 hello everyone welcome to another live video in this one speaking about how they are all jealous of you and you may not even realize it you may not even understand how they could be jealous of you after all of the things that they've told you and they've made you feel bad about yourself as though you're not as good as you actually are and that's why we're gonna get into this right now because it is a horrible experience when people are jealous of you especially when you're not even aware of it and I've spoken about this before I've done some videos on it already talking about narcissists and jealousy but in this one I'm just gonna get into the specific signs and what to look for to know that someone is jealous of you before I begin please hit the thumbs up button down below as it helps to support the YouTube algorithm and to get this message out there to other people who may need to see it as well and also I am accepting donations which will be very helpful for our community you can donate by going to my PayPal which is PayPal.me slash NARC survivor I appreciate all the nations no matter how small now let's get into this message giving you the signs but yes they are all jealous of you the first sign is that when they're jealous of you they will actually try to provoke envy or jealousy in you so they will just start bragging and boasting about their success or accomplishments they might even just make things up just anything to try to make you envious or jealous of them or it may even be something where they just talk about a friend or even a celebrity just anything to try and provoke these emotions out of you but what they're really doing is they're actually projecting their own emotions of envy and jealousy towards you onto you they're trying to get you to identify with it so that you then take it on as your own and then it relieves them of those painful emotions in that moment and it makes them feel like the problem is you and not them another thing that they will typically do when they are jealous of you is that they will insult you they will call your names they will target yourself esteem they will make you feel like you're not as good as you actually are they will make you feel like you're incapable as though your qualities and abilities just aren't good enough and yet at the same time they will actually be mimicking and copying you and this is the funny thing because it's how you really know that they are jealous of you because it's like one minute they're insulting you and putting you down and then at the same time they're mimicking you and they're copying you they're copying your qualities your behaviors your mannerisms the way you walk the way you talk the way you dress maybe the way you do your hair all of these things and get at the same time they're putting you down and then they will start acting more arrogant and entitled as though they're so much greater than what they actually are they will show an exaggeration of their own abilities and importance because they're stealing bits of your identity and the way that they see you and this may make some of you laugh but this is actually the truth when they're jealous of you is that they actually think that you think you're better than everyone so now they want to take you down a notch they want to humble you and show you that you're not as great as you think you are you're not better than everyone even though you may never have been thinking that way anyway but that's how they're seeing it and you will know that they're seeing you in that way because when a jealous person thinks that you think you're better than everyone they're going to try to make you feel like you're worse than everyone as though you're no good for anyone or anything which is why they want to ease and special occasions just any type of event especially if it's one where they think you may want to be there it could be Christmas a birthday whatever it is they will exclude you from that and it's not only because they're jealous of you but it's also because after they've been mimicking and copying you and stealing bits of your identity they then want to attend these events and occasions alone without you so that they can be you because of course there can't be two of you so they have to leave you behind so that they can be you at these occasions or events on their own but believe it or not well they're going out and they they've stolen bits of your identity and they're being you at the same time they will then go to minimizing your success and accomplishments or they just won't even acknowledge it you might achieve something and they will just completely ignore it they'll just change the conversation but then what they will do and what they will focus on and they will blow it up out of proportion is your faults and mistakes the things that you do wrong or the things that you fail at yes they will ignore your success and all of your accomplishments but they will focus very heavily on your faults and mistakes your flaws and imperfections as though it's the most important thing in the world because they're trying to paint you in a bad light based on their unbiased their biased perception so they don't want to think about anything good about you all they're going to focus on is anything bad whether it's real or imagined some other signs that they're jealous of you is that they will lie to you they will lie about anything and everything just to really confuse you so that you don't understand what is actually going on and why they're behaving in the way that they do but then if they think that you started to catch on and you realize that something is wrong with how they are and that they're not giving you any credit for your success they're not reciprocating anything back to you then they will future fake they will make you believe in a possible