 Hello everyone, welcome to another Narc Survival Live video, there is likely to be quite a lot of noise and people coming around but I have tried my best to find a quiet safe space so that I can share this message with you. So yes in this video we're going to be talking about why the narcissist will ghost you because a lot of you you may be wondering what went wrong it's like for no reason at all they suddenly cut contact with you and you don't know what was going on you don't understand it you want to know you want to know why this person just left you all of a sudden without giving you any closure without giving you any validation there was no reason or explanation for their behavior they just left you behind and you want to know why you want to know what the reason is you want to know what you did wrong but for some reason and yes this is always a pattern with narcissists they'll never tell you the actual reason why they might give you some reason but deep down you know that's not the real truth you know there's something more to it but if you go to them and you ask them they're never going to tell you that this is something that you have to figure out on your own or you'll come to me a coach and I will give you this information based on my own research and experiences as you may know I've been doing this now pretty much every day for the last five years and I've got experience over my entire life so yeah let's get into this let's talk about it why the narcissist will ghost you and I can tell you that the reason is very different to what you might actually believe because they've led you to believe that you're this horrible person you couldn't do anything right you couldn't fulfill them you couldn't make them happy and someone else can do more or better than what you can do they're making you think that it's something to do with you something that no matter what you do you can't fix it you can't change it it's always going to be that way and I can tell you right now that that isn't the truth if that was the truth and you're not trying to change you're not trying to be a better person for them you wouldn't have found my videos in the first place that never would have happened you found my videos because you are trying to change you are trying to be better you're not just trying to point the finger and blame everyone else for your own problems your own mistakes you're not trying to do that so that just blows that out of the water already and yeah you're trying to bet yourself you're trying to improve yourself trying to learn more about yourself that's why you have found my videos at least I would hope that's the reason why in most situations it is and yeah I'm here to give you this information I'm here to tell you that actually it's not you and you just did a look back because they get you into this moment the situation where you're zoned in on what's happening right now because that's how they get supply of course they don't want you to look back and think about the past and everything that you've done for them that is the last thing they want you to do they want you to focus on your mistakes on the things that you didn't do it's a typical thing with narcissists they could give you 10 things to do you could do nine of them and they'll focus on the one thing that you didn't do or the one thing that you did wrong and they'll forget the nine things that you got right because the narcissists they have these insatiable desires that can never be fulfilled there's nothing you can do that will make them happy it will never be enough so now it wasn't you and it's likely that you did more than enough you should have walked away a long time ago but you didn't and they used you up they exploited you and then they left you for a very different reason than what you have been led to believe they ghosted you because you were getting too smart you were getting too intelligent you were catching on to their game you were starting to figure things out you were starting to recognize their real motives their real objective you were starting to recognize all of that and they weren't having it because the last thing they want is to be exposed for the frauds that they are they don't want everyone to know what they're really like which is why they're so focused on their mask and their image and what they present to the world because they want everyone to think that they're perfect they don't make any mistakes because if they had to accept that then they wouldn't know where to start they've got so many skeletons in the closet they don't want to revisit the past because revisiting the past is very unfavorable for them it would cause a lot of other things to be brought up things that they don't want to discuss so they're going to leave that there and they're going to try and move on with someone else and they're going to leave you behind because you're not susceptible to their manipulation anymore they can't trick you they can't get went over on you they can't make you believe that you're the problem you just keep questioning and confronting them you're constantly on their case and you're not letting it go so all they can do is run away and it may look like they're running from you but they're actually running from themselves because they hate themselves they can't stand themselves if they love themselves so much as they portrayed the first thing they would do is go within and recognize their feelings and their traumas because that is self-love that is self-care to accept that yes okay maybe i've made a lot of mistakes maybe i'm not as great as i think i am maybe i am a pile of shit and so what i can't change that but i'm going to try and be better now yes that is the mindset of growth that is the mindset of self-love and self-care and that is the mindset that they do not have they will never have that instead all they're going to do is love bomb devalue and discard and then move to move on to