 Let me see it. Get this here. Now we're getting one second. There's a tool tonight set up. Put my internet doing right. Get the internet together. Getting a little late, 7.30, 7.38. In Los Angeles, we got some people still in there five o'clock traffic in Los Angeles. But we ain't in Los Angeles. Let me see. Want to pop on here. The night had the growth club. Tonight, we had a call at 8.30 to 10.30. And tomorrow night is the Life Coach's mastermind. But tonight, we did the growth club. Shout out to all the members in the growth club. It's our monthly group coaching. Right now, we're in the summer of success. So we dealing with finances and just ad streams of income, making more money. And so we got Lonka Rose, is she in the growth club? So she going from there to here. And see, that's a blessing right there. Laura Rice, God bless you. But joining the blessed tribe. Those of y'all who are not in the blessed tribe, you'll see the button under the video that says join. And it's the blessed tribe. And you had a blessed business tribe. The blessed business tribe is business videos. But I still try to post business videos to the main page. But just did a two-hour call. I don't really feel too tired. I ain't going to be on here too long, because I want to try to get home and catch my wife before she gets sleep just so I can bother her a little bit. Well, really, so she could bother me. She'd be pranking me and stuff all day, every day. And that's something interesting about my wife. She love to play around. I don't like to play around. So when I don't feel like playing, I just make her mad. Find something to say to get on the nerves, because then when she's mad, she don't bother me. But is she not mad? Well, I'm getting wedgies. I'm getting slapped on the booty. I'm getting humped. I'm getting picked up. All right, she just love to wrestle and play. So I'm going to get home and try to catch her before she get to bed. New York City coming up there Saturday. So if you happen to see this, here video, I got the link for the event in my bio. And I posted it on the community page. So it's a relationship event Saturday for singles and couples. And I think it's at 11 AM. Me and my wife flying in Friday night. She don't go to my events. Her sister is in New York. So she's coming up. She's going to be hanging with her sister. And will she come up be my accountability partner? And if you get a ticket for Saturday, I'm trying to see if I could find somewhere where we can meet up and have dinner. Now, you've got to pay for your own dinner now. But the restaurant's so small, my wife was telling me to do like an Airbnb. But New York is weird on that, too. So one of y'all New Yorkers knows somebody who own a restaurant and you bought a ticket. Let me know. Send me an email. It's 11 to 5. I love my fro. So you must be gone. Love my fro. So y'all make sure y'all get y'all tickets for New York. Y'all come on in, see the city. Drive on in, or bring your train. And I want to pop on on here. No, TR, I just said, it's 730 in LA to make myself feel better by being on here this time. Sister Sage, we just got started. We just got started. So I reached out to ask if you need assistance. No, I don't think I need assistance. But if you coming, OK, you coming to the event, they may have like a, I don't plan to have a book table. But the VIP guests get a copy of my book. So I don't think I will need assistance. Do you live in New York? Because what you could do is email me some restaurant ideas or something or things like that. And then it's 11 to 5 Saturday. 11 o' Saturday, I might need to get in the clubs at night. No, I ain't going to go out. But if it's anything cool to see Saturday night, I'm thinking maybe we may have dinner with VIPs after the event. I'm not sure. But I might say good morning from London. What time is it in London now? I felt like I thought London like five hours ahead of me. You are late. OK, you volunteer at the event. Wow, OK, awesome. Awesome, awesome. Now I want to pop on here tonight because some of y'all, wow, and a God bless you, 4 AM over there, 3.43. No, I don't do events. To be honest with you, I don't accept events. Honestly, I only accepted this one because it was from a young man who has a passion for helping in the relationship space. So that's the only reason why I accepted the event. I don't normally do events with other speakers because as y'all see with the other relationship coach who got exposed, you never know how people are living. So I normally only do my own events. Or if it's like somebody who they want to bring me to their city, but it's me doing the keynote at their church or at the hotel ballroom. And I'm the speaker. I don't normally get on the stage with other people because I don't know how other people live their life. And I never want to introduce somebody to somebody else who ain't living right or their scam artists because I take that stuff real serious. But I want to pop on here tonight because some of y'all sent me a video of the gentleman. He went on the podcast about the future wifey podcast and the other life coach who got exposed for cheating, went on the video and was talking. And I saw a lot of comments talking about that he's a narcissist and all of that. And I don't like to talk about people. I don't like to bash people. But it's been a lot more men showing up on my page and showing up in the comments. And they'll be calling me 2.0 of him, meaning like the second coming or the person that after him not realizing that I was doing this five to seven years before he started doing it and that he younger than me. But the thing about it is I don't clout chase. Like I don't like to do videos with celebrity names in it. I do it if it's something that everybody keep asking me about. But I don't like to do videos with celebrity names in it. And that's honestly how he built his brand. He did videos with celebrity names. And then the blog sites, I don't even say the name of the blog site even though everybody know the name of the blog site, the blog page on Instagram. I don't even say their name because I don't even like to give no pub to the negativity. But anytime I would be sent a post from that blog site, I would see him in the comments. And so he would go and make a witty comment and get thousands of likes. And so naturally a black man speaking with some sense and saying something that sound really good and really thoughtful, really conscious, it's gonna get a lot of people to go follow him. And I have never once to this day commented on that blog gossip Instagram page, never once. But I have insight on stuff as a professional that if I went and commented on the post that these blog sites make, I probably would have crossed a million people on Instagram a long time ago like everybody else has, but I don't go comment on blog posts for attention and for clout. And I definitely honestly would not do that. I can do it because I live the right way, but I definitely would not be commenting on stuff and drawing attention to myself if I was cheating on my wife. And we have this society to where I wanna tell the man, I just wrote a book for me and over the weekend, I'm gonna release it. And Lord willing here soon within a couple months, but we have a lot of men today and it's really sad for men and especially black men that we can't believe in other black men. That when black men see a representation of a faithful black man, most black men always start to think that they start to think about, oh, must be a fraud. This person must be a fake. And that right there thought process, it just speaks to where our mind is at. And I don't know who this is. I don't know if that was a virgin Mary. That was a typo. But I got blocked for it. I might use so divisive. I don't know if she meant decisive or discerning, but learn how to spell because you got blocked. And that right there, virgin Mary had a comment talking about you so divisive. That was a bot that paid to hate. And that's what I'm talking about that's happening today because why would you name your page Virgin Mary? That Jesus mama. So why would you come on here with blasphemy? And we got moderators on here Caramel kisses on here and she didn't see it. She didn't even get to see it. So that right there is what I'm telling y'all that the message is starting to spread and it's more and more coops and cucks coming. And I don't even know what the words mean that's coming on here that people paying to hate. So this person signed up to be in the blessed tribe, to be a troll in the comments, but that's how you know my foot on the delvinette. And then it was a man yesterday who talking about when I talked about how men are switching it up today and men becoming too feminine. The man gonna come in the comments talking about I probably have been confused or called zesty for decades. When I ain't never once in my life been called zesty. The only time is when ignorant people who think a man with colored eyes is homosexual. Because some people are stupid enough to think that if your eyes are a different color than the norm, then you must be gay. And so now when somebody had to block another lady because I'm talking on the deception of men who are sleeping with men, but trying to play also have a woman. And men is getting into so much pornography. So now with me speaking on it, people talking about, oh, I must be guilty of it because I'm speaking on it. That's the dumbest thing in the world because when you are authentic person, if you're going through something, you're gonna go through it in the dark. I ain't gonna talk to y'all about what I'm going through. I'm gonna teach a lesson on what the people are dealing with. But I'm gonna win my battles in the dark. I ain't finna be on here talking about it. Like when I did the video on one thing that every man is talking about, one thing that every man wants, but rarely asked for, and I talked about affection. People talking about, oh, he must be talking about his wife. He must be talking about his wife. And I'm like, and I'll be honest with you, it was the end of the month. And I said, hey, I need a video that's gonna hit because the algorithm is acting crazy. So let me use this title. So that was a clickbait kind of title. The topic was a real topic, but I knew what topic would get interest or how to word it. That was a real, that's a real thing that men are talking about and that men coming to me and saying, hey, I want more affection. People go to assuming that because you in the limelight, that what you talking about, you talking about yourself. And that's because we don't believe, we have such a poor self-image that we don't believe in vessels. We don't believe in somebody being able to lay their life on the line, to sacrifice themselves for the greater good of the people. We don't believe that somebody could come and help others and it not be about themselves because we have a poor self-image. And so we think that everything somebody talking about, they have to be talking about themselves. And so we literally, we down so bad that when I'm talking about the deception of bisexual men deceiving women, then you got all these idiots in the comments, oh, you must be talking about the sale, you must be talking about yourself. It's like, that's the dumbest thing in the world. And he blew like glass and I, for those y'all that think, both of us got vision problems. Well, he blew like, I got per vision 2015. And so I have to talk about this stuff because lives is on the line. So when I'm doing more and more coaching sessions about women going in a man phone and finding videos of they man with another man, I got the brain that up. I got to talk about that. And so I'll talk to my wife about it the other day. I say, man, look at these comments and stuff I'm getting. And she just go to laughing. She just go to laughing. She just think it's so funny that me talking on certain topics is having people call me gay or call me whatever it is. My wife just think it's so funny when I go to her mad cause me personally, I'm gonna be honest with you. I come from a place where you'll lose your life for calling somebody out they name. Like you really get the flow mop with you for calling somebody out they name, for calling somebody something that they ain't. So, and it ain't even that the person guilty of it, but I have to address what's going on in society. And it was crazy to see when the young man went out on that podcast, I just watched the snippet of where he talking about something by he aggressive. The only time he aggressive with women is sexually. And that was what the video was about. That's all I watched. I don't have the patience. So I can't watch the conversation because if somebody, I could tell it's somebody full of it. And I just ain't got the time. I sent it to my wife. I said, oh, look at this. She text me back. She say, I literally could only watch one second just so I can't listen to that man talk. And so I was like, okay, well, I ain't got nobody to talk about this hell with then. But it just showed me how, and it was a lot of women who was like, oh, you know, this is a narcissist talking. This is a narcissist talking. I don't talk on all of that right now. Narcissist because that's a clinical term. So you got to really study it and really learn about it to label somebody a narcissist. I don't play with labels because I'm not a clinician. And so you have to really study this stuff because we get to a place to where we get to a place where we can look at something. We can look at symptoms for a disease and feel like we got that disease just because we feeling one of them symptoms. So the same thing with narcissism, a lot of times people are looking and they seeing this symptom and this might be something that every human has exhibited. And they will label somebody full of flesh narcissist. So I don't play with labels like that. And I'll be honest with you. This is something that's always kind of shocking to women. But I try to help women understand this. What women describe as a narcissist is almost every man I've ever met. So the word might as well just be male versus narcissist. It might as well be male because if a woman has had more than one relationship, a lot of women can tell you that pretty much every man do the same thing. Pretty much every man does the same thing. So a lot of times when a woman is describing a narcissist, that pretty much was done by every other man. And it's just, we don't know because we don't necessarily have, we're not necessarily privy to multiple relationships like real long-term relationships. So that's why we have to understand that a lot of this stuff that we're seeing out here is just human behavior that is under the influence of the devil, just under a demonic influence. And you gotta protect yourself and you gotta be mindful but you gotta make sure that you don't buy into the pessimism. And one of the things that is very alarming to me is the fact that black men don't believe in black men in healthy spaces. Like black men will look at a black man who make your money and believe it. But it's very sad that black men can't look at a black man who is trying to help and live an honest lifestyle as a faithful husband and believe that there's such a thing as a black male who is a faithful husband. That's the sad part. And so we have to realize that miracle but the clinical term applies to someone who would not change even when their behavior causes them to lose in different aspects of their life. And that is also majority of men. And that's what I'm saying is that's why they say cheaters don't change. That's why they say a leopard don't change its spots. So it's like this right here. This man went on this podcast and he sound like to the women that he's still not accepting accountability. And guess what? It's like how many men do you see actually apologize and then make the right changes? And so because of that, that's the sad part is that we don't have enough changing and being that we don't have enough changing we can't really believe in each other that this person is a good person. And we have to then pedestalize other races and believe that they are good and they are better because we can't believe in ourselves because of what we saw our family members do. And we're like, if our family members will do this then who can I trust of my race? And that's why you see so many black celebrities hire white staff because of the poor self image of their own race of themselves and their own race. And that's what we struggling at in a lot of ways. But now we seeing, we coming into a place to where if you bold in your stance and what you believe and how you live, you can't even be believed in that stance because we see so much fraud and so many fakes and we can't even, we don't even know the real from the fake anymore. We can't tell the real from the fake. I can't tell you how many men that come over here and call me such and such 2.0 to where they can't even watch a video or watch a couple of videos and tell the difference between a real and a fake. And that's how sad that it's getting. And it's gonna take more men standing up and being men and it's gonna take more men talking to men and specifically black men talking to men. And one of the things that we're not doing is holding each other accountable. We're not holding each other accountable to the point to where we have men checking men. And then when men check men, this other men that'll come and say, oh, you being too hard on men. And that's why it's just getting sad out here. Samantha say, does believing my husband as a narcissist mean that I am against him or I don't love him? No, it don't mean that you're against them or that you don't love them because we can have people in our family that is something and we still love them and we're still on their side. My thing is if you marry a narcissist, then what does it say about the process that you went through and your discernment and your own self-image? And then I know people will say, oh, well, they sneaky and they conniving and they diss and they that. But again, that's literally every man. Every man is sneaky. That's when I say every, I mean the majority. I mean 90%. So it's like, how many men then talk to a woman out her draws? Like how many men make a habit of talking to a woman out her draws? And so we have to understand that it's not it's not as deep as we want it to be. And sometimes when we going through something we start grasping for straws and we're looking for something that could put a bow on it. We want that bomb, that aid and that band aid and we'll start to grab in that stuff. And so we have to be very careful, especially in a marriage that you very careful with the labels. And so we have to really think through these things. And I remember New York City, I beat up this Saturday, make sure you grab your tickets, be a different experience, be up there on the stage talking to you. And I put the link for the ticket Saturday in New York or on the community page on YouTube and on my bio and Instagram and my story and on real all that. So if you near New York City, come on out this Saturday, join us. And have your good old time, meet to some folks, shake some hands. But this is where we at right now. We're in a state of where we self-sabotaging and we working against ourselves. And I'm gonna tell you, whenever you see somebody online, you got to take your time. You got to take your time. You got to watch people. You can't put anybody online on a pedestal. You got to watch people for years. Get what you can get, get the knowledge you can get, but keep your eyes open. Sapphire, God bless you. Thanks for joining the blessed tribe. Get the information you can get and you got to take your time because what'll happen is we'll have a lot of people that'll get online and it's solely for the money. They see the money and they coming for the money. And that's why they showing up because they think, oh, that look like money. And what a lot of people don't realize is that I was the first relationship coach online. Like when I was doing it, they ranked the top 100 black