 Yn yr hunrth gwrthwyl, y dyfodol o'r wyf ach소�. Yn yr hyn, dwi'n cael ei wneud i'r cyffredig, ydych chiwn eich cyfweld? Yn yr hyn mae'r cyffredig? Yn ym 不yn i ddim yn hyd? Ond dwi'n gweinydd ym chi'n hyn. Allan, ganogi'r dyfodol i chi – gれたwch chi'n ei chi. Ida hwnnagy'n gandallol o gwestiynau. mae'n amser ei dwur. Any questions? Yes sir. The orange is...were you listening? The orange is your breakfast. What the orange symbolises is the juice that comes out the orange. And you have emotions, right? But an orange is an orange. You can be whatever fruit you want to be. That sounds a bit kinky. Okay. What's the difference between charisma and enthusiasm? I think enthusiasm is reveling in the challenge, I'm thinking you're going to apply your skill to something. You can be enthusiastic picking up a shelf, you can be enthusiastic digging a hole. Charisma is about interacting with people, about being emotionally contagious. Now enthusiasm does create emotions in yourself and they do rub off. But for me my overall look at charisma is, well there's actually seven parts. Isn't that always convenient and always seven? But it's your belief, your attitude to life, your spontaneity, that's not running out of things to say. Your charm which is how you make people feel in your presence, your actual presence. Also your ability to connect to people and lastly your conversation skills in terms of rhetoric. So your ability to influence as you speak. So I hope that helps. So for me enthusiasm is more about if you're going to jump into something. So if I see that situation where, oh god there's somebody I can go and talk to. Yep let's give it a go. Of course that's going to carry off some emotion as I go in. Yes sir. Okay excellent question so you're saying how can you start getting evidence for yourself that you're awesome rather than waiting for the world to tell you that you're awesome. Again it comes down to how you look at the world. If you want to do it straight away it's looking for the best in everything. So in the situation I gave in the talk where the Ferrari's pulling along, our perspective generally is who's this guy who's just cut in front of everyone and now he's using the space of the ambulance. But if we can be objective and say we know what from another perspective it could be that that guy is just in a mad rush and you know there's no problem at all. So a way I look at it is this. Negative emotions are great. Everyone says oh I'll be positive. Yeah positive emotions are awesome as well but you're born with negative emotions for a reason. For starters it's where all humour comes from. You know if we had no negative emotions comedy would be boring as. The trick though is to turn the negative stuff when it happens into a positive. The way I love doing that is playing that game from the Pollyanna book. It's just thinking that's great because for example I step outside and it starts pouring with rain. Oh that's great I could do with a shower. I haven't had one for a few days. Or let's say something more extreme happens. Let's say I'm unfortunate enough to get my leg blown off. Could happen. Hopefully not on this stage it would be a bit of a death trap if it would. But let's say I lose my leg and I hope I do keep it. But if it disappears oh well at least my trousers last twice as long now. Or do you know what I'm going to have the most convincing pirate impression you've ever seen. I just need to lose this for a hook. So it's how I interpret the world that keeps me upbeat and happy. It's nice when the world pats us on the back. It is. But that's all fickle. We can have a really nice sports car but then that can be taken away from us. We can have lots of money in the bank and that can disappear. The only thing you have any consistency over is your reaction. So focus on how you're reacting to the world when it gives you stimulus. You know the world is affecting you and the world around you is affecting you when you feel an emotion to something. So if you're stuck in traffic and you feel an emotion that's the world around you affecting you. When you feel that emotion how are you going to deal with it? How are you going to make that emotion as happy as possible? Can you turn it into a game? Can it be fun? Do you know what? I'm late for this meeting but check me out. Do me own thing. Turn it up the radio. Or you can just go oh my god I'm going to be late for this meeting. There's nothing you can do about it. All fear exists in the future. Stuff that hasn't happened yet. All sadness exists in the past. And all happiness exists right now in this moment. And that's the only thing you own is just the moment. Being aware of everything that's going on and enjoying every damn minute of it. You'll know if you can do that or not. If you can enjoy the moment. Go somewhere that's completely boring. Go to a room with four white walls and sit in there. And if you can be happy on your own in that room then you've cracked it, you've mastered it. Now that I think about it a lot of insane people get put in four walls. Wait a minute there's a bit of correlation. Yes. The classic kind of charismatic bad boy type character with being a new reactive and that kind of thing. Sure. If you're that sort of persona, if you're a bit of a bird boy first of all, two questions. Is that person making the person he's speaking to fill in a motion? And two, is he dealing with the emotions as they come towards him? And I think the answer in both cases is yes. For example, he knows who he is in the world. Doesn't give a damn. He's just himself. My intention is to always try and leave people better off than you meet them. But he goes in, chats to somebody, gives the girl butterflies maybe. And then she gives him a slap, I don't know. She's just unreactive to it. So he's deciding how he's going to filter the emotions when they get given to him. Yes, sir. Do you mention your Burt Galear on what it called and where can you get it from? Okay. I'm a terrible marketer. So if I was better, I'd be selling that and going, and you can buy my 89 DVD set. But my book is free. And it's from my website, yourcharismcoach.com. And that will tell you all the techniques that I used to become a better conversationist. But the emotions are everything. Conversation and the ability to talk to people. It's a bit like a water slide. The flume allows the water to go down. The slide, right? And that's the conversation. The water itself is the emotion. If you've got a slide with no water, you get a really sore bum. Or if you've got the water and no slide, that's called a waterfall. So the ability to connect to people, you need the conversation to a point because it allows you that channel of communication. The emotion you then put down it is everything. Fill that emotion yourself first. So, guys, it's been an absolute pleasure. Thank you very much.