 So y'all keep saying that I'm taking it way too easy on Gabby Hanna. Well, buckle up, mother. What is up, everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul, where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health. And what I like to do is pull different topics from the YouTube community to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being. So for any of that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. Yeah, so I will be unpacking the interview that I never just did with Gabby Hanna and some exciting news. Editor Zach is back editing this for me. Tristan and I are about to watch that new show on Netflix called You and a lot of people have requested me to check it out. So I'm having Zach edit this video. All right. But anyways, go check out Zach's channel. It'll be linked down in the description. All that good stuff. Good guy. Him and I did a collab not long ago, about 500 days of summer. If you want to go check that out. First and foremost, what I want to say is this, like going into this thing. When I found out, like I've seen Inapper like teasing this video. First, he was just like, oh, I got something exciting that I haven't done before. Then when I found out he was interviewing Gabby Hanna, I'm like, oh, no. Oh, Lord and Lord, no. And I, dude, I got to give Frasier, AKA Inapper some credit. Like I was going to like maybe just talk crap to like Tristan about how like YouTubers really need to not try to interview people. But Inapper killed it. So when I watched, when I watched like Boogie to 988 interview could behind a camera or when Nificers interviewed Bobby Burns, not great interviews. And the reason being is because the interview was in a way where the interview were was empathizing too much and leading questions in a very agreeable way. Like Frasier, like he came, he came at Gabby hard. You know what I mean? Like, so good on you, Frasier. Excellent, excellent interview. I'll tell you this. If there's ever a scandal with me, Chris from the Rewired Soul, Inapper is definitely doing that interview. All right. So anyways, yeah, I'm going to go through this interview and unpack different things that Gabby said and talked about. I definitely think there were some good things. I I'm really glad that I think by the end of this interview, everything was answered and talked about nothing left out. Again, great job, Inapper. But there's definitely things that I think Gabby could work on to avoid these things in the future. But again, my videos aren't for Gabby, especially since you talked about not watching YouTube, which I'm going to address in this video. But I think this can help a lot of you if you can relate to some of the things that I talk about in this video. So the way I responded was coming from a place of like frustration and anger and feeling like, oh, this is just one of those things where the Internet gets upset about something just because they're bored. And that's what I was approaching it as that first clip, first clip. Big no, no, big, big, no, no. I talked about this in my James Charles video where I discussed mindfulness and strengthening your prefrontal cortex, which is your pause button. Gabby Hannah talks about how she was coming from a place of anger and a place from hurt when she made that video. Don't do that. You guys, like I can't get it through to you enough. This is why you need to meditate. I know meditation can seem boring. I've done I did a video about meditation the other day. I'm going to release a video probably next week about six very easy mindfulness practices that you can do to help strengthen the prefrontal cortex. But anyways, like what I said about James Charles, like the last thing you need to do when you're all emotional is go tweet something out. But Gabby Hannah made this video and then we see what happened because of that. Hold on, Zach, I got to see what I was talking about in this note I got right here. Just because I assumed that doesn't mean that like my 13 year old audience or older audiences looking at it like that, like they were looking at it as I'm going to get $80 brushes in my head. I was just like, OK, $10 for like these brushes don't look. I would pay that, you know what I mean? OK, so right there, Gabby Hannah is like, this is an assumption that I shouldn't have made for everybody. Absolutely, absolutely. So this is going to sound terrible. But when I was doing freelance writing, when I was learning how to do like copywriting, one of the editors I worked with and this is going to sound terrible, but screw it. He said, write everything like the people you're talking to are idiots, right? But I think that's a great way to just kind of think and explain things because, you know, a lot of times we're not expressing empathy. So what Gabby's talking about right there when she took this deal, when she saw what the deal was, she assumed everybody knew exactly the same things that she knew, which isn't the case, especially if you think about Gabby Hannah maybe having a younger audience. They don't have that life experience. For example, for me as a 33 year old man to assume Gabby has the same life experience as I do would be me not being empathetic towards her. You know what I mean? So we really need to pause again, pause. I think 99.9 percent of Gabby's problems would be would be less if she paused a little bit more. But as a whole, we need to start doing this and thinking about this. Like when we're talking to people, like when I talk to my son, right? I need to, you know, be mindful that he may he not may he's 10 years old. He doesn't have all the information that I do. So I can't get too frustrated with him if he doesn't have that knowledge. Now, if I taught him something and then he tries to act a fool, that's a different story. You know what I mean? But this is especially important for YouTubers. And later in this video, I'm going to be talking about how Gabby is disconnected from her audience, but the more disconnected YouTubers are from their audience, the more things like this happen where you assume too