 The biggest mistake the narcissist ever made, the biggest misguided or wrong act or judgment, the biggest miscalculation. When the narcissist first targeted you, they knew that you were something special. You stood out from the crowd, you had qualities and abilities that they admired and that is why they strongly desired to be involved with you. They enjoyed partaking in everything that you had to offer. It was like they had won the lottery, they had found the perfect supply, someone who was always there for them, someone who was understanding. Everything was great but then they started to become too comfortable around you. They no longer treated you in the way that they used to, yet they still expected you to do everything for them, they still expected you to see them as a larger than life character that couldn't do anything wrong and while you may have tried to maintain this in the beginning, it was only a matter of time until it all began to fall apart. It was only a matter of time until the narcissist realised that you no longer valued or appreciated them in the way that you once did because they no longer gave you anything to value or appreciate other than the false self, other than their illusions or future faking because they expected you to see it as a privilege to even be around them, to get to serve their false self, they expected you to be pleased with that role and while you may have initially tried to hide your dissatisfaction, it was only a matter of time until you couldn't take it anymore because deep down you knew that you deserved to be treated better, you knew that you deserved more respect and that is when you decided to take a step back, that is when you stopped complying with their demands. They didn't see it that way, they didn't see it as though you weren't getting your needs met and that's why you no longer attended to them, they saw it as though you were lazy or not good enough and that is why they began to devalue and degrade you, that is when they intentionally tried to hurt you which is the biggest mistake the narcissist ever made because ever since that time they lost their supply, they have lost everything that once meant so much to them ever since they devalued and degraded you, you don't see them in the same way anymore, you can't even be yourself around them, they don't even know who you are anymore, they know that you can still share the best part of yourself with someone else but they know that's something they will never get to be a part of because ever since they devalued and degraded you, you made a decision at a subconscious level to withdraw your true self from any interaction or engagement with them, you can no longer be yourself around them even if you tried because your brain associates it with pain and distress, your brain is trying to protect and preserve the best parts of you by withdrawing it any time that you are around the narcissist which is the last thing the narcissist ever wanted, they wanted to partake in everything that you had to offer, that's why they targeted you for your qualities and abilities but ever since they devalued and degraded you, they have lost the ability to interact with who you really are, now all they get is junk every time that they're around you, all they get is the old or discarded parts of who you are, things that don't possess any value, all they get is waste, things that are unwanted or unusable, they can't get anything good out of you anymore whenever they interact with you, all they get is the worst of you and no matter how much they may desire to be a part of your life, no matter how much they might wish to see that good side of you again, deep down they know it's not coming back, deep down they know you'll never be that way around them ever again and that's why it's so easy for them to not hold back on trying to destroy you, that's why it's so easy for them to enforce flying monkeys and start a smear campaign against you because they know they'll never get to partaking that ever again and narcissists are very envious and jealous, they don't want to see you being good for anyone else after they're gone, they can't stand to see someone having something that they will never have and that is why after they've devalued and degraded you they will then do whatever it takes to destroy you but that is the biggest mistake that narcissists ever made because if they had just given you another chance, if they had given you an incentive to want to do more for them then maybe things would have been different, maybe things wouldn't have turned out in the way that they did but that never would have happened because narcissists are self-absorbed and they lack empathy, they want everything from you while giving you nothing in return, which is why the biggest mistake the narcissists ever made ends up being the biggest favor they ever did for you. 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