 I wanted to just go back to starting out because you were part of a parish and you would do performances there. And we have some photos from your first communion at someone else's. Parish. It's two different eras obviously. It's an earlier era right there. So that's your first communion? That's the 70s and that's the 80s. It's clear I think. That's first communion and you know usually you wear white you know like you wear all white suit and like my brother there later not many years later but I insisted on the I wanted it to be kind of like Saturday night feverish I insisted on the two tone. I mean like literally it was the biggest movie of its time right and that's my sister and that's uh my brother's communion in the 1984. You really dressed up for your brother? Yeah I'm like 14 now. I was so I remember that outfit man. I had shoes that were aqua too. That was that was break dancing years. I was a break dancer and I had a crew and that was what that was about yeah. What was your crew called? The northern breakers. I don't know why and I was Sir Papalot. Wait Sir Papalot can you show us any moves? No. Where's the invisible ball? Where's the invisible ball? Back in the day I knew where the invisible ball was. Let me tell you. Sorry that's just for any old b-boys in the house. I can tell a lot of b-boys come to this show. They're out there just down low quiet. They're my Vegas fans. Wait so did you act when you were young? Yes. Yes that's all I ever wanted to do. You mentioned the parish. Yes so yeah I was at the Catholic school in New Jersey right over here Union City. Anybody from New Jersey here? More than Inwood. That should be the new thing. New Jersey. More than Inwood. Yeah and so Catholic school in the 70s and you know it was like two blocks away from my house and mom single mom and like I wasn't allowed to do anything if it didn't have something to do with the school and the school meant the parish right because the nunnery or the is that what they call it the nunnery was behind the convent whatever nunnery is better. It's the same thing though right it's not like yeah the the convent slash nunnery was behind the school and the church and the rectory which was like massive you know we had like if you look across the park if you look across the river on like 28th street 20th street to Chelsea you'll see three domes and that's like a massive church that's my church St. Michael's and it's landmark they can't knock it down and they don't use it as a church anymore but what are they but it was very it was like it was like this Bermuda triangle that I was allowed to go to because that's the only place I could go was to school the library the or the or the church and they had theater there and so I was in everything I was in the choir I was an altar boy I just anything just not to be in my house I was a lector I was like a really young reader so I was I would like read you know the first read you know the first reading from Paul to the Corinthians you know like before the main event the priest you know did you feel restless at school like I feel like you were always in trouble at school and I'm wondering if maybe you were just smarter and they weren't actually like giving you books and things that you wanted to read well that's a nice way to put it thanks it's taken me a long a long long time to like actually realize that for myself but yeah particularly now that you have a son but in all seriousness now that you've had a child go through school yeah I mean you had your son when you were 25 so you got to see that he got to go to schools that nurtured him as an actor yeah totally look I grew up in a I grew up in a neighborhood that like that wasn't nobody did that you know except for Joe Neglia and Steve Richardi and the you know the nine people that did it in the parish you're talking about reading no I'm talking about acting yeah yeah this show's going great I was laughing like that out there yeah acting acting nobody like you know I came from I come from a family of people who don't do this you know like in the in the long history on both sides who's just workers you know people who work jobs and so yeah it was encouraged but you know I like lived for television it was like I was a kid in the 70s that watched television well that's a great segue to a clip of you because I actually really knew you from these critically acclaimed and they were unbelievable plays and then I saw you on Sex in the City and it was like hard to put the two characters together you know and you've like seen someone in a very gripping role in one way and then that's not the Sex in the City one yeah but we have a clip of the Sex in the City one oh great oh well that sure is funky Samantha had to fight every urge she had not to tell Adam Ball he didn't know from funky how long does it take for the wheat grass to work its way into your system hard to say ballpark hour and a half oh we should order an hour and a half to wheat grass shots and a ginger melon smoothie later oh what she's gonna do that's what's funny did your romantic life you're looking you can't look at me the same now right it's just my ass my young ass it's a good looking ass be proud remember those years I was wondering if it had any impact on your love life no I mean it's fucking make believe you know what I mean like some people don't really really understand that like when people stopped me and they're like after boardwalk and they were like well all of a sudden people were scared of me you know and I'd be like what are you like a moron it's make believe all of it like Leo de Caprio who's never fought a bear and fucking Christopher Reeve never flew you know like you guys know that right like I sometimes when people ask me like did you have trouble and I'm like no I didn't I just like had my life and the kid and you know now I'm having you know shower cake but I did want to show a clip of your serious acting from boardwalk empire because I can't show something from the many plays I've seen you in but before we do that I feel like from motherfucker with a hat you got all these incredible roles I did yeah yeah motherfucker with the hat was this play that was here on Broadway about five years ago it was written by Steven Geerges and and it was uh it was like a big hit and but it was more importantly like the best play I've ever read in my lifetime like truly and I fucking loved the theater and I've been coming for a long time and I'm very proud to have been a part of that but anyway um yeah that that was a play that like everybody just came to see like Marty came to see that with Terry Scorsese and that's how I got um I mean who else am I talking about right um but but like directly that happened and then I they called me in to meet them on on boardwalk and Woody Allen Woody Allen um big buddy he came as well and then that's how I got to meet him for Blue Jasmine and yeah like a lot of great things and Al Pacino and Al came to see it and that's how I got to work with Al out but that so I was sitting at the Tony Awards because that because motherfucker with the hat got nominated for a whole bunch of Tony Awards and I got nominated and they sat me