someone else that's all they're ever going to be able to do and it may look like they're riding off into the sunset and they found this perfect person they're married and they have children yes it may look like that but that's very different to the reality of it because the reality of it is that they've actually moved on to a bigger fool someone who is more susceptible someone who believes in their lies and manipulations someone who they can deceive that's all that that is they've just found someone who they can pull the wool over the rise someone who they can trick they couldn't do that with you anymore so they had no choice but to leave so there is no reason for you to feel jealous because i understand yes i've been there myself i thought i loved this person and they did all of these things to me and then they made me believe that they moved on to someone else and they were so happy without me and yes that hurts i can stand here today as the man that i am and say that yes that hurt me a lot it made me feel like i was nothing like i wasn't good enough and i know that many of you may be feeling that way right now and i can tell you that there is nothing for you to be jealous of this new relationship that they moved on to is completely fake and of course it's fake because they never accepted the truth they denied reality and they created their own fake world the illusion so how can anything be real if they don't even practice acceptance which means that any relationship even their children from the very beginning from day one they are fake and they will never go within and find themselves they will never go within and do that because they just don't want to face the pain they don't want to go within and feel those painful emotions they don't want to go within and feel that but i will tell you right now that that is exactly what you need to do you must do that you must process the emotions the shame the pain you must feel that right now and as an empath i'm sure that you will be able to when you do that you will be able to heal and move on and then you'll be like me you'll be able to discuss these things that you've gone through you'll be able to talk about it out loud and it won't even hurt you it won't even affect you it won't even bother you or get to you anymore i mean i'm not saying you will be completely invincible of course not i mean there's always things that will get to you and when you become really healthy yes certain certain things will make you sick but you'll know how to deal with it you'll know you'll know how to get over it and to come back to yourself instead of getting drawn deeper into it because that's all that narcissists can do they can't go out of it they can only go deeper into it they just go deeper and deeper into their false reality to the point where it becomes completely impossible for them to find their way out of it because they lack empathy there's nothing that tells them that they should stop and go back there's nothing telling them to do that because they don't feel anything for anyone but luckily myself as an empath i do have that it's like a chip in my brain that tells me this is wrong and i feel other people's pain i recognize i feel it as if it's my own emotion but at this point in my journey i'm able to recognize no that emotion does not belong to me and i'm able to put it back to where it belongs but i'm also able to be empathetic compassionate despite everything that i've been through in my life and i can quite honestly say that yes that is a beautiful thing it really is and that is not something that you should throw away like a lot of people do these days because they see it as though my empathy is not getting me what i want i need to get rid of it i need to become a narcissist so that i can control a manipulate other people but when you do that even if you do get what you get what you want you're not even living you're not even feeling it you're not even sensitive to it ah just got bit by something right in the neck i don't know what it was unfortunately i killed it but that did cause me a lot of pain so there wasn't really too much i could do about that but yes on to the topic these people they go so far in life where they realize that their empathy isn't getting them what they want so they think okay i've just gotta go out and do it i've just gotta put the empathy away if they ever had it to begin with and then they become a narcissist they control the manipulate people it starts with their parents of course and then they start to manipulate the other people around them as they get older maybe it's their co-workers their bosses their friends their family whoever it may be they're controlling and manipulating everyone okay i keep getting bit with things here so i'm going to come over this way but yes they keep controlling and manipulating everyone to suit their agenda to get them what they want what they need but what is the point when you think about it what is the point in having what you want whether it's a relationship a friend a business connection whatever it may be and i'm sure they realize this as well at some point what is the point in having these things if you can't even feel it you can't even feel those emotions those sensations that should come along with it what's the point in having it in the first place because i mean that's the whole point of it is the feeling that you get from it that's why you want it because it makes you feel good so yeah it's quite ironic when you think about it i mean to me i'd rather just be an empath and have nothing because at least then i can still feel something what's the point being alive if you don't even feel anything but this is how it is for these narcissists they can't connect they can't experience life in the way that we do and i can tell you that they will never get to experience that they're never going to find their way there they're never going to be able to do it and the