men online. I was number 25 and out of that top 100, I was the only relationship coach. So the relationship coaches that y'all know of, that y'all would put in the same sentence with me. In 2010, not a single one of them men, any man that you would say that is a relationship coach or a life coach when Blackwell 2.0 ranked the top 100 black men on Twitter in 2010, which was my second year on Twitter. I started Twitter in 2009 when they ranked the top 100 black men. I was number 25 and I was working a job, making $9.50 an hour. I was working a job, making $9.50 an hour. Jennifer, God bless you. Thank you for joining the blessed tribe. Sasha, God bless you. Thank you for joining the blessed tribe. And people just assume that relationship coaching make all this money. And here I was the first relationship coach. When I became a life coach, nobody knew what a life coach was. When I became a life coach, there was only one life coach certification program that existed on Google. And that's how I knew it was. Nobody knew what a life coach was when I became a life coach in 2007. The life coaches at that time was like Brian Tracy, Zig Ziggler, Jim Rohn, Tony Robbins, and they didn't do one-on-one sessions. There was not even a thing as a black life coach. There really was, and not knowing that was viral. So when they ranked the top 100 black men on Twitter, it was based on our retweetability. I was number 25 and not a single relationship coach or life coach that you see today on YouTube or Instagram was in that top 100. I was in that top 100 with rappers and athletes and comedians. Behind me, number 26 was Lil Duvall. And y'all know how viral Lil Duvall is. Charlemagne from Breakfast Club, I don't think he was on there. LeBron James was number one. Here I was working, making $9.50 an hour, and I was the number 25 most powerful black man on Twitter in 2010. So this is why I try to help y'all understand is I was doing this before people turned it into a business, before there was any way to make money on it. I was doing this. And we have me and the day that's coming and calling me 2.0 because they didn't know that it's some of us that actually do it and are in the trenches and not clout chasing. Like even to this day, I still got to tie my game up and start using thumbnails. I still don't even use custom thumbnails on my videos. And that's another way to grow, but I don't do it because I'm not in a hurry or rush to grow. I want to grow organically because I'm gonna say a lot of stuff that could get me canceled by certain groups and organizations. So I don't want to just blow up. I'm still growing. I'm still learning. Even though I've been married 16 years, I'm still working on my marriage. I'm still becoming a better husband, becoming a better father. Every day I look at myself as a husband and a father and who I was yesterday as a husband and a father and say, how can I get better? So that's why I'm not commenting on the gossip blogs, Instagram pages, trying to go viral and get attention because I only want the attention that God sent me organically. I don't want to chase any attention. That's why I don't pay for ads and stuff for my books and all of that. Now this next book for me, I don't feel to be running ads for that nonstop. I need to sell a million copies of that because I need that book there. I wrote a book in two days. I wrote 80 pages on Microsoft Word. So in book form that could turn into 160 pages. And I'm up here. I'm like, you know what? I'm gonna have to get this to air man because that right there gonna help us for the man who won't help. And this what you have to see. You have to be able to take your time and you got to be able to separate the wheat from the tares. You got to be able to tell the real from the fake. You got to be able. And that's gonna take time. And what people is, is they lumping everybody in on the same thing. I was just in Miami. It's all kind of booties and thongs and everything in Miami. I went to the room at the Fontaine Blu. And y'all think it's called Fontaine Blu. It's actually Fontaine. It's F-O-N, not F-O-U-N. And I went to the Fontaine Blu. And that's where I wrote my book at. I got there on Friday. I went in that room. I did not shower and I did not leave the room until Monday. And God birthed a book through me over that weekend. And I wrote Saturday and I wrote Sunday. And I wrote that book for me. And I'm finna put money behind this book and push this book to no end. And the reason why I'm gonna put this book to no end is because I might even raise money for the marketing. And to do billboards through Atlanta, billboards in Houston, billboards in Los Angeles and New York and Indianapolis, everywhere. Bus stop benches, everywhere. And I'm gonna push this book to men, to every man who see it, either buy it or get bought for them. And the reason being is because men today believe that there are no real genuine voices that want to help men, that want to see men grow. And the men that men wanna follow are men who are going to bash women. And then men get mad if a man is protecting women or educating women. And see if a man take the time and watch my message, a man will see that I never excuse women. There have been people that have come on my page, women, that have come on my page and in the comments said that my message is the same as the man who died, who used to do the podcast and all the men be clapping when he ripping a woman a new one. This woman has told me my message the same as his. Now, how dumb is that? And you know why? It's because they bumped into a video that was holding women accountable. So they took holding a woman accountable as bashing a woman. And then men bump into a video holding men accountable, and they take that as bashing men. And that shows the problem with our society is that we don't want to be checked. We don't want to grow. We don't want the message to sit in our lap, to step on our toes. We don't want that. And so this was happening in our world. And we starting to lose because of it. And I'm gonna tell you, I'm gonna say something at some point that's gonna offend somebody because it's not all the time that I'm gonna be speaking from the right place. And that's why I tell y'all, you have to take your time when you listening to people because you got to see where people speaking from. Now, all of us are gonna speak from the wrong place. I just seen a video of another young man who he on a podcast and he's on the video and he was saying, you know, I don't need God to buy a house. He was like, God already blessed me with the provision. So what he understand is that when he was saying God bless him with the provision, that mean he needed God to buy the house. But then he was saying, I don't need God to buy the house. If I got the money and the credit and, you know, I'm set up, I don't need to be praying, Lord bless with the house, bless with the house, bless with the house. And if I got to pray, bless him with the house, bless him with the house, bless with the house, then that mean I don't need the house. Well, there's a lot of people in the comment, they took offense to that saying, you don't need God. Cause sometimes you may have everything in one man said, we had everything, but we was up against other people. So we needed God's favor. And so now I know the man personally, I went on his podcast. I know he not a bad man, but when you talk for a living, you're gonna say something from the wrong spirit, from the wrong place or in the wrong way. You're gonna misspeak. And then people who don't speak for a living, Lady Nightingale, God bless you. Hopefully this ain't the lady who I just blocked and came back with one of the interesting names. And the people who don't speak for a living, they sit back and just watch somebody speak for hours, waiting on somebody to say one thing that they can write them off for. And that's the world we live in, but people don't think about that. That when you in the light, what you got to understand about the limelight, it's a limelight gonna shine on your flaws too. People don't realize that. But so that's why you got to be able to watch somebody and see where they spirit is, see where they operate. Because anybody that's in the public eye is also gonna go through spiritual warfare. That's why you see some of these mega pastors go through a divorce or they get caught cheating on their wife because they in the light and they are ministering to other people and holding other people accountable and trying to help other people, but who's ministering to them? Who is helping the helper? Who is listening to the listener? Who is speaking to the speaker? So we dealing with human beings. And that's why when the guy, the other relationship coach and I try my best not to speak names because this stuff live on forever. So that's why I don't like speaking names because I don't want nobody name in my video 50 years from now. And somebody might not even, they may fall completely from the face of the earth because they were fake and there was a fraud and God exposed them and they name get wiped from the history books. Well, if I come on here and I said they name, I just etch they name in history because if I remain faithful and righteous, God is gonna elevate me. So if I got somebody else name in my mouth who don't fail by the wayside, if I'm speaking they name, I'm elevating they name too. So that's why I may speak of the person and not say they name because I don't know what they're gonna do with their life and I don't want what they do to taint what I'm doing. And that's wisdom that God gave me. Nobody told me that. That's what God gave me. And so what you have to realize is even when you work for God, sometimes we operate from the wrong space and we speak in front of the wrong space. And what you also have to realize is we all are human too. So when you human and you come from nothing like the gentleman who was saying he don't need God to buy a house. Well, I know that gentleman from when he was broke. I know that gentleman when he had no money. So when you get money