 Hey everybody, JR Fisher here. Good to see you on this Friday morning that is quite chilly as a matter of fact and I bet a lot of you guys are experiencing it. I know a lot of my audience is actually in Asia, but I have a lot of people here in the US too and if you're in the US You may be experiencing a little bit of cold here today. This is what we are experiencing right now They say it is 25 degrees But it feels like it's 12. I think is that right? Yeah, it feels like 12 So it's kind of chilly here But i'm really grateful to be here and that's what today's session's about if you've been having any issues with Feeling grateful and I get it, you know, it's our personalities. I guess it's kind of ingrained in us to look at negative things But by the end of today's session, I think you're going to find that you're going to feel a lot better You're going to be more grateful. You're going to appreciate life a whole lot more Just for going through this session. Hey, if you haven't subscribed, please do so Hit that subscribe button there turn it from red to gray. Don't forget to ring the bell Turn on all bell notifications So you're notified each and every time I go live or if I upload a video And I really want you to make good use of that chat box over there And when I say good use that just means use it you could say anything in there Wayne just told me what his weather is you can tell me where you're at You can tell me what you're working on you can ask me a question But please please please use that chat box. That's what that's for So being grateful. Wow, that's a weird thing, right? A life that is lived without being grateful is really not live I mean, it really isn't if you can't go through life and appreciate some of the things you have Then you're not really enjoying life. You know, you're not getting through life, right? So that's why I thought today's session was so special and so important Because a lot of people don't understand how to be grateful They think it's just a feeling that's going to come over you and all of a sudden one day You're just going to be real grateful and that's not the case. It is something you actually have to work on It's actually something you have to do So I want to share with you today a few hacks The mic I don't have an external mic there Paul So there is no there is no microphone to pull close to me. It's just the computer But today I want to show you a few things you can do and and you know Happiness really comes out of gratefulness and it comes out of accomplishment. Those are the two things So if you feel accomplished and you feel grateful, you're going to be happy There's no way to say well, I'm just going to be happy today. It doesn't work that way There's there's two other emotions that are hooked to that And I wanted I want to go through this today because you know, we've been locked up For a couple of years in our houses and we have masks on and we can't I mean It's so funny like I'll try to smile or something if I have to wear a mask on which I never wear them hardly anymore But uh, and I try to smile at a kid or a person or something and they don't know I'm smiling And that emotionally can be tough for you, you know not seeing that Feedback that you get so I think today's session is really going to help a lot of people out That was the point today. I know it's not business But it is kind of business because We we work behind the screen if you're working online and you're all alone And sometimes you forget to be grateful. You don't know how to be grateful So I'm going to give you a list of things today. I think you're going to Appreciate it. Um, you know, I am not an overly religious person But I I do believe what I believe in and you can believe in what you want to believe in And I think that kind of helps us too So the first thing I'm going to tell you guys is that you need to keep a gratitude journal So you want to establish A daily practice. I have a gratitude app as a matter of fact And I look at it every day and it pops up and it reminds me of things But setting aside time on a daily basis to recall moments of gratitude associated with just ordinary events Your personal attributes or value people in your life It really gives you the potential to interweave a sustainable life theme of gratefulness and we want to be grateful. It's super important to do it guys. I mean it just You're not going to be living a good life. Otherwise, you're just not You know, you can say what you want, but somebody who's never grateful for anything does not live a good life Number two and I think this is a big one and we've all had it is remember how bad things were You know, stop for a second and go wait a second. I remember when x okay, and I do remember I remember In college I had no money I lived in this person's attic literally above their garage They had built a room in there and it had a bed in there and this beat up sofa In the bed, you know, you know a roof that goes like this the bed was tucked into that Roof area like that and when you got out of bed the morning you couldn't just get up Because you'd hit your head you had to slide down the bed and then get up And I'm grateful now. I don't live in a home like that anymore I have a nice home that we built that we custom built And it's all because of you guys because you know people bought products from the online And every day I wake up. I'm very grateful. I look around me and I go. Wow, you know, this this is something that is important When you remember how difficult life used to be or how far