 Black boy tell me how you really feel. I just want to build with you black girl. Tell me how you really feel I just want to keep it real with you. I want to live better eat better I want to love better sleep better. I want to feel so aligned It's a blind one time for the state of mind two times for elevated Why are you smiling? I'm scared all right And again, you have to speak for black women. So this has to be a What is it called family war? Perspectives, okay Why does the word submission trigger y'all I Feel like these questions aren't that difficult It's difficult from a woman's perspective Because women don't want to wrap their minds around it And I think that's why women are not Okay with that word because they don't want to inherently accept how do we how do we get there? How do we get to this point? We if we're not even willing to accept the word we're definitely not going to be willing to accept what God has to being icky about that word we Are the most helpful and kind Unhelpful motherfuckers on this planet a Woman will go to the death for her friend and They will create the most cozy space for their family The most endearing space for their best friend But for some reason When it comes to a man It's a Pit that you get in your stomach like oh hell nah And I think it's also like what are my we're like what are my friends gonna think if I talk about catering to my man I can cater to my friends all day me for example I Love having my friends around me like as far as Holidays and dinners and like things that make my friends feel good. I love having us all together We're all like that all of my friends. We have a type friend group. We're all like that We just like having each other together And we're not thankfully I don't have friends that if I were to do that same thing for a man that they will look at me to different But I could see like a Feminist or a woman that Doesn't think that men are in or they inherently don't think that men are deserving of that Feminine submissive energy I can see them doing those things in that same setting setting for their friend or for a family member at Thanksgiving making it warm and lighting candles and that and then maybe going home to their man and being like oh Don't talk to me like that. You're you're talking. We only make your plate. Fuck no just acting wildly different so those like small little things like We I think as a society have a way of blowing things up bigger than what they really are Like submission Doesn't have to mean I'm getting on my knees for you Like that's not what it has to mean like it doesn't have to mean like like you see in movies like Slaves be like yes, okay, you know, it doesn't have to be like that like why is it that submission can't be the little subtle things like simply Hmm Can you hand me that babe or come help me with something and you listening to the directions of what they're saying or Can you go and get me whatever because I'm doing this and not even an explanation They don't have to give you an explanation. Just like just like little things. I think that With the advent of feminism like we are so transfixed in our own Autonomy that we've forgotten completely about Our natural ability to want to take care and cater to other people It doesn't necessarily have to be a mate or a partner But we have a natural ability as women to want to take care of other people feminism has Like inserted this level of selfishness inside of us where My autonomy and my ability to be independent is king That's what it is and whenever I prove in a social setting because usually it's a social setting right with these don't do this like stuff and By yourself or whatever been a social setting if I can prove that I'm the smartest or I can prove that I did this thing on my own It's like accolade or it's praised We've also like I Don't want to stop here. I want to keep going. I don't think that black women I'm just gonna talk about black women. That's what this is for. It's not about women It's about black women. It's not about men. I was gonna say I was gonna say black versus black men I'm just gonna talk about black women. Hmm. I think that we have Abandon our sense of community outside of what makes us comfortable Like as long as We have friends to go out with I don't care about loyalty so much Like I don't care about sacrifice as long as like my lifestyle is comfortable I don't care about sacrificing anything from my like the community. I think that a lot of us. I have a goddaughter and We do the best that we can to provide it, you know pretty pretty solid community for her But I still know I still see like sometimes my selfish ways It's especially when I was younger because she was born to think Maybe I was like 20 21 was younger. It's like no, I want to go out Like I want to party I Have zero Regard for the even though that she was young Thankfully I grew out of this because she's six now But I have zero regard for this child in her well-being. I just want to go out and do whatever I want to do We've excuse me, we've lost like our sense of like Loyalty to our communities Into ourselves and we are so Fucking brainwashed as A black community of women were brainwashed island like It's really really heartbreaking the influence that social media and these celebrities really have on us and and the and it's also heartbreaking how much our mothers and our fathers have I don't think ruined is the right word, but Just haven't given us the tools because they don't know anything more. So it's like the heartbreak is perpetual you can't blame it on Mother grandmother great. We can't blame it on anyone. It's a perpetual thing and and We do the best that we can No, I'm not supposed to okay Okay Yeah we do the best that we can and Our parents did the best that they could But none of that matters because none of it is enough for these babies like if these kids are here They can't all next squashed