 When David took the stone to hit the Goliath with the Bible says he went to the river and he took a smooth stone Small stones become smooth because of two things. They are at the river and they'll rub against another stone What marriage is with God is you are in the river of God's word You are in the church and you have another person that you'll rub with every single day That's where the when I say rub, I mean where you have conflict You rub with every single day and because you're humble because you're in church What happens is that you rub with and you become smoother you become more humble But you don't become smoother and more humble so you can walk around like a saint in church That you are so perfect so that you can be usable in the hands of God to bring down the Goliaths in a spiritual world That God can use that marriage your wife you as a husband to bring people to salvation to bring people to discipleship to bring people to Jesus Christ People whose aim in life is only I want to have so many children and raise so many children and you will see one thing about that Rarely actually their children serve God marriage falls apart by shambles And kids are either on drugs or they're beginning to do bad things and you're like why? Because the ultimate purpose and assignment in your life as a Christian Is to bring people to Jesus and to disciple them and to use your family to do that And when you give your kids an assignment only to cut the grass finish school But you don't give them assignment to change the world. They quickly go to the world If they're not sent to change it