 Hey everyone. Welcome to the life. When the narcissist wants another chance. Why would a narcissist want another chance? Is it because they want to come back and help you? Is it because they really love and care about you? Maybe they just want to see how you're doing? Maybe they just want to see if you're alright? Or maybe it's just because they want something from you. Maybe because they only care about themselves. Maybe that's why the narcissist would want another chance. A narcissist is not going to come back to help you. Sometimes it might look like that's what they're trying to do. But a narcissist will only help you temporarily if they think that they're going to get something out of it at some point. And then once they've got what they wanted, they're just going to go back to normal. Or usually, when you let them back in, they're even worse than they were before. Because now they know what you're going to tolerate. They know how to work around what you will put up with and what you won't. So they can be a lot sneakier. They can be a lot more manipulative. The second time around, the third time, fourth, fifth. However many chances you give, it's only going to get worse. What you have to understand with these types of people is that nothing they ever do is really for you. They don't really care about you. All they care about is what they can get from you. How you might be able to improve their lives. How you might be able to provide them with stability and security. Make them feel better about themselves. Make them look good. All of these things which really have nothing to do with you as a person. Because they never even took the time to get to know you as a person. They don't even care about who you really are. Ever since the day they first met you, they just saw you as an object. That's all you really were to them. And that is why they never took the time to get to know you. That is why even when you do give them another chance, they'll come back and just change a few little things temporarily. And then as soon as they get what they want out of you, or as soon as they get bored, as soon as you start to figure them out again, it's all over. They go back to normal or they get worse. They're never going to change. People say don't trust narcissists. Well if there's one thing that you can trust that they're going to do time and time again, it's that they're never going to change. Sorry about that. I just had a call coming in. Other than the live froze then, but I'm back. If there's one thing you can trust that a narcissist is always going to do, it's that they're never going to change. They're only ever going to manipulate you. Sorry I just had another call coming in so it froze again. I don't know why it does that on these iPhones, but oh well. I'm back. You can trust that they will just repeat the same things again and again. The only changes they're going to make is they're just going to get worse and worse. They're just going to become a real problem in your life and they'll find their way into every area of your life, around your family, your friends, your work life, and they'll just disrupt it all. They really will. You can give the narcissist as many chances as you want, but they're never going to change. They'll create the illusion as though they are changing in the beginning, but as time goes by, you'll soon see they're the same as they always were. And the more you try and figure them out, the worse they're going to get. I've always said, when you're dealing with a narcissist, you have to make a choice between yourself or their false self. When you're dealing with a narcissist, you have to make a choice between reality or the narcissist's fantasy world. And it's not a life to live when you're around a narcissist because you're not really living to be around these kinds of people. You have to deny the truth. You have to pretend like everything they say is true and you have to ignore everything inside of you. Your intuition, your gut instinct, your heart, you have to ignore it all. And you have to pretend like everything is okay. And that's just no way to live. You all deserve so much better than that. You really do. So when you're thinking about giving the narcissist another chance, just think by choosing their false self, you are denying a part of who you really are. When you validate the false self, when you try to respect it, you're only disrespecting yourself in the process. You cannot be around a narcissist and respect yourself at the same time. The only way to respect yourself is to walk away. I hope that this message has been helpful for you. We have a new website now where you can read my blog articles and book coaching sessions. It's www.narchsurvivor.co.uk. So please check that out. There's lots of good information on there. And I am working on a premiere for tomorrow, so I look forward to seeing you there. Have a good day or night, depending on where you are, and I will talk to you soon.