future with them where you get something that you want but when they're jealous of you they're going to wait it out they're going to dangle it like a carrot on a stick and they're going to make you wait for a very long time as you may wait and wait and never actually get anything you may never get the result that you want and this could be things with like they may say that they're going to call you at a certain time and they never do and then they'll say okay I'll call you tonight instead and then it gets that time and then they never called you and then maybe the next morning they say sorry I forgot and I'm quite busy today I'll call you tomorrow and then the days and weeks go by and they never do what they said they were going to do or they might not text you for several hours maybe several days in some cases and you may wonder what's going on you may begin to question yourself and think about something you did something you said or was though you're not good enough but it's actually nothing to do with you at all it's actually quite the opposite because they're doing these things because they're jealous of you they're trying to take something away from you they're trying to steal your shine they're trying to make you think you're not as good as you actually are because they're jealous they feel like you're taking something away from them so now they want to take something away from you jealous people will also act like they're superior to you so they're better than you in some way and they will even want to maintain an authoritative position over you because they're jealous so they view you as a valuable object and they don't want to see you getting away they want to maintain control over you because when something's valuable you don't want to lose it as I've said before with jealousy it's like imagine if you lost just a cheap watch didn't cost you much maybe it cost you ten dollars and that isn't too much to give so you lose that watch you might find a few minutes looking for it but then after that you're just going to give up and you'll probably just buy another watch but then if that was a valuable watch if it was a Rolex or maybe it had sentimental value maybe a grandfather passed away and he left you that watch before he died so it has a lot of value to you it's not replaceable if you lose that watch you're going to spend more than just a few minutes looking for it and in fact you might go to the ends of the earth in an effort to find it again it's the same thing with jealous people they want to maintain that control over you because they're very jealous so they want to own you they view you as their possession as something that belongs to them as their property and that's how they're jealous of you because if you don't really believe that you own something as though it's yours then how can you be jealous and at least with a normal person because let's be real everyone from time to time is going to experience envy and jealousy these are normal human emotions and it's healthy as long as these emotions do not lead to actions and behaviors especially those that are harmful and destructive to another person but with these types of jealous people their emotions of envy and jealousy well lead to actions and behaviors where not only are they feeling like you're their possession which can be normal sometimes i mean if you're in a relationship with someone you might sometimes be that person as your possession but then those emotions you can keep them in check instead of letting them lead to actions behaviors but when it comes to pathological envy and jealousy it's a different story because it will lead to actual behaviors in the real world but they are trying to exercise authority and control over you they're trying to restrict and contain you they're trying to lessen you so that you can't get away so that you remain around them and this can be very damaging to you and to your life because they don't keep their emotions in check because they're narcissistic their pathological which then leads to the next sign that they're jealous of you is that they will then punish you for no apparent reason they will take pleasure in your pain and misfortune they will inflict harm on you and feel no concern about it with no remorse and one punishment they may give is the silent treatment but all of a sudden they just stop texting you they stop answering your calls they just cut communication with you all together and you don't know why they leave you without any closure without an explanation for their behavior or instead of silent treatment they may just completely ghost you and you may be wondering what went wrong because it's like one minute they were talking to you one minute it seemed like you were on the same page and then all of a sudden they're gone and you're wondering why you're questioning yourself but it's actually just because they're jealous of you they feel like you're taking something away from them now that something is you they feel like they can't have you they can't possess you and yet they view you as their possession and they're jealous because they feel like you're taking yourself away from them so they look at it like okay if you're taking yourself away from me and there's nothing I can do about that then I'm going to give you the silent treatment so I'm going to ghost you I'm going to take myself away from you because I can't control you but that actually is also another act of control they're controlling you and they're trying to manipulate your emotions by giving you the silent treatment and by taking themselves away from you because they feel like you're not giving them all of your time and attention remember they are insatiable they want all of your time they want you to be there for them whenever they need you and you can never have any time to