 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder a commitment connection calm and today We're gonna talk about how to talk to a guy So if you're struggling to figure out how you should be talking to guys, then this is for you So first let's talk about what you shouldn't do. So let's talk about what doesn't work So one of the big things that doesn't work that women do all the time is they try to do guy topics, right? Like I get women that are like, hey, I don't want to learn guy topics to talk to guys The great thing for you is that you don't need to learn guy topics because guy topics are not Attractive, I mean it can be like a plus, you know if you can talk about sports and the guys into sports It can be a plus if a guy's not into sports, then he definitely doesn't want to hear about sports from you And here's the thing though Even if he enjoys talking to you about sports and you're into sports It's not something that he's going to be attracted to you for it's just gonna be an addition So the second thing is talking like a guy so a lot of times women will like put guys down because they see guys like putting each other down all the time and That's not attractive at all. And if you do it a lot that can be really unattractive. So I Mean if you do it once in a while, it can be cute But it's just if you're like guy they call them guy chicks like women that that you know talk like guys They call them guy chicks guy chicks only attract feminine guys And they usually end up in the friend zone with most of the guys that they like So if you want to guy to like you avoid talking like a guy Next is relying on commonalities commonalities can be a really good thing to build a friendship but and it can be a good thing to have a conversation about but don't rely on those topics to Get a guy to be attracted to you because he's not going to be attracted to you might feel closer to you as a friend It could bring him closer to you in a relationship But he won't be attracted to you for your cup for commonalities. So just remember that and the last thing that you don't want to do is Place expectations on them and a lot of women do this all the time and it's really painful for everyone involved and that's trying to get a guy to respond a specific way when you talk to him and Like getting upset when he doesn't respond the way that you want him to respond. It's just so unattractive I mean it is really really unattractive and it could ruin your relationship. It could ruin your chances with a guy So just avoid the whole expectations thing all together. Just let go of it So what does work? What works is telling stories stories are really really powerful and they can connect you with a guy They can connect you with this heart. They can make him feel All kinds of powerful things towards you They can help you capture his heart and make them just fall in love with you And so the things that you want to talk about with stories are one your values Right so find stories that convey things that are important to you in your life. That can be really powerful. The second thing is Tell stories about things that you have had in your life things things that have happened in your life that are exciting guys are attracted to women who have interesting lives exciting lives and You know, so when you tell a story about something that's interesting in your life You're conveying an attractive trait to him and the last thing that you'll want to tell stories about is Anything that conveys that you are feminine, right? So like the nurturing or caring side of yourself that can be just so powerful and subconsciously even if a guy doesn't recognize it consciously subconsciously he can He'll hear that story and he'll think about how How he could see you As being a life partner to him because of that feminine side You'll see that polarity and he'll experience it and be like, wow, that's really cool And it can put you in that relationship category for him So the second thing that you'll want to talk about is his passions, right? so figure out what he's passionate about and a lot of women find that it's hard to get guys to open up Usually if you can get him to talk about his passions, he'll talk about that forever so just get him talking about his passions and That can be incredible I mean just really really attractive for a guy to just start babbling on about his passion sounds ridiculous But it can be really really attractive for him. He'll feel closer to you more connected to you If he can feel open about being able to talk to you about his passions and then the last thing is talking about fun and exciting things that you're going to be doing and You know this goes back to having an interesting life, you know men are attracted to women who have exciting lives and You know a lot of times I'll get women who say things like I don't want to Start doing those things until I find this partner Well a guy is going to meet you and he's going to look at you And if he's the type of guy that wants to do those things and he sees that you're not doing them yet He's not going to be convinced that you want to do him And he's not going to be convinced that you're the right woman for him But if you're already out there doing those things doing exciting and cool things and you're talking about him and talking about doing them In the future then he's going to be a lot more attracted to you and want to be a lot more involved in your life So that's it for today if you want more information on how to attract mr. Right into a committed Lasting relationship make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon