 Well, no one else is gonna do it, so I might as well. This is the introduction song. It's not very good, but it's not too long. So several weeks ago in my evermore video, which you should watch if you haven't, I just mentioned that for some reason in a lot of romance books, especially young adult romance books, for some reason it just features really, really bad abuse of romantic partners. Like, it's rarely physical abuse. It sometimes is physical abuse, but it's rarely physical abuse. It's mostly stuff like, you know, extremely controlling behavior, emotional abuse, cutting them off from their family and social circles, you know, etc. That sort of thing. And it's just really common and also not acknowledged as abuse and also like just not even brought up as a problem a lot of the time. So the main character and their love interest just kind of go on being happy together. And the main thing about this is that like a lot of stuff, it's an iceberg. You know, you only see a little bit above the water, but there's so much more below it. Like, and a lot of the stuff that you know of at the top is not even that bad comparatively. Like, Edward watching Bella sleep and stalking her before they're together is like the very, very tippity tip top of the iceberg. And like, that's bad, don't get me wrong, but compared to some of the other shit here, it's not even worth mentioning, quite frankly. And in my evermore video, I just mentioned that someone should make a video, like an iceberg video, going over all of the horrible, abusive things that love interests to do in romance novels, especially young adult romance novels, I don't know why. But I just decided, you know what, why not? I'll do it. No one else seems to. It's not like there's a law that says, after I do this, no one else is allowed to. And how I'm doing this is going to be that the farther down you go on the iceberg, the worse it is, not necessarily the more obscure it is. Now, there's a correlation between those two things, like some of the things that are really bad are more obscure. Some of them aren't that obscure. But whatever the case is, they're getting worse as it goes down. I know that's not how iceberg videos are supposed to work, but I don't care. Iceberg videos were a stupid trend anyways. And yeah, so let's get going. I will note that if I mention a book here, expect there to be spoilers, so be aware. And also, this is talking about some kind of unpleasant topics, you know, again, it's abuse in relationships. So if you don't want to hear about that, then you should leave now. Goodbye. So we're going to start off with tier one of the iceberg, like the very top, what you can see above the water. And this is stuff that is really bad, but forgivable. You know, like if you explain to someone why it's wrong and they understand that what they did was wrong and they move past it and don't do it anymore, then you could see that relationship still working out. It might be a bit of a long shot, but it's, you know, you could see it. First is from Twilight. And again, that's just Edward watching Bella sleep and kind of sort of stalking her for a little while before they're together. Like that's creepy, yes, but she seems cool with it, I suppose. And it's not like he's doing anything untoward with like her possessions or her personally. And he does like actually keep an eye on her and protect her. So I mean, it could be a lot worse. Like honestly, something Edward does that belongs much lower on the iceberg is that he straight up damages her car at one point to prevent her from going out to see one of her other friends because he wants to control who she is allowed to have friendships with. It's like, it's not good. But yeah, the stalking thing is not that awful, really, in the grand scheme of things. The second one is from a more obscure series, which I talked about a few months ago called Elemental. And basically in this one, it's what you would expect a normal girl runs into supernatural boy and then there's like this whole conflict where a bunch of people called the guides who like police the supernatural world are going to come in and attack them. And Becca has a love triangle with some dude and he's not important. But her secondary love interest is a guy named Hunter. And we find out near the end of the book that he has actually been lying to her this whole time and he's been working with the guides who are coming after her friends and he actually winds up helping them, helping the guides imprison her friends at the end and nearly kill them. Now that would be pretty bad. And in fact, Becca straight up acknowledges in the book that it's bad, which is like a rarity for some reason. But yeah, she straight up acknowledges that it's bad. And in the later books, her and Hunter remain friends. But she straight up tells them like, yeah, this whole relationship thing is not going to happen between us because you lie. And it would be worse. But he does actually help her and the other characters rescue their friends at the end like he changed his mind. So, you know, it could be a lot worse. Next up is going to be from Fallen. And that is how at the end of the first book, Daniel just abandons Lucinda at a different school on the other side of the country. Like, again, this series is pretty simple to understand like main character girl goes to school, falls in love with boy finds out he's actually a fallen angel also finds out that she's been dying and reincarnating over and over again for thousands of years and she doesn't know why. And then in order to protect her from forces who might be after her, her BF Daniel just flies her to a school on the other side of the country and then just leaves her there for most of the second book. And like it's for her safety, you know, she's not in any real danger while she's over there or she's in less danger while she's over there. But she's also like isolated from her friends and family and everybody and she her entire world has been turned upside down by all this knowledge of like angels and shit being real. Like you could at least you owe her some support man. Like you should be talking to her throughout this and communicating with her and making sure that she understands you're there for her at the very least. So that's the end of tier one. We're now moving on to tier two. And this tier I'm going to call the breakup with them tier. Like, again, it's something that's so heinous you really can't get past it, you just need to break up with them, move on with your life, never talk to them again because this some of this is pretty bad. First up is going to be from after and if you've read that book, you probably know exactly what I'm talking about. Granted, there's a lot of things that could fit here, but I'm going to put the whole virginity bet thing there. So basically after is again, if you haven't read it, it's like stupidly simple, but it's such a long book for some reason. I don't know why. Basically the main character girl whose name no one cares about, it goes off to college and she's away from her mom and her old boyfriend and everything and she gets involved with this dude named Harden Scott, who was originally Harry Styles. And we find out near the end, like after they've been in a relationship for a while, that Harden actually made a bet with some of his friends that he could take her virginity and he actually like kept bedsheets with blood on them as proof that he took her virginity and well yeah, that's I don't think I need to explain too much about that. That is extremely gross awful behavior on his part. Like it is extremely manipulative for one and it is extremely objectifying for another. Like it is taking main character girl and reducing her down to something that's can be bet over, you know, rather than a person with her own agency and everything. It's just gross behavior and for some reason the whole series continues on for a while after that. After that we're gonna have Light Larch and I don't even feel bad about spoiling this because that entire book is just so it's nonsense, like everything that happens in it is nonsense, but basically we have main character girl who again you don't care about her name. She goes to this magical competition and then things happen, but while she's there she meets a foreign king whose name is Grimm and the two of them kind of sort of fall in love, I guess, like they start making out and in the hallways and stuff like that. Again, I'm not making that up. That's a real those are real things that happen in this book. It's it's wild. But basically we find out that she's never met Grimm before this right, but then at the end of the book we find out that she actually did know Grimm before they were in a relationship before, but before the competition he erased her memories without her knowledge or her consent because he didn't want her to be distracted by him being there and like okay obviously this is an awful awful thing to do to someone like it's a violation of their privacy it's a violation of their mind itself like that's insane like an insanely insanely bad thing to do but honestly I feel like it would be worse if Lightlark weren't just so nonsensical like that's the worst thing about Lightlark is that none of it just makes any sense like character motivations make no sense and change all the time the world makes no sense the story makes no sense like the events I don't see how they lead into one another it's just dumb and like Grimm was trying not to distract her but then as soon as she shows up again they start making out and so like what it's just extremely dumb like even though this should maybe be on a lower tier it's so stupid that I have to put it in tier two this next one is from Elixir by Hilary Duff and it's a little unusual because this one is actually the main character doing something horrible to their partner instead of the other way around which it usually is a short version of this story is that god there's there's no short version but main character girl has a boyfriend who drank the elixir of immortality hundreds of years ago and ever since then she has like died and reincarnated several times there's multiple series with this exact premise by the way died and reincarnated several times and in this most recent iteration in the modern day he there's people after him that want to kill him so that they can use his blood to make more elixir of life and make themselves immortal and at the end of the first book he's going to commit suicide with like this magical ritual in order to prevent that from happening and because he also just doesn't want to live anymore he's been alive for centuries and main character girl despite meeting him like three days earlier decides to just tell the bad guys where he is so that they will come in and stop him from killing himself and then kidnap him so that they can use them in their evil plans which i want to reiterate their evil plans still involve killing him so it's not like she's really saving his life here and they actually do succeed in killing him in the second book but then he just comes back these books are wild that's just i don't know you're you're taking away his choice in the matter and letting him get abducted and imprisoned by people who want him dead for nefarious purposes that's horrible the last entry in tier two is also the main character doing something terrible to their love interest it is it's from stones to Abigail i just i cannot escape the onision trilogy i can't it's going to haunt me until i die but anyways uh that's a simple enough story main character who is unfortunately named james uh is just a high school student who falls in love with this girl named abby who goes to school with him uh and then later in the book there's a shooting at their school like abby's ex-boyfriend whose name is seth comes in and shoots a whole bunch of the fellow student their fellow students and kills a whole bunch of them right and then weeks after that uh abby is questioned by the police uh because they find out she wrote a letter to seth which might have inspired him to do the shooting like she says she wishes everyone would disappear which is not really that that's not telling him to do a shooting and the police figure that out pretty quick so they you know let her go without any issue however afterwards she tells james about this and him rather than saying you know the logical thing which is oh yeah you didn't actually do anything wrong and like just being there to support her basically he immediately without saying a word just like leaves the room and goes to brood in the shower for a while and the book explicitly says that she's like panicking and basically begging him without words not to leave but he does it anyways and um that's that's that's a shitty thing to do you know she she's emotionally fragile at the moment and she feels an incredible amount of guilt over what happens like again it's not her fault by any logical sense but you know your brain sometimes doesn't follow that logic and tells you to feel bad about things like that and you need to be there to support her yeah and she's been there to support him throughout this whole book in his difficult times but instead he just leaves for a while and then he does come back and say you know you didn't do anything wrong but which like no shit but the fact that he waited is awful and it I don't know if it's manipulative really but is a horrible thing to do with someone now we've reached tier three tier three is pretty simple run and call the cops like if someone did this then you should run and you should call the cops like don't just break up with them stay as far away as possible and try to get charges pressed first up is a quart of thorns and roses and it is just everything tamlin does in a quart of thorns and roses just just everything like I will admit I still I haven't read these books and I'm not going to because there's so many other people who have already done really in-depth criticism on YouTube I wouldn't have anything new to add but I have watched like multi-hour long summaries of this I feel like I understand the context and everything enough to comment on this but yes that this is kind of a retelling of the beauty and the beast story where main character girl shoots a wolf in the woods and it turns out that wolf was a fey in disguise I mean it seems like his fault you know if you're an animal in the woods and a hunter shoots you like that's your fault you didn't identify yourself but anyways and one of his friends comes out and says hey according to some obscure treaty I get to take you back to the world to fey world with me like we have to do that otherwise there'll be a war and so main character girl's like okay and so he takes her away from her family and everything and they fall in love over the course of the story sort of again beauty and the beast however we find out later on that the treaty he's talking about is nonsense like it's it is not what he says it is and he was just lying because he wanted to keep her at his castle as basically a slave so he basically kidnapped her but on top of that he physically attacks slash hurts her a couple of points like there's a scene where he specifically like pins are up against a wall and she begs him to let her go and he doesn't and he's like touching her inappropriately and he bites her on the neck until she bleeds and he like licks it up and it's supposed to be hot or whatever but like that's just straight up sexual assault is what it is it just it's sexual assault like he doesn't full on per or anything so that's nice but uh that's still sexual assault and next up on the list is going to be everything rissan does in aqatar because rissan is just the other part of the love triangle who main character girl fault winds up leaving tamlin for for whatever reason i don't know they're both terrible but basically rissan uh makes some sort of deal with tamlin so that he gets to own main character girl for one week out of every month again just so that he she can be a slave for him a quarter of the time and he forces her to drink like this weird wine a lot which just makes her black out so she doesn't remember anything and then he like just takes her bed every time and it's like he he as far as we know he doesn't just straight up date but we don't know for certain and the fact that we don't know for certain is oh god and i mean again even if he doesn't full on he um he is uh god i just no no next we have saved the pearls god i hate this so much and in that one main character girl her name is eden uh goes up to the surface after the apocalypse because most of humanity lives underground and she's there with her furry boyfriend named bramford and then she does something stupid and bramford just straight up imprisons her like yeah like it was a little shack in the forest he just imprisons her in there locks the doors so she can't get out i feel like that's pretty self-explanatory like what the fuck the final entry in tier three comes from hush hush and that is like main character girl her father is killed some point before the story begins that becomes important in a couple of minutes trust me uh and then she starts having these weird things happen around her uh because she meets a dude who turns out to be a fallen angel whose name is patch and throughout most of the book he is just straight up stalking her because he's planning on killing her which he doesn't want to he's being forced to but still he is planning on killing her and then later he just forces his way into her house while she's home and her parents aren't yeah um yeah like i think he only gets away with that because he's hot like i think again you i shouldn't have to explain why that one's bad finally we have reached the bottom of the iceberg and this tier i'm just calling nuke it from orbit so the first entry on tier four is also from hush hush and that is how patch kills norah's dad yeah before the events of the story he is the one who murdered her mother or excuse me who murdered her father like again he was forced to do it he didn't want to do it but still i i think your chances of being in a relationship with someone should be zero if that if you do that i don't think you should be dating them after that for any reason like that's just oh god what the fuck next up is article five which is a pretty obscure book i mentioned it once or twice like two years ago three years ago uh but anyways this is just a crappy dystopian story about a young girl and her mother who get arrested and separated by the government because they they're it's like a religious extremist government and it's a single woman living with a kid which is just not okay to them uh and then while they're being arrested one of the soldiers doing it is one of their old neighbors who main character girl her name is ember recognizes his name is chase and chase actually helps her escape from where she's being held later on and they most of the rest of the book is them running across the country trying to escape and then he chase keeps telling her like okay we'll meet your mom later don't worry she's fine and near the end we find out that chase executed her mother like again he didn't want to do it he was forced to do it and that's part of what finally made him desert and try to save ember but still he was he shot her mother in the head while she was being held prisoner that's yeah okay i wish i wasn't so speechless with so many of these but they're just they're just baffling decisions they just are next up we have reapers creek again i will never escape the onision trilogy this one very simple man character dude named daniel finds out he has godlike powers and that he can bend reality to his whim right and he has a girlfriend named julie and at one point they go to dinner with her parents and while they're he murders her father why is this such a common theme but okay so the reason he murders her father though is because her father is a serial killer and he discovers that just out of nowhere like he reads her father's mind and discovered oh this guy's a serial killer he's killed a bunch of women before and then he just instantly kills him now debatable whether or not he deserved it you know you you could argue like okay he should do he should kill him but the way he goes about it is really really bad because again he just killed his girlfriend's father right in front of her but he knows that she's gonna freak out uh if uh if she doesn't understand what's going on so he immediately takes all the memories of her father murdering and attacking women and just puts it into her head so she just sees all this shit instantly and just knows everything like god how traumatic would that be like dude that nuke it from orbit okay that's not okay nuke it from orbit next is house of night and i promise this one isn't about murdering anyone's parents but uh house of night very simple to understand a main character girl named zoe turns into a vampire goes to a special school for vampires and not long after that she drinks a little bit of the blood of a human guy she used to know at school and that forms like a really powerful mental magical bond between them so they're like obsessed with each other and they have some limited telepathy so they can kind of feel each other's thoughts and stuff you know pretty pretty easy to understand but later zoe she wasn't exactly in a relationship with the dude but she basically cheats on him with another guy and has sex with the other guy and while it's happening she uh her and the dude that she has a bond with can kind of feel each other's emotions and it breaks the bond basically her having sex with another another dude breaks the bond and it's extraordinarily painful for them and for days afterwards she just doesn't say anything and then when she finally runs into other dude he says i thought you were dead what the fuck like she basically