 Hey guys, what's up? It's Kinsey and welcome back to my channel or welcome if you guys are new here today as I'm posting this It is my 22nd birthday, which is so crazy. Also, I just set my mug over where a candle used to be and it's burning And some others somehow candle wax on me Anyways, I wanted to do one of those cheesy like 21 things I learned at 21 videos I've done them before and I always vlog my birthday I feel like I've almost always done one of these videos, but I like can't really think about it I've been on YouTube since I was 16, which is so crazy actually like right before I turned 16 That's when I started my channel. So it's really freaking wild to like look back. I don't know why I'm getting emotional I like I'm getting very emotional for like delivery that reason. It's crazy to look back. Why am I emotional? This year has definitely Stretched me the most it's been one of the hardest years But also like a really good year at the same time I think not even this isn't even on my list But one thing I didn't learn there was a quote in a diva is reading one day It was like morning in celebration and all our specters of each other There's a time for everything but a lot of the time like things just overlap So while this was a very hard year for me personally and like some aspects It was also like a really good year and I learned so Freaking much like I was driving this morning and thinking and I'm like I don't even feel like the same person like this time last year I'm like thinking about what my birthday and who I was with and like what I was it's just like literally I don't even feel like the same person. I feel like a completely different person in a good way I think this is peach and passion fruit green tea. This is very good past year. I was a junior in college I started my podcast I thought those are the two main things I Feel like this is a very personal year like I don't like I don't I don't know what else I did those are the things I did okay, so I have my tea and I'm just gonna sit here and talk to you guys about life and What I've learned in the past year Share some thoughts comment down below if you guys have any thoughts you want to share or your favorite one of my point Welcome to my TED Talk everyone. The first thing I learned is that I literally know nothing I look back to high school and it's funny because I feel like everyone in high school like thinks that they know everything And it's like I was so like naive and confident Which was great because I don't think I would be where I am today if I wasn't that at the time But I feel like as you get older you realize how much less you know And even more than that I've learned like I know nothing and I always am like So intentional about the leaders and like people that like are pouring into my life And I'm listening to your mentors or whatever it is But I think also even more than that is like I always want people in my life I want to learn from people who are so different than me like culturally so different than me Live like across the world do completely different jobs like don't even know social media like stuff like that like I Always want to be learning or like ancient things like I just want to learn From all different walks of life. I feel like that's really important But my number one thing is that I learned that I know that thing which I kind of already knew but I really know that now You know, okay number two not everyone can go with you on the flip side of that. You can't go with everyone as you grow up I feel like I don't know. I am someone I'm very very loyal like to a fault It's not even what I'm trying to say I'm very loyal and I don't necessarily mean that in like a noble way Like I think it is what makes me a good friend, but I think also like there are times It's very hard for me to let go of a person or Of an idea or just things in life I think it's hard for me to let go of things Because I'm so loyal and I'm very determined and I'm like no But sometimes things are just better if you let them go and I think I learned like not everyone can go with you You can't go with everyone that's part of growing up You're gonna grow apart from people in like a very healthy way. You're gonna have falling outs with people a lot of things Are gonna happen and like that's okay You're not a bad person because you were friendship didn't work out and I think it's necessary To grow in the way that you're meant to grow and to like go on the path You're meant to like go down like if I was still close friends with some people that I have been close friends with before That I still like love and adore and think the world of like I would not be good right now Like it wouldn't have been good for me. So number three Okay, so the higher you think of yourself and you're calling and how serious to take that the less I'll put up with I had this thought a few weeks ago. I've already shared it pretty recently So I'll like go through it pretty quickly I have this thought and I was like wow how low did I have to think of myself to put myself in that position? Time and time again. So insert that with anything relationally job wise I hate to say job wise though because I don't want people like I think it's really important to do things That you don't want to do that you don't want to do but It's just like for me personally. It's like relationally It's like how low did I have to think of myself to where like I was like, yeah Like I will compromise my values and my standards to fit to put myself in this box so that we can work this out like It's just like no no no no no no no no no no no and like I don't even consider myself someone with a Go lower self-esteem by any means so wow that was really a lesson to be learned And I think I kind of have to put it in like a harsh way for me to like fully be like Oh, yeah, shoot. You know number four. Don't let your title become a prison I freaking love this one TD jake said this and like a Q&A with Steven Fredrick or something But it's so good and it's like just don't Minimize what your life can be like just because you are Even if you're like working your dream job, right? So it's like I would say this is my dream job But I don't want this to become a prison to where like I'm like, oh, I can't do this because I do that Does that make sense? So it's like let's say your dream job is being a teacher and you're a teacher Just because you're a teacher doesn't mean you only have to be a teacher for forever and