 Y'all give me one second. Yeah, I apologize our key to foster God bless it Lord in the building God in the building for I got in the building what I think you what you talking about anyone else got our Advertisement what you advertising? Advertisement nine Hey, God bless you. I want to own for those of you who knew to the bless tribe We do alive every Sunday night at 9 p.m. Easter so just want to Keep that anything I do Anything I do extra Throughout the week is just like a bonus just so I can try to answer some additional questions Just because I realize if I only do one live a week a lot of people won't get to ask a question So I'm glad the notifications came through So I do these for 90 minutes. I found my sweet spot I was too short for me to I was too long for me. So 90 minutes and Let's go do men ever feel bad for lying even if you have proof Not really a man typically don't feel bad He can grow to regret it as he grows later in his life, but a man knows what he's doing when he does it So he typically doesn't feel bad for it. If he's a liar then liars become accustomed to lying Can you share what my toxic hubby I left six months ago meant by I was too bold Not too sure. Maybe he's trying to say you were disrespectful to him Maybe he wanted to train you and you weren't with Chiquita Harris. God bless you Poor I don't like Lord a look must be blessing you Chiquita now because I've seen your name In here a couple times. Hey Tony my boyfriend and I just got done reading make it work. Oh, that's amazing That's amazing. I'll leave a review on Amazon now Okay, this is so decent that you do this. Hey, God bless. I'm glad you appreciate it now put a hashtag cue before you question if you can and Ruth Ann Hello, mr. Gatsmans. I am 22 years old and I have met a nice man We have been talking every day for a little over a week for over an hour a day What types of questions should I be asking him? Just go with the natural flow pretend when you talking to a man or Woman new if this is guys watch this Pretend that you Oprah Pretend that you Oprah and y'all in your studio and You interviewing this person for the world and you interviewing this person like the most interesting person in the world That's how you ask questions Don't ever be self-centered don't ever talk too much. Don't ever make it all about you Don't ever try to always. Oh, yeah, I do that too. Oh, yeah one time I did this and didn't want to tell your whole story, you know talk equal It's like a tennis match. You hit it to them. They hit it back You hit it back. They hit it back just like that. It ain't on tennis. You don't never get the ball over here and just Keep bouncing on your side. So that's how you got to think of when you in a starting something new and you conversating Denise mill Hi, Tony. I've been talking to this guy for two and a half weeks. He has a six-year-old son He has him for the weekend. He calls me today puts his son on the phone. We talk. Should I read anything into it? Hold on. Let me see how long y'all talk Yeah, you read into it. He he he half trash because this man got his six-year-old on the phone with a woman and Y'all only been talking to and a half weeks now see that go to show you the difference between dads and moms You it's it ain't gonna be a whole lot of moms That's gonna put they six year old on the phone with a new man that they've been talking to and that's why I tell y'all all the Time I try to tell y'all I'm a man Be careful now see think about that boy mama That's six-year-old mama his mama like you got my son on the phone She don't even know unless his mama watching this you got my son on the phone talking to the different mom in every weekend He come over here talking about yeah mama. So I was talking to Lisa and Lisa said She was walking her dog. And then you know what mom? I was talking to Jessica and Jessica said that she had to go to the doctor Mom you don't have to go to the doctor. Do you that's how six-year-old talk so the mama like what in the world? and So really the daddy doing that to get back at the mama because he know the six-year-old can't hold water So the six-year-old keep going in and telling the mama every different name. He didn't talk to so that's a red flag Because a parent supposed to be protecting They child from new people until they know cuz he don't know that you ain't the woman from that Gabrielle Union movie unbreakable or whatever it's called The break-in or something, you know, he don't know that you ain't Going up there. Hi Tony coach Tony a God bless you ladies Chanel Blessings to you. How does the 14-day? No contact rule work again. Let me see something Cuz now I don't know if that's in the book. No Now the 14-day rule ain't put that in a book. Okay, I just mentioned that but that's that's a very That's something that you gonna need coaching for cuz you know, I can't put that out there because That's real specific and that's typically only used in marriage. You need to use that in marriage and this win Now this is three days. That's a 72 hour rule the 14 This is the marriage this win You but you fed up in marriage and you getting ready to be done You ready to sign somebody divorce paper, but you need to send one last message You need to send a message to see when you leave He don't know or she doesn't know it's 14 days This your two weeks to pray to heal from God the detox and to see how the energy is if they're gonna chase you How they act them that's what that two weeks is for but you only use that When you on your last leg you on your last straw You don't use that every month and you go on two weeks every month when you get into argument you use that when It's time to go And you need that last look lately or God bless you Hi Tony. I'm 21. I see how Nazra hopped in there right when I finished that question Boom and I've seen the question right there. That's how I'm gonna be answering these questions I so y'all got the timing so because all this is scrolling y'all have me sweating under the arm and I just came Last night. I'm having to shower after these things because I'm trying to read and I'm trying to think I'm trying to answer So I'm gonna get the question that's right there when I finish talking. All right, so y'all try to time it a little bit Hey, Tony, I'm 21 Try to read some of the first I met a I met a guy a couple months ago Everything was great, but now I told him I can't see you But he got mad at me and said what kind of craziness is this and now he can't even call me For one you too young to be dating you 21 you need to be in a book You need to be in a book you need to be in a journal you need to be in a business class You shouldn't be worried about no man right now And you met him a couple months ago and then you told him you can't see him So if you told him you can't see him you can't worry about him getting mad You know you you can't have a cake and eat it to either you gonna date and be dating or you're gonna be single So you go ahead make up you make up your mind Because if you if you on that if you walk in the line guess what? You're gonna get split you hit me if you walk in the line So you gonna have to get on one side or the other you got to be hot or cold I talked to a guy for five months. He said he wanted To give it four months to know if I was the one before he put a title on us talking He started switching up and ghosted me God bless him. God bless him. Good riddance You ain't waste too much time Is it possible to co-parent in the same household with an ex that has been? Buesa in the past. No, it is not It is not you should never be living in your house with your ex If you're gonna live with somebody then y'all need to be together and y'all need to be working on the relationship And it needs to be a healthy relationship never live if you got the you better off in a shelter Then that's what the Bible talk about how it's better to live in a corner of a house A corner of the roof than to be in the house with a contentious woman or something to that effect The same thing goes you better off in a shelf You better off in your grandma house your auntie house your uncle house your mama house Then living with your ex who was in the past You can't live with somebody like that because that's that's gonna affect your child that you're raising Let me see talking to Talking to divorce two years on and off, but still just text Talking to divorce Be some talk to a divorce man On and off, but still just text two years but still just text and He's inconsistent, Olivia I pray for I got on here, but I need to say one more prayer now listen, Olivia talking to a divorce man for two years on and off But you still texting two years in and he's Inconsistent come on now y'all got the pre-segment y'all got to respect my time a little more than that. No, Olivia. Come on now Come on. No, Lord bless you. You said it's about Perspective I ran across a guy that seems great Would it be too bold to ask him what type of women he's interested in physically and mentally to get an idea of a guy like him his type yes, it would be too bold because When you do that to a man, he's gonna describe you He's just gonna describe you to get you calm to get you relax Then once he gets you there now Because you approach him and because you asking that thirsty question now he gonna have a gatorade for you You can't go up asking the man them