mentally and possibly physically attacked this dude uh caused him a lot of pain again physically and mentally and made made him think that she was dead and she just she didn't think to like call him or anything to not only to say that she's okay but to ask if he is all right because it never occurs to her to stop and say hey wait is he all right this one actually kind of does belong in tier four just because of obscurity but also because of how bad it is it is a book called Abandoned by Meg Cabot and Abandoned is like kind of a retelling of the Hades and Persephone myth where like Hades kidnaps her and brings her to the underworld to be his wife uh and she eats a little bit of food while she's down there which winds up making her be trapped there for six months out of the year and those six months are winter and Abandoned is kind of like that main character girl uh falls in love with a god of death that he's only god of part of the underworld though and so she's goes down there and is with him for a while and she eats some cereal while she's down there and then he tells her afterwards like oh uh eating food traps you here forever sorry and she takes that remarkably well all things considered um and then later she talks to somebody else they tell her okay you can't get pregnant in the underworld because magic whatever and so she has sex with her underworld boyfriend and then after that when they're having an argument he just tells her basically oh yeah well actually it was having sex with me that traps you here forever so ha there i don't know if that counts as but it feels pretty close and finally at the bottom of tier four we have something from evermore which again you should have watched that whole video by now why are you you hear if you haven't watched that go watch that but uh again that is yet another series where main character girl keeps dying and getting reincarnated and falling in love with her immortal boyfriend who's immortal because he drank the elixir of immortality but uh basically before the series begins uh main character girls her name is ever and her boyfriend is named daemon by the way uh and ever's family dies in a horrible car crash and she almost dies too but we find out near the end of the first book that daemon was nearby uh we'll discuss that in a moment uh and he give her some of the elixir of immortality to save her life so he actually made her immortal without asking her that now that's pretty bad on its own like he did save her life so at first you might be thinking okay that's that's fine i guess like he he did save her but also doing that without someone's consent is kind of iffy but it becomes much less iffy later on because in the third book we learn that uh everyone who drinks the elixir of immortality goes to hell like after they die and the immortals in this series are remarkably easy to kill but after they die they go to hell for eternity full stop like so ever is never going to get to see her family in the afterlife again and she's just going to live eternity in torment forever after she dies and daemon knew about this too like it was not something that he found out at the same time she did he knew about this and he still did it to her because oh i couldn't bear to leave you like dude not okay what the actual fuck is wrong with you and uh the reason he was nearby when the car crash happened is actually because he's been stalking her since she was 10 years old like in in this current incarnation he's been stalking her since she was 10 years old and um he specifically says like no i wasn't going to start a relationship with you when you were a kid i was just waiting until you were ready oh okay yeah and uh i don't have an organic place to put this but in one of her previous lives he literally bought her and owned her as a slave for a while so yeah now this was by no means an exhaustive list uh if you have more to talk about please please tell me down below because i find this weirdly concerning but also extremely funny i can't i can't deny it is extremely funny to me uh but yeah i think i think it's fine to write stuff like this you know having like weird fantasies or whatever is fine as long as you acknowledge that it's not okay in real life and part of acknowledging that it's not okay in real life is making videos like this and talking about it and laughing at it and you know other people if you are into this sort of thing then that's fine you can have your trash i have my trash but um yeah that's about it uh just weird abusive shit that love interests due to other love interests in books for some reason and i don't know why it's so prevalent but it is goodbye huge thank you to everyone who watched this far uh especially all my patrons you can see all their names here they like give me money on patreon every month which is pretty cool all my ten dollar and up patrons are aposavalanan olivia rayan brother santotes buffy valentine carolina clay dan anseljevic dark king dio echo flax carcat kitsune aliza rudikova lord tiebreaker microphone mist boy peep the toad robbie reviews sad martigan sillier the vixen stone stairs tesla shark vavictus and wesley i greatly appreciate every single one of you and if you want to get your name on here then you know go to patreon become one of my patrons if you don't feel like doing that you can also become a youtube channel member or just you know hit the tip button the thanks button down below or 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