you've come You set up this explicit contrast in your mind when you see that difference And you don't want to start comparing yourself to other people because you're not in a race with other people You never have been and you never will you're always in competition with yourself. How much better can you be? How much more can you do? How much healthier can you be? How much, you know more business can you conduct? But it's always with yourself. It's not somebody else because you're always going to find people that are You know better off or worse off than you. That's just that's a given That's not what you want to concentrate on But you do want to remember how bad things used to be that was number two Number three You need to ask yourself some questions. Okay You need to utilize meditation techniques Which involve reflecting on these questions. Okay, what have I received from x? Okay, what have I received from x now that could be, you know, what have I received from doing videos on youtube? Uh, and I've received a lot of friendship. I've received a lot of nice comments. Uh, we we generated money I've received a lot. Okay, and I'm very grateful for that. Um, what have I given to x? Okay, so what have I given back to my audience? What have I given in charity? What have I given to my family? What have I given given to my kids? Um, all those things are important And then what troubles and difficulties have I caused? What are the things that I've done that I probably should not have done? Uh, let's see here. I want to put some of paul's stuff up here. Uh, just you moving closer Help. Okay, cool. So I did do that. Uh, let me go to the other ones. I have a home and I'm not homeless Good paul. You know what paul just did? He wrote down His gratefulness and guys, you should all be doing that you should all be putting in that chat section right now What are you grateful for put that in there and that's going to help you just tremendously it really will Uh, he says I I escaped chicago. Yeah, chicago is a tough place But it's beautiful too. If you live there, you got to be grateful for that, right? Um, I think that that being grateful is not only makes you a better person But puts you in a better paul's position to help others Living with attitude of gratitude and too blessed to be stressed And you know, I'm pretty grateful today I got a message yesterday from my daughter-in-law My son had been in the hospital in september and was quite ill And the same symptoms came back yesterday And he was rushed to the emergency room With a bowel obstruction Terrible pain they gave him eight units of morphine They weren't sure if they had to operate or what they were going to have to do And they gave him some kind of medication I think and as the day went on he slowly got better and better And I was able to text with him this morning and he's feeling good now. He hasn't eaten And he's still on a lot of stuff. They're working on him and they don't know what's causing his problems But I'm grateful. I mean something, you know, really bad could have happened to him Yesterday and we were all really stressed out. He's got a great wife who takes care of him But I'm super grateful about that, you know that that that means a lot to me Let's see richard. What's going on my friend my friend here in texas I'm grateful for the ability to pay cash for my home and working up free of mortgage payments, especially On super cold day shelf. We we do have some super cold days out. Don't we richard? It's pretty darn chilly in texas But you know what? I'm grateful that I have heat I'm grateful that I have a fireplace I'm grateful that I have a great wife. I'm grateful that I have a great dog, you know I'm grateful that I can work from home and that this cold didn't affect my business one bit Outside of maybe give us more business because people realize they need survival food And I have a company that sells that There's so many things to be grateful for And you know, I've told this story before Um, I was going to my warehouse in kentucky. I used to have a warehouse in kentucky I was leaving san diego and I think this was in 2015 16 maybe Um, and my car was parked in the street My wife's was parked in the driveway and she was going to give me a ride to the airport And when we walked outside to get in her car in her driveway, it was gone And I just looked at her and I said your car stole We need to take my car and she says, how do you know that? I said, well, uh, it's not there that that's an indication right there. That's a big indication. Um, so Uh, I told her I said something really good is going to come of this And she says, how could something good come of my car being stolen and not being there? I said, I don't know. I don't know. I don't know what it is. It's going to come of it But I know one thing something good is going to come of it And they did eventually find her car and it was stolen and it was crashed into some other cars and It was totaled and they gave her a bunch of money for it It only had 15 000 miles on it. Uh, they gave her so much money She got a much nicer car than what she had before and she never really liked that car There was a moment of gratefulness that I had when I saw her car was stolen Which most people would say, well, that's insane. You can't be grateful for that I can be because I can choose to be grateful for what I want And I realized that something good would probably come of that Uh, Roy says I am grateful for much But I have no relationship with my brother or sons that really bothers me and there