many things. I would say most of the people making these videos, I don't think that the intention is just to attack somebody. You know what I mean? I think that people saw something that they didn't like. They thought it was it wasn't right. There's a lot of young people who are upset. There are people who are spending their money and it is something to be talked about. I think this is good that Gabby talked about this and I wish I wish more YouTubers understood this. Something that I'm working on doing a video on is just just the differences and the similarities between YouTubers and like mainstream celebrities. So Gabby is talking about how like she understands that, you know, not all commentators are doing hate or trying to throw shade or whatever that is. So like it's really weird because I fall into this like into kind of the commentary category, but I'm using it to ultimately teach a lesson to you, right? But some of you have been following my channel for, you know, at least a week. You've you've seen that some big YouTubers have, you know, been offended or upset about some things that I've said. You know what I'm saying? And and it's it's apparent that Gabby is understanding that, you know, you're in this position, there's going to be comments and that, you got from the commentary community, which seems contradictory based on what they talk about later with her Instagram thing. But I'm going to touch on that pretty soon here. But I think it is important to know that we're going to be judged. We're going to be under a microscope. There are people who are going to talk about this, especially if you're planning on being a YouTuber, right? I've talked about this before. Kids want to grow up and be YouTubers and things like you've got to understand there's there's a good and bad to everything if you're going to be in the public spotlight, if you want to be a celebrity, if you want to be on YouTube, you want to be a Twitch streamer, you want to be an Instagram model. These are the things that are going to happen. That's why I try to have you think and analyze and look at these things inside these videos and see what these YouTubers are going through because part of what will do like this when we're seeing stuff. Oh, oh, being a YouTuber seems awesome. Like you've got to look that there are negatives to the situation as well. Are you ready to deal with that? And something that we saw in Gabby's video at the beginning of 2019 is that she I don't I don't I wouldn't comment on whether or not this is a bad career for her. You know, like I've seen some people say that, but she needs to learn how to manage it in a different way is what I would suggest. They were like, you know, we're kind of like offended that you're questioning us. Like we've been really professional with you up until this point. So like for you to come to us and like kind of say this is a scam, like whatever. So then it was just sort of like they really pulled the wool over my eyes to and saying that like they're like, you know, we've always been up front about the shipping times that then I saw later people were talking about like the shipping times changed and stuff like that. So I was answering everything based on what Kenza was telling me, which I mean, I chose to believe a company over people on Twitter, which at the time felt like the right thing to do. And now I'm realizing like, damn, Kenza sucks. All right, Gabby, Gabby, Gabby, baby girl. So something that I try to teach people a lot, a lot, a lot. It's in everything that I do is to, you know, be be smarter and and take more responsibility for everything that you're doing. Like I get it. It seems like Kenza screwed Gabby over pretty much. But like the emails, the emails that they were showing, Zach put them up on the screen right now, like just the way those emails are written. Like these are emails after the fact. But I wonder what the introductory emails look like, right? Like I would have been like, this might not be OK. You know what I mean? Like these are red flags to look for. Like, OK, this email is kind of structured funny. Maybe I should hop on it, right? But anyways, like looking for like red flags, I put this up on my Twitter the other day. This is an email I got. This is an email I got, which is talking about their company that sells knockoff handbags. I tweeted out like, I don't think this would be a good fit for the channel, right, because looking at that email is sounded like this is not a good thing. Right. And this was a little bit more glaringly obvious that maybe the introductory kinds of cosmetics ones were, but like Gabby is learning and like many other creators are learning, we do have a responsibility to our audience to look at these things. First of all, when I see, I don't know if people are going to be like, I'm sad with me about this. But like if I see a video with my face on the thumbnail, I will like click, show me less videos like this, not interested, whatever. And I don't know if that's like a normal thing to do. But for like who I am and like my the way my brain works, I can't see it. I can't look at it. But it also got to a point where like I don't get on YouTube at all anymore. So I haven't logged on to YouTube since I posted my last video before that. I haven't logged on to YouTube since I posted the video before that. So I don't watch any YouTube throughout this video. Gabby says this over and over and over. And let me tell you, all of you, this is not what you do. OK, this is what we call avoidance. All right. So Gabby is talking about how she has been avoiding these things. She does. She uploads. She uploads a video and then doesn't check on it, right? Maybe she comments for the next hour or so on it. You know, she's unplugged from social media. She's not looking. She's not looking at any of this stuff. And then we saw what happened. This is what we call avoidance. And this is what so many people struggle with. This is what I struggle with. So so let me let me explain some of my avoidance and let me know if you can relate to this. So, for