type of questions But you got to realize you ran across him if you run across him And he don't run up to you and try to talk to you get to know you that means you're not his type or it means That he's taking So you can't you can't Can't go up asking those questions with your tongue out your mouth like that. Don't do that Bow down to heaven. God bless you. God bless you baby. That is cheated and asked for a chance I was under the impression that we were working on it and allow him to see the kids at my house Last night a girl called me asking for my favorite at it. Don't want him at my place anymore. Am I wrong? You are not wrong a hundred percent. You are not wrong You thought y'all was working on it and he showed you otherwise so what you need to do in this situation is now you're gonna have to Make it a business relationship. You want to see the kid We're gonna meet up here at the park unless they got it rolled off right now because of the 19 other than that Find we'll sit outside and play we'll sit outside and play because your man might be in the house You got to give him that type of energy to where he doesn't know what you have going on behind your doors That currency I'm a God bless you should I relocate About two two and a half hours to be in a relationship It depends on if you a man or a woman if You a woman then no you shouldn't relocate if you a man and that's your wife Then yes, you should relocate and the reason why I say that's because it's a lot of men men need to lead So the man he need to be able to and if the man want you to move to him that he need to marry you He need to marry you first, but don't move don't ever move for a man because man so finicky You'll move had your whole life there and then he you find out he got somebody else and now you don't up and move and You don't got the money to move back because you spent your savings to pack up and move there But if you a man and that's your wife then yes move because you work in it Well, it's all the same jobs all around the world The coach of God bless you. Thank you for that blessing pull out in her life Blessing to you and the Queen. I'm forever grateful to be linked with you My life has changed nothing but wisdom. Hey, God blessing. Thank you for you and your boyfriend read and make it work Phoenix, how do you calm the flesh while in your single season? I don't need set but the enemy be taunting me You're gonna calm your flesh through prayer for one praying for the strength and then two because once you pray for the strength The strength given to you, but you just got accepted and you got to walk in it The next thing you got to be quiet so that you can hear What do you want you to do in this season? So I posted today the birth of your book. Go on write your book write your book Go on start your foundation Go on get to that next level that next step what you supposed to be doing and when you busy that's gonna help you Jojo God bless you. God bless you pull out in her life Pull out in her life Just want to bless you because your videos has revealed so much about what I was doing wrong I'm single right now working on my brand and starting coaching at my mentor God bless you. You're the best Tony and laugh at all your videos By myself in my car. Hey bless you. I sure appreciate that And you time that thing right now and How to get a man to apologize? He hurt my feelings with words Said I need mental help. I said it was disrespectful, but no apology Um, don't talk to him. Don't talk to him. You got to give your energy and what I mean by don't talk to him You unavailable when he called when he text you unavailable You need to when a man do that you kind of got to pull back for about 12 to 24 hours You ain't activating the 72 hour rule because you ain't there and then he's gonna say what's wrong with you He already know what's wrong with you. Then you able to tell him Um, I'm upset about what you said to me and I feel like that's verbal You know And so I really expect an apology And so go on let him know what's acceptable We're talking to you and what's not But you also before you do that now you need to check and see if you're just being sensitive See if he was being serious or if he said it jokingly and you took it serious Luciana God bless you. I know you've said to offer to pay on the first date to see if he lets you Now if he lets you should you not accept a second date It depends on how you vibe with this man, you know, because it's different reasons why a man will let you pay So for one reason he'll let you pay is because he really ain't got it right now Or in general even after this he's 19, even if he'd have been furlough He just doesn't have it and meaning that his budget just don't allow it not that he can't spring for Another reason is he may not understand that move He may not understand He may be so shocked that you did that that he may think this is a part of some You know women's empowerment movement of women offering to pay half And so he may not want to end up in in a movement Like oh if I tell her no, she's gonna probably gonna read me like oh he is trying to you know suppress me And this is a new day where women are empowered and we could pay half of the date And so you don't know if he's viewing it like that So you can't really take offense to it in this day and age I mean women out earning men Is bigger than chivalry when it comes to that it's really in this day You really letting the man know like listen i'm not coming to you For no meal like I can take care of my own But if he is the one for you Meaning he can afford it and he gonna pay So to be honest, which is not that you shouldn't take a second date But now you just kind of know let me watch let me watch A little more because if he's the one that means his finances in order And he wants to pay Now hold on y'all let me get to the vip line now hold on now everybody dropping the question I got the vip's done lined up and so let me holler them real quick Speech to speech god bless you baby daddy on and off for years. We both mess up Okay, key word right there. We both We both mess up always hold me against him Says really mean stuff when mad says he cares because he does for me But it's still rude 24 and 25 Know each other since high school. Can it work? Nope It ain't gonna be the work. It ain't gonna be the work because now Y'all been knowing each other since high school that high school sweetheart stuff Less than a 1% chance To that's your baby daddy So that's your baby daddy. That's not your husband. So what it mean is you got on your back Before he gave you a ring So what that means is you were diminished in his eyes The other part about that is he talked to your rule If he talked until you rule at 24 25 At 50 he's gonna be dragging you through the mud at 30 dragging you through the mud So unless he goes through something in his life Like a come to jesus meeting like something that shakes him to his core within like the next year Then It ain't gonna work and the fact that you also respect him too. You ain't no innocent party y'all y'all y'all was too young and dumb and full of when y'all got together and Now it has ran his course, but you done brought a responsibility in the world that you got to take care of So that's the issue with that right there. Let's all you god bless you How can a woman co-parent with her Ex-husband when he's disrespectful and calls her out of her name. He teaches the kids to go against their month You All you could do is love yours All you could do is love your kids and they will come to the age to where they know the real From the fake they're gonna see what he's doing The other thing is don't do nothing That's not court order So when a man being disrespectful That means he a disrespectful human being And that means he's gonna be a bad example For your children and it's your job to protect them So if he want to see them Let him get to the court Anything he does or says Screenshot it record it So when you in the court, this is how you talk to me How do you want me to be emotionally intelligent and how do you want me to be Interacting with this man of this how he talking to me Go on present that You might have a judge that understand that Miss perfectly and perfect god bless you god bless you Diane bless you I was here asking questions about a person who broke Into pieces today. I have no question. I want to say thank you. I watch your videos Pray the lock down writing my own book from an Open wound turning pain into purpose. Hey god bless you. God bless you. Keep that boy in a lie Keep that up. Keep all that good work Question, how can she stay fearless in her singleness? What do mdp? Question They fearless in her singleness She's gonna need to pray read a bible And get the knowledge Essence I just got out of a nine-year relationship with my children's father Man I'm gonna have to do a course for all y'all. I keep reading baby daddy baby daddy baby daddy baby daddy baby daddy baby daddy We have this the baby daddy convention I I'm gonna have to do a course for y'all I'm not no co-parenting coach now y'all Y'all stretching me y'all stretching me to a new zone now I just got a nine-year relationship with my children's father. He moved into a new relationship immediately He does not call the children and I receive little to no help feeling angry. Hmm That's a tough one now because you