 I think what is happening with the female psychopath, is emotional violence which would manifest as a murderous intent to destroy the previous host. So if I have been attached to a host and they have caused me to experience shame by discovering that I'm lying about my identity, by discovering that I'm stealing money in the case of Anthony's case, by discovering that his wife was operating under a false identity as a prostitute whilst he was married to her, and then he presents her with that evidence. The end result will be shame and the emotional violence that that will cause will be murderous. And I don't think that I'm being excessively dramatic when I use that adjective. I think that the end result is the same as in mass shootings. It's to wipe out, to crush, to not to crush. It's not even, it's slightly about punishment in the sense of a narcissistic injury and narcissistic rage. I want to see you suffer, I want to punish you, but it's about, it's more to do, it's worse than that. Punishment means if I've punished you enough then I can be satiated. Shame can't be satiated. It must be wiped out. It's the final solution. It needs to be a very, very extreme response. And I believe it is murderous. I believe that because the capacity to pick up a rock and stove your head in isn't there, pick up a gun and shoot you isn't there, the emotional violence that will be inflicted has a murderous intent to it. And there are many men who I've coached now and I'm sure those of you who've spoken on the forums who've said the same thing, many men who've told me that it feels like she wouldn't be happy unless she gets what she wants and ultimately it's my death. She's looking for my death, my destruction. I think there's truth to that. I suspect it's a symbolic death. It's about eradicating shame, not killing a human being, but the end result is the same. If she can cause a suicide, or you're drinking to death, or you're doing something stupid and getting yourself locked up for the rest of your life, that would eradicate the shame. I can breathe again. I can live. So the rage that this produces is huge. It's a very, very powerful instinct. OK, so that's the problem. I'm going to very, very briefly go through with you the solution. The effect on somebody, of this kind of abuse, of being with somebody who's psychopathic, who is borderline, who is histrionic and highly narcissistic, who's projectively identified you as some sort of archetype of the bad alpha male, even when you might not be very alpha male at all, but that's the projective identification at work. The effect on you as the target of this kind of abuse is really, really deleterious in terms of its effect on your personality. There is something called narcissistic abuse victim syndrome, and it's a cluster of symptoms that almost exactly matches PTSD. So, you know, as I said before, a damaged sense of self, sense of self, emotional dysregulation, inclusive of uncomfortable flashbacks. These flashbacks may be actual memories of events that you'll get when you're driving, when you wake up at two o'clock in the morning, when you're going about your daily business, you suddenly vividly remember things happening, it produces a shitstorm of uncomfortable emotion, or the flashbacks may be purely emotional, sudden feelings of overwhelming guilt, overwhelming shame, overwhelming sadness, overwhelming rage. So, there are flashbacks there, damaged sense of self, emotional dysregulation, a greater propensity to use, God, what is it called? Well, basically it manifests as addictions. The use of coping strategies goes up. People self-medicate, they use alcohol, they use over-the-counter drugs, they use street drugs, whatever it is, addictions to gambling, to porn, to all kinds of things, just to not feel that pain. The side effect of all of this is going to end up with your serotonin levels going down. If the serotonin levels go down, the serotonin drops. Listen, nobody has depression because their serotonin is low. That is a ridiculous, non-scientific logical fallacy. It's called comhoc ergo proptahoc, which means, with this, therefore, because of this. So what psychiatry has said is, because serotonin is low in people with depression, they're depressed because their serotonin is low. It's ridiculous. It's childish and wrong. What happens is, when all of this, when you've experienced massive trauma and you don't know how to process the overwhelming emotions and grief of that trauma, and this starts to kick off, your serotonin naturally will drop. The problem with your serotonin dropping, now everything I've said is mainstream, peer-reviewed research backs everything I said up. This is me taking something Jordan Peterson said. I'm running with the ball a little bit further than he did. I'm going to do the comhoc ergo proptahoc thing again, but in a different context. With this, therefore, because of this. So if the serotonin drops, what Jordan Peterson pointed out with his story of the lobstas, or he was talking about the research amongst lobstas when they climb up the social hierarchy, their serotonin levels go up and they posture. They posture big with their back straight and they go, I came up the social hierarchy. I'm fucking awesome. Great. And actually when you're tested, the central nervous system boosts the serotonin that lets the brain know, I'm a fucking awesome lobster. I am. Look at me when my back straight is posturing up. The social hierarchy, the higher up you go, the more serotonin your brain rewards you with, and the lower, the lower. So if you're, this is a hypothesis. I don't know that it's true. I think that what might be happening is as you go up the social hierarchy, your serotonin levels increase, but why we have decreased levels in serotonin amongst people who are depressed is nothing to do with some biological individualized pathologized thing in them. It's because because of their depression, they're dropping out the social hierarchy because all of this leads to social isolation. And when we're socially isolated, we drop in the social hierarchy. We're now not significant. We're not significant. We're not contributing. We're not connected. And we're not offering value. The way we tend to think about things is like, oh, you're an individual, you're a consumer, you need to receive value. It is just as important for you as a human animal to be offering value as it is to receive it. We're tribal creatures. We need each other. And to help each other and cooperate, I suspect increases serotonin levels to be connected with other humans face to face, not through the internet, but to actually sit with them and talk with them. I believe we'll increase serotonin levels as we're contributing, as we're being significant. Being known in your tribe, being unique, people knowing your name and knowing what you do, I think increases serotonin levels. If your serotonin levels are up, it doesn't matter whether you really are high in the social hierarchy, you're going to feel good. You're going to feel as though you are, which solipsistically is the same fucking end effect. It's been said so many times that it's a cliché. What good is it being super rich, super wealthy, super successful if you feel like a piece of shit inside? It's no good. Now available exclusively at 21 University. The all-news CPTSC Masterclass by Richard Grannon. 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