 One of the foundations of masculinity has always been fighting in the philosophy that comes from that the insight the The growth in the personal journey of the warrior and the fighter Well here in this clip with Ed Akin We get to hear how that real-life application of you know those life-and-death situations that learning how to fight and and work in such intense ways developed this Absolute clarity of sense of self of desire of who I was to be able to balance the emotions of highs and lows in Whether they were traumatic situations to situations where It was a decision, you know to be a leader to find out what your true expression was So definitely check this out. This is just a short clip of the entire two-hour interview that I did with Ed So we got to break it up into a lot of parts, but check him out Ed Akin fight fast and flea comm It's an awesome site plenty of resources for resources for you sign up on this newsletter and check out his products and of course the most important thing here is whether you're listening to this on iTunes or You're subscribed to our YouTube channel. Check out the sexual life calm, you know, if you really want to join in the entire evolution Change of being the better man That's what we have mapped out for you Whether you're on our newsletter, you're checking out our products the better man's guide to dating lifestyle or TSL online at home intensive Man, it is the true guideline for you to improve as a man in a lifestyle that you can be proud of That's the other important thing is I think when people don't confront violence They don't they don't they and what I mean by confronting violence is is you you you evoke it out of yourself You pull it out of yourself so that when it happens, you're familiar with it That's why people go nuts. They fucking have PTSD and and not PTSD, but but guys who have Never explored it and shit just keeps going wrong and wrong in our life It builds and builds and then they they go on a violent rampage because they've never explored that side They don't know how to how to stop it. It's it's overwhelming But you know, that's why you the more you can go there and the more you can you can return to your base Which your base should be just completely relaxed zero no emotional content whatsoever because you've got to get the you've got to get the You know thoughts of what could happen out of your head there is no past there is no future It's the present moment and you have to be so present that you're not adding anything into that present moment That's going to slow slow down your reaction time So you can't be labeling things you have to exist and exist in complete quietness But yet you're ready to respond then when you make the decision to go you go 100% so it's your emotional Meter goes up and down but yet you're when you're when you're calm You've got to take everything in and you've got to just you know, it's a calm that it takes and it takes practice You're not always going to be like that. You made you made fuck. You may just got stabbed, you know How are you gonna? How are you gonna keep calm in that situation? You know really not much that people can say that's gonna piss me off unless I choose to get pissed It's my it's my choice So if I choose to even have a conversation with you, it's my choice It's not yours. You can't do anything to me too if I get fucked up in a fight I fucked myself up the guy didn't you know, whoever attacked was my fault I accept a hundred respect, you know percent responsibility for it and To be honest, I I believe I think people have to have two things and this is what this is what the type of martial arts that we do Is really a metaphor for four people and I and I think Number one is you've got to have this is a little bit off the subject, but it's not you've got to have a some sort of Magical belief system. Okay, in other words, you've got to have some sort of belief system some sort of philosophy That allows for crazy things to happen. Okay, so you don't delete these things out of your life You don't label them. You just allow things to happen that way you're more present So so in other words, you're not you're not you're opening the box that you're in You have you have you know, maybe that's maybe that's true Maybe it happens at the same time and some people who have you know Religion have this and and they have you know despite having a strict view. They're they're opening miracles happening Okay, so they have a magical belief system But it's some sort of philosophy that they're open to crazy shit happening in her life That opens possibility up an opportunity, but you have to have also the You've got to have something to wear the truth where you measure your outcomes based upon reality and and your experience Not somebody else's but it's what your you know, what is working for you You can use other people's experiences to teach you and you can learn from other people But you don't get the truth from those other people you get the truth from your the the results of your experience the direct results of You know, what is working for you in the moment and that can be in business relationships, whatever it is So you're not so it's a it's a duality. You have this crazy thing But you're not so thought your head's not so far in the clouds that you lose your brain Right because you have we have to have that and so that's where the it's like two sides of coin You have your self-perfection and self-preservation your self-preservation is the reality testing what's really working? Which yourself perfection is working on these these abstract pieces of yourself that that will allow you to get to these other Levels and we don't label them saying well, I have to be this way I have to be that way or it has to be done this way or a technique has to be done that way Because that's ultimately limiting something you want to have both a limitless idea of what's possible and yet use your direct experience To to measure it whether it's true for you or not, you know, otherwise we look to other people we look to You know propaganda and what people say in this fucked up society as to what's right. What's wrong, you know To me, I'm just like well that might be true But let me let me measure it against what I know personally, you know I think that people they there they want answers and they want solutions But the answer lies in the experience the answer lies in what you ultimately come to as Your learnings of it, but whenever you come to a conclusion The conclusion is a solidified thing and the reality is that the truth is always changing everything's always changing The moment you try to label something and this is why street fight is chaotic the moment you you get stuck on one part Of the street fight like I'm gonna do this to this guy That's the moment that you get hit from from the side and everything goes out the window You can't get stuck in it has to be this way you have to be in the moment and change with what is You know, I loved doing this interview and I know it really well But I loved actually listening to it and gaining the knowledge that comes from that real life experience And that's really what always interested me and propelled me as a man Check it out support them fight fast and flee Dot-com and of course if you're not on the TSL bandwagon if you're not Part of the movement part of this evolution to being the better man the best expression of yourself Let's do it sign up on the newsletter go to the sexual life calm check out our products and let's start this journey To the evolution of being the better man