next to Al Pacino who's like he's my idol you know and uh and they sat me next to him and it was fucking awesome you know and he had the Benihana thing on his head with the with the headband and it was at the Tony Awards amazing yeah he's fucking looked great the deep the deep V and I was like Mr Pacino you know and and I did that thing like that it's really hard for me to do I'm not good at walking up to people like forget it I had just terrible at it and I get embarrassed and but I had to I was like here's my moment because I've left I've every play I've ever done it was like my thing to get me psyched up before a show on my walk to the theater is Al Pacino is coming tonight it's just the thing I've always had you know like from the time I was like a teenager and so and here I was and I was like and so I asked him and I said before the show started I said Mr Pacino and his Bobby kind of Ali la la and I said I'm doing this play the motherfucker with the hat and it would mean everything to me if you could come and see it and he went I'm coming and he came and he came like you know the next week and he stayed in my dressing room for two hours talking to me like they were leaving and you know there's one guy left like you know that puts the God Mike out and he even like wait he even he didn't bother us he just waited until Pacino was done he's gonna fuck with you and Pacino so that was it so that's how I met Alan I got to do Glengarry with him because of that play so I feel very fortunate and a movie although on that job on on boardwalk that character was written like I remember Terry winter I didn't read anything when I took the part and I just heard him and Marty talk about it to me and I was like of course so and they said to me Terry said I promise you you'll never be bored and like I was never fucking bored like every scene I was I was not that character was never like in the background like on that show there's a lot of group scenes but I was I always was like getting to drive the scenes and so it was pretty intense but you know then you have like your real life you have to fucking deal with and I can't go bringing him to you know my kids parents association meeting you know like and I definitely did that I had to do that so and you mean compartments was yeah come yeah whatever you want to call it yeah but so answer your question yeah I bring it home but but I don't bring it home like really like and hold on to it I hold on to it enough as I need to to go and then do it and what about vice versa like if somebody's going on at home do you bring that there are you able to compartmentalize on that side I'm able to compartmentalize but it's but it's you know it's not um I don't like that word compartmentalization because I don't really do that I do either yeah don't fucking use it with me anymore we're done the end what is it what is a better what is I don't care what is a better way to talk about that we're you know dealing with emotional stuff it's just flow right like you just like you know there's you can't put your things away like you know at least I don't believe so I think you carry everything with you all the time and like you know that's what makes life fucking hard and interesting and you know and you know two moments are the same you know and I'm not after like the same moment happening I'm not after any kind of routine in my life even though I've raised a kid but you know philosophically that's what helps my work it's what helps my keeping it's it helps what helps it keep it interesting for me and it's so much healthier to look at it is that we carry all of this simultaneously yeah we do I don't really believe you can like put something away and go hmm I'm not bringing that with me I I don't really yeah I agree and I'm striving striving to be able to and that's scary but it's I think that's what happens anyway how did raising a kid I mean maybe give you that because that's something I'm striving for now in my life to have that type of insight and really carry that through but did you feel like raising a kid so young you know made you grow up fast or yeah definitely we have a picture of you with Jake when he was a little kid oh yeah he's like four days old there he's 20 now yeah I was gonna ask what's it like writing all I'm all I could see is that earring in my ear I was doing a play that's why I have it and the hole never went away still have it I like the pleated jeans the big jeans and the big belt what's it like working with him now what do you mean like on nurse Jackie oh yeah well we did that when he was in high school senior year of high school and you know it's amazing but more after the fact like Jake was really serious about it and he just did it he has a real ease with this kind of work like I love doing what I do and it's not like like I know I know what I'm doing but I don't really have to talk about it and there's an ease with which I feel like it is that anybody who loves their job should feel a kind of like oh I was meant to do this my mother's a social worker and she talks about that where she's like I love to go to work every day because like I feel like I belong there and that's how I feel about my work and my son has that very lucky gift um can we show one more clip because you for vinyl which is coming out this is your first starring role right yeah it's a show coming out in HBO and uh Valentine's night beyond every Sunday it's coming out Valentine's yeah was that on purpose February 14 I don't know I don't fucking know Katie we got incredible musicians on that show the music is hot they're in it I know it I know these guys you just heard out of them right now is about how many lines they have in the whole series come a dad and you are about to move to brooklyn a dad again um so I wanted to get you have you read ah I've read that book ah I'm giving it out I'm giving it to five other people you should get this book by tanishie coach gold between the world and me right I'm glad that I got you too because I was like he reads everything and then I also got you from vinyl this is all the new york or criticism on that you're a hopefully you guys will get renewed that one I think you had and then I got you some very important hipster gifts for um brooklyn so first of all your park slope co-op bag will give you a lot of street cred um argyle socks from factory for your baby and of course a moustache fire um yeah so um bobby I know that we've gotten to talk a lot and show in your clips and I know that you never sing in public but I was wondering if you might entreat us with a song tonight yeah yeah yeah yeah that yes I'm gonna sing but I don't I've never really sang in public uh since uh you know I was a kid uh but uh I like this song so I'm gonna I'm gonna have my phone on because just in case I know these words I know this is like my go-to in karaoke so I think I'm gonna be all right but I I know the words but I'm just gonna have it out in case I get nervous all right and I gotta look down but don't expect major stagecraft like you know like uh sex in the city there should I do it like that should I take my pants off and face face the band I won't I won't stop you