gave nine years But what you got to realize is he didn't move on to a new relationship immediately y'all relationship To see this with your children's father. You ain't say with your ex-husband So what that means is y'all relationship was over seven years ago He just held on because of what y'all brought into the world So and now what you got to realize is Nice on you See a lot of times we always think about this thing as 50 50 They ain't 50 50 when you have children when you have children they want 100 percent yours So if you will be operating from Anger and you'll be operating from frustration and that will Make you less of a mother So what you're going to have to do is write a letter of forgiveness to him You're going to have to read it. You may burn it or put it in a bottle Do what you got to do to release it And you're going to have to talk through it and then what you're going to have to realize is they 100 percent yours So when you lie down for them, although you hoping that this person Going to be 50 50. No, you got to set full responsibility and you got to pretend that He don't want to meet the lord He don't want to meet the lord That's how you got to treat it and if he went to meet the lord what you'll do You got to get down with the get down and you're going to have to make it happen And so don't even ask him for nothing. Don't ask him for nothing Don't be jealous that he had a new relationship because you know, she ain't getting up but some trash And now you get to be the soul influence in your child's life And so really you got to be grateful for that Because now you get to be the soul influence and I don't have to worry about Them being confused by a grown boy And when they get to see how strong you are that's going to help them TD low god bless your high tone and met a guy via online dating now online dating. That's like an online dating app That's first red flag in them now We're both 39. He's in the air force. Okay, 39. He's too old to be on online dating As a man, you a woman's a little different. Okay, he in the air force. So, okay, that's another So he touching stuff in the air force and he online Finding him a extra roster backup team Station two hours away Both want the same things in life He's active duty and I just bought a house. How will this work? slim the none slim the none for one, uh Just take your time pump your brakes take your time Take your time because You for one understand this you can't trust a man online dating The reason why is because there's two men and women in the world for a man to get online to be online dating It is too many women in the world You could walk from You he could walk from the door that barrack to the apartment I mean to the stop sign on the base and walk past 10 women He could go to the grocery store. It's 150 women in there A man has no reason to be online dating And I want to hear about oh, what if he'll introvert? What if he too busy? You ain't too busy if you online You ain't too busy because the time you online you could be out And then the introvert It's harder to Be online meeting strangers then to walk up to somebody that you could feel their energy And a man in the army ain't no introvert And so that's what you got to understand. So you're gonna have to pump your brakes take your time Don't let them move in your house Don't don't don't don't go to that base. Don't go to that base and be on your bike When he gets a little break, don't let him come to your place To be on your bike just because he got his uniform on come in there with some stripes Take your time. I'm telling you Jocelyn god bless you Ashley pit god bless part in our life What will make a man say that he loves you ask you why you love him? You respond to everything you then ask him the same question and he responds with Here you go Why is that? because he don't love you Because he don't love you and see the reason why man asked you that Is because he want to know How much he could get away with He want to know how much he could get away with And then when you put the question back on him and then he escape it That's because he don't feel nothing You know, I I I just bought my family a little doll that little doll come tell me how much she loved me Little doll crawled up on me came and went to licking in my ear getting all kind of whites out there and I say if a doll Can tell you I love you A human ought to be able to tell you why they love you So that's what you got to realize. So this is the thing y'all let it start getting set up for the ok though Don't don't let don't If the man want to know something you tell me you the man What is the what what you think the man is in the household? He gonna say Uh, the head of the household Okay, so what does the head do it leaves? All right, tell me why you love me Now you hear that then you could give feedback I am god bless you. Tony. I'm learning but need help. I have awesome chemistry with a man But hasn't moved To know more about me outside of business. What's wrong? Is he taking not getting anywhere after talking five months? Okay, yeah, you wasting your time you wasting your time because all he's doing is talking business So that's all he want with you And I don't know if he need an investment partner. I don't know if he want to get hired I don't know if he want to do business But if all he talking about is business For one, y'all don't got no chemistry Okay, you got everybody need to take chemistry at your bio at your Vocabulary chemistry is for the science lab For the science classroom because the thing about it is when you identify with the word chemistry Guess what happens in chemistry as well Stuff blow up in your face when you don't know what you're doing when you don't know what you're mixing So when you're mixing grown boy with lies with lust That chemistry finna blow up in your face. So take that chemistry out And remember this the thing never talk to somebody more than three months Because life too short. Okay life is too short Even if you live a hundred years life too short to get somebody your time and your energy In a romantic type situation and they can't tell you by the three month mark That they want to be exclusive that they've seen what they need to see So understand that so yes, you wasting your time says just go and close the door Let them talk to the voicemail And move forward and if he want you he need to do cartwheels and somersaults to get you Because he done wasted five years of your life already Shannon god bless you. Hi Tony. I'm just curious about what you think. I'm 27 and I was dating a 33 year old I later found out his ex is 67 And they still talk I left He gonna end up on american greed y'all ever watch american greed on cnbc The only reason we're 33 year old talk to a 67 year old is he won't hug ssi and her Uh retirement check So that he could ball till he fall he won't he'll be in her house. He won't that's stability And so when a man 33 talked to a 67 year old, that's when you know, he'll scammer he'll scammer He want to get all her friends from the bingo club Social security so he could get drops on do do their taxes and before they file it he'll scammer You got to run you got to run Yes, see god bless you Working things out living together working things out living together red flag I'm celibate and saved Okay Okay red flag. I keep turning him down. He seemed to get a little bothered at times by being quiet He's trying but says it hurts him Can I even help him what to do you could help him by not living together? But if y'all ain't married because you say you celibate which really means you abstinent You abstaining from sex and so you celibate and save now Now clarification here for those of y'all who say oh if you say you shouldn't be living together The sin is not living together. The sin is for an occasion Shacking up is not living together. Shacking up is sleeping with somebody that you living with So what y'all are right now y'all roommates, but what you got to understand is Is that you can't play with fire and not get burned? so you doing him wrong because You abstinent and save And y'all trying to work things out, but y'all living together See when you doing it the right way, he need to be able to stand on his own two feet Paying his own rent and you need to be able to stand on your own two feet paying your own rent Then y'all talk every day y'all could do dinner dates and then y'all going on dates on the weekend He asks you to marry him y'all set the date Then you get married somebody break they lease or you time it to wear one at least up and then y'all move in together So that's how you're going to help him, but you're not going to help him Walk and prancing through the house with booty cheeks clapping and talking about you celibate That's going to drive a man crazy. So Date to see if he intentional about the relationship get married then Okay Now You could get down to it But what y'all doing y'all playing house and that's going to prolong the situation And you don't want to do that Ruth and god bless god bless nine I want to get back over here to these questions and these across the top they pop up on the screen. So y'all forgive me Due to this quarantine. I cannot go on a date with the man I met Until june 10th Now now roofing where you live at Where you live at Because you didn't got some intel I ain't heard nine So let me