reason why is because they like empathy because if they did have empathy then they would do it they would know that it is the right thing to do and i can tell you that right now because it is the right thing to do it is what we should all do we should hold on to our empathy and our love and compassion for other people and to do what we know is right to do what we know will make them better and that should always be at the forefront of your mind what can i do to make this person happy and i should be telling you straight away everyone should have this it should tell you straight away it's what i'm about to do going to cause this person pain or is it going to make them happy and if it's going to make them happy then you should probably do it you should do whatever you think is going to make the other person happy of course not at the expense of your own happiness although at times yes you may decide to put other people first and that's okay too just don't make a habit of it don't do that all the time because of course yes you should focus on yourself too but yes narcissists they get their idea of happiness from controlling and manipulating people putting people down getting what they want out of them and they don't care even if the other person feels nothing they'll still do it but that doesn't make them feel happy it's like this robotic gesture which doesn't actually fulfill them it doesn't them feel anything because true happiness comes from connection from real love intimacy and that is not something that you can simulate or recreate it's either there or it's not you may be able to fool someone in the beginning but over time it will prove itself whether it's real or not eventually you will find out and when you do that is when they will ghost you they're not going to be anywhere to be found and yes you may be left alone by yourself in a room right now and that should tell you everything that you need to know it should tell you that if this was real if this was actually what I wanted then where is it now why is it not here with me right now and that is how you should know that yes it was fake because if it was real where is it if they really cared about you if they really loved you they would be there doesn't matter who you are or what you're supposed to have done if someone is truly that loyal they will never toss you aside will never disown you they will never do any of that they will never they will never leave you that's just something they're not going to do if they really love and care about you they can't just forget about you because if they have empathy of course the empathy goes hand in hand with real love intimacy and connection if they have that they can't just let you go they can't just forget about you they can't just cut you off and move on to another relationship and everything's fine they're happy now what about you how can they be happy knowing that you're sitting alone on your own and you don't feel good that's impossible I mean yes it may give them a two seconds high and what they think is happiness but that level of happiness is nowhere near to what we can experience on our own but that will subside and they will go back to feeling how they really feel because as I said yes true happiness it comes from love and connection from caring about other people doesn't matter what they've done to you doesn't matter if they hurt you doesn't matter if they weren't what you wanted them to be you're still going to care if you have empathy you're still going to care and I know a lot of you are still going through this you're still dealing with it but yes you do still care about them they're still playing on your mind because you do have empathy you do have that connection so even though they may have done all of these things to you and they may have left you in the past you're still thinking about them they're still on your mind because you are a genuine person you are someone who cares and you cannot throw that away just because someone's shown that they didn't care about you you must continue on your path on your journey don't let them get to you you must continue with that yes there will be pain along the way of course there will be and you've just got to let that flow through again just let it flow let it pass through you don't need to hold on to it just to accept it and let it go and when you do that you are processing it by letting go of the resistance by letting go of the power that it would otherwise have over again and what you're doing when you do that is you are connecting to your soul rather than your ego because the ego has a need to feel important and you could just stop that right now by saying yes okay maybe I am a pile of shit maybe I am nothing and then you can start again and build yourself back up something that they will never be able to do they will never be able to do that because they have to hold on to their ego they have this need to feel like they are better than what they actually are and that is why that's the only thing that they can do there's nothing else that they can do which is why you will always find yourself alone at the end of it and feeling like no one cares about you because that's the only thing that they can do is disconnect or at least try to disconnect but you will find that they are still holding on to you and then they will they will still try to come back they will still try to hook you they will still try to do that and the reason why is because that is all that they can do they can't do anything else other than that so don't worry about it too much I know it's difficult but yes they will ghost you because that is the only thing that they can do at the end of it and it may look like they're running from you but they're actually running from themselves they're running from themselves because maybe they're running from the fact that they do want to admit that they actually didn't care about you to accept that yes