and you practically become a millionaire, you go through a season of arrogance. Even if God blessed you with it, you go through a season of arrogance. You go through a season of worshiping your money. That's why the Bible say that it'll be easier for a camel to fit through the eye of the needle than it will be for a rich man to enter into the kingdom of heaven. Because when you get money, you will end up praying to your money instead of praying to God. And you are leaning on your money to solve your problems. So when we build in brands and we are here in the public eye, we go through seasons and bouts of arrogance and ignorance because we start to believe our own hype. And so with the gentleman, the other relationship coach who got caught cheating on his wife and went through the divorce, I didn't, whenever he would always speak celebrity names, I always realized, I always thought that was a bad idea because I'm like, now when you're speaking on other people, you're going to introduce spiritual warfare into your life. And when you introduce spiritual warfare into your life, you got to have everything sold up. You got to have everything in order. And so I go through spiritual warfare as well. And what I have to do is when I'm going through spiritual warfare, I have to then go within and I got to go to God. And if I need to communicate, I got to communicate with my wife and I got to let her know, hey, I'm in a battle right now. I'm going through spiritual warfare right now. You know, I'm going through this thing real. And I will take and make bad decisions financially or in business. And God done blessed me with everything. He then gave me everything I need. But if I operate from my flesh, if I operate from a place that is not godly stewardship, then I will get myself in a bind that God ain't had anything to do with. And then I may have to lose some things and go through some things to get that lesson. And when I get that lesson, I embrace that lesson. And I learn from that lesson. And I say, okay, the next time I get in position, I'm going to make the right choice. And so what happened is, is we're seeing relationship coaches and people of the likes get into a position and they get full of themselves and not full of God. And then they make decisions based on themselves and their own flesh and their own greed and their own lust and wanting to stunt and shine and be admired by men, they make bad choices and then have to pay the price publicly. And then some people are so sick that they will then use God falsely and fraudulently to be redeemed in the eyes of man. And so we have to understand this. And if you sit back and you watch, you'll be able to tell when the people you're watching are in spiritual warfare. You'll be able to tell when you need to pray if you're a prayer warrior. You'll be able to tell. And this book that I just wrote for men, it felt simple because I wrote an 80 page book in two days so that let me know God wrote that book through me. That that was God breathe. That was inspired and that it, although it's not earth shattering or groundbreaking, it's power in the words and men captives are gonna be set free. So I'm gonna market it and promote it to no end because I never do that. And I never do it because, let me tell you why I never market my books because it's like this right here. If you go into the marketplace and you selling something that's authentic, and somebody take and knock off what you selling, and it looked just like what you selling, you're gonna start to feel bad and ashamed about selling what you selling because somebody else is selling to knock off that look just like it. So if I go and I buy something that's authentic and I spent $1,000 on authentic painting and then a knock off get made of that painting and everybody go spend $10, my pain no longer gonna have the value. So the books that God gave me to help speak into the life of women, I couldn't promote it. I couldn't promote it because fakes and frauds popped up. So if I'm promoting a book that is God breathed for women from the male perspective, that's saying, hey, I'm gonna give you this game because this the game that you falling for. So I'm gonna teach you this game so you don't keep falling for this game. Well, when a fraud come up and start teaching a game that sound very similar, now the men can tell the real from the faith. So whereas the men look at me and say, man, this man, he been married 16 years, X amount of years and he didn't waste so much game, he gotta be being faithful. But then when they see this man over here pop up and then they see him cheating in the club or they hear telling him cheating or he cheating with their cousin or he cheating with their ex-girlfriend or they know he fornicating or they know he adulterating. Now they come and say, well, if I know for a fact this guy over here is a fraud and he's saying the same type of stuff as Tony Gaskins then Tony Gaskins must be a fraud too. And then that's why that's how the devil work. Whenever God send clarity, the devil send confusion. Now, ain't nobody put that together. Them two things, now I see people all talk about clarity and confusion. And that's the thing about when you come with an authentic word from God, like what I put in this book that I just wrote for men, when you come with an authentic word from God, people who are not working for God, but who clout chase and who brand build, they will go to the public with your message before you get to the public. And so it's a lot of speakers and teachers that are bigger than me in following and they're using the teachings that God gave me, but they follow me like a shadow because a demon know God. So somebody that is working for dark forces can easily identify somebody who is working for God. So the men who are frauds, they follow me like a shadow. But what they're gonna do is, they're gonna see what I'm not doing. So they're gonna say, okay, Tony is not using custom thumbnails on his videos. So I'm gonna use custom thumbnails and I'm gonna take his message and emulate it, spin off of it, but I'm gonna use custom thumbnails. They say they're gonna use custom thumbnails. They're gonna use a full description box. They're gonna use all the keyword tags and they're gonna do everything you're supposed to do so that they will get more impressions and more click-throughs and more views, but they literally doing it with my message. I heard a woman, there was a woman who got a video that she said, this is what I do. Now mind you, this woman talk, she said my exact teaching. She said when a man asked her, cause I teach, if a man ask you what are you looking for in a man that a woman should say, I'll know when I see it and do not tell that man what you're looking for in a man because if you read a man your script, he will play a role. If you read a man your script, he will pick the superstar, the star character and he will play a role until he gets the Oscar and then he will dump you and go to the next movie. So the next casting director, the next director. And so the lady, you'll see her, she a brown skinned lady. She looked probably in her late 20s, early 30s. She said, when she meet a man, she don't, and he asked her what you looking for a man, she tell him, I know it when I see it or just be yourself. And she say, I don't tell him what I'm looking for because he'll play that role. That's my teaching verbatim. But see, I'm a man who played the game. If women already knew that, then no woman would get played. So I'm coming and giving the game, but guess what? Because relationship coaches, because black male relationship coaches have been bashed so bad because of the frauds, this lady can't even say, I learned from Tony Gaskins. This how you handle a first date with a man who asked you what you looking for in a man. Now I seen another lady who her video went viral, she Muslim, I'm Christian. Let's show you how to message crossover. Her video went viral and she said, I talked to my home girl and my home girl told me this thing that Tony Gaskins told her and it's called a three Bs. Now she quoted me because to copy my three Bs, brand, brand body, that would have been too, that would just been too much plagiarism. But guess what? Another lady who a reality star, she go on a big podcast and she say, I live by the three Bs and she came up with three other Bs. So what people do is they'll get a message and they'll change one word. They'll change one word and then they'll run with it because what the adversary has always done, the adversary has always emulated the work of God. So when they said seven is completion so seven is God's number. The devil took and said six is his number. When they said that the cross represents Christ, the devil took and turned the cross upside down as a Satanic image. See where God brings clarity, the devil brings confusion. So when God sends somebody who is real, who is really living it, who is authentic, the devil gonna take and send a clone. He's gonna send a carbon copy. He gonna send somebody who look just like what God sent. And this person over here is to divide the audience. They are to divide the message because somebody will look at me and say, well, I don't like Tony Gaskins because he doesn't have locks. So I'm gonna follow this coach over here cause he has locks and locks represent strength or rebellion from the system. So I'm gonna follow this coach cause he has locks. And Tony Gaskins don't have a thick beard. So I'm gonna follow this relationship coach cause he has a thick beard. And I'm gonna follow this relationship coach also because he got locks and a thick beard but he also single. So if I comment enough on his posts, women think they're gonna get seen and gonna get chosen by this single relationship coach. And didn't they all say, well, I'm gonna go follow this guy over here in his podcast because he's single. And so it don't benefit me to follow Tony Gaskins cause he's married. So me supporting him and me being in his comments don't benefit me cause he can't choose me from me showing up in his comments. And