yourself they want to micromanage you they want to control your life and if they feel like they can't do that then they will resort to other controlled tactics such as silent treatment and gaslighting and ghosting rather but they will also gaslight you as well as I mentioned earlier they'll spin you around in circles make you think that it's something wrong with you and you're losing your minds when actually no they are jealous of you but here's the crazy thing about it and this is really another really clear sign just as I mentioned earlier of how they will insult you and target your self-esteem yet at the same time mimic and copy you and steal bits of your identity I mean that's a major sign that someone is jealous of you and here is another major sign that they are jealous of you because not only will they give you the silent treatment or they will ghost you and cut off all communication with you but then at the same time while they're doing that they will stalk and watch you and they will act like they know everything about you and your life because remember the viewing you as a possession as though they own you it's something that belongs to them and it's like if something belongs to you you should know everything about it like I'm sure many of you if you've got maybe you bought a new mobile phone or a computer if someone asked you any questions about it you could probably tell them everything about it because it's yours it belongs to you well they view you as a possession as well even though you're you're a person they view you as this object that exists to serve them and meet their needs so in their minds they know everything about you that there is to know they've already got you all figured out and while it may seem like they've given you the silent treatment and they've ghosted you they've been watching you from behind the scenes they've been learning you studying you while they've been stalking and watching you so in their minds they know everything there is to know they don't even need to ask you any questions about yourself they don't need any input from you at all because they think they've got you all figured out but at the same time not even communicating with you another major sign that they're jealous of you because it's like how can you know anything they're not even conversing with you and you will notice this especially in complete strangers or acquaintances it's like they've got you all figured out they know everything there is to know and they never even talked to you they've never even had a conversation with you so how could they know anything as yet many of you because you're in paths you don't think about it in that way you're not looking at them thinking how could you know anything about me I don't even know who you are if I've ever talked to you I don't even know if I've ever seen you before because you're an empath because of the way that we were raised as children with narcissistic parents we're not looking at them and thinking in that way and instead we're looking at ourselves and thinking what if they're right about what they think about us maybe they do know us better than we know ourselves even though we have spent 20 30 40 years with ourselves and they may have just only now met us and never talked to us before and yet we just assume that they're right and that they must know more about us than we know about ourselves because they seem so arrogant so confident like they know everything and they don't really care about who you actually are because remember they view you as their possession as an object a tool they don't care about the real person of who you are all they care about is manipulation and control keeping you under their spell so that they can continue to use and exploit you so they're not concerned about who you actually are and in fact they will project their own negative traits on to you and get you to agree with it and because we're empaths many of us we will disagree with it without question we will respond to it from how they're perceiving us and if we agree to it then to them that makes it real it tells them that they're right so then they will continue along with it when it's all just because they're jealous and they want to contain and confine you because they view you as their possession so they want to control you which means they have to feel like they know you and they own you because if they don't know everything that there is to know then it's that tells them in their mind that you do not belong to them and they want you to belong to them so they've already got to have their minds made up they've got to have it all figured out where it's like I don't need any input from you I don't need to ask you any questions about yourself I just already know exactly who you are from the beginning I already know when it's actually just because they're jealous I sat jealousy that causes them to become so possessed for controlling now onto the more I mean while stalking and watching you that's quite an extreme sign of jealousy as it is it does get even more extreme when you're dealing with people who are really pathological maybe even malignant narcissists because what many of them will do are they extremely jealous of you because they feel like you're taking yourself away from them you're taking your qualities abilities possessions and other desirable attributes away from them they will then seek to sabotage your success so whatever you're working towards whatever you're doing whatever is positive in your life they're going to want to take that away especially if it's your success and your money and possessions things that are helping you to escape their control because by doing that and by demonstrating your independence and autonomy that's translating to them an act of bold defiance and rebellion to their position