 a new survey revealed that kindness is considered the new sexy on dating apps especially in asia is this believable and maybe our time's changing hey man in singapore we don't want you to be an f-boy okay we want you to be a k-boy a kind boy uh all right everybody we are gonna talk about this because of course this runs opposite to what a lot of people believe in america the whole red pill black pill stuff about oh everybody has to just be good looking it's all about how you look but then these surveys in india and singapore i don't know people are maybe thinking differently in these countries or maybe it's the people who who just got surveyed guys we're going to get into the comment section so please hit that like button and check out other episodes let us know if you like the commentary in the news we cover yeah there was certainly a lot of arguing andrew in the uh instagram of next shark basically people being like uh the us is not like this what have they got going with uh going on over in the east do you think it's true obviously the fundamental culture andrew is very different in the east whether we're talking about singapore or india where uh both these ads came from yes uh kindness is sexy but let's just say so in singapore out of 500 singaporean singles the survey results revealed that 81 of respondents said that they are more attracted to kindness than outward appearances david this is the big number that a lot of people are go our heads are exploding about right right wait wait wait what about all this chadism i gotta work out i gotta be right looks maxing uh smb black pill red pill i mean to their defense these two commercials that take place in singapore and india these two guys are extremely good looking i mean you could argue that to be honest they're both better looking than the respective women that they're portrayed dating in in each commercial too but before we get into the comment section i will say this i've been to singapore several times and i think that singapore is a different place i think it's a different culture i do think even from a government standpoint they do want to push more nice boys kind boys kind men you know what i mean as opposed to f-boy because they're like listen singapore is such a small place we don't have all the space for all the f-boys i think if somebody was trying to become a f-boy and be super destructive and like d-jent to become super popular the government would step in honestly yeah much like uh you know pg one was doing that for like rap music in china they shut him down i mean i think in singapore generally they do want their men to be men but they also want them to be very kind and you know i don't know i think it's different out there i mean i think the truth is every country has a different culture fundamentally right but andrew every country is made up of a bunch of uh square plots right on a game map each single your game map could be different if you go to singapore american school you might be more subject to american culture than the kid who's going to school a mandarin local school you know and lives in the hdb exactly um of course smv matters right i mean smv is sexual market value this is just essentially like some combination of looks and status uh the bumble commercials don't mention this yeah but i guys are really have really high smv i think we also have to acknowledge i think it depends on at what point in time the man and woman and what they're looking for at that stage in life i think that there are stages in life where young men and women are more thinking about outward appearances and then later in life they think more about kindness and caring install that other stuff but anyways let's get into the comment section and then of course we're gonna get into our own takeaway somebody said say less on my way to singapore right now so i can swipe on bumble there because i am a kind guy who takes ls in america somebody said this got to be the most bs steady i ever seen no girls attracted to a kind man and then somebody else said way to show that nobody wants you um this turned into a bunch of arguing and there's there's a whole thread about people saying like is the game more red pill is a more black pill and then somebody i guess i don't know if kindness is like blue pill theory but you know what i mean yeah but i think that there's a difference between being nice being kind and kind and confident i think women really want a man who's kind and confident of course they want a man who's like also physically attractive but i'm saying that aside because that's already a given to an extent i'm saying like as a guy you can't just be nice because then you become a pushover there's this balance between being a man that's confident and kind you know what i mean yeah somebody said uh all the nice guys in the comments complaining about kindness not being enough for them to get a girlfriend you're telling on yourselves somebody said yeah a lot of these nice guys typically aren't even actually nice guys at all when they say they're a nice guy uh i know that there was a big revolt i want to say like five years ago on youtube where people were going against nice guys right toxic nice guys so so that's this next comment a girl says don't be out here mistaking your niceness for kindness either okay trash kindness uh real kindness is altruistic niceness is a transaction so it's a lot of girls calling out guys who are just trying to be nice in order to get something from the girl to hook up with her to get some type of affection from her but kindness really is more like i guess uh that's just who you are as a person to everybody not just her i think also the way people perceive like niceness or kindness it makes a lot of difference uh on your baseline perception if you are like this big buff tattoo guy and all of a sudden you're kind it's like a it's a nice little treat right it's like a present because you don't have to be like that you could bully everybody if you wanted yes exactly it's kind of like if you're an intimidating individual but you just show that you're kind then it's way better than a small unintimidating person being kind that's going to be seen as like somewhat weak so i think there's definitely a balance here it's very complicated i mean is it like a being seven five and dunking and then versus being five six and dunking if you're five six and you don't people are about to their jaws are going to be on the floor somebody said unfortunately america because of asian hate it does not pay to be kind sure be kind to your partners and loved ones but the rest of the world doesn't necessarily deserve that especially when they will not treat you with the same kindness um this is almost like uh tough you know this is almost like a little bit of a derivative thing but yeah i do think america is much more of a uh jungle prison like environment than a lot of people are prepared for like depending on which uh segment or slice of america you choose to spend your time yeah i think the connotation is that kindness comes with more uh i guess a little bit more i don't know i would say education or awareness the niceness niceness usually has a slight negative connotation like you're oh you're just nice to everybody but if i'm kind i'm like oh i'm a man i know my worth i know my danger i know my power but i choose to be kind