is not much I can do about it You can lead a horse to water. I understand. I understand what you're saying, buddy And you know, you can try and you know, you're going to try a lot of things in life And they're not going to work out And it's going to be hurtful to you, but you got to stop and look at what you do have Okay, you got to stop and look at what you what relationships you have Maybe it's maybe it's a wife or girlfriend or boyfriend or husband or friends or a neighbor or something You know, I got a really good neighbor next door. Um, he's a retired FBI agent surveillance guy So you're not going to get anything past him, but um, really great neighbor I have another neighbor that's moving into the new house next to me over here. He works for apple Uday is his name and he's a super nice guy and I'm very grateful to have these nice people around me. Um, cool people, right Uh, let's see what else we got here. I am grateful living in Ohio and not in michigan There you go. There's always a worse place, right? There's always worse situations we could be in So, yeah, so we've asked ourselves those three questions Just to remind you what have I received from x? What have I given to x and what troubles and difficulty have I caused? Okay, because we want to stop doing that and it's going to make us more grateful if we stop doing those things Sometimes you've got to stop something um And number four is learn some type of prayers of gravity a gratitude now you don't have to have my religion I don't have to have your religion that doesn't matter But in a lot of spiritual tradition Prayers of gratitude are considered to be the most important form of prayer because Through these prayers people recognize the ultimate source of all they are And all they'll ever be okay and being grateful for whatever it is that's around you whatever it is that controls All this stuff is going to make your life a whole lot more enjoyable But you've got to come to the realization that you have to be thankful for these things Uh, number five is uh, I guess come to your senses through your senses The ability of touch the ability of seeing smelling tasting hearing We gain an appreciation of what it means to be human of what it means to actually be alive and what incredible miracle it is to be alive If you look at all these things through, um, I guess glasses of gratitude the human body not only Is a miraculous construction, but it's also a gift you've been given a life You know, and you know, I think about how lucky I am to be the age I am You know a lot of babies die at birth or kids die at five years older people die at 19 of cancer or whatever I've come this far. You know, I'm pretty darn grateful for that. Um, Sean Stevenson Who passed away a few years ago? I got to meet and some of you may know him and if you don't know him You should google Sean Stevenson and listen to what he has to say, but he was confined to a wheelchair He had brittle bone disease And he set up until the age of about 17 He really felt sorry for himself that you know, he looked bad his body was all crippled up You know, he had breathing difficulties. He had organ problems And one day his mother says, you know, this this situation you're in this disease that you have is a gift And he was like, well, how in the world could this be a gift? And she says, you need to go out in the world and be successful and show other people what you're doing And they can look at you and they can say, wow, if he can do it, then maybe I can do something with my life So that's how he lived his life. And I think he died at 35 34 Uh, I could have that wrong So he went around and spoke to groups and said, look at me Look at the body I've been given. Look at you. Look at what you've been given I'm here to show you that you could do something. Okay, so A lot of times gratitude comes from looking at other people in their situations. I promise you I don't know what your situation is, but I know there's people that are worse off than you right now I know that for a fact, okay, and when you start realizing that Then of course, you're going to start feeling better Prayers for your family. I'm grateful that I seriously found you and this group for all the positive ideas and sharing here Hey, paul We're grateful for you. Okay. I don't know if you get told that on a daily basis. We're grateful that you show up We're grateful that you participate. We're grateful that you have good ideas You know, you're appreciated in the world, you know, a lot of people don't realize they're appreciated because people don't tell them I'm here to tell you I appreciate all everybody here. I appreciate all you guys putting Comments in there. I appreciate that you watch my videos Favorite prayer is the serenity prayer. Yes, that's a great one. Um, and I think that's is that the a a one I think it is Let's see here. Richard says when eating a meal once Once probably in a while I pray for and appreciate all of those hundreds of people who have had something to do with the Meal I'm eating. Yes the growers the delivery the cooks etc Man, isn't that true? Isn't that true guys? Isn't that true that there's been so many people that have touched your life and helped you? And it may be a person that doesn't even know you, you know The next thing I'm going to tell you number six, um, is you can use visual images The two primary obstacles to gratefulness are forgetfulness Okay, so that is and also a lack of mindful awareness visual reminders can help you Trigger thoughts of gratitude oftentimes the best