know where you live nine. Did you in Italy? Because I have not heard that june 10 What should we do in the meantime we talk on the phone and FaceTime every day now I see this what you're gonna have to do In a situation like that now y'all talk on the phone what y'all gonna have to do Because y'all talking what you're gonna have to do is um Get on Netflix and Start to move at the same time Start to move at the same time and y'all sit there and just commentate why you watching the movie The other thing what you're gonna have to do when when you're in quarantine day Is y'all gonna have to write handwritten letters. You're gonna have to write handwritten letters Now i'm gonna tell you something don't do nothing nasty on that phone Don't do nothing nasty on that phone because it's coming a little bit if you can't get out the house until june 10 then in a little bit he gonna want to See some specialties on that phone So don't do nothing nasty on that phone because that's not safe And understand this don't break The quarantine dating rules because he might have that 19 But if he think he's gonna get him some He's gonna be coughing in the car and then come in there with a cough drop and then You've been being strong What i've been noticing is when you do right when you know right from wrong and you fall into that sin That 19 gonna be right on your bike. You hit me so Stick to the quarantine dating rules And be creative you know Cinema one 800 flowers Or tell him hey Let's do for nothing gift because they still doing some shipping Our budget is $25 You get me one thing that you think I love I get you one thing be creative writer. Um Write a handwritten letter put it in the mail full page letter Like god bless her soul like alia did write a full page letter and this what you got to do in this time right here Um Louisiana beauty he's commenting on a woman's ig god bless you Louisiana god bless her. That's a that's a blessing pour out in our life lord He's commenting on a woman's ig When we first spoke about it. He said it's my fault I'm hurt because I was looking at his stuff Then spoke to him Like Liam Neeson like you said and he sincerely apologized now what now I told you that Liam Neeson was gonna work Now i'm gonna tell you the next thing Don't tell him who told you that Because listen here I don't want no problem Now This is what you're gonna have to do you're gonna have to keep Watching them And let him know that that is Unacceptable that's unacceptable what he's doing because i'm gonna tell y'all something People think instagram and social media and all that is is uh Is innocent that's not innocent You know a man like a woman pictures To get her attention A man comment on a woman page to get her attention unless it's a real friend or family member you know like a Tonic situation He's trying to get her attention and that's a setup Because she's gonna end up liking his picture right on his picture next thing you know he in the dm So you got to keep watching them and you got to let him know Listen, that's a deal breaker that right there. That's a no-go. That's a no-go That's to you right on her picture and this ain't your ken folk That's that's no different you walking up trying to hot letter and and don't try to play me like a fool You you say that in the Liam Neeson voice. Don't try to play me like a fool playboy. Come on now Uh Joe Joe, they still got your blessing up their god bless you tanya bless your high tone and been married 21 years Married young my relationship has become a marriage of convenience rather than living to make each other better I'm ready to call it quits. Am I wrong fulfilling this way? You're not wrong because you're human You're not wrong because you're human But you need a second opinion before you throw marriage away You need to do some coaching at least one session and you need to talk through it Get some sound feedback be able to have a strategy Uh a session to where you get an ask real questions good questions So that it's driving you to the real answer within you And then when you get that Settlement in your spirit, then you're gonna know how to move forward Um, you it shouldn't be feeling like it's feeling right now though If it's real And I know all the saints gonna say oh where the Bible say I ain't trying to beat you across the head with nobody bible. Okay So get that session before you throw it out the window and then see Because you got a lot more life to live Lady heat tv god bless you god bless you come on here showing up To get that tv show now y'all watch lady heat tv with this blessing him God bless you Pour out in a light merit for about five years Okay, we've got a couple merit folks in here. Thank y'all for showing up Husband revealed now where y'all husbands at? Now uh, hold on right quick Now let me now hold on now Now don't y'all don't don't let y'all husband know You on my life Okay, because Listen to me now Because he come over here He gonna meet the lord soon. So if you love him Pretend like you on the phone with your mom Because he come over here You mean you better have a life in order Merit about five years husband revealed struggling with nasty movies. Okay, you watch my video because you call it nasty movies About three years into the marriage Happened again four months ago He's trying to change trust is severely damaged. We have a seven month twin son I want a life of purity for me and the family. Should I try again? Lord That's a tough one. Yes, you should try again But you're gonna have to be a little more strategic about it than just winging it And you're gonna have to make sure that he's actually willing to do the work So it's books on that it's books about, you know, I remember a young guy reached out to me and he took my birth Your book course So for those you've got a book in you that somebody need just like this young man He took my birth your book course and he wrote a book on that Because he was a uh did to the nasty movies and but I can't remember the title But hopefully maybe if he see this he'll send me a email and um You need to go through the book with him Chapter by chapter Y'all read say look we reading chapter one and we're gonna talk about it And you could go on amazon, you know, type in the real word for it the p word I call it nasty movies, but amazon probably gonna call it nasty movie books So type in the real word and get I would say two to three books and then Go on um psychology today And get a therapist you help pick out the therapist because you need to read the spirit You need to read the spirit Okay, and if it's a woman you're gonna have to go to the therapy session with them So of course, this gonna have to be by skype If therapists can do that a lot of some of them can't And y'all got seven month twins so Right now with this 19 Y'all probably can't go meet in person But if it's a woman guess what if he into the nasty movies, he can't be in the room with a woman Coach or therapist by himself. You got to be in there with your energy in there if it's a man The man might have holes in his socks. What I mean by that is you can't see his problems So the man might have the same problem that male therapists might have the same problem Now i'ma tell you this right here me. I've never intentionally Purposely watched a nasty movie. I don't have that problem But I don't deal with addiction. That is addiction. What's happening is guys who Wasn't really active with women And there was a little On the side they get into those and it does become something that they depend on So those are few steps right there that you can take Every on a brown god bless you god bless you Let me find now. I could talk to him as like a mentor On a coaching session, but I can't really address That right there Can I just buy a woman's influence on e-book? Yes, you can kindle no iBooks if you got a iphone Hey, thank you for the new members of the bless tribe If you are sending money Like jones you need to stop immediately. Okay, y'all talking to each other Kelly god bless. I didn't see that sticker Alicia oh when y'all put the little payments the stickers In the chat sometimes I don't see it because there's so many people writing messages Alicia god bless your husband was on the dl and got aids from a man 25 years Hold on my mic went out. Hold on commercial break your minister Hold on had a little commercial break Need to fix my microphone Let me find a question again. Hold on sister You know god bless. I'm hoping that you out of the marriage and um And I'm hoping that you know everything's all right with you God bless you. I'll be honest with you though. Alicia. I'll tell you what One thing you could do with your situation Is paying the purpose paying the purpose because you know one thing I fear Alicia is that a lot of women today going through what you went through With these men and the reason why is because Other perversion in society You see how tight these men's pants getting Men got back out wearing shirts with their back out Shirts all kind of chest out You know men, you know, just it's it's a lot of it's spirits Okay, and it's a lot of perversion and so men Living their lifestyle to where they can't choose a side and they putting their life in danger being In you know in college they used to call it the dookie shoot And I don't know the proper term, you know, but they in there and then they coming