they say, well, I'm gonna go follow this guy over here because he never showed a wife and he got muscles. So I'm gonna follow him. And then some women will say, well, I'm gonna follow this coach over here because he's older. He's an older man and I didn't have a father in my life. So I'm gonna follow him cause he represent a father. And I'm not gonna follow Tony Gaskins cause he looked like the guy that cheated on me or that beat on me. He looked like the guy that lied to me. He looked like the guy that played me. So I ain't gonna follow Tony Gaskins cause he probably full of it. Cause he looked like, he looked like a player cause he said he was a player. So I'm gonna follow this guy over here who I don't like the way, I don't like nothing about how he look, but so he don't trigger any trauma that I don't went through. So this is how people pick and choose who they listen to. So you will have somebody that never hurt that you ain't never did nothing to that you ain't never said nothing wrong. That you ain't never showed no kind of sign or being a fake or a fraud. And they won't listen to you or respect your message because of their own trauma. And what they don't realize is they will go and be trauma bonded. What they don't realize is that the same thing that's in them that's making them pass on a good man and keep end up with a dog is the same thing that's making them not listen to a real and authentic coach or mentor or speaker or author or teacher or pastor and go to a fraud because they spirit, they still have not been renewed. They still have not healed from their trauma. So they are trauma attracted to a fraud and they go to a fraud and they literally will be in a, as y'all would call it, narcissistic relationship with a coach or a pastor or a teacher or a author or a speaker who is the very thing that they're trying to get away from. But because it is no longer their ex-boyfriend or their ex-husband and is packaged as a teacher, they will go to that teacher. But the teacher has the same attributes, not attributes, the same flaws and the same shortcomings as the person, the man that they left. And then here's the thing, men will do the same thing. Men will go and pick a man to follow that makes them feel comfortable in their strengths and does not challenge them in their weakness. So if a man comes over here and he is challenged and he is called out and he doesn't want to be challenged and he doesn't want to be called out. If a man come over here and he hears that I try to protect women and I try to inform women on the games men play and this man has intentions of manipulating and deceiving his woman, he don't wanna listen to me. And he don't want his woman listening to me because he know I'm going to shine a light into his darkness. He know I'm going to expose the game that he's playing. And he knows that if his woman listens to him and listens to me, it's not gonna be long before she can tell who is the real man and who isn't. And so that's why he will ban his woman from listening to my message because he knows his life does not line up with that message. And so what he will go and do, this man who is in a relationship will go and follow a man who is skewing the relationship to his advantage. So there are men who teach on men having an advantage in the relationship. And what I come to do is to level the playing field so that a man is serving his woman and a woman is serving her man so that the love is equally reciprocated. But there are a lot of men who teach on men having the advantage. So they will tell a woman to suppress her needs and suppress her wants and her desires and her feelings and to cater to her man because he earns a certain amount of money or to forsake her feelings and her self-worth or her standards because she's had a child. So there are men who teach these messages. So a man who does not want to be held accountable, a man who does not want to change, he will then go to this other man and listen to this man and send that man's messages. He'll send that man messages to his woman because this man is teaching an advantage for a man. And you see how we just talked about God and the devil number, and then YouTube algorithm set to where when it get on the devil number, it gets stuck. When that number fluctuates all the time, they got to set the way it get on the devil number, it gets stuck. That's how you realize we living in what the devil around here running. And so this man he'll take and say, oh, it's too much accountability over here. It's too much looking out for women over here. It's too much caring about what women think and what women feel and what women need. It's too much of that. I'm going over here with this man. All he talk about is the man being the king, the man being catered to, the man being praised, a woman sleeping with a man anytime he get ready, a woman doing this for a man, doing that for a man, my woman need to hear this. So the man will start to shoot that to his woman, give her those messages. And then what that woman start to do, she start to look at that and say, wow, man. So if this man is saying this and this man got, this man got all these millions of followers, then he must be right. So let me do this. And then this woman will take and go against everything she is, everything she knows, because of this message that her man sent her from this man online. This message that's catering to him. Instead of leveling the plan field. So see this where we have so many frauds. So to be honest with you, but the thing about it is like, you got to do what people know you for. So if I could come on here and talk about entrepreneurship because I'm an entrepreneur, but the algorithm don't know me for being an entrepreneur. The algorithm know me for relationship advice. So if I want my message to be heard, if it's an entrepreneurship video, I literally have to title it a relationship video and then be talking about business. So if you see me have to start doing that, then you'll know why. Because they'll shut down every other message because they put you in a certain type of message. And then also I'm gonna tell you the truth. I don't want to talk on relationships. Reason why I just did a video that I'm gonna upload later got cut off come alarm when also they cut it off short. But I don't want to talk on relationships because I'm in a relationship. And whatever you speak on, that's where you invite spiritual warfare into your life. So that's why I don't want to talk on relationship, but I have to sacrifice myself and my relationship. And I got to have my relationship in spiritual warfare in seasons so that I could help millions of other people. Because I know what I'm speaking on, the devil gonna try to attack me. And so he gonna try to make me more tempted, seeing more different things out there that could trip me up. He gonna try to get him a wife head with certain toxic messages that she may see online. And he gonna try to test us to where I have to be very diligent. And I got to be a perfect man. I really, my message holds me accountable to where if I'm not being a perfect man, then my relationship gonna go through more spiritual warfare than the people I'm trying to help. So I have to pretty much be a, now about what you would call a perfect man so that my relationship can flee the devil's attacks in spiritual warfare. So that's why I don't like speaking on relationships, but I have to do it because if I remove my voice from the space, then it's gonna be so much foolishness and so much idiocracy that there will be millions of people that's being led astray, that's being sent down the wrong way and they have no one to balance the scales in a very real and blunt and direct way. Because a lot of times people don't hear when you too soft-spoken, when the message is too play-play, when it's too touching, touching around, bouncing around, beating around the bush, lots of people don't hear, they don't hear that. So what God gonna do is he gonna realize certain people gonna be in different situations. So he gonna raise up a man who speaks gentle and calm and collected and gentle. And then he gonna raise up a man like me that's gonna be blood-raw, all the way real, all the way in your face with the truth, that gonna stomp on your toes at times. And then he gonna raise us up. And then he gonna raise up different women who may, which I haven't really seen a lot of women that is giving relationship advice that makes sense to me as a man. I've seen some women that's teaching women how to submit and stuff like that, but that is also dangerous because a man could play on that, a dog could play on that, a grown boy would play on that and that could become dangerous. So it's some women that's teaching on submission but they may have a safe, godly husband. And they're giving this message to women who may not have that same type of covering, that same type of man. And aria God bless you. And so I have to balance the scales and I got to level the playing field to reach where people may be at because I realized the power of a message. And so we have to come to this place to where we start to use discernment and so I'm also gonna have to shift my message for the ladies. You got to understand that my message also have to shift that time to talk to the men. And when, if you're a woman and you see me talking to a man, be quiet because if you come in the comments, when I talk to him with the truth, he gonna feel like I punched him in the eye. So when he been over and grabbed that eye, that spiritual eye that I just punched a man with the truth, if a bunch of women come in the comments, get them Tony, get them. Yeah, tell them. Talk to these sorry no good men. What that represents spiritually is women coming in, up on them, up or cutting them, power driving them, body slamming them, DDTN on, choke hold. So now the man come to hear a real man who married, who faithful, who live in what he teach. But then he get beat up on by a whole bunch of women who is angry with their ex or angry with the state of men. So they jump into the