 So there's some things you're going to stop doing and some things you're going to start doing if you want this to really work for you. So you're still going to approach women, okay? So that's that's what you're still going to do. But you're not going to be hovering over in them and hitting on them and trying to extract information from them in the way that you're used to doing it. So number one is you're going to stop asking them for their contact information and you're going to give them yours. You're going to offer yours up. Which is probably the biggest difference between how I do things in most everybody else. And again I told you that I used to be the master number collector and contactor and I was like a cold caller. You know I would get on that phone and just start calling and calling and calling until I could get it to happen. I thought oh this is exhausting and I'm just I'm lazy and I'm bored and I don't want to do it anymore. So I remember when I just started doing it I was like it's been great talking to you know just give me a call and we'll talk about getting together or something and I gave it out a few times and it didn't work and then all of a sudden this girl calls me and she's like hey you want to get together. I'm like whoa it worked really. I mean even if the odds were the same even if I had to give out as many numbers as I got numbers I'd still rather do it the lazy way. That's how I was thinking. I mean if the odd even if the odds were the same. But what I found out over time and over experimenting is the odds are not the same. The odds were well in my favor when I started learning how to offer it up in the right way where I wasn't drawing attention to and I wasn't forcing my number on girls which would be just like forcing a girl or keep continuing to ask her for hers. It's like it's creepy pursuing as far as I'm concerned and I've been through it. I did it. So it has a much higher rate of return and if you're all about return which everyone tells me they are oh I'm all about return man I got to get the most return on my investment Brent. You know I want to have girls calling me and texting me and hunting me down. Well this is the way to do it. So your favorite new line or if we're giving that way of giving your number is really just under the radar it's just shoot me a text about it. Shoot me a text about that thing so which is what I say all the time. I'm always like shoot me a text about it. I'll find me on Facebook. I'm very nonchalant about it. So I don't force it you know if I say something like shoot me a text and a girl doesn't get out her phone you don't want to force it you don't want to say hey don't you want my number okay. You want you can ask questions that lead to it okay this is the way to do it. So I'm always asking questions of people like so what's going on over here what's on the agenda what are you guys up to what crazy shit you have going on you know I'm always asking questions about escape and about fun things and then whether someone asks me that about myself I just offer up the information okay so I said well that's cool actually what I think I'm going to do right if I don't have a social life I may just be saying like if you guys don't have a social life saying oh you know I think I'm just going to head out you know maybe go home drink a little bit of wine or something you're welcome to join if you'd like just shoot me a text just shoot me a text right same thing if I'm moving on to the next place it's like hey we're going to this other bar we're going to this other club this party it sounds like it might be cool oh that sounds great oh well you know shoot me a text if you want to know about it if you want to know if it's worth coming over I'm doing this thing on Sunday it's really exciting it's really cool oh that sounds good well you're welcome to join just shoot me a text about it you see how it's the same theme okay maybe tough to get your head around first but I'm telling you it's much better than me taking that phone number and just trying oh my god year I mean I did that for so many years trying to make it happen so much better so giving out your phone number is one of the things that you should try and look I'm just asking you to consider it in what you already do try it see if it works for you it worked for me don't force it don't get the girls phone out and or grab her phone and put your phone number in that's as bad as is making her you're begging her for hers we talked about you want to talk about escape and fun things and if you end up okay so two more things about that you want to always end the conversation first that's another big one guys okay so most of the time what we do is we wait around to women dismiss us I used to do it I'd keep talking and talking and talking and talking until she either rolled her eyes turned away from me I gotta go to the bathroom and talk to my friend you know just blew me off completely I didn't understand the power of not fearing loss right or being carefree and not being attached to this one girl okay so end the conversation first it's powerful and you know a lot of stuff I'm telling you guys is applicable to other parts of your life too so apical in business other relationships so soon as you know you realize it's another person realizes that you're going to dismiss yourself that's powerful so dismiss yourself and move on talk to someone else open up more opportunities for yourself and if in fact you get in in a communication string with any of these women that you end up talking to over communicating in between getting together is a no no remember right one of the greatest things I have to tell you is when a woman is interested in you and they take action on it I mean that's like for guys you know you'll say that's the holy grail even though you may not get there or be open to the way I'm telling you how to get there really I'd rather have someone in whatever kind of relationship it is whether it's casual or or other who's wants to be there who's interested in hanging out with me not someone who I feel like I forced or tricked or manipulated into wanting to hang out with me or get together with me or hook up with me or whatever right I know that's what we're taught that's what we've all done that but the next level is actually being excited about having someone who's interested in being there and this is what this allows women to do allows them to be interested in being there so in other words if you text someone and the girl doesn't text you back don't text her three more times saying did you get my message just want to make sure you got my message none of that guys I've been guilty of that as well okay and the other thing you need to do is and I know him he's a legend he's been around way back in the day when we all got the and I'm telling you I see these guys come up to me and they show me all these super long text message threads or instant message I mean they must be like you know they go on for sometimes weeks and I say hey so so you guys got together no but we're I think I'm going to talk about it soon we're probably going to maybe get together I'm like really this is what this is your problem this is this is over chasing women this is the old way and this is exactly why you're not getting together with her I'm looking at all the stuff you're telling her and it's the same thing every other guy is saying right it's how it's going it you're trying to tease her and you've gotten into it and you're doing it is it possible that women will just switch over immediately yeah it is because even though they're programmed just you know the opposite of way we are the passive way so women are of course unfortunately programmed to be passive so we become too pushy they're too passive so they kind of wait around right they've been taught to wait around and the right guy will approach you or he won't right now some girls are assertive and I applaud them if they are but very few and so maybe in conversation with you are already sort of like chasing the old way you have if you want us if you want women to chase you you have to stop chasing them period that's it