home in the woman and glam rocks The lord gave you discernment And uh But you see you see the spirits you notice it and a lot of times when it's on the father is passed to the daughter or it's passed to the son and they That child's spirit picked that up In the father or the mother subconsciously And then it materialized in the son or the daughter But that's happening with a lot of men today. It's happening with a lot of men because that's why sardiman gamora will burn down It's happening with a lot of men. So y'all ladies you have to be very Mindful and prayerful when you're dealing with these men And if you sense something if you sense something and it'll show it'll show in the mannerisms, you'll see it You'll feel it in his voice It not to say like that is noticeable like that, but you'll just sense the spirit when you sense it Go ahead because he'll bring that heel home to you and then you'll have that heel and and Don't play with it don't play with it How do you feel about asking letting friends or trusted family members set you up with someone? They know or a mutual friend. Is that too old school? Does it sound desperate? No, it don't it don't sound desperate and and that's what you call in business a warm lead So sometimes when a friend or family member sets you up with somebody Sometimes it could actually be better. It could be safer because it's a warm lead So what that means is this person is coming in with a stamp of approval So what happens is they say, okay, I got to do right by this person because I know her auntie I know her uncle. I know her, you know, whoever So they move a little better and they may not play games with you They less likely to play games with you Hey, uh, hold on. I saw somebody sent a blessing in there. I want to catch them sarah god bless you God bless you and y'all let me scroll up a second real quick. Just make sure I ain't miss nobody I don't want nobody to give me a dollar without me saying thank you because I Hey y'all be blessing my spirit um Like jones that question got deleted by share share. Thank you for being on your job Like I don't know what like said But share deleted it. So I trust share care caramel and two bella. They got that little wrench that love I think that's called a wrench. I don't do Manual labor like that, but I think that's a wrench But that little wrench that blue wrench by their name that what that means is they can get you up out of here He stopped being consistent with calling and texting since the lockdown He even mentioned that it threw off the momentum of things Should I give him grace for now or forget it? What do you think forget it? Forget it because this right here lockdown should have brought him closer to you But what it is he probably got him a piece of cheek in the lockdown And so that's why he can't call you because he got them cheeks by And and now you're telling me to throw off the momentum. He texting you from the bathroom But he got him a piece of quarantine in there Okay, so in this right here if you talking If you talking then And and now we in the house you supposed to be closer If if a person or fell off in this situation, you need somebody to talk to in this situation You need somebody to keep your spirits lifted in this situation We in so we supposed to be you know closer than beans and rice But if he fell off in this You got to forget it. You got to forget it Hey y'all I got about 40 more minutes now. I'm gonna try to get as many questions as I can I'm gonna try to keep my answer short But sometimes some of some of y'all questions send me into a send me into a little zone Should I work things out with my husband or two years? He virtually cheated Okay, that's a new kind of cheat. He virtually virtually cheated They were not intimate. She sent him new pics And he sent her flowers. Oh, that's all he gonna give her return. We don't have kids should I stay I'll tell you this right here says Now you think it was virtual is she in another country? Is she in another state? If she's not in another country or another state What you think was virtual that was icing on the cake That little nasty picture that was the chair on top. Oh, yeah, he done Oh, yeah, when you catch a man cheating nine out of ten times He didn't already been cheat Okay, and two years in That's too early. You know, come on now. You still supposed to be you supposed to be locked in off your own strength If if you doing that right there You know, you and you know about it. See a lot of times a man can Do stuff or a woman can do stuff And y'all could get away with it and that's how grace works sometimes but When when you catch it that that mean it's messy You see as even people out here doing what they do They might could get away with stuff before the police catch up to them if they get in and get out But when you start when you catch it that mean that they got complacent and it's messy And and it's two years in and you don't have no Tying responsibility with him. Y'all haven't had children yet I'll be looking the head on out and and in order for him to get you back When you take your 14 day break, he need to go through 12 sessions of coaching With somebody on on on my on my level meaning of understanding Of love and relationship somebody who you see can do what I'm doing or hire somebody who even go deeper He need 12 sessions of coaching that he paid for out of his pocket from his job The show that he's sorry and the show that he made a mistake and that he's doing the work And if he can't do that Kid rocks with open-toed sound was on Um Cloroda God bless you Hi Tony, I'm 30 and this able and I'm a preschool teacher and also a photographer I found myself with guys with no vision. How do I practice self love? You practice self love By moving on as soon as you notice he doesn't have any vision As soon as you notice he doesn't have any vision you move on See don't feel like that because you 30 don't feel like that's a body clock ticking You put disabled in there. I don't know so that means you feel that that's relevant To your dating life. Don't feel like that. That's something working against you Don't feel like that you got to settle with a sorry man just because the lord made you unique So don't give into that now Don't give into that You got a job you working hard You you you got a side gig you're a photographer and a preschool teacher. So listen You're moving and shaking So what that means is you loving yourself keep loving yourself and keep moving forward and and you're gonna know the man That's right for you when you meet him Sarah god bless you Why does husband cheat and try to destroy your credit after five years of marriage and having two children with him Why does he refuse to divorce? He had to put a permanent had to put a permanent restraining order on You know what you got to do you got to learn from the lesson You got to learn from the lesson. You got to realize. Okay. Where was I operating from when I met this man? Was I operating from ignorance? Meaning that you knew better And you chose to do wrong. No, that ain't ignorance meaning that you didn't know better What you operate from ignorance was you operate from desperation Meaning you knew better and you chose to ignore the red flags because you wanted you a warm body because you wanted you a man So in this situation right here You five years in two chairing deep with a man that He showed the red flags In the first 12 months 18 months. So you got to look back and see Okay, what what went wrong Get the lesson from it learn from it and then now Now It may be time to go on keep it moving. Especially when you had to put that r o on Um shite shalt god bless you god bless you not in z. That's new zealand Is that or is that I'm straight from down under Long distance relationship Two and a half years fiance in the states So you over there your fiance in the states Haven't met yet was about to Prevented by the 19 on 14 days now considering another 14 Oh, it's another 14 We are tired We're arguing your v is help me tremendously. Are we wasting our time? Yes, you are Yes, you are you wasting every second of your life You're wasting every minute of your time reason being is because it's been two and a half years now Y'all haven't met yet and you ain't prevented by the 19 because y'all been together two and a half years 19 You had this situation going on for the last, you know 30 days So what happened the other two years and five months so That's what you got to understand you wasting all your time and let me tell you right here if You was in America And he was in another country That would make sense Because it's the land of dreams And they're trying to get over here To the land of dreams where they feel like you could fulfill your dreams now you out there And and when you say down under I thought that was australia But let's say NZ. So that made me think of new zealand. So I don't know where you at but a man in america Don't ever really want to date outside of america because Unless you in a place of of you know Abundance like Dubai Where y'all dry roll rushes like it's a Toyota But other than that unless there's something there for him He just having fun. He having fun. He might want to get some of y'all money. Hey send me some money That's the next question if I was coaching. I actually have you sent him some money in these two and a half years