 Hi, I'm Matthew Coase and in today's video, we're going to talk about six courtship rules that I think all women should probably know. And if this is your first time to our channel, make sure that you hit the subscribe button on the bottom right hand side of this video in order to get more videos on how to have the relationship that you've always wanted. So let's get started. Six courtship rules. So we, there used to be this book out there called the rules. Maybe you have heard of it. Maybe you've seen it back in the 1990s. It was like the book to have for women on dating. And it gave a bunch of rules. I think those rules are outdated. Not only are they outdated, I think that some of them aren't really very good from the beginning. And a lot of guys know about these rules now. And so they're much, much less impactful, I think on guys who are knowledgeable about this kind of stuff. Maybe for some older couples and guys that don't really know about this stuff, haven't really done the research on it. But I know a lot of guys have. And I know personally a lot of guys who have. So let's talk about some rules that I think that might be better anyway for you to follow if you want a long term committed relationship with the guy. So rule number one is that you should encourage a man to chase you and pursue you. So there's kind of this big myth out there that you should do this thing where you act like you're disinterested in a guy or uninterested or that you shouldn't show them that you like them or something like that. And I just think that's really, really bad advice. So most guys aren't, you know, most guys are, you know, one of their biggest nightmares is ending up in the friend zone. And so if you want a guy to chase and pursue you, he has to feel like you like them. And so you have to show them that you like them. And another thing that goes along with this is giving him things to pursue you with, right? So a big part of why a man commits to a woman is investment. So he has to invest in you from a physical, emotional, mental and time standpoint. And so you have to give him ways to invest in you if you want him to commit to you in the long run. So rule number two is something that's called mirroring. I think you should do mirroring with a guy. So if a guy pulls away, this is one of the biggest mistakes that a lot of women make is that when a guy pulls away or he's got something else going on or whatever, women tend to move forward, right? They tend to end up chasing a guy. They end up kind of moving into that space that was kind of created when a guy pulled back. And if you do that, you're more likely to just keep pushing him away. It's like two magnets or maybe gravitational pulls, you move close, it moves further away, he will move further away if you do that. And so instead, what you want to do is mirroring, which is just mirror how much he's putting in there, his interest level. So if he's pulling back or if he's doing something where he's not fully engaged, instead of moving forward, you need to relax and lean back and let him have some space. That'll be such a better way of doing things than moving forward there. So rule number three is creating a life for yourself, creating control for yourself. So one of the biggest mistakes that a lot of women make is they end up, they do this thing where they say they give their all to a relationship and a man ends up taking them for granted after that. And what they end up really doing is they end up making their happiness, making their love, making their feelings of basically all their feelings reliant on this relationship or this man that they're in this relationship with. And I think you'll do a lot better if you focus on creating, making yourself a priority, if you focus on making yourself happy, making yourself enjoy life. Then instead of it being this kind of almost like parasitic relationship where you're just latching onto this guy and getting all of your needs met through him, you can actually experience a lot of this stuff for yourself. And then when he comes to the relationship, he'll feel like he needs to step up in order to really be a part of that with you. Rule number four is to have some mystery about you. And you know, there's a lot of kind of tactical ways to do this, but I think that the best way to have mystery, and if you haven't heard being having mystery to you is really, really attractive for men. And so if you want to have that sense of mystery about you, instead of doing like kind of tactical game playing type stuff, my suggestion is that you step into your femininity, right? Because being feminine is incredibly mysterious to a guy. Being masculine, you know, doing masculine things is not mysterious to a guy because a guy gets that stuff. And it's not even attractive to a guy. And being feminine is incredibly attractive and mysterious and awesome in so many different ways to a guy. And I think you're much better off going that direction of to create mystery and intrigue than you are playing games or doing anything else. Rule number five is to not have sex with him until he's starting to fall in love with you. So there's a lot of different like rules out there. I think the fine style, the fine, the rules, the book, they had like three dates or something like that. That's a horrible rule. And then there's like the Steve Harvey rule, which is like the 90 day rule, which is another just horribly, horribly horrible rule. Instead, a good rule to have would be to wait until he's getting emotionally invested in you. So he's opening, opening up, and he's connecting with you in an emotional way. And he's building that his level of attraction and desire goes into a deeper emotional investment in you. And so when he starts doing that, he'll start to fall in love with you. And that's when it's a better time to have sex with him because you're much less likely to end up just a casual relationship to him. Whereas if you're you sleep with him before he's really invested emotionally, you're much more likely to end up just being in some kind of friend with benefits relationship that you can't get out of. So rule number six is to encourage a man to be who he is and really stop trying to change him. This is one of the another one of the biggest nightmares that men have is women coming in and trying to make him act different, trying to make him be different. A lot of women kind of justify this by being like, I'm trying to help him grow and be a better man. Well, you know, who he is as a better man isn't up to you. It's up to him. And just the same way as, you know, if a man came to you and was like, this is who you need to start being, you know, you'd be like, you're a jerk, you know, like, how about you let me be who I want to be. And instead of trying to change me to be who you want me to be, how about you encourage me to grow into who I'm trying to become, which is what really men, which is a thing that men can really fall in love with, is you connecting with him and believing in him, not falling in love with this kind of image of him in the future, but, you know, accepting him for who he is and believing in him and showing him that you believe that he can become that man that he wants to become instead of trying to change him into becoming the man that you want him to become. And if you have that as your goal, you're it's going to be infinitely more beneficial to both of you short term and long term than it will if you try to change him and try to make him be the kind of man you want him to be. Thanks for watching this video. If you're ready to know exactly what to say and do to attract the man and the relationship you've always wanted, click on the button on the right hand side of this video and go to our website.