visual reminders are other people, you know or My dog, you know, I see my dog in the morning and I'm so grateful. She's so sweet. She's so nice She's so kind. She doesn't have a bad bone in her body. I'm thinking kind of which all humans could be like this But she's awesome. And you know, I'm very very grateful for her. I'm grateful for my life I'm grateful that I had really good relationships with my kids. I talked to them almost every single day They live in different states, but we're friends And I raised it was a single dad. I I was so grateful to be able to do that You know, and I'll have people say well, it was so nice of you to raise your kids by yourself I'm like, well, what are you gonna do? Have a go at the street? And I was very lucky that I had that opportunity that I had that opportunity to have some effect on their life And both of them are great, you know adults now My daughter has three children now on her own and I watch her parenting and I'm thinking wow It's so cool that she's doing a lot of the things that I taught her So, you know, I'm grateful for that Next thing and I guess this would probably number seven if you're telling Make a vow to always Appreciate and exhibit your gratitude. Okay, so There's research really that has proven That behavior increases the likelihood that an action will be executed So therefore you may want to write down your gratitude vow whatever it is put it in an app Whatever it is Which could be as simple as I vow to count my blessings every day and post it somewhere Well, you'll be reminded to do it. Okay, wake up every day and be thankful. You woke up I I literally will take a breath in the morning. I had an operation that was life threatening actually in 2016 Uh, and when I wake up every day, I'm like, wow, I woke up again. I woke up again Are you really thankful for the fact that you woke up again? Are you or do you wake up? Oh, it's another day. I'm gonna do this. I've gotta do this. You don't have to do anything Uh, and I want to talk about that the very end what what you have to do and what you don't have to do um Next thing number eight is watch your language. Watch your language Grateful people have a particular linguistic style that uses language of gifts givers blessings blessed Fortune fortunate abundance. They use all these words. Are you using those in your vocabulary? In gratitude, you should not focus on how inherently good you are But rather on the inherently good things that others have done on your behalf I mean when somebody lets me in in traffic Um, I'm very grateful for that. I really am very grateful for that Um, and I I read something the other day and it it was funny But it was also a terrible thing that somebody did they were in a drive-through at a mcdonald's and um the person behind them as soon as the other cars would move up if they didn't move fast enough The person behind them would start blowing their horn And they were blowing their horn and they were flipping them off and you know just being really cruel to them So when the person got up to the window to pay um She asked the cashier. She says well What is the person behind me getting because I want to pay for it? So she told her and she did pay for it And when she got up to the window where she picked up her food She held up both receipts and she says I paid for both of these but I want both of those meals So she took both of those meals And her post was that now that person behind her would have to get in line again And wait all the way through because she took the food and I thought that's so horrible I mean yeah, it's a funny little story, but what what a horrible thing to do That person behind you that was onry that was angry that was already uptight You're just going to throw more problems on them. And does that really make you feel good? It probably won't it probably won't In fact, I know it won't uh, that's a very negative thing to do It would have been a whole lot nicer if she had paid for the food And left it for the person. Okay, that would have been a really nice thing to do But to take it I was like, oh wow, that's terrible. That's just that's a horrible thing you've done All right, let me get back to some of these comments here. I've got a couple comments. I want to stick up there Let's see here. Sean definitely defined what gratitude looks like. Oh, he was he was so amazing Paul He lived more in his short life the most People twice his age and it's so true and I met him at a mastermind I went to and I went up to him. I said Sean I said, I'm so impressed with you I've listened to so many things you said and you just you're such a really cool person Just like to shake your hand and I reached out to shake his hand and he says no no brother Bring it in bring it in give me a hug and he hugged me And I thought wow You know, he he really lives what he talks about. Are you really living what you talk about? You know, if you're if you're unsettled if you're upset If you're angry and angry, how are you living your life? Number nine You got to go through the right motions if you go through grateful motions Okay, grateful motions the emotion of gratitude could be triggered. Okay, grateful motions include Smiling smile at people try smiling Say thank you, you know Say hello to people, you know, I was at the gym the other day and there's a guy And he cleans our gym and he's the maintenance guy and nobody ever talks to him and I started talking to him His name's Sean. Nice this guy really really liked him. He was raised by his grandmother I don't know what