of authority and control over you where they view you as their possession because if you're independent and you can take care of yourself and you've got your own job your own money you know what you're doing you're intelligent you're grounded all of these things are a threat to their control and to them being able to view you as their possession because for them to possess you they need you to be dependent on them in some way they need you to need them because otherwise if you're able to go off into the world and just do your own thing how can they possess you how can they control you and that's why they've got a stab towards your success and that's when they will typically gossip about you spread rumors they will label you as this bad person and they will bring up things from the past things that could be from 10 20 years ago and they will act like it happened just yesterday and they will triangulate you with other people compare you with them make it seem like they're so much better than you in some way to make you feel insecure and one of the most extreme signs of jealousy of all aside from sabotaging your success targeting you financially and trying to get you fired from your job they will also start a smear campaign against you that is if they are really pathological and just extreme jealousy they will want to start a smear campaign against you and try to get everyone to see you in the same way because they view everyone as extensions of themselves everyone is just like a pawn in their chess game and they will move them around and position them in ways to orchestrate this situation so that they can plan and coordinate the elements to produce their desired effects upon you where you feel like everyone is against you you're isolated you've got no support no protection and then they are better able to possess and control you to restricts and confine you to contain you because that's all that a jealous person really wants to do when they view someone as being superior to them in some way someone is being greater like i said with the brolex or a watch of sentimental value they don't want it to get away they want to contain it because they want it to be theirs so they will do whatever it takes to accomplish that including start a smear campaign which is pretty much what they're trying to do when they do that it's like because they're so jealous they're looking at the world that you're going out into and it's like you've got your job you've got money in your account you've got your savings you've got whatever you need you've got your own home you've got your own business you've got your own foods you've got your own friends social circle maybe you've got family members that are supporting you and you've just got this whole world that you can go out into to live your life to explore and be yourself and just do whatever you want to do and all of these things are making them more and more jealous to the point where they just want to take it all away they want to get rid of your friends get rid of your supportive family members get rid of your savings in your bank account your earnings your job your house your ability to provide for yourself with foods clothes because all of these it's all a threat to their control over you to their ability to possess you like this object it's just making them even more jealous because they feel like you're taking something which is you away from them so they look at it like if all of these things are a threat to my possession and control over you and clearly what i have to do is just take the world away from you or take you out of the world and first what they might try is i mean if that is quite a difficult thing for them to accomplish they may try to turn you against the world so they'll try and put fear into you they'll make you believe that no one likes you or that they're not to be trusted you shouldn't go out you shouldn't spend time with your friends they're bad they're no good for you they're just using you or you shouldn't go to your job and work you don't need to do that they can provide for you you don't need to go out you don't need to leave the house or another thing with your money in your account don't just say let's set up a joint account we're in a relationship now let's just share our money together that's what couples do it's just more control more possession to stop you from getting away to take your life away from you they will start off by trying to turn you against everyone by making you think bad of people as though they're all no good as though they haven't got your best interest in mind or they're seeking to harm you in some way and if you deal with narcissistic parents this will typically happen when you're younger usually during your teenage years when you're beginning to find your identity you're starting to make friends have relationships they will try to make you think that your friends are bad something is wrong with them the bad influences on you they're no good they're trouble or if you're beginning to have relationships with the opposite sex then they will try and shame you and make you feel like you're not good enough for them as though they're not really going to want you or as though no one else wants them they're undesirable so their only option is you and that's the only reason why they're with you but if you still continue to go out and you're making friends you're working earning money having relationships you know just having a good time living life like we all should do if you're still going out and you're doing that then if they're able to accomplish it they're going to go all out and start a smear campaign against you and pretty much what they're doing when they're doing that is they're trying to take the world away from you they can't take you away from the world so they're going to try