another thing it might be It might be a notch in the belt Oh, let me talk to somebody outside of the country See what that look like have a woman sending me nasty pictures from over there Some men it's just something to do But two and a half years you can't ever trust that if a long distance relationship is real it'll be consummated in 12 months and 12 months he's going to be getting ready to make a move now I don't know what consummated mean, but it sounded good. So we're going to use it right there if it means something other than confirmed and You know brought together like we finna Hey, this is real then change that word out for something else, but I just like the way that sound right there Um jacking god bless you I purchased Woman's influence. Hey bless you Daddy's missus right last night. So you got a few of my books You are a true blessing for us ladies bless your family. I learned a lot the hard way Hey god bless you jacking. Thank you. Thank you for the support on the books too Erica I see hi tony. I'm a caregiver to my brother and he is bed ridden. He did not have any respect for me and I'm 34. He's 50. He thinks he can talk and treat any kind of way I was leaving then 19 happened Caregiving for my brother. Okay. That's your brother So I'm assuming that's your brother 50 years old talking to you now listen to me now he bed ridden so The question is is how much longer does he have? See sometimes you got a better brunt when somebody on their way out Now if he got another 30 years Or something he talking to you like that You're gonna have to sit down with bruh and talk to him with the Liam Neeson and say listen to me You can't get up So you better watch how you talk to me Because I take the legs off this bed And if you keep talking to me sideways I ain't gonna send you to meet the lord But I beat the brakes off you And so you got to understand because see once he go to talk to you like that That means he don't have any He worried about his situation His situation has not humbled him. So if his situation ain't humbled him You got to humble him you got to humble him But if he if you know that The lord getting ready to call him home Just suffer the wrong suffer the wrong because You're being prepared For the next test in your life And you learning how to love somebody who don't appreciate you Now if you was talking about you taking care of your bedroom brother and a man 50 years old that you dating Then I You probably could apply Fatih on you god bless you Fatih on you fade no male I You in the motherland that says a beautiful name now forgive me because They they stole me from over there and I raised in I was raised in the south So sometimes, you know, if I see a tough name like that, I'll trip up But please forgive me. I really appreciate that that blessing that the love that you shown Kay Lonnie God bless you poor out in her life Dating eight months 30 No kids eight months FOMO months is the is the cutoff 30 no kids 33 No kids Great guy now see sometimes y'all think I went to abbreviation university. So I had to take my time on these Great guy patient kind works hard But no ambition to own or create Seven out of ten attraction believes in god, but doesn't attend church Or watch sermons where he can't leave No sleeping together should I continue? um Eight months Believe in god Well, I'll tell you this If he believed in god now the thing about it or does he act does he live like a heathen now This is a question you can answer in your mind if he lived like a heathen then yes You should leave if you living like a child of a king If he does not live like a heathen if he lived like a child of god But just don't go to church or watch the sermons Then he ain't too bad off because We're gonna get ready to come into a new time right now It's preparing us for life without a church And so what that what I mean by that is we can't go in there because of the 19 So what that means is you got to have a relationship With god and with the way our world going we don't know if in 20 years They're gonna be done cut back on Religious places where we can meet together with the world we live in so understand that So the the key is does he have a relationship with god if he don't have a relationship If he believe god if he believe in god just like he believe in a cloud because he could see the cloud You know and so he just oh it's a god somewhere. Yeah. Yeah, it's a higher power But now if he Believe in the text and he lived the life. That's different seven out of ten. That's good. That's good That's about the as best you're gonna get Okay, you don't have no kid. He don't have no kid Let me tell you this keep your legs closed because why are you questioning him? If you get on your bike, then you're gonna have something that's gonna make you stay. Okay, you're gonna have to stay So understand that Keep doing what you're doing with that abstaining Eight months. I'ma tell you this give it at the most Four more months at the most four more months And the other thing I'll tell you is when you are question it When you question it inside of 12 months, that's typically a sign that you need to move on with your life Because normally women's head head over heels and so in love And fantasizing about the man and giving the man credit for stuff. He ain't even dead When you got a pretty decent man and you questioning whether you should be with him That's a sign that he's probably not the one for you But that's of your own choice and of your own doing If you leave this pretty decent man and then just running the trash That's gonna be a lesson learned so so make sure that you're leaving For a because he has a lack of character also understand If he hard working He'll need to create our own everybody ain't built to do this here what i'm doing as an entrepreneur everybody ain't built for that But so if he willing to work and work hard to put food on the table and to feed himself feed his family then Ain't no wrong with that. Everybody ain't built for entrepreneurship Nicole britain god bless you boy Two-year relationship with a guy and my friends think I could do better Now see now. I missed this d slash t class in abbreviation university where y'all think I went to I think I could do better The way he talks to me Maybe that's don't like the way he talks to me and treats me I'm having a tough time thinking about breaking up with him because i'm afraid. I won't find better That's your first mistake right there being afraid that you won't find better. Whatever you believe that's what's going Show up in your life. The other thing what you got to realize is it's been two years When it's two years and y'all ain't even engaged and your friend's telling you you could do better because a lot of time Your friend's gonna lie to you a lot of time your friend's gonna say, yeah, just make it work Just tough it out. You know, these guys are so sorry out here Like you got a good man. You need to make that work a lot of time That's what your friend's gonna tell you when your friend's telling you you could do better It's time to leave and it's two years And you don't like the way he talks to you and treats you Absolutely pack your bags tonight pack your bags tonight Hey, god bless you. Uh, shout out new zealand Okay, it was unaffordable Within Two and a half years booked the flight last year september. No funny business. Okay, so no nasty picture It's very hard but refuse to stoop that low. Hey, I feel you I feel you because He had you over here selling your picture over here on on the well on world wide well You'll be over here On all kind of well sites. You send in many pixel First time 14 days apart for us I appreciate you tonic now. Hold on now. You say you ain't seen them What you mean 14 days apart y'all been a part two and a half. Yeah It Now we a lot to talk on the phone during during the hill 199 So if he's saying he can't talk on the phone Because of the lockdown now you might have some issues to address So sis, let me tell you. Okay. I don't know how the conversion rate is over there in new zealand You're gonna need a coaching session. You're gonna need a coaching session So, uh, visit my mentor dot life. Hopefully caramel could put my mentor dot life in there and Uh, get your session so we could talk through that because I'm a little confused Jasmine god bless you pull out in our life lord. Is it true that men can turn their emotions off when sleeping with multiple women? Yes, to a certain degree, but It's gonna creep up later. He might think he turning it off, but it's gonna creep up later It's gonna creep up and and and just because he turned it off in his head does not mean he's not Forming soul ties. He's still forming soul ties He's still being connected to each of these women and i'ma tell you There's no such thing as casual It's nothing casual about that because when you do that you connect in souls you you sharing juices You your mind and your body thinks that you're recreating life So it's going all the way through with all of the spiritual transfer All of the physical transfer the mind does not know the difference the mind don't know Ain't no feelings for this person. No the mind say we we procreate we reproducing life So there are repercussions for that decision. So no men are not exempt of what comes with that act They we pay for it. We pay for it through heartache headache worry