conversation and now it's no longer a safe space for the man. So now what the man does is he then runs to refuge with a single man who is not married but given relationship advice, who's given skewed, ignorant, selfish, biased advice. Because when he came to a real man, a real man is also going to attract women to his message as well as men who wanna be real men to his message. But if a man who is hanging in the balance and he's a grown boy, he get beat up, he gonna run over there to the red pill, to the mick towel, to the mantle spear where he is being given tips and tools to have leverage on a woman. Instead of understanding that as a real man, his gentleness is his strength with a woman. And that he don't have to manipulate and deceive and connive that he could be real and he could be authentic and he could be a real man who stands his ground, who speaks his mind in love and in respect and who can get respect from a woman without having to abuse her or control her or deceive her. But see, he can't hear that if it's a bunch of women beating them up in the comments while he trying to get off the ground, they kicking them in the head. And see, that's the problem with our society, but see the messages like this, the sound bites like this don't go viral. These don't go no well. So we just see all of this gender war on every post that could be beneficial to us as a people. Everybody just be arguing in the comments, well, what about the women? Well, what about the men? Well, what about the women? Well, what about them? What about the men? Or that go both ways. That go both ways. Both sides, that go both ways. And it's like, why we can't just be quiet and get the message that's for us and take that message and be introspective with that message. And when the message is not for us, still be quiet. So who the message is for could get the message, but we can't do that. We don't do that in our society. And that's why we're not making much forward progress. And to be honest with you, I'm gonna be honest with you. I could make a lot more noise. I could be a whole lot louder, but I don't like being on camera. I don't like shooting videos. Like every time I do a real, I delete it because I don't like the way that I look on the camera. I don't like something about my face. So I delete the video. And this is where I learned that ironically, that's a sign to know that you call by God. So to know that the little effort that I give out of reluctancy, it'll go viral. It's really God showing me that, listen, you ordain, and I'm gonna spread your message, even though you don't wanna go, I'm gonna send you. So that's why when you go look and see, I don't post a reel every day. I'm gonna have to force myself to do it because the devil's so loud. So I got to start doing it. I'm gonna have to do it because the devil's so loud and I'm gonna have to get out of my own way. I'm gonna have to stop judging myself. I'm gonna have to stop being such a hard critic on myself. And that's what I'm gonna have to do. And just put my little nuggets out there and let them go. Just let them do what they do. And I don't do it because I don't like the camera. Even doing this, I don't like being on live. My channel probably could grow if I do a video, upload it and then premiere it. So it looked like it's live. But I don't even like premiering it because I don't like being the premiere. I don't like being the center of attention. And the thing about it is, I grew up being the center of attention without wanting to be the center of attention. What I mean by that is I play basketball and football. I averaged 20 plus points a game. In football, I averaged 10 plus yards a carry. So I was in the newspaper every day and I wasn't trying to be. And I remember my math teacher, he said this, he said one thing in his name, Mr. Carpenter, I walked into class. He said, one thing I like about Tony is you don't know if he scored two points or if he scored 25 points by the way he come in the classroom. And the night before that I had 25 or 27 points. And I don't like being the center of attention. But see, that's the thing. There's another sign how you're gonna tell when somebody is called and somebody just came. Because the people who just came, you're gonna see them in the comments of all the blog pages. They're gonna be in the comments trying to be seen. But I want you to go to the blog, the gossip blog that you follow on Instagram or that you know of on Instagram. And I want you to click on a post and I want you to click on the comments. And if you follow me, it's going to show you if I'm in the comments. And I want you to see how many of the gossip posts that I'm in the comments, you're gonna see zero. Because I don't clout chase. And that's another telltale sign of who is called and who just came. Because see a lot of these guys that's out here, they want to be famous. They wanna be famous. They wanna be known. They want attention. They don't wanna make a difference. They wanna make noise. But they're making so much noise that it's distracting from those who are called and those who are real. And that's why it's kinda quiet. And the thing about it is, the reason why I don't use custom thumbnails and the reason why I don't fill out the description box and the reason why I don't use keyword tags is because I'm trying to do something that separate me from what the frauds are doing. So if all the frauds is using custom thumbnails, I'm already being lumped in without doing all that. How gimmicky and cheesy am I gonna look if I start doing all of that? Then people gonna be able to definitely say, oh yeah, he wanted them fake relationship coaches. He wanted them fake life coach. He wanted them scamming life coach. He probably sleeping with his clients. He probably sleeping with his clients. And that's why I try to tell you. If a woman is sleeping with me and then when I say that you have idiots, oh well you ain't saying for man sleeping with you. So today, if I said if a man or woman is sleeping with me, oh well you ain't saying for dogs sleeping with you cause it's me and who sleep with dogs. It's like you can't win for losing the day. I'll tell you like this right here. If anybody is sleeping with me, come on out. Come out and I'll give you $10 million. Listen, anybody, if you, anybody sleep with me, come out, expose me for sleeping with me. And anybody I'm having an affair with, come on out and I'm gonna give you $10 million. You ride off into the sunset. Come on out with the receipts, with the pictures. I said that on the breakfast club because I know how I live my life. I know how I live my life. If I'm an introvert, I'm an introvert. People who know me in person, people online, they can't believe I'm introvert. People who know me in person know that I'm introvert. A lot of times people meet me in person and they say, wow, Tony, you are shy. You said you were shy, I didn't believe it because of how you shoot your video. I do this under the anointing of God. This is not what I wanna do. I, man, I wanna be laid up somewhere on somebody, on somebody beach. I don't wanna be on here on nobody camera. But I have to do this because God gave me wisdom that I have to share because it's so much ignorance being shared. So I got to go. I got to go. I got to do it. I don't wanna do it. So I want you to understand that. I'll say stuff like that because me being an introvert, me not liking the live light, me not wanting to be seen, I'm not gonna come out here and make noise if I'm cheating on my wife. My mistakes is in my past. That's why I couldn't understand why Buddy got to the height of his brand, got to the height of his career to cheat on, to be cheating on his wife. I'm like, honestly, as a man and knowing me, I could have understood it if he cheated on his wife at the infancy of his brand when he still was learning and growing and becoming a man. Or when he first blew up, I could have understood as a man, even though it's still wrong, I could have understood it more like, oh, he knew to celebrity, he knew to attention. So he cheated. That's what everybody go through. We all go through trials and we all go through periods to where when we go to a new level, we meet a new devil. And some of us at some times lose to that new devil. But guess what? When you're working for God, God gonna build you slowly because God know every man fall short of his glory. So God not gonna take someone from zero to one million overnight because God know we're going to trip and fall. But that is covered by grace. Grace covers a multitude of sin. So a lot of times when people look and people say, what's on it? Why set this coach and that coach and this coach got more subscribers than you? More followers than your Instagram. One, I don't clout chase. Two, I don't play to the algorithm. And three, I work for God, for real. So God ain't gonna move me too fast because he give me the time to say the stupid stuff, to get the mistakes out of the way, to learn from my mistakes. And then when I get it together and I got everything in order and I got my life in order in every area, including financially. Cause when I say financially, you still got taxes. You got credit. You got home owners stuff. So I gotta have my life together in every area because if God take me to number one, my life is gonna be put under a microscope and I'm gonna be scrutinized in every single area. So if they can't find where, if they can't find me cheating on my wife, they'll try to find something on my taxes. They'll try to find something in my business. They'll try to find something with my house. They'll try to find something in another area just to say, he got this right here. That's wrong. Because the adversary have to try to expose a light. Anybody that God send, the adversary gonna send immense spiritual warfare to break them down, to tear them down and to destroy their mission and their message. So that's why when you working for God, he gonna take and move you slowly. You gonna be in the climb and you got the climb ain't no throwing no rope. Cause listen, you gotta