and take the world from you that's the next step and it's the next step because it's typically the most difficult thing to accomplish but if there really is that pathological envy and jealousy then when you're dealing with a malignant narcissist they will go all out to accomplish that as I've already heard from many of my clients and I've experienced it myself on several occasions from several different narcissists so again they will go all out to take the world away from you and to do that they're going to assassinate your character discredit you smear your name make everyone think that something is wrong with you you're a bad person you're crazy and they will try and get you fired from your job they may steal from you your money your possessions try and get you to drain your finances they may just take you to court so that you spend all of it on court fees dealing with them there's so many different things that they can do but underneath it all you've got to look at what is the motive of all of this what are they trying to accomplish of course what they're trying to do is they're trying to destroy your independence your autonomy your ability to govern yourself they're trying to take away your freedom because that's a threat to their control to their ability to possess you essentially like a demon it's like a demonic possession where they want to take control of your body mind and soul they want to own you and your life and dictate what you do from one day to the next so that it's like your life is not your own and instead it's kind of just an extension of what they want for you that's how it is when someone is jealous of you and when it's really that extreme pathological jealousy it's like your entire life your entire existence revolves around them and you will know when this is happening because it's like if you look at your life right now how much that is going on in your life is actually what you want what what you were expecting your life to be and just think about that for a moment is any of it how you planned it out to be for yourself just think about that for a moment and really just look at your life look at your friends your social circle do you have any support where are you living right now what are your living conditions like do you have a job how much money are you earning how much savings do you have in your account what are you planning for your future do you have any goals dreams ambitions are you planning the holiday application are you planning to spend time with any of your friends what do you even have in your life that's reserved for you is the narcissist involved in everything do they have their fingers in all of the pies in your life do they have to be involved in everything and at the same time are they gaslighting brainwashing and indoctrinating you to think how they want you to think because it gets to that point sometimes as well where it's like even though they've controlled the physical world and everything in it through their smear campaigns and it's like there's nothing in the physical world of your own remember with abuse because it's based on the ego the egotistical the ego always wants more they're never satisfied so even when they've managed to contain you in the physical world it's like yeah but hold on a minute you still got your brain you've still got your imagination your thought process your emotions so these are things I can't control and that's when they're going to want to get in there through the use of hypnosis putting you in a trance like a puppet on a string of the puppet master to where they want to control your every thought your every emotion your every move they just want to control everything and you will see that as well where it's like they want things to be predictable jealous people want to know what you're thinking in every moment what you're feeling what you're going to do where you're going to go who you're going to be with I mean if they can have it there where you're not going to be with anyone you're going to be alone every day and you're only going to be thinking and feeling whatever they want you to think of feel in any given moment as you're not going to be engaged in any activities or interests as I find what they prescribe for you but when it comes to your thoughts and your emotions sometimes that can be difficult for them to control all of the time and sometimes with your actions as well I mean it's difficult for them to always have some reason or excuse for why you can't do certain things I mean it's like what if you decide today all right I want to go out I'm going to go to the park for a walk it might be difficult sometimes for them to argue with that sometimes they will but then there's other times where you that they are jealous of you and that they're trying to control with you so that may be one reason why they don't always do it but let's just say you want to go out to the park the alarm bell is going to be ringing in their heads it's like this is supposed to be my possession I'm supposed to own this this is meant to be an object that exists to serve me and meet my needs and it's getting away it's like this object is just sprouted legs and it's running away so then what they do instead kind of like to trick their minds into thinking no it's not running away I'm still in control of this this still belongs to me what they do is it's like they have to really micromanage everything that you're doing in your life they have to analyze and study you they've got to learn you and your likes your interests your daily activities the things you like to do the places you like to go they have to study all of that so then they know where it's like okay it's Thursday today I know it's not but let's just say it's Thursday 3 p.m all right he's gonna go to the park he's gonna go to this park Thursday 3 p.m