it's almost like i'm benevolent like a king only a king can be benevolent right somebody said this girl said my toxic trait is i only want him to be kind to me but not kind to everybody else yeah some people like this i mean this is the whole this is the whole bad boy theory yeah where girls want the bad boy to be like almost bad boy and intimidating everybody the rest of the world but together they just sit and watch netflix exactly this guy said i was single for the longest time trying to be too kind um long story short i would say this a lot of nice guys are like extra kind guys what happens is they end up setting their sights on a girl that is not feeling them back and maybe there's a smv mismatch or whatever whatever um like she doesn't like the way he looks or just usually that's the case but he just sticks with her because he's so stuck on it because he thinks he's being nice or kind but he should be moving on to a girl who actually has the potential to like him back in the same way that he likes her yeah i agree here's my thing there's some comments who are like yo who the heck is on these dating apps trying to look for people who look kind now here's the thing when you're on a dating app and the first thing you see is a picture how do you know if someone is kind or not and how do you know they're just kind through the messages obviously at the end of the day these people have to meet some type of looks appearance minimum prerequisite yeah for you but yeah but nobody likes to talk about that part though right yeah and i think that this might be a marketing ploy i don't think it's necessarily falsified numbers but i just think bumble is trying to play this up to get more people onto the app and be like hey guys bumble chicks like kind guys it's all about being nice guys and i do think it is about being nice oh it is more of a nice person app than let's just say like tender yeah but it is about being nice and kind but you have to have these other things with you you need to be have perceived masculinity and power and you know uh some type of attraction right but it could vary culture to culture like in terms of like you need a little bit more of this you need a little bit more of that i certainly think in america they value the f-boy or the bad boy more than in singapore where it may be viewed as too socially deviant and therefore almost stepping into like the criminal lane who um somebody said not an nyc and definitely not with women in their 20s kindness gets you a fast track to the friend zone and this is what a lot of people said somebody said yeah please tell that to my very kind single guy friends in their 20s that kindness is sexy yeah yeah all right here's i mean honestly at different stages in life people look for different things and i would say yes a lot of attractive women in their 20s they want they have the world at their fingertips they're looking for excitement they want to have fun and they want a good time and they want excitement they want a guy who's gonna wow them you know and that's kind of their their time to do that you know and then when they get older and they want somebody more stable perhaps this is where they will value all the other things above what you're referring to is more of a macro trend obviously some people do not fit into this but yeah i would say that's generally true andrew somebody said the most black pill thing ever this guy said the only things that matter to male smv are social status normie tear perception height weenie length face and racial phenotype oh man uh i mean hey listen guys i'm saying if you're in the club there's definitely some logic here i'm not saying i fully agree with you from the nightclub yeah if you are talking about the nightclub environment which is essentially like a meat market people are just going off visual who's who's cool that's why everybody's getting those dangling earrings nowadays you know in gen z you know what i mean uh this comment as harsh as it sounds it's not fully wrong um andrew ultimately let's just get to our takeaways man is kindness sexy or is it only sexy in singapore in india if you're like a nine out of ten guy i think in singapore generally they want to push the idea of healthy relationships and being people being more kind to each other obviously they have very strict laws so i think that's how people are raised i do think people are generally kind there too so i think in singapore it's probably more true i think in america i think it should be more true but i think the key thing here is for a lot of young guys it's not to get mixed up with just being nice to a girl as being actually kind i think the truth is you do have to work on yourself build yourself up be a kind guy after once you've built yourself up right be strong and kind everybody wants a nice guy but they actually want you to be strong and no no they don't want you to like your only survival tactic to avoid getting squished like a little bug in the society is being overly nice to everybody it's almost like your clean cut you take care of yourself you work out your fit your confident and your kind great but i will but i do agree with you to your earlier point that i feel like in traditional societies in the east whether we're talking about singapore india where these two ads occurred they're more looking for a prince charming type from the 1950s 1960s movie cinderella whereas in america they almost want you to have some like single parent energy in the sense of like they want you to feel like you were raised in a single parent household even if you had two loving you know cheesy corny parents or whatever you know what i mean like that's just like the nature of the bad-assness of america yeah no it's true what works you don't have to be as badass in singapore you know they're not i don't think that's the value system no everybody's got to go to military service anyway so how bad can you be how socially deviant can you be if everybody's got to be part of the government at some point um yeah but as far as uh you know the sm v goes you know for the guys i think there's a whole black pill world that emerged on youtube you know there's like niche maxing looks maxing passport bros all this stuff i think that all that stuff is more like possibly relevant to american guys yeah also yeah i don't think if you just think you're a nice guy you can't just say oh i'm gonna go to singapore and then that's it that's going to solve all my issues yeah i think one of the main things is though like you cannot get stuck on a chick that that doesn't like you yeah that is like one of the main things that i think kills a lot of guys if a girl is not attracted to you at all simply being kind to her is not going to get it done and you should not just be nice to her only solely just to get something then a day move on but anyways guys let me know what you think in the comments down below what you think about this our time is changing do you think more women out there are looking for kindness any women in the comments let me know what you guys think about it and do you agree that in the west especially america people are looking for more like bad boys or f boys and then over in the east they might be looking for more prince charming kind of conventional stuff from like the 1950s it makes sense all right everybody until next time we out peace