soul ties nightmares broken relationships Poor communication lack of trust It shows up in a man in different ways that he may not acknowledge Ariana brown soul tied from a long time ago Hey, god bless you. Ariana. Thank you for that blessing soul tied from a long time ago Pull out in the light lord friends 23 years Said to me he should just Go and let me marry him Let me marry him No, thank you if he had a chance before he doesn't now we talk about god Praises me am i crazy to ghost him. Yeah, you crazy to ghost him You shouldn't ghost them now just tell them look this ain't going nowhere You know have a real conversation to give yourself closure give him closure But yeah, just tell him Yeah, don't ghost him though Just tell him he ain't going nowhere and you don't want to waste his time don't want to waste your time 23 years, you know, I'm doing doing a little more decent than then Casper Pretty black man said longest a woman doesn't cheat on him with family and close friends and don't have an outside baby He can deal with whatever um you know He lying but it sound good But yeah, he lying. I mean, it's it's down. It's pretty low Just keep the legs closed. Sometimes the man tell you that getting legs open Tony, how do I get a commitment in a long distance relationship? Okay? Like I see you how do you get a commitment? It's going to be extremely hard. I'll tell you the truth. It's going to be extremely hard with a man because a man is Physical he want to be able to hug you. He want to be able to touch you He want to be able to kiss you on the forehead if he can't kiss you in the mouth It's best right now in 19 can't kiss in the mouth, but he want to be able to kiss you on the forehead He want to be able to see you So it's extremely hard. You have to be you have to look like everything he has ever dreamt about For a man to take a long distance relationship to heart and be serious You've got to look like everything he dreamt about then you got a sound like energy Effort everything has to be a dream come true for a man to take a long distance relationship serious And be All the way in a key to god bless you god bless a part in a life for a key to not send me your praise report when the Lord bless you because I'll be praying for you because you even bless me with this here 25 all And I that's why I can't go live every day because the lord and call you to send me 25 all every time I go live and that what I realized is That'll cost you a couple hundred dollars a week. So I got to cut down my lives until The lord give you authorization to stop blessing me with that 25 all you bless me with because Right now I owe you 10% of my brand So god bless you kid and let me know about that praise report lord Please i'm serious about that prayer now when I say pull out in our life. I'll be serious about that y'all I'll be really serious about that then the lord know my heart. He know I really want your blessing to have a hundred fold return This session was really a struggle for me with some of these questions. Hey Hey Know how i'm over here feeling bless you tony for your patience and wisdom Good night to you and the bless try it y'all be well and say god bless the key the key to got to catch that bad time now Now i'm gonna be on here 15 more minutes now i got 15 more minutes Key to get anything key to get all my events free Come on in events free go on get the courses on tony gasses academy for free kill it and kill it and bless me So much on here Just email in I just rewatch can a man love two women How do I take it when he says he's in love with me but loves his ex-wife Slash children's mother Is it worth the relationship? See this is the thing when a man is in love with you you're gonna feel it you're gonna know it It'll be no question about it. So understand that when a man in love with you you're gonna feel it and you're gonna know it So if he in love with you You ought to know without a shadow of a doubt that he's in love with you now understand this hill He lied Because when a man in love with you no other woman exists even his ex-wife who was the mother of his children What I mean by that is she exists? Literally, but he's not going to tell you that he loves her When a man in love with a woman, he's not going to tell that woman that he Is That he loves another woman. I don't care if they didn't have 10 Cheering together so understand that right there for one. He lied about being in love with you And the fact that he had to tell you that he loves her that means that he has a very strong soul Tied with her that means she can get it Any day of the week and twice on sunday and that means that if you stay with him you're gonna be Climbing up the rough side of the mountain So understand that now Luciana Now you sound that sound like you in a cartel Luciana Yeah, like you on narcos nine 499 a god bless you for that blessing bless you If you've already spoken to your ex about leaving things the way they are and he keeps popping up Is it okay to then ghost him? Absolutely. Absolutely. Casper Absolutely, you already told him what it is You didn't let him know you didn't gave him fair warning after that got the block is done You got to move on you can't keep playing with it because see the longer you play with a man You can plan with his emotions and the longer you drag that out the longer he could reach you The more cuckoo for cocoa puffs he gonna get and you don't want to get him to that place to where now He want to do something So be ready go on go on move on cj god bless you dating a woman for a year She's 29 one kid me 27 no kid We talk all the time and go on dates But i'm shorter than her and she cares what others say so I left Hey, you did the right thing You did the right thing cj because You know, you can't be with no woman who looking at top of your scalp and talking about it Oh, you got a new gray hair Oh Right there Yeah, you know and then listening to her friends and then her friends saying Oh, you need a man that's six four girl. You need a man. That's you know, all of this When a woman is caught up in shallow stuff and she's superficial You got the gong because the next thing you know That type of woman should be asking you to spend bill money on a new purse for That type of woman She'll be asking you to go in the negative to take her out there red lobster So when a woman get caught up and she'll pass on and and she got a child You come in trying to love her and you ain't got no child You coming in trying to be amazing step daddy like russia wilson now and see that's how she should have been See how russia came in now russia ain't had no kids And sierra looking at the top of his scalp so On time they the same height and when she doing her dancing when she twerking as soon as she stand back up She's looking at the top of russia head But guess what she loved her. She loved them Got married had a child with them. That's when a woman has mature That's when a woman has matured if a woman can't appreciate you For your character and understand that when y'all get married and lay down y'all the same height They ain't the one for you brother. You got to keep it moving. She too shallow She don't know how to appreciate a real man. She listen to her friends And she bringing a responsibility a lifetime responsibility into the situation She ought to be even more mature. So that's really a red flag At least god bless you party like a blessy day lord blessy day for that blessing New guy one date Been on quarantine four weeks. We talk and video many hours a day And night no nasty, but every weekend he doesn't call six to eight hours says he with his friends and family Is this true or is he with someone physically stay or run? He he he with another one on the weekend because now hold on right quick. Now hold on. Let me see Oh no, what? You know what he knew he knew so yeah You need a little more time because because he knew It's too early for him Hold on. Hold on. Hold on He with no friends and family right now Could laugh for weeks. We've been on lockdown So they got to be social distancing Oh, yeah, yeah, that's a red flag that is probably another woman in there now But like I say sometimes cheating Faithfulness can look like cheating. He could truly be with friends and family. But this is the thing Men don't really care About friends and family meeting a new woman. Men don't really care about that So if he really with friends and family Then he could take And call you Hey What's up, hey, I wanted you to meet my home was Um, Jeff in here. Hey Jeff. Hey, this is what I was telling you about You see what I mean? So friends and family men don't care about them meeting a different woman every week So if he ain't calling you for six to eight hours to me as a man my intuition telling me He with his woman That he dealing with that that's number one on his list and you One of the roster fillers that he's thinking about If he feel like she acting up, but yeah, it don't sound right to me Jay Renee, God bless you poor thing alive Hold on joy somebody telling joy to drop a question Hold on that joy Now joy put it quick put your question in that joy. Okay joy Let me answer joy real quick because that 1999 they're gonna leave that up there because that's a that's a large blessing Joy, when do you think is the time if ever to reveal sexual past to your partner and elaborate on your