example, when I was like doing this, I was talking to my mom about it and Tristan about it, too. Like for me, looking at my bank account gives me anxiety, right? Like looking at it like I like to imagine like, OK, maybe I have more money in there than what I should or whatever it is, right? And I don't check my bank account. Then, you know what happens? Then I get overdrafted and then I act all surprised. It's because I was avoiding it or I get stuff in the mail and I don't open it up because maybe it's a bill. Maybe it's something I don't want to see. Or I get phone calls from bill collectors and I choose to avoid them and not look at them, right? Like these things can start to spiral out of control. It is not good. It is not healthy. Now, for me, which is much different than Gabby Hannah, I turned to drugs and alcohol. That is part of my addiction. I was avoiding life in general. I was avoiding my feelings. I was avoiding my emotions. I was avoiding my anxiety, my depression, all these different things. I was avoiding them, so I was turning to toxic behaviors. Now, the way to get out of this is there's a lot of different techniques. A part of it is weighing the consequences, like are you experiencing consequences? So like if you can relate, like if you avoid things in this way, if anything that I mentioned or anything else that you can relate to, if you want me to dive deeper in that in a video, let me know down in the comments below, because I know avoidance is something that I'll want a lot of people struggle with. And there are some therapeutic techniques that might be able to help you get off for that. I know that they're out there like watching, but I forgot how much actual influence I have because to me, I like lost touch with that in the sense that I'm so far out of the YouTube community. I don't hang out with a lot of YouTubers. I try to hang out with like people who have like day to day jobs and my friends from high school and college and stuff like that. So this reminded me who I am and what influence I have and how many people are watching me and that people will go just blindly buy a product just because I said that I like it and stuff like that. So as much as people are like, don't pretend that you don't know your influence. This was like, I do have a big influence and I have to be careful and then put me back into touch with like what's important and like reality and like humans. And speaking of consequences, right there, right there, Gabby is starting to see consequences. So I really hope because Gabby says that she's going to therapy again that she's able to work on getting out of these avoidance techniques because she's already experiencing consequences. She like wanted to be like a makeup artist and she was hoping that like she would get these brushes and it would help her like become a makeup artist. And then she spent her money on them. And she's just like, these aren't like a good enough quality for me to do that. And that made me sad that like this girl spent her money on something. And Gabby, Gabby, baby girl, baby girl, this bums me out so much. I see this constantly. I see this happen so, so, so much. All right, where people like Gabby's like sitting there crying. Like she's so sad about this story that she heard about this girl who's, you know, she wants to be a makeup artist and she wants to do this and she spent her money and, you know, these brushes aren't up to the quality. Like, Gabby, you make a crap ton of money. Buyer some expensive brushes. Like what? What? Like, here's what I'm trying to teach all of you. And by the way, both like disclaimer, like maybe Gabby did and she just didn't say it. But here's the thing, like our emotions like that, they're a call to action. OK, like if you feel bad, every time you walk by a homeless person, do something about it, right? I'm not saying empty out your wallet, but like something that I do, I don't give homeless people money because I'm a former drug addict and alcoholic, but if they're outside of a gas station, like, and they want something and I have the money, right? I'll be like, yo, do you want me to get you some water? Because in Las Vegas, it's super hot in the summer. I'm like, can I get you something to eat or whatever that is? Like, I just don't give money. But anyways, your emotions are a call to action. So Gabby could have done that. Like, don't just sit here and be sad about it and cry about it. Freaking do something about it. You know what I mean? Because this is something that so many of us do throughout life. Like we just walk around feeling bad for other people or we part of this outrage culture. Like, did you hear about what's happening to the starving kids in Africa? Well, donate some damn money to it. Don't just sit around here talking about the problem. How about you focus on the solution? Boom, tied it into the intro. You like that? Zach, you like that? You know, there's no need to be negative, like fight. Like, if you're hurting inside, like, I hope you feel better. Like, it was something along the lines of like, I'm going to be the bigger person and it was it was not. It was horrible because then, of course, my followers are going to go attack her and that's why I took it down and I felt really bad about it. All right, all right, all right, all right. We finally got to the Instagram thing. So Gabby's talking about how she felt awful for this, how she felt awful. OK, I still don't think that Gabby did anything wrong. I don't. Absolutely not. Still don't made a video about it. A lot of you were like, I disagree. That's cool. I don't think Gabby did anything wrong. And by the way, for everybody who's like, this girl didn't attack her. Like, the girl literally said no one. Like, that was I don't know how you can read that and not see it as some kind of sass. All right. So Gabby ended up deleting it and all that stuff. But anyways, anyways, a lot of you are acting as if Gabby, like, reposted that and put like a message that said, OK, Minions, everybody attack her. OK, that didn't happen. So what I do think, what