think about it like this right here. Why do you think ain't nobody that got a TV show or a radio show then reached out to me and put me on? Cause God ain't authorized it. He ain't authorized it cause, cause he's saying, listen, I want you to build, I'm gonna build you on my time. I'm gonna build you slowly. I'm gonna build you to where can't no man say you owe him. Can't no man say he made you. God don't get no glory in that story. If a man get put on by another man, cause then that man gonna always be able to stand before God stand in front of God and take God glory and say, I made him cause I put him on. So that's why God ain't touch now person heart to come and put me on and put me in position because God built in me. And even when God built in this, this how I know that I got to get things in order because God blessed me to earn seven figures. You know what seven figures is? It's a million dollars plus. God blessed me to earn seven figures without trying hard without using custom thumbnails, without using a description box, without using keyword tags, without using paid advertising, without using paid endorsements, paid shout outs, without commenting on the gossip blog posts, every post trying to be seen, trying to get followers. So if God will bless me without even using the tricks of the trade, without even using best practices, without getting a stamp from a mega celebrity, like without having the stamp of this famous comedian who also is a mentor or speaker or this famous TV host or this famous athlete or this famous person, if God will bless me to earn seven figures a year with none of that, where you think my finance is gonna be at when God take and elevate me to where he want me to be. So what he's saying is, if you're working for me, I'm gonna take and bless you without even looking like you trying. That's how God do you, to where I don't have to have gimmicks. I ain't got a lot of nobody. I seen guys, they're charging $3,500 for their online courses. They're charging $2,500 for their online courses. And I got 10 times more experience, 10 times the respect, and I'm charging a fraction of the cost. Because when you work for God, you don't have to have gimmicks. When you work for God, you don't have to beat somebody across the head with a price. So I could sell a course for $5. I could do a class for $25. I seen the one, the podcast people was complaining because the podcast took and did a virtual class on Zoom and they charge $600 for a ticket. I'm doing classes and I'm charging $25 for a ticket. Just really just to keep the box and to keep the trolls out. Basically just to make a hater and a troll have to pay $25 if they wanna come in and mess stuff up. And also to have people that I know really rock with me and support me, but it's $25. So when you working for God, you don't need gimmicks. I don't need to go to the blog page, the gospel blog and comment on their posts for cloud. I don't need to use custom thumbnails to get hundreds of thousands of subscribers. All I got to do is share the message that God gave me. And this is a cry and a message to the frontliners. If God has called you, do it the way God has told you to do it and don't do it the way man has told you to do it, don't mimic the world. See, if I was a Christian artist, my music would not sound like the world music. The world music will sound like my music because I will go to God until God give me a melody, until God give me a rhythm, until God give me a beat, until God give me a verse. And then I will only produce that. When you look at a lot of Christian music today, Christian music is emulating secular demonic music. And we ain't even drawing no line. And let me tell you what, the devil ain't nobody off limits. Ain't nobody off limits. Ain't nobody off limits. It's a lot of so-called Christians that's dealing and diving in and indulging in demonic music, demonic TV shows and all of that. Like I went on a show as a Christian and I had to stand up as a Christian. It was certain things. I said, listen, I can't do this as a Christian. I don't care about what y'all to pay me. I don't care about this opportunity. I care more about God. So if me standing up for what I believe in gonna cost me this opportunity, you can have your, that's not, it ain't an opportunity. That's a snare. That's a trap. That ain't no opportunity. So I had to stand on what I stand on. And that's what I'm trying to tell you is that when God in it and see this, how people cannot see the real front of faith because we don't have discernment. So how do you think if somebody in faith, they're not gonna be able to come on YouTube and not play by YouTube rules and get hundreds of thousands of subscribers. If somebody is fake, they gotta come on here and use custom thumbnails. Use the description box. Use keyword or tags. Every video, they got to have an intro that say, hey, thank you for coming on this video. Hit like, share, subscribe. I don't even know how to say it because I never say it. Go back and watch my videos and you will be able to count on one hand how many times I say, don't forget to hit the subscribe button. But if you know YouTube and you watch YouTube, you will know that nine out of 10 people on YouTube tell you every video to hit the like, share, subscribe. I'll never say that. You know why? Because I'm dependent on God. Lord, grow me, expose me, build me at the rate you want me to grow. I don't wanna grow because I told somebody make me big. I watch people's lives and they be so caught up in how many likes they got to the point that my moderators sometimes will tell people, get the likes up because they so used to seeing other YouTubers care about that. But y'all don't ever hear me say, we got X amount of people on here and we only got X amount of likes. Like on this hill system right here that I'm on, I don't even know how to see, I don't even know what the likes at. But I don't beg for likes, I don't beg for subscribers, I don't beg for shares, I don't beg for new members. Like I got memberships with the Blast Tribe. Having that Blast Tribe membership, I'm supposed to mention that every video. I never mention it because I am built on, I am bent on being built at God's pace. And that's what I want you to understand. That's a sign right there because I have to paint this for you and make this clear because we don't, people don't have discernment today. People can't tell the difference between the real and the fake. Like people should be able to easily see, man, turn it on, do this, this, this, this, this, this, this. Like it's people who go live every day, every single day. I'm supposed to be going live once a week. I barely do that. I barely do that. I got a membership that earned me good money that I'm ready to cancel. That I set it up for just this year versus ongoing for 2024. I have to relaunch it in 2024, the growth club. I didn't set the subscription to be forever. I set it for 2024, I mean, 2023 and this is income. And I talked to one of my coaches and we was talking about how even though I'm making money by doing a mastermind, I don't even want to do it. Even though it's one video a month, I don't even want to do that because I don't like routine because I don't like routine and I don't like being on the camera. But I have to force myself to get on the camera but here's the thing, we have so many fakes and frauds that when I say that people don't even believe it. They don't even believe it. And today meet me in person and realize that I'm not the life of the party. Realize that I don't try to draw no attention to myself. And see, this is the thing what we have to understand. Because I'm like that when I coach a client and they say, Tony, I do not like social media. Tony, I do not want to be on camera. Tony, I do not want to do that. Tony, I do not want to do that. I say, that's how you know you call. Cause God does not call anybody who is desperate for attention. God does not call anybody who is desperate to be famous. God does not call anybody who is going to go out of their way and be desperate to be known and to be seen. New York City, I'ma be there this Saturday. I need to tell you all that out of obligation cause it's this young man event. I told him I'ma help him, you know, get some folks out. New York City, you'll see the link on my bio on Instagram and on the community page on here. You'll see the link. What do you say I saw a dude on TikTok do that the other day said, all right, so since y'all not sending a gift, I'm shutting the live down in 10 minutes. Exactly. I'll be seeing that like, listen, I'm on here right now, right? What you see on here? TonyGassesAcademy.com. When you go on almost any other YouTube page, you're going to see they cash out on a video. You're going to see they Venmo. You're going to see they PayPal. You're going to see it on the video. You're going to see it in the description. One of my moderators got my cash out a long time ago and I don't tell them, I don't know them personally. We not on text message. I don't tell them when I'm going live. I don't tell them what to post. They found out my cash out and they post my cash out by themselves. I don't tell them, hey, y'all post the cash out. Hey, y'all post the cash out, what's going on now? They will post it on their own. But even though they post my cash out, you have never on one single video heard me ask somebody, hey, y'all send me a donation. Hey, y'all send me a cash out. Hey, y'all, please donate to support the channel. And now when we was in C-19, boy, people had all kinds of checks. I come on here and people just be donating, donating, donating. Y'all notice it ain't been one donation right tonight. You know why? We in the recession, but the news can't talk about it. Biden ain't going to let them talk about it because they're going to make his presidency look bad. We in the recession right now. So me knowing that, what I took and did, I took my life coach certification course that was $1,500 and I made it $400 because people still trying to build a brand. People still want to add a stream of