that's gonna hold you back It's like don't let your title become a prison TD Jake's is like a billion things and that's what I want to do Like I want to do a lot of different things in my life And so I think don't let your title become a prison is gonna be something like I think back to like honestly for the rest of My life because I feel like for so long I was doing that and I was like Oh, but I do this so that's the only thing I can ever do or I want to do this So then I'm gonna give everything else up and I just don't think that that's Necessarily always the case So don't let your title become a prison this next point kind of comes back to not ever who go with you But it's sometimes elevation requires separation. These are all quotes from other people But I don't know what they're from but sometimes if you're like being elevated or taken to the next level in life Whatever and whatever that is like sometimes that requires separation whether that means like separation from people separation from your old life separation from like old habits old thinking processes old thinking patterns older Routines like whatever that is sometimes in order to be elevated you have to separate from other things Which is not always the most fun thing to do But I now look back at my life in the past year and I see how that's been such a thing like I feel like I've grown So freaking much. I feel like I've matured so much I'm just like a completely different person and I feel like that a lot of that has to come from like things that I was like Separated from without even necessarily being intentional or like knowing that number six don't always trust what you think you want This is for me personally specifically Every day of my life like all of the things that I really thought that I wanted that didn't work out or that I didn't get I don't want any of those now at all like I actually want the opposite of those So it's like the things like I feel like I don't even trust myself like I'm like if I feel like this is from me Like I don't want it like there's just so many things that I'm like you just just because you think you want it It doesn't mean you should have it At all like there's things that I like so freaking grateful. I don't have That I wanted really bad. So don't always trust yourself. You know, okay number seven be the person who brings a latte It's not always about how much you say So This comes from a book when God doesn't fix it one of the best books in the entire world I read this for like a pretty tough time and it's like the friends that You know, I'm gonna actually find this on my Instagram and read this to you guys because it's that good Little context. She's in the hospital. Her husband is I think at this point They think he's gonna pass away. He doesn't spoiler alert, but it was like really like life and death situation. Okay So many didn't know what to do or say in a situation like ours I didn't either more than flowers or cartoons of greasy at Chinese food The greatest thing people brought me was their presence during the wait which eventually stretched over two days and nights My favorite visitors were the ones who said the three magic words. Not I love you or even I'm praying But here's your latte those words made me smile each time I heard them because the people who brought me lattes weren't trying to give me answers They were just trying to give me coffee. They sat with me and wept with me and never said a word These are the ones who refilled the empty my empty cup. I Freaking love that like I feel like I learned this lesson Through a friend that was going through a hard time and I didn't know what to say So it was kind of like coincidental that I even did this I was just there but like there were no words like I there's nothing you can say in situations and So I learned in that situation But then it's like when the situations were flipped and it was like there was nothing in my life That you could say to like make things better It's like the people who just showed up and sat there with me like I will love for the rest of my life And like I can never think them enough and so it's like I always want to be the person who brings a latte Like you don't have to like feel like so often especially when you're going through a really hard time people like Want to give you all the answers and do that and I think more often than not you just need to be the person That brings the latte like I don't have the answers I don't know but like I'm here with you and we're doing this together kind of thing So I love that a community is what keeps you here And this kind of goes off of the last one, but it's like I look Like things that like I've gone through whatever and it's like the people who were around me or what kept me in this thing Like whether it's like church or like life or my job or whatever It's like they when I couldn't do things myself like they were the ones who were like keeping me there and supporting me and like Helping me so I think like more than ever I've always known that community is like a huge thing for me like that's why I even started this YouTube channel But I think more than ever. I'm like wow like community is like what keeps you here number nine working out saves my life Um, I have been working out. I haven't missed a week this entire year. Like I'm I don't think at least I'm Obsessed with working out. It's the best thing for me overall like health wise mental health wise emotional health Like at spiritually every single thing I have to work out and I love working out Thank God, but I just have to work out like I'm crazy, you know 10 I want to be someone who does a lot of things Okay, so there was also a podcast with on the hillstone creative podcast with Erin McManus He talks about how every 10 years he kind of changes what he does so like 10 years He's an author the next thing he's like a painter or whatever I just does a bunch of things and it's like I don't want like my 20s to be the best years in my life Like I just wanted to always get better and better and obviously I want them to be as amazing as possible But like I don't want to peek and then go downhill and I don't want to again Like let my title become a present like I want to be someone who does so many different things in my life So yeah that podcast like really honestly made me it like changed my life Like it was so freaking good 11 family is the most important thing in the world That goes without saying but like I feel