his family dynamics was, but you know, he probably had some hard times very thoughtful guy Very intelligent guy And I think a lot of people will look at people in different positions and say well, you know, I'm about that position You're not you're not and you never will be okay There is the positions are just things that people choose to do for whatever reason, you know What is my position? I talk on camera and I record stuff and talk to people, you know, that's not a high level position It's it's something that I want to do to give back And you know what it doesn't matter how high your position is anyhow, okay Show gratitude and others talk to people that wouldn't normally be talked to okay Asked how somebody's days going. I I was out to lunch the other day And the waitress came up and she was taking our order and I said you look concerned. I said, um How's your day going? She goes. Oh my god. She goes it's going so bad She goes, um, we're gonna be evicted tomorrow out of our apartment if we don't get all of her furnishings out And my car broke down and it got towed and I don't have any transportation and she just went on and on and on So I gave her a very large tip, but you don't know what's going on in somebody else's life So if you've got that waiter or waitress that may not be on their game that day, you don't know what's going on in their life Um, so the next thing I want to tell you number 10 Number 10 number 10 It's always like 10 of these things, right You got to kind of think differently than other people if you want to make the most of opportunities You got to flex that gratitude muscle. You've got to creative You got to creatively look for new situations and circumstances in which to feel grateful when my car When my wife's car was stolen and I said, you know, this is going to be a good thing and she thought I was insane Um, you know, it was a good thing, but you've got to you've got to do that You've got to think a little bit differently than the way you would normally think Okay, because if you don't your your feelings of gratitude aren't going to change Richard says I recently gave A waitress a super huge tip bigger than my bill because I really appreciated her service. That was exceptional That's very true guys. I mean, you know, there's this I guess rule of thumb You're supposed to give 15 20 percent or whatever if somebody Goes out of their way for you and does something extra special for you Do something extra special for them and a lot of people say well, I'm not going to spend, you know, five dollars in the $10 tab Why not? Do you really think that you're going to get to the end of your life and you're going to go? Man, I wish I'd had that five dollars I think that's not going to happen, right? It's not going to happen A little extra that you give other people is so important And I like to give the charity one thing we we did do we didn't do it this past year I need to get back to it, but we would go to a wall art And we would go to the lairway section and about two weeks before christmas We would pay off a bunch of different lairways that had toys on them. Okay that had toys on them So I wouldn't pay it off big screen TVs or computers or you know, stuff like that But anything that had toys on it I would pay off those Um Lairways with the exception of one dollar I would always leave one dollar and that way when the parent or a relative or husband or wife or whatever came to pay off Those toys their bill was one dollar and they were told that somebody else paid it They didn't know who it was. They didn't know it was me. They didn't know what I did But I tell you what guys had made me feel amazing The other thing we would do is we would buy let's say gift cards for walmart Right around christmas time and when we would see people shopping in the aisles We would just go up and hand them a gift card and say here you go Here's gift card Uh, and they the look when their face was amazing and some people would say well, I don't need it I'm say that's not the point. The point is I just want to give you something Um, so you could do some really cool stuff if you give it some thought Paul says has a have a blessed weekend going have to bounce cheers. Thanks Uh for being a positive light in a cloudy world The world Oh, yes, the world had the world is exactly how you look at it guys and I do want to hit real quick before I end this today. Um, I want you to think about what you have to do and what you don't have to do. Okay And I would I would I would tell you that when you start telling yourself You have to clean your house or you you have to drive to work or you whatever you tell yourself you have to do I'm going to give you permission to not do it. I'm going to tell you you don't have to do it You don't have to drive to work and you say well jr. If I don't drive to work. I'll lose my job I say well, then lose your job and you say well if I lose my job. I won't have any money I can't pay my rent. I'll lose my house. I said then you'll lose your house and you say well I don't want to lose my house. I say then you must want to go to work You must want to go to your job. See we tell ourselves every single day We we're doing things that we don't want to do, you know, oh my god. I got to go exercise No, you don't You could get fat and unhealthy if you want that's entirely up to you. That's your choice So you don't have to do anything that you don't want to do you say well jr. I got one for you I have to pay taxes and I don't want to pay taxes. There's no way to get out of that I