opinion? Of age difference in relationship Okay, you telling me to elaborate on my opinion on age difference. Okay When do you think is the time if ever to reveal sexual past to your partner? Be honest with you, it's never the time it's never the time for that See your past is you get your past to God God to forgive you for your past you get on past that Don't nobody want to live through relive through your past Don't nobody want to relive through your past So when you go to talking about your past and everything you did when y'all finally come together and y'all consummate it She's gonna be picturing you with them other women. So leave the past in the past And most women don't ask a man what they number is most women don't want to go into that conversation It's us men who want to go into that conversation So you might be tempted to tell her about your past because you might want to know about her past But you could judge a person by their present. What I mean by that is If she was loose booty in her past It's a good possibility. You're gonna sense some of those loose booty ways If you will lose booty in your past She gonna be able to tell you will lose booty in your past unless y'all done came into Christ and become a new creature Now on the age difference listen to me You want to stay within five years? No more than five years older or no more than five years younger The reason being is when the five years typically you're in the same That's what would be considered in my mind the same generation When you get outside of Five years now you creeping towards 10 years now Different generations see things differently You know Millennials not really gonna vibe with baby boomers On conversation that well and views on life so views Views on life is different with age differences So understand that j. Renee God bless your ex-husband and I broke up I blocked him. How do I maintain a relationship with his seven-year-old daughter who I had a good relationship With and love while I'm trying to heal from the breakup You can't do both you can't do both What you got to realize is when you go into a relationship It's like taking a gamble And when you do that Sometimes you lose your shirt And so When you lose your shirt you got to be okay with that So the thing is is what you have to understand is that Children are more resilient than adults The stuff that a lot of children go through If a dog went through it It'll break the adult down But a child what you're gonna realize is by the time she's of an age that matters She's not gonna remember the one that her daddy with was with before she was seven She may vaguely remember you but she ain't gonna care that much because she got her own mama Or she gonna have her her step mama, you know, whoever he get with so you can't Get the feeling like you so important to her life Even though you love her if you get the chance to talk to her let her know like hey sometimes relationships They don't work out and me and your dad it's not gonna work out. I love you and but I have to move forward with my life. She might not understand right now She'll understand when she get a boyfriend at 13 14 15 And so you can't ever stay stuck with a soul time just because you because see god got the chair See god gonna make sure her heart is healed and that she's gonna be okay That's why he made them like that because see that's why god made kids so resilient because he knew What adults was going to be going through Because see somebody could lose their daddy to the street somebody could lose their daddy to You know when he on deployment Somebody could lose their daddy or their mama in a whole bunch of different ways. That's why god made their heart So resilient so that they can heal and they can forgive and they can forget So don't don't don't get caught in there Joy, what does it mean when a woman or man is seeking not joy? He'll get all the questions in joy say me. Hey, let me get another question in now, brother Since I got you what does it mean when a woman or man is seeking to know the sexual past? Okay, so joy had this question in here Two three different ways now Of the current or potential partner and is this a sign To tie the track shoes and keep running. Okay joy be read more instagram q&a throw the track shoes in there now It's just a person being nosy Okay, it's just a person being nosy and that's just how we are as humans. We just knows it and so when When a woman or a man is seeking to know the sexual past It's really what I call the relationship resume A lot of time we want to check a person relationship resume just like when somebody coming on a job We want to see how we're all you don't work. What kind of skills you got And how many times you've been fired? So that's all it is they try to check the relationship resume and Really, you just got to learn how to answer that and if you a man and you want to know about her Then you just got to learn how to read her because you really don't want to know that answer Because with today's age y'all y'all Her number might be 20 or 30 And you're gonna be trying to sleep And you're gonna see this man You're gonna be trying to get you some sleep and you're gonna see her Why are you trying to sleep you waking up with cold sweats? You waking up Can't breathe, you know, you So i'm gonna tell you like this right here Leave that question alone and worry about who she is today Worry about who she is today. Okay, if she carry herself like mother Teresa today All right, Teresa. It is don't worry about what she did in that past. Okay And because i'm telling you but you don't want to know even if it's only been one It still don't haunt you i'm trying to tell you Angela god bless you poor out in her life poor out in her life terracotta That's a uh, okay terracotta. That's a blessed name terracotta kim Bless me Poor out in her life tonic. I have an associate. We've known each other for years Never had been a part eight years I found out from a woman at Neiman Marcus that he is married He hasn't told me. Why isn't he telling me? okay um You might look better than his wife You might look better than his wife might be some a little new Little new booty like uh, what's his name uh, paul wall. No, what's the boy name? Miss new booty Get it together bring it back to me. That's what he so really what it is He he's a grown boy. He's a grown boy. That's why he's not telling you so You got to understand the lady at Neiman Marcus told you See work at Neiman Marcus. Okay people work at Neiman Marcus don't lie All right, because they get paid 10 percent every sale they make they got no reason to lie So the woman has seen him in there shopping With his wife She don't lie. Okay. So what you so what you need to do? Get gone get gone gone Gone about your business i'ma tell you right now But that's why he ain't telling you because he wanted to cheat Oh, okay. Okay. My deepest apologies for the confusion. Okay. I see you shout out Word again wrong first time taking 14 days break from each other because of too much arguing Yeah, the relationship old Relationship old y'all y'all been long this for two and a half years And then now y'all on a 14 day break. That's really his exit strategy That's his way to say I need a break so I could go about my business That break is a breakup at this point after two and a half years And it's long distance y'all not married that 14 days That's a breakup. They ain't a break Tony you mentioned That 25 is the age to start dating i'm on the 18 you 18 and you a member of the blessed tribe Now you got your mama credit card or this is your card you paying on the blessed tribe with How do I deal with men approaching me now? They're mostly my age But some are older. Do I just try to be friends or ignore? It's okay being friends just you just can't put yourself in a position To where y'all behind closed doors like of his apartment your apartment his dorm room your dorm room But it's okay to interact with men and just talk to him because you may be an exception to the rule You may meet your husband before 25. My wife married me. She was 20 So I teach the the rule But if your spirit say you an exception then you got to listen to your spirit I ain't all my word ain't the end all be all now. I'm just talking here Sharing my opinion so you can't take everything. I say like it's the law, you know So it's okay to interact. Just don't get on your bike. Okay. It's okay to interact. Just don't get on your bike Hey, god bless y'all. I got to get going now. I told y'all I only do 90 minutes I'm trying to catch my wife because she tried to fake like she's sleeping If I go too long So I'm trying to go on catch up. Hey god bless you. Hey everybody that sent my blessing I really really appreciate it to the person that sent me a cash out because sometimes people get my cash out name Because it's my name and it got my picture and so sometimes people get that a similar dollar You know, sometimes people people sent more than that So I seen the cash out god bless you. Thank you so much And um every Sunday at 9 p.m. For the bless tribe. I'm gonna go live unless The situation around us say otherwise I do have a paypal now my paypal is support at tonigaskins.com Support at tonigaskins.com you can send prayers through paypal or you can send currency through paypal I set it and bless it the same way. God bless you. We'll talk soon