like I really learned that this year 12 Okay, I think I've just had new levels of faith like in new levels of just like anything is possible But also faith in like a trusting way and like a we're gonna focus it's like you either believe it Or you don't so it's like you're either gonna go do it or you're not going to you know Number 13 kind of going off of that. It's like open heavens anything is possible like different levels of faith I feel like my thinking is so much even bigger than it was the year before like I'm so excited for like next year Just like the way I think about life and like the possibilities of what can happen and just like things that I'm like This will happen. I feel like I believe so much like so strongly and I really feel like anything is possible 14 this is something I feel like I'm talking about my podcast so many times But it is don't be married to your first idea some ideas are meant to take you to other ideas Some things are meant to take you somewhere else like if I would be married to my first idea I'd be like oh my gosh, I'm only gonna be on YouTube. I'm only gonna do this like I am Closing the door on so many other like opportunities that I could be doing like podcasting or whatever it is And it's like even names like your first idea is not always the best one and don't be stubborn It's stuck on the first idea like don't be married to your first idea Oftentimes one idea leads you to another which is to another which leads you to another which is like the big winner, you know 15 I think I've learned to chill more I feel like I've been a little bit more relaxed than I ever have been in my entire life Which I feel like I've needed to do and I feel really good about so I've learned how to like relax a Little bit. I'm still learning. I'm still learning all these okay number 16 the responsibility of a platform This is something that like I'm really really learning right now Just cuz I'm learning these does not mean that I learned them because I did them right, okay But it's like the responsibility of a platform and what that means and what that means to me And it's a responsibility of a platform and it's not always in that sense It's just like there's a responsibility that comes with that I just like it's been a thought and I feel like more often than not I learned that because I'm I feel like I'm not doing it well and I'm trying to get better about that like that's something that like I'm really actively thinking about a lot 17 okay, you can be mature in different areas of life and not other ones Like you can be like mature and like finances or like emotional health, but not spiritual or whatever it is and a lot of the Time if you're very mature in one area and very mature in another it's really unhealthy And it's not a good look and it's not good for anyone involved But I think I've made the mistake of thinking that just because someone is mature in this area of life means that they're mature And like another that is not the case ladies and gentlemen. I have learned the hard way 18 words become worlds watch what you say watch how you talk to people watch But like there's certain things that like I won't even say out loud back and maybe it's a little bit extreme But I'm just like I won't say it or like I won't even talk about it I don't know I feel like also like speaking out in faith or like speaking things into existence or whatever like I feel Like that's so huge like your words create worlds number 19. I love routines I love reading and I love growing and when I'm on my routine I'm so much healthier like overall for my entire like every area of health I'm healthier and I'm a better person. I'm a better friend. I'm a better daughter I'm a sister. I'm better overall. So it's like I have to like take care of myself in order to like be the best I can be and That comes with routines for me most of the time 20 okay Patterns over potential I've talked about this a ton way that I give this example when I'm talking about it It's like you think about people who are naturally athletic versus the people who have the drive for sports The naturally athletic ones are the ones who are going to be the best when they're younger But as time goes up it goes on and they grow up They're not practicing as much so the people with the drive are gonna like way outshine them later on and that's what it matters So it's like you look at people with patterns in What they say and what they do and the routines in the life and what they're doing like that is what matters Not like the what you the potential like I think seeing the best of people is so important And that's like an amazing quality and it's so great But overall like patterns matter so much for the potential because you can track and follow a pattern You cannot track and follow potential So there we go last one Um, I feel like God is always almost going to surprise me and I said this like last year I remember now I'm kind of kicking myself for cuz I'm like I hate my life But I was like I want my life like only makes sense because of God and they only make sense Like there's like no other way to describe that because it just doesn't make sense And it's crazy and now I'm like okay. Well, this is that that's the answer But now everything's just like really annoying but like I asked for it and also Everything ends up being better Then I imagine it could be also things I didn't think I would ever want I'm like this is I can't imagine like living without does my 21 things I learned at 21 If you guys enjoyed this let me know also today and episode went up It's seven of your questions both style on my podcast. I'll have it down below with my producer Taylor I think it's a good episode so I love you guys so much Thank you so much for all the support and love you guys have given me over the years seriously Like I don't even know what I would do without you guys I cannot imagine my life without all of you and YouTube and all this like I literally cannot match my life And I love you guys and I'm super grateful and I'm gonna be taking you guys along all my birthday I think it's gonna be a fun day So if you guys want to follow me on Instagram or whatever all my stories will be up in my blog If not my blog is coming soon So I love you guys so much comment down below what you are favorite Lesson that I learned was if you guys can relate or if you guys don't agree or if you just think better Let me know I love you guys so much and I'll see you guys soon. Bye