say there is a way to get out of that. It's real simple. Just tell the irs You're not going to pay taxes anymore. And you say well jr. I'll go to jail if I Vade my taxes. I said well then go to jail Uh, and you say well, I don't want a boyfriend named bubba. I said well then pay your taxes Okay, it's really that simple It's really that simple you're not doing anything that you don't have to do And as long as you keep telling yourself that you have to do these things As long as you tell yourself that you're doing things you don't want to do You're lying to yourself. You're just totally lying yourself You don't do anything that you don't want to do and the sooner you realize that the better off you're going to be And the more grateful you'll be I hope this helped you guys out a little bit today. I thought it was time to do it You know, we we got this really cold weather out there And I tell you as I look at the really cold weather. I couldn't see out my windows here yesterday. They recovered nice Uh, I just look out there and I go wow. I'm grateful. I'm grateful. I have heat What are you grateful for put it in the chat section now The the best thing you can do is write it down if you put in that chat section right now Some of the things that you're grateful for I think you're gonna find that you're gonna have a better day You want to have a better day you want to start your day better put it in that chat section Now some of you are not watching this live and I understand that You're watching a recording of this and everything still applies that I said Put it in the comment section the chat section will be available to you You can read some of those cool comments that people put in some of you guys already put a couple grateful things But put three or four grateful things I'm sure you had three or four grateful things that you could put in that comment section Why miss out on that why miss out on that opportunity? I'm looking over here because I have this iPad here. There's you guys. See okay, and I can kind of see what you're putting Wayne Charles my man way you've been around for a while buddy, and I appreciate you very much I really do and I don't get a chance to tell people one on one that often You know, I'll tell my audience. I appreciate you but Wayne Charles. I appreciate you you've been very Kind you've participated. You've had nice comments. You've been grateful And you know, I appreciate having you here So, you know Wayne Charles everybody give a high five for Wayne Charles. There we go high five for Wayne Charles Okay, all right guys put in that chat section What you're grateful for super important that you do that If you can't think of something now come back and put it in the comment section later And please practice some of these things that I'm putting in there Uh, um, let's see here. Richard says I'm grateful He put it differently for all of the opportunities to learn and earn as much as I want and to share and help others You know and guys I'll share with the audience here. I met Richard Richard. I think it was 2015 Uh, I was doing a meetup group in San Diego And he came in with his dog Zeus I think the dog's name is Zeus and he stood out because he had this big dog with him And I thought that's really cool. He's got this dog with him and I got to know Richard and you know, we've been out and we've had lunch and I think the last time was at dimsum. We went to Richard we got to get together again. We keep saying we're gonna do it. We have it done I know you were in town one time and I missed you But um, he's become a friend You know, I tried to help him out song and you know, he's tried to help me out and You know, it's it's really cool that I got to meet Wayne Charles. Well, I appreciate you very much Thank you so much Wayne. I do appreciate that buddy Um, hey, hey, and if you guys are saying, oh, this is just a feel-good session today You didn't teach me how to make any money. I didn't I didn't and sometimes you need to feel good Sometimes you got stuff going on in your life that is difficult Sometimes things are hard. Sometimes you're going through a lot And if you're listening to this right now understand that you are appreciated Even if I didn't mention your name, even if I don't know you well I do get that you have issues. I do get that you have problems But you got to stop and look look at that list I gave you and realize you've been given a gift because you're still here Okay, uh, and some of you may say well, it's just so difficult for me jr. You don't understand my situation I don't understand your situation. I never will you don't understand my situation You don't know what goes on in my life. Uh, but I know one thing I'm very very grateful and I hope you guys are too and I'm very thankful that we had this time today Guys, thank you so much. I appreciate you listening if you haven't subscribed yet I would really be grateful if you did please subscribe at that button there And I'd be grateful if you ring the bell turn on all bell notifications So you're notified each and every time I go live. I would appreciate that guys have a wonderful day Great weekend. I'll try to be live tomorrow. I can't promise it, but I'm gonna try uh, check your emails for that Uh, let's see here richard center appreciation comes from acceptance without judgment and being in the moment Yes being in the moment, uh, mindfulness mindfulness. I did a video on that the other day being mindful Just stop and look around you Thanks guys. I appreciate you being here. I'll talk to you real soon