 the next one is if he cheats with you he will cheat on you and so this goes back to you know some of the videos we've done recently and it's just like we keep getting these women that come into our community and they're like hey i'm dating this married man hey i'm i'm married and i'm dating a married man and you're just like oh my god how many times do we have to go over this you know and it like i and i get it you know you you're you know things happen in marriages and you get bored and things you know aren't always going right and then you find this other exciting thing going on and all of a sudden you're like oh my god i'm in love again and you know all this other stuff but it's not with my husband and maybe i made a mistake or whatever right and it's just one of those things like here so first i'm going to say my suggestion right which is stop dating guys in relationships stop dating guys who are married stop investing in these people and if he really wants you he'll figure out everything with the other person before you guys get together and so don't get involved in something that's messy for the most for most people you don't need to get involved in something that's messy and you know that it's messy so don't get involved in it and sometimes i get women i got a woman the other day and she was like oh well what if i didn't know until you know three weeks in until a month in of dating this guy that you know he was married and it's like yeah but you know now right like just because he didn't tell you it doesn't give you an excuse to start to continue seeing a guy that's married doesn't make it doesn't make any sense just stop it just stop it just just please stop it just please stop it please stop it all right i didn't turn it off okay please stop it okay stop it stop it stop it