that's where he's gonna be I already know that's that's what he's gonna do if he's gonna be with someone or if he's gonna be alone how long he's gonna spend there he's gonna be there for 30 minutes 30 to 45 minutes and then he's gonna go over cue and then he's gonna come back home so it's like in their minds they've already premeditated everything they've already visualized it in their minds so it's like because they've already studied everything about you your likes your interests your disinterest your dislikes your activities they've studied all of these things already so then in their minds it's like all right you can go over there you can go and do that for a certain amount of time because I'm already two steps ahead of you I've already predicted it so that means I'm already in control of it because I already know what you're gonna do this is how an extremely jealous person thinks and it can't even go to another level as well another level altogether whereas where I mentioned with the smear campaign they want to force flying monkeys people who act on their behalf people who do their dirty work they're bidding so it's like you may think you're going to the park you're just going to go for a little walk you're not even going to meet anyone just on your own because maybe you've been shamed so many times so you're not good enough for anyone you can't have any friends kind of a relationship so you just think all right I'm just going to go to the park on my own see the trees see the flowers maybe listen to the birds singing but you're not alone because the narcissist already has their flying monkeys there waiting for you watching your every move what I mean watching every move they are scanning your facial expressions your body language your eyes as I've mentioned in past videos where they like to look in your eyes and see exactly where your eyes are looking in any moment because they're that jealous they're going to be in control of everything so and this micromanaging it can be really extreme depending on how jealous they go I mean it can get to the point because as I said it's based on their ego because they're very egotistical and the ego always wants more so they're never satisfied and they always feel like they're missing out on something they always feel like they're missing out narcissist so you could be at the park the narcissist could be at home they've got their flying monkeys in possession ready for you you're just sitting on the bench at the park and all of a sudden you notice a bird you look over at a bird that information is going to get back to the narcissist you just looked at a bird that's a threat to their sense of power and control because you just moved your eyeballs your eyeballs just went from left to right and they were scanning you they saw that or maybe you hear the noise maybe maybe you hear the branch falling from a tree maybe you didn't even you didn't even look but they they were watching you they knew that you hear the sound so that's more information that they need to record and they keep in note of all of this for your future experiences and or interactions they log this data over many weeks months or years and they carry it on as long as they feel that it's needed to feel like they know you and that they own you and all of this information is fed back and forth between the narcissist and their flying monkeys because the narcissist views their flying monkeys as extensions of themselves as well so they kind of share the same identity I mean they really have no identity of their own at all but it's kind of like this group think mentality that's hive mind so if the narcissist is jealous possessive and controlling then the flying monkeys are going to share those same traits and behaviors as well because it's projected on to them for them to then act out in that way so this is how it goes when they're jealous of you these are the signs and at the beginning of the video I know I began with more the mild signs because let's be real we're all capable of experiencing envy and jealousy it's normal it's healthy yes these are actually healthy emotions when we're in control of them and we keep them in check the problem is that with some people narcissist it then leads to actions of behaviors and it may have for us as well at some point in the past with the mild behaviors such as as I mentioned earlier maybe you felt envious or jealous of someone in the past and you insulted them maybe you even mimicked or copied them on one occasion it didn't become a habit something they do in every day with narcissists and extremely toxic people they want to insult you all the time they will mimic and copy you and really take on your identity as their own and then it will lead to the more extreme signs where they become really arrogant and entitled because they're like idealizing you feeling you are superior as though you're thinking you're better than everyone and then they will exclude you from parties special occasions so that they have an opportunity to be you minimize your success and accomplishments so they just want you to acknowledge it and then they will exaggerate your fault's mistakes they will lie future fake gaslight act like they're superior to you punish you for no reason at all and take pleasure in your pain and misfortune they will give you the silent treatment ghost you but then at the same time they will stalk and watch you and act like they know everything about you and your life but then they won't even be communicating with you and then they will go and sabotage your success gossip about you label you as bad crazy bring up things from the past 10 20 years ago act like it's something that happened yesterday triangulate you and compare you with other people start smear campaigns against you trying to get you fired from your job target you