awful son and everything like that but the question becomes is like like what about the path of redemption like I don't this is why cancel culture is just such a bitch right like we are trying to convey this message that there is no path of redemption if you screw up you are just screwed up for life and I wouldn't be sitting here right now if that was true like I've been clean and sober for seven years and my life is completely different like we have to look at these things case by case and give people the opportunity to have a path of redemption we're all constantly changing you watching this video you're a different person and you were five years ago so why are we acting like people can't change and this dude apologized to Zoe we don't know if there were actual criminal things that he did this was these were all just allegations but shit man like like just the internet hate mob is just awful and then like his sister had to private his uh her twitter because like I'm just gonna tell you right now everybody needs to calm the fuck down like look at these look look at what people were saying on twitter today to this man's sister this woman just lost her brother to suicide and people are out here saying this shit all right over allegations not even proven over allegations but on the flip side of this people drove zoe quinn to getting off of twitter by blaming her for this and it just makes no sense sometimes I honestly feel like with cancel culture when it gets to this point like nobody's gonna be happy until somebody on both sides dies like like when this happened when eddika passed away a couple months ago and people were going after keemstar I was like what do you guys want like are you guys only going to be satisfied if if somebody else takes their own life like calm down like do we not see how sick and twisted and disgusting this is you're not accomplishing anything by going after these people and the reality is it's just there's a bunch of angry people in this world like if you're not in therapy go to therapy I always have a link to therapy that I use it's an affiliate link right but I use better help all my therapy I truly believe everybody needs therapy like when I watch what happens online I'm like fuck man why is everybody so miserable and so angry all right so I want to end this video with a couple tips and one of the reasons I wrote my book is because you don't know like you watching this right now you don't know if this is going to happen to you like you don't have to be someone in the public spotlight to have cancel culture come after you like that book I was talking about so you've been publicly shamed there's a million stories of just regular everyday people who have had this happen to them the first thing I'm going to tell you if you start getting attacked all right especially on twitter change your notifications to this okay turn all that shit off turn all of that shit off like I'm letting you know right now I can't see a damn thing all right like you have to go look for it I think one of the biggest mistakes anybody makes when they get caught up in a controversy is they have all their notifications on and they're looking for this stuff on twitter like we do not have the research available yet to see what it had what happens to the human psyche when you have thousands of strangers hundreds of thousands of strangers talking shit to you online so block it out block people say shitty things to me all the time like when I got canceled it was five months ago all right people are still talking shit and guess what I can't see most of it so if this starts brewing turn those notifications off the last thing I want to talk about is you know again we don't know if Alec was guilty if he was innocent we don't know but the reality is is that because of what happened the internet coming after him him losing his job he felt that he lost so much that there was no way to come back and god this is this is what happens like we saw it happen again we saw it just a couple months ago with etiquette if you pay attention to the youtube community James Charles talks about how he got to that dark place there's another beauty influencer named Thomas Halbert he talks about how he got to that dark place and he was this close to ending his own life and it's because people think that they can't come back from this like I am so fortunate that I went through my own drug addiction like I've seen what I can get through you know what I mean so if this ever happens to you or even if you just lose your job or go through a breakup or just something like that like you will get through this like you gotta give it time like something I was taught a long time ago was don't leave before the miracle happens and when they were saying that to me they meant like don't leave 12 step meetings before the miracle happens but I use that in everything with life right like don't quit right before something good's about to happen right and like this is one of the reasons we gotta keep moving forward even if we feel depressed or suicidal like if you're feeling suicidal make sure that you reach out and ask for help I will have numbers and resources down in the description below all right but just know like things can get better all right like let me put it this way I want you to think like for anybody who's about my age just to give you an example all right my age or in your 20s or whatever I'm 34 by the way like think about your first love and your first breakup right think just think about this awful experience that you went through and think about how you thought you were never ever going to feel better again or you were never going to get over this breakup but you did right we have to remember all this shit that we've been through because we can do it again all right but lastly just a reminder quit participating in these online hate mobs get some help if you are this furious and angry at actual strangers that have nothing to do with you you need to get help all right but again like I said my book cancelled inside youtube cancel culture I'm gonna extend the free copies until end of day tomorrow September 1st so check out the description check out the pinned comment down below it's at my website but yeah this is I I don't know man I just I just hope we all wise up and we don't have to lose anybody else because the court of public opinion and the internet hate mobs just just go all out on people it's rough all right but anyways that's all I got for this video subscribe for more I'll be back with another one tomorrow thanks