they do lack empathy which means that yes they are nothing that's why they create this false image this false self because deep down we all know we all are aware of this deep down that if you lack empathy if you don't care about another person then yes you are a pile of shit if you don't care about other people I'd have if that doesn't make you feel something then nothing well if you don't feel inside of yourself that you should care but Nasa says no they try and switch it around as though they're so grandiose they're so important they don't have to care about anyone and that's the world that they live in and that's how it's so easy for them to devalue you and ghost you because they just constantly point the finger at you it's all your fault you're to blame and they'll just keep doing that they'll keep doing that until the day they die and that's never going to change it's only you you have to stand up and walk away move on with your life because that's the only thing that you can do as well you cannot fix them you cannot change them and they need you to understand that so yes that's just how it goes for them and they're going to try and cover it with these coping and defense mechanisms as though they're really okay and nothing is wrong with them they'll just try and laugh it off but yes there really is nothing that they can do about it they can't experience real love intimacy or connection they will never get to have that they'll never get to have the same feelings and sensations as you do and that that's just how it's going to be for them it's never going to change it's never going to be any different they'll always be as you see them they'll always just be looking to to make you believe that they actually have something for real when reality they do not which is sad and yes i do feel their pain as well of course there's an empath when i'm around artists i do recognize that they hurt they're sad because they can't get the same fulfillment from things as we can i mean that's pretty much what it comes down to that's where they hate us that's where they can't stand us that's why they envy us and you can have something that is nothing in comparison to what they have and they will still hate you and they will hate you because they know you have more fulfillment from being on your own than they do in their next relationship that they're pretending they're so happy with they know that you're happy on your own they can see that and that's why they will still come back and try to bring you down try to make you feel like there's something wrong with you being on your own or to try to make you envious or jealous of what they have to try to make you desire to have something with them again because yes they know they can see you can experience real happiness true fulfillment and that is something they'll never get to experience in their entire lives because that comes from taking accountability recognizing that you've made mistakes and not making that same mistake again it comes from you are your past traumas processing these emotions it comes from all of those things which is why yes all they can do is love bomb devalue discard hoover and just bring you back down all over again that's why that's all they can do they can't experience true happiness and fulfillment so you're never gonna feel that when you're around them i've found the illusion the love woman in the beginning but what what they're actually doing is just reflecting yourself back to you anyway they're just reciprocating the energy that you're giving to them and yes it is very tiring very draining for them to do that so it doesn't last for long but yes we can experience real love we can experience true intimacy connections we can lift people up and we should continue to do that with the right people of course so if you have a friend a family member whoever it may be someone that you love and trust give them what they want give them what they need because it's not going to affect you as long as you have an abundance of it and it's not always at your expense and they're reciprocating something of equal exchange of value back to you it's not going to harm you it's only when you're dealing with narcissists where you're constantly putting out you're giving things to them and you feel like you're missing something you feel like something is wrong like you're deficient now you're not replenished yes you feel that way because you gave to the wrong person that's why you're not happy that's why you're still longing and yearning for them because you gave something and you got nothing back in return so of course you're gonna feel like it's unfair of course you're gonna feel bitter and resentful yes you will feel that way when you're around these types of people but when you're giving it to the right people it's going to feel good it will and I know that I feel good every time that I make these videos every time that I put this content out there I know that it's helping genuine people people who really want to love give and share with other people but just make sure you're giving it to the right people otherwise yes you will feel loss and despair so yeah that's it for this video that's why narcissists ghost you these are the real reasons despite what they may have told you I'd just like to thank you all for joining me if this video was helpful for you you can give it a thumbs up down below and you can let me know your thoughts in the comment section as well I do read your comments every day share the video subscribe for a one-on-one coaching session with me which I do highly recommend you can book it on my website it is NarcSurvivor.co.uk and you can check out my Instagram as well I have new pictures and videos of my travels on there it is NarcSurvivor YouTube and Instagram other than that that's all I have to say thank you all for joining me on another NarcSurvivor live video and as always I will talk to you in another one very soon