financially drag you through the courts get you to spend all your savings and just completely isolate you so that you have no friends no relationships no support network no one who is there for you first it starts with them trying to take you away from the world making you think that the world is bad it's not safe people are just out to get you it's like this us against the world mentality it's just you and them there by your side they've got your back that's the jealousy they're controlling nature but then if that doesn't work and you're still desiring i mean as a normal human being you're still desiring to go out and experience the world make friends have relationships have experiences you know it's normal if you're still desiring to do that then they're gonna want to take the world away from you and that's when their behavior gets really extreme i mean in cinderella the wicked stepmother and step sisters they didn't really get to that extreme where they took the world away from cinderella it was more just they targeted her self-esteem and maybe made her afraid of the world to isolate her so some of these things with malignant narcissists it's really like cinderella on steroids but yeah this is just how it is when you're dealing with these narcissists these toxic jealous people they will go to any extent some of them especially the ones where it's like if they really have no identity no purpose no meaning to their lives no life of their own they've got nothing going on for themselves that's really going to determine just how jealous they will become because you've got to think about it like this and i'm not just talking about in relationships here but just to give an example think of the player type of narcissist if he's a player and they've got tons of options they can have any girl they like any day of the week they could all these girls on their phone waiting for them whenever they want them someone with so many options like that you really think they're going to be concerned about you they're going to be jealous about you they're going to be trying to possess you of course not they're not going to care they're not going to be bothered about what you're doing where you're going who you're with it's like whatever you do what you want maybe i'll see you next week the week after that they're not going to care i'm not glorifying them i'm not saying but player narcissist or better of course i understand some of you you've experienced that and it can be hurtful especially when they lie about it and they make it seem like they're not players i mean if someone comes out and they say that they are then that's that's kind of on you then if you decide to continue with that relationship but i'm just using it as an example player narcissist they're not going to care so much about you they're not going to be jealous they're not going to be possessive controlling because they've got so many other options so they're going to forget about you very easily but with the narcissist who it's like they haven't got many options or any options at all of course then your perceivable value goes up in their eyes now you're worth that much more now you go from like with a player type of narcissist you may just be some cheap watch that they can easily replace whenever they want to but then with the narcissist who's more possessive and controlling to them you're like that Rolex without watch with sentimental value the one that they will go to the ends of the earth to find if they ever lost it they're never going to give up on looking for that because they can't replace it or they can't afford to buy another one so they're going to be extremely jealous extremely possessive and controlling then for the simple fact that they can't find anyone else like you which really confirms that as an empath you're irreplaceable they can't replace you they can't find another chosen one it's just you which really confirms I mean as I've said in past videos and some of you may have questioned if you know maybe I'm just over complementing you just trying to boost your ego make you feel good about yourself but if you've watched this video up until this point and it all it relates to you and to your situation all of this really confirms you really are that special you really are that valuable of a person at least it's either that it's one of two things it's either that you're an extremely valuable special person or that the narcissist that you're dealing with is just an absolute nobody a loser who has no options nothing going for them in their lives nothing to do no meaning no purpose it's one of the two or it could be both potentially as well it could be that they're losers they're nobody's they have no options they have nothing going on no purpose no meaning no direction in their lives but then at the same time you are also very special and very valuable which you could be to someone else so yeah I take that back it could be it could be both at the same time as well but which one it is for you I can't really say I mean it depends I'm sure you will know if you've watched this video up until this point you will know which one it is for you or if it is more of a mixture of both usually it will be I mean the odds are I would say that the narcissist you deal with I mean if they really got that possessive that controlling that jealous are they really micromanaging everything in your life clearly they must be losers they must have nothing else going on they've got no purpose no meaning no direction well at the same time it may be because yes you are special you are valuable the only problem is it's for someone who quite clearly does not deserve you because you've got to think about like this if they really deserved you if they were really that great you really think they'd be that worried about you and I don't mean