 Welcome again to another NARC Survivor Live video. I'm live in my hotel room and we are going to be talking about if the narcissist will ever think about you and what I mean by that is typically when they have discarded you or maybe you might have left them and it seems like they just move on. They've just forgotten all about you. They've left you behind. So many of you may be wondering if they have just completely forgotten about you or if they are still thinking about you. And I can tell you that if you are dealing with the player type of narcissist it's likely in most situations that they won't be thinking about you that much or even not at all because these types of narcissists they have so many options they go through so many different people but there's just no way that they are going to be thinking about you that much. But on the other hand if you were the grey day primary source to the narcissist that means that they saw you as an extension of themselves as though you were not separate as though you were this object this possession that belonged to them as though they could impact you however they like and as though they expected you to share their feelings once and needs because they didn't see you as a separate person they saw you as an extension of themselves and they use you to regulate their emotions which is why if you leave them or even if they are the ones who discard you they will still be thinking about you and they will be thinking about you a lot you will always be on their mind and you will know this because a lot of times they will hoover you and even if they don't hoover you you may find that they've been talking about you behind your back to other people or they've started a smear campaign against you so these are all clear signs that yes they are thinking about you even though it may look like they've moved on and they've got their new supply they're still thinking about you but a lot of times they won't come back especially if you figure them out you see right through them they're not going to put themselves in a position where they might be rejected or humiliated but then other times they will try to come back because they see you as an extension of themselves you're this external regulator which they use to regulate their emotions but remember just because they're thinking about you it doesn't mean that they miss you or that they love you or care about you it's still all about them and even for a normal person everything we perceive of it's through our own brains which are separate from the actual external reality or world and we take these mental snapshots of other people so in a way we're never really interacting with them in the actual world it's just based upon how we perceive of it in our minds and yet at times it may seem like it's the same way other people perceive of it as well but that's only because we're in a great with them and like-minded people gravitate together and this is for a normal person so just imagine someone who lacks empathy someone who is highly narcissistic of course they can't perceive of you or understand you everything's just these mental images in their own minds which they fabricate on their own and it's completely separate from you which is why you may find that when you're involved with them they hold you up to certain expectations or obligations things that you are often unaware of or not even participating in and they expect you to share the same feelings once and needs that they have because they're just unable to view you as a separate person with your own feelings once and needs or with your own opinions and beliefs they see you as an extension of themselves they're unable to recognize the separation because they are narcissistic they lack empathy or at least they lack effective empathy which is what allows us to recognize that we are separate and that other people have their own experience in life they have their own opinions and beliefs their own feelings once and needs but of course it's very difficult for a narcissist to recognize the separation and that is why they will still be thinking about you even if you made it clear that you want nothing to do with them they're still on you they're still coming after you they may have me stalking you because they can't see the separation between you and them they just see you as an extension of themselves but yes if you were the grey day primary source to a narcissist they will be thinking about you they will be thinking about ways to get back in with you and if they can't do that they'll just be ways to control you to turn people against you and start a spear campaign and it's because they see you as an extension of themselves they're unable to recognize the separation and of course you are their narcissistic supply you are regulating their emotions and for someone who is unable to regulate themselves internally you are a very significant tool to them so of course they're not going to want to let that go so I guess I hope this answers this question that many of you may have if the narcissist is thinking about you right here now it is almost midnight I've had quite a busy day so now I'm going to have a shower and get ready for sleep hopefully I'll do a video a bit earlier tomorrow and then I can make it a bit longer as well but yeah just like to thank you all for joining me on another live video and if it was helpful as always you can give it a thumbs up down below let me know your thoughts in the comments as well and as always I look forward to talking with you in another video very soon.