 Number two I need you to know I need you to know all these things But seriously number two this is all on you so that goal that you just wrote down or The things that you say you want to achieve the success that you want to have whether that's in football or in life I need you to know this is all on you nobody else. This is your life Realistically, nobody cares. Nobody cares about you obviously your family. Yeah, they care about you. They love you They want you to do well, but if you fail at something guess what their life goes on Okay, this is your life So I need you to take full responsibility for it And if we're talking specifically about football the first thing that I wrote down here is you need to love what you're doing You really have to enjoy this game Especially if you want to achieve big things and you want to keep playing every single day and you want to go far in This game you have to love what you're doing and if you don't love football, that's totally okay Do something else you can stop this video right now if you just admitted that to yourself I don't really like this this much. I'm doing this for someone else If you don't love it if you don't enjoy it life is too short to spend time doing things. You don't love doing so If it's not for you, that's totally okay Find something you're passionate about when you love what you do. It's so much easier to work hard It's so much easier to be consistent and to be disciplined because you enjoy doing it You enjoy the process you enjoy the hard work if you're dreading going to training if you hate Practicing by yourself if you just like the game doesn't bring you joy anymore Admit that to yourself and hey, maybe you take a break one of the best things I ever did It was like I took I quit the team and that's a story. I'll tell in another video. I quit a team. I didn't play But that's not true. I still trained by myself I just didn't play organized football for like a year and I came back with so much more motivation and energy So sometimes you just need a little break or a new a change of environment But sometimes you just don't really enjoy it and that's okay Go and find something you're passionate about pursue that in life And then it's so much easier to work hard on those things and be consistent with those things but Take responsibility take personal responsibility For your development and success and what I mean by that is it's not up to your coach It's not up to your trainer. It's not up to your mom and dad It's not up to your club or the environment that you're in This is on you if you're not developing. That's that's your issue. Okay, so take responsibility for it Don't blame other people say oh, I'm not good enough because my coach doesn't give me the time that I deserve He doesn't give me the respect. He doesn't give me opportunity or my teammates never passed me the ball So I never had the opportunity to play you sound like a loser. Stop talking like that. Take full responsibility This is on you if you're not good at something you have to do something to improve it. It's all on you That's number two. This is all on you Take responsibility for your development. Take responsibility for your success. Okay, the current situation you're in right now Is the result of all the choices that you made all the things that you've done in the past? So if you're not happy with where you are That's okay use as motivation, but you have to do something to change it No one else is gonna come around and change it for you. So stop blaming other people stop looking at other people You got to believe in yourself. No one else is gonna believe in you until you believe in yourself And I need you when you can understand this concept like hey, I'm not good enough right now But I can get there one day so it's okay to be unsatisfied with where you are But you need to believe in your ability to improve you can improve every single part of your game You can improve your weak foot. You can improve your physicality. You can prove your speed You can improve your decision-making your smarts. You can improve your confidence You can prove everything and I'll help you do that But you need to know as possible and you have to believe in your own ability to do so if you've improved anything You're past whatever it is. Maybe you used to suck at video games now. You're good at them That's just proof that you can improve if you put in the time and the effort So if you want to prove everything you need to you need to know that you can and believe in your ability to do so Nobody's gonna support you. No one is going to do anything for you until you start doing something for yourself So we're all like, oh, nobody supports me in my goals. Nobody you Nobody's pushing me forward. Nobody's on my team. Nobody's got my back. That's just the way you want it Use that as motivation. It's you against the world and that's just the way you like it It's you one on one against everyone else against all the obstacles against all the odds that gives you fire That gives you motivation if you take control of that and say Everyone's against me. Nobody supports me. I'm all by myself and that's just the way I like it How much power isn't that if you say oh poor me only if only if my parents supported me only if my friends Have my back only if my coach gave me the time like stop talking like that You're giving away all your power. Keep the power for yourself. Okay, believe in yourself Become brutally honest become really self-aware and honest with yourself. So what I mean by that is if You're not good at something you have to admit that to yourself So many players get so defensive if I went in and criticize you especially if I was your teammate If I'm your coach is a little different. Maybe you respect my authority, but if I'm your teammate I come to you and I say Dude, you suck at defending like so many people. What what do you mean? No? I don't suck like come on You want I'll defend you right now Be self-aware know what your weaknesses are and admit them if you never admit your weaknesses You never admit that you're bad at something you're honest You're not honest with your flaws. How are you supposed to improve them? You can improve them if you admit them if you're if you deny them you can never improve them So it's okay to be bad at things if you admit that you're bad at them You can quickly improve them if you just always deny it or you always stay away from those things because you just Bad at them and you only focus on the things that you're good at then you're never going to improve So I need you to be brutally honest be brutally honest with your weaknesses with your strengths Be honest with your performances and games be honest with your performances and training and stop blaming other people stop saying Oh is the ref's fault? It was my teammates fault like what can you do? Well, it's all your fault Take more responsibility if I lose a game if my team loses a game And my teammates had a shocker and the referee made a bad call on my coach as an idiot. I don't look at them I say okay I only scored one goal maybe if I scored three then we would have won the game take personal responsibility And I'm not saying be bad be hard on yourself Yes, be hard on yourself, but be real with yourself and love yourself at the same time It's a balance, but take responsibility. Don't push don't give your power away to other people by blaming them so I just want to talk to you guys because I've always been a top level player Okay, I've always played at the top level for my age group whatever that was But I never really started getting like a really good at soccer really good at football until I was like 21 I was always good, but I could have been way better It's because I wasn't self-aware and I wasn't honest and I wasn't always like analyzing my game I wasn't on a piece of paper like okay. I'm good at this. I'm bad at this How do I improve this and when I became 21? I that's when I started making football my business I started making a YouTube channel is starting on these questions like hey, how do you improve this? How do you improve that? How do you improve that? So I had to do that and I had to experiment on myself so what I need you to do right now is Become fully self-aware and what I want you to do is I want you to make a list And I want you to list all the things that you think you're good at and all the things that you think you're bad at that need Improvement and the things that you're bad at I want you to Actually write down like at least one action under it and say okay. I'm bad at defending or I'm bad at shooting How can I prove it? What's one actionable step? I can go to a wall and I can take a hundred shots a day with my left foot and my right foot And I can do that for a week and I promise if you do that you'll improve Okay, but it's about identifying the weaknesses don't hide from your weaknesses run towards them and yes You have to keep improving your strengths. You're never good enough for a member Okay, but the when I started getting really good is when I actually became Honest with myself and I said you're not good at this. You're slow. You're unathletic You're bad at shooting you You're shy you don't talk enough your air again your cocky okay be real with yourself be real with yourself Yours you'll be happy that you did this in the beginning, but I need you to do that So pause right now if you want to make that list let's move forward. I'm talking too much, but it's the information Just so good, isn't it?