that people just should not even care about the person they're with or whether it's a narcissist with their children whatever it may be I'm not seeing that at all but it's like if it's to that extreme I'm talking about extreme pathological jealousy whether extremely possessive and controlling this is all just confirming that they already know they're not good enough for you they don't deserve you and if they weren't so possessive and controlling and micromanaging everything about your life they already know you wouldn't want anything to do with them you wouldn't be anywhere near them that's why they're so possessive and controlling because deep down they clearly have very low self-esteem they already know they're not good enough for you and that's why they act the way that they do because if they really believe that they were that great I mean let's talk about a healthier relationship yes you know as I mentioned envy and jealousy these are healthy normal human emotions as well but they're not going to lead to these extreme actions of behaviors if a person believes that they are good enough they have self-esteem they're worthy they're deserving of you then it's not going to lead to that at all because if a person has their own purpose in life they've got their own things going on they're just not even going to have the time they're not going to have the time to do that they're going to be more focused on their own lives and yet not only that but it's like even if it was one of those things where it's like it's two people who are kind of at the same level and it's like they both found each other and they're both attractive both successful of course in that kind of situation you're gonna want to spend quite a bit of time together probably you know if you're both on the same level you both like each other a lot of course that's perfectly understandable and you might even spend less time doing other things to be with this person as you might even become a little bit jealous if they're going somewhere else or for their friends or whatever it may be but even then it's still going to be evident that you have your own thing or they do that there's something going on in your life or in their life of value there's some type of mission some type of purpose outside of the person that you're dealing with that's going to be clear that's going to be evident something that takes priority more you're going to see that and not only that because that that can be a case with some narcissist as well so not only that but also there's not going to be these damaging and destructive behaviors to where they're trying to ruin you in some way it's like okay yes they may be a little bit jealous but they're not trying to destroy your friendships or relationships they're not constantly insulting you and making you feel bad about yourself they're not trying to isolate you and keep you in the home they're not trying to get you fired from your job they're not causing you to lose financially and they're not engaging in typical narcissistic behaviors such as manipulation pathological lying future faking gaslighting denial smear campaigns of course triangulation they're not doing any of that there is a clear difference there really is a very clear difference and all of these signs are what reveals to you exactly what you're dealing with someone who's just a little bit jealous they like you they want to be with you i mean that's really what it is as well it's like with the jealousy thing a person who's a little bit jealous it's like they still like you you they can still compliment you they still want to be with you if you're in a relationship they still want to hold you kiss you love you but when it's narcissistic and they're jealous any love that it seemed like they had before that quickly turns to hate quickly turns to them what i wanted to tear you down and destroy you destroy anything that they think is taking you away from them whatever it is no matter how important that is to you they don't care the only concern about themselves and what they want and what they want is to own you possess you like a demonic possession and i know that may sound funny but it's true and i'm sure many of you who are watching this that's exactly how it feels it's like this demon who just wants to completely possess and control every aspect of your life that's like no matter what you do you just can't get away from it but if that's what you're going through it is very dangerous for you i mean just look at your life and it's like what about your life did you actually even decide for yourself what about your life did you actually want for you or was it all just what they wanted for you that's how you know they're jealous that's how you know they're possessive and controlling that's how you know you need to get as far away from them as you possibly can because it's just going to get worse the ego is once more they're never going to be satisfied with how they're controlling you how they're abusing you it's never going to be enough with time that only going to become more jealous more controlling more possessive more abusive it's just going to get worse that's why you've got to make your exit plan you've got to get out you've got to set strong boundaries get restraining order if you can and establish or maintain an existing support network of course it's not always so easy to just go into contact it can be very dangerous for you to do that as well because remember if they're jealous they don't know how they might react sometimes they may even become violent they may try to isolate you they may try to take the world away from you so you've got to be very careful and that's why before going no contact I do advise for you to speak to a therapist or a coach and I am a life 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