I do think Gabby should have done as soon as she found out that her audience was doing that, she should have denounced it right away. That is where Gabby messed up. So all of you, all of you rewired soldiers out there. If I catch you going around spread and hate. Oh, big Papa Chris, I'm coming at you. I'm coming at you hard. So I do think that is where Gabby screwed up is that she didn't publicly say to her fans like this is not cool. And and still, even in this interview, she didn't say that. You know, she felt bad about it, but even Gabby didn't like didn't even like it didn't click for her that she never told her audience to do that. Like we as creators or anybody with an influence, you need to know what we're about and what we don't think is OK. You know what I mean? I don't think that opinions are hate. Like that's not what I meant by that. But what I was saying was your opinion can be hateful. Right there. Right there. I hope this is a freaking lesson for all of you out there for all of you. I cannot believe the kind of hatred Gabby is getting for forgetting one word for forgetting one word. Gabby said opinions are hateful. OK, two words she meant opinions can be hateful. That's what I saw. I was like, oh, Gabby worded this wrong. Like it wasn't even a second thought for me. So all of you out there who are wondering if you struggle with black and white thinking, there it is. There it is. Go check the comments on my last video about Gabby Hanna and tell me how many of them say opinions are hateful, opinions are hateful. Like, do you really think Gabby meant that? Like, again, I think 99.9 percent of Gabby's problems would be solved if she just slowed down, was a little bit more mindful about what she was doing. But for everybody out there who legit thinks that Gabby in her soul thinks that opinions are hateful, like she thinks all opinions are hateful. Like, come on, guys, like talk about reaching. OK, so that's black and white thinking at its finest. Or it's part of what I talked about in my video about Jeffrey and Tana and Trisha, which is this this confirmation bias where you were waiting. You were waiting like, aha, she forgot a couple words. You know what I mean? Like, come on, you guys, like think, think just a little bit. Everybody's like, ignore it, ignore it, ignore it. They'll get bored, whatever they'll go away. And I was just like, but I feel like that's not fair. In that clip, I had to quit hanging out with those people. And I hope you stop hanging out with them, too. Just ignore it. Just ignore it, just ignore it. No, that's why most of our lives are messed up. I censored myself right there. Our lives are messed up because ignore it. Hey, you got a bill? Ignore it. Hey, these people are mad at you? Ignore it. Oh, your girlfriend's mad? Ignore it. Oh, your boyfriend's mad? Ignore it. Oh, you make your parents upset? Ignore it. No, no. This is part of avoidance. And one thing that we do, like when you guys wonder what I'm talking about with enabling Gabby has a behavior, an unhealthy behavior of avoidance. And she surrounds herself by people who are giving her terrible advice that plays into her avoidance, right? Like I am so, so, so grateful for my beautiful and amazing girlfriend sitting right there because when I want to avoid stuff, she tells me, no, go look at it, go face it, go handle it right now. Right. So like I recommend that for all of you. That's that's tip one. OK, let me know down in the comments if you want me to do a full video on avoidance, but that's tip number one. Keep people around you who do not reinforce your unhealthy avoidance behaviors. Because I don't really speak to massive YouTubers and stuff and everyone gets a perception that they are just so void from reality. But it is nice to know like people they are thinking about their fans and stuff. Of course, yeah. That last clip right there, that last clip. Fraser, if you're watching this, I think that is the only bad thing that I never said this entire interview, right? Where he said that he doesn't think that Gabby is disconnected from reality. Throughout this entire video, Gabby explained how and why she's disconnected. Right. Doesn't read comments, gets off social media. Like, how do you know? How do you like, how do you know? So you guys don't realize this. Like a lot of my videos I do, you know, research and stuff like that. I've been accumulating research for a few weeks now because I want to put together a video with with a ton of evidence explaining how and why YouTubers are disconnected from their audience. Because you have YouTubers over here feeling as though they're dehumanized and then you have the audience over here feeling as though, you know, the YouTubers are disconnected from the audience. And in a sense, it's both people's faults. But many YouTubers are struggling with their their own disconnection because of the choices that they're making. OK, so again, Gabby explained throughout this video about how she stays away from comments, how she stays away from videos, how she stays away from social media. She is causing disconnection and she doesn't understand what's going on in the reality of the industry that she's in. You know what I mean? So there's there's some different stuff that I'm going to talk about in that video. I'm actually planning in the future a book about like mental health if you're going to be a YouTuber, because there's so many things that we just need to address, talk about nipping the butt. All right. But anyways, that's all I got for this video. Let me know down in the comments below what your thoughts are. If you can relate to any of these struggles, whether it comes from avoiding things or not apologizing the right way or black and white thinking or whatever it is. All right. But anyways, that's all I got for this video. If you like this video, please give it a thumbs up. If you're new, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos and a huge, huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on Patreon. 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