income. So because we in the recession, I took and took and made the course. Rat 9, the life coach certification is $400 when it was $1,500. When people who don't have my success as a coach, who don't have my experience as a coach, charging $5,000 for their life coach training, $5,000. And my training right now is on tonigasacademy.com for $400 and even doing that, people still is too blind to see the difference between the real and the fake. People still too blind to see the difference between who doing what they do for money and who doing what they do out of purpose and trusting God to make up the difference. I had to go off on some idiots the other day because they were talking about, oh, you just doing it for money. Oh, you just doing it for money. Not realizing that relationship coaching does not make money. It don't make money. Now YouTube could make money, but that ain't, I don't just do relationship videos. So, but somebody who only do relationship videos and they got to be at YouTube, they might be making some money, but we still don't know that because everybody got a different pay rate, depending on a lot of different factors that nobody got control over, but YouTube. So you can get a video with a million views and you can make $100. So it still could turn into no money. So that's what people don't understand. So guess what? Because I know relationship coaching will not feed my family. I had to build business. I had to create multiple streams of income. I had to teach on everything that God teach me. I got to teach on it all. Life, love and business. And I got to roll out several different programs because I can't depend on no relationship coaching. I'm doing that out of passion. That I'd be in the po house, but then they'll take and see a scam artist. They'll see a fraudster looking like they make money. But what you have to realize is everything you see, everything you see is not real. So what you have to understand is just because a relationship coach have a Lamborghini, don't mean this person did not build business credit and go get that car in a business name with a 850 credit score. If you have a 850 credit score and you've had some car loans, or if you got a large down payment, people like when I first became a, when I was a relationship coach, when I first started doing relationship coaching, I was making $9.50 an hour on my job and I was a relationship coach. And I did a business deal. After I started building my brand, I did a business deal for about $1.1 million where it was like a investment and a loan. And it was almost $1.1 million. And out of that 1.1 million, I got to spend about 800,000 of it. I believe it was. And out of that 800,000 that I got to spend, I was able to buy a house, buy a Rolex and buy, put down on a Maserati. This was a business deal. It had nothing to do with relationship coaching. This was somebody, a friend of mine, betting on me. And guess what? People online saw the Maserati stitching behind my head and they assumed it came from relationship coaching. They did not know it was from a business deal for my film company, Gaskins Productions. So people saw me talking on relationships which was my passion. And they saw a Maserati and they was like, oh, I can make money being a relationship coach. People believe what they see. So that's why the young men started to think, oh, that's my, oh, that's from that. And then people look and see me in a suite. Got a suite at the Temple Bay Book Stadium watching Tom Brady, my logo on the wall that I own a suite at the stadium. They see me in a Maserati Sprinter. Not realizing that I am a ghost writer and also a business consultant. When I ghost write a book, I wrote my book in two days. Every book I wrote, I've written it in one week. When I ghost write a book, I write my client's book in three days. I tell them, give me six months, but after I record a story, I write their book in three days and I get paid $10,000 or more. People don't even know that because I don't promote that. Then I train life coaches. I don't train relationship coaches. I train life coaches. So I've trained over 3,000 life coaches. The average cost of the course is $500. My goal is to train 1,000 coaches a year. If I hit my goal of training 1,000 coaches and I charge $500, that's $500,000. But see, people will look and they will see the fruits of success. So this is what the idiot boys, the idiot boys, they go to my page and they scroll through my page and they see me in my suite. They see me in the Maserati Sprinter. They see me in a Bentley. They see me in a G wagon. They see me in an Escalade. They see me in a Maserati. They see me on a private jet. And they're like, well, how hit, whoa, all these come from relationship coaching? No, you can't make no money and no relationship coach. Because when you are a relationship coach, you coaching, you buy the hour. You only got so many time in an hour. So you have to learn how to build business. You got to learn how to scale. So what I had to build is tonigasacademy.com. When you go to tonigasacademy.com, you will see that my bread winning courses are business courses, how to be an entrepreneur, how to be a speaker, how to be an author, how to be a life coach. The relationship courses are $15, $5 or free. And see, this is where we lack discernment. And so this is why the industry, it take a black eye because people will see trappings of success and think that all of that comes from men giving advice to women on love and relationships. Now I realized that a lot of these people out here, they doing business credit. A lot of these people doing credit card fraud. A lot of these people doing all kinds of loans. A lot of these people doing all kinds of stuff that ain't got nothing to do with their culture business and got nothing to do with relationships. A lot of these people living off of women who made six figures and got good credit or living with their mama and taking their YouTube money and buying all this nice stuff. And that's right there, what's killing the industry is people assuming that people are getting rich and don't even know what money is and what rich is. Instead of listening to the message to see who message is consistent, who message is thorough, who message is real and who not begging, who's not gaslighting, who's not trying to set people up for the Okie Dope and paying attention to that over time. And so it'd be frustrating me when people can't tell the real from the faith. When they'll come and see that I've been married over 16 years and my mistakes of my past, I teach on those mistakes. I minister on those mistakes. Ain't had a single scandal because when I'm growing in my life, I didn't allow myself as a married man to get messy and to get out there in the streets and to go to starting affairs and to be juggling women and to be doing all of that. Yeah, I was tempted. Yeah, I went through the same temptation every man go through. Yeah, I had moments of where I'm like, who, why? Boy, I'm like, boy, I could lose it all, boy. If I could slip and fall, but I held myself accountable. And by keeping myself in check, that's how I've been married for over 16 years in the public and not having scandal after scandal after scandal. Because you see pastors get up and be known for five years and being a scandal already in five years. I done been online and in the top 100 of black men online since 2010, that's 13 years. And they had a single scandal come out of me being in some type of long-term affair and juggling this woman and juggling that woman. But yet people will take and put my name in the same sentence with somebody who been on the scene for five years and already got caught up in some mess. And that's just the lack of discernment that we have. And that's why we cannot grow as a people because we have such a poor self image of our self that when we see a healthy image, we can't even believe it. We're like, oh, no, this can't be real. A faithful black man? Oh, no, that got to be fake. Oh, it got to be a side chick somewhere that ain't saying nothing. A faithful black man? Like we hate ourselves that much that we can't even believe healthy examples of black men and women. Oh, no, something got to be going on. Oh, no, something got to be in the water. And that's sad. That's sad. When we ought to be innocent until proven guilty, when we ought to be able to be listened to and respected without being cyberbullied and without being talked down to and talked about until we show ourselves to be a fraud. But we just coming out and just automatically being rolled off as a fraud. And they had a single scandal. And when people could go, for me personally, people could go to Amazon and type in Tony Gaskin and could pull up my books, could go Google me and go to my Twitter and see that I've been online on Twitter since 2009 in the public eye. Facebook since 2007 or 2005 or whenever it came out in the public eye without having scandal and scandal and scandal. But yeah, oh, he must be just like such and such. Cause such and such cheated. So that mean him and him and him and all of them cheated. If this one over here cheated and that's the idiocracy. But hey, listen to me, man, I'm supposed to be on here one hour. That's when I'm like getting on here. I'm supposed to be on here one hour. So I'm trying to get home and see my wife. She probably went to sleep. So listen to me on here and get this thing together. Hey, this Tony Gaskin, New York City. I'll be there this Saturday coming in town for somebody's event, relationship event, singles and couples. If you buy your ticket for Saturday, New York, it's on my social media and stuff. If you buy your ticket, send me a message. So I'll be looking out for you. So I know that you coming. God bless you. Or send me an email. Support at TonyGash.com. God bless you. We'll talk soon. Oh, thank you to the moderators now. Thank you to the moderators who helped me in that chat. Really appreciate y'all helping out over there. God bless y'all. God bless y'all. Got my dinner here. I ate dinner. I ate dinner at 12.30 a.m.