 Why the narcissist had to leave you another live video and definitely a very important topic So why did the narcissist have to leave you? What was that about? Did they really have this new supply? who Is so much better than you As they would like you to believe the narcissist Rejected you they made you feel like you weren't good enough You weren't worthy of their time and attention but In the end you get the satisfaction You are the one who wins in the end first it can be confusing because you're just thinking in your head What is so good about this new person they're with? Why is it so much better than what they had with you because you're looking into it and you're thinking That they're having to deal with things that they didn't have to deal with with you They're doing things that they didn't have to do and you were in a very good situation While they were with you Things were going well for you Maybe you had a nice house you had a good job You had money So you had things that the narcissist needed you put in a lot of effort But you're looking at this new person and you realize that They're not up to your standard They're not on your level, but you're only looking at it like that Because You're not realizing that the narcissist Was not on your level as well, but you didn't see that initially you didn't realize it because You compensated for their deficiencies and shortcomings When things go weren't going well for them You took care of that You corrected it you gave it all of your time All of your energy and money and the only reason they really got with you Is by convincing you that they could do something or convincing you that they had some Particular skill or quality and they were very convincing if there is one skill that narcissists have They are persuasive They're manipulative But that's all it was it was fake. It was all a lie. They weren't really Up to your standards and expectations And in the end they just seek out people Who are of the same value and quality as them People who are similar to them people who have similar Opinions interests and values, but while they were with you They put on an act they played a role But eventually they have to go back To those people who they are similar to Which may initially shock you Because You weren't thinking about it like that in the beginning you didn't really look at their friends and think that They could be like that You overlooked it But it should have revealed to you that They share the same values and beliefs as their friends or associates They're very similar They have a lot of things in common and that's why they stick together People who are similar do tend to stick together, but there is a possibility that they Imitated you they reflected back to you who you are your interests and ideals Which can make things very confusing it builds a false rapport, but they do that to make you accept them It makes you give them a chance, but if they were really about that If they were really high-value people If they were everything they said they were Everything that they led you to believe they're never gonna go back They're not gonna go backwards. They're not gonna go down. They're not gonna settle for less No, they wouldn't feel comfortable doing that, but then when you look at it, they're not really going down They're not really settling for less All they're really doing is accepting something that Is similar to them They're accepting something that is on their level because you've got to look at it like They never actually had the skills and the qualities Necessary to be with you They just tricked you They were just being dishonest. They were very persuasive And they got you to trust them they got you to believe in them and That is how you ended up with them even though they didn't have the skills or the qualities All they did was trick you and of course, that's why as the relationship is meant to progress It just reveals their shortcomings You start having all of these problems They can't perform into the standard that you would like and expect and you're just Not receiving what you expected to receive because They're slipping up You're starting to notice the cracks Because they don't have the qualities and skills To be efficient At being with you and maintaining a relationship with you So it starts to get to them it starts to have an effect on them it starts getting very difficult and It's too much for them to manage Becomes very irritating and inconvenient It causes them a lot of trouble And it results in a lot of problems and arguments they get very tired Very stressed out and they just can't deal with it anymore They may even just drop the mask and stop putting on an act, but one thing they do like is What they get out of it they like the payout but the actual position of Being with you is not good for them Because they're not up to your standards or expectations. They're not good enough. So naturally at some point they're going to fail and They will become unavailable They will cut you off Because they never had the qualities and skills to be with you in the first place and that's why performance Just gradually and gradually got worse Just went downhill and they became Very emotional Very angry and it was just like nothing you do You couldn't change it Whatever you did it just you weren't going to stay together You couldn't because They had changed over time They weren't doing the things that they did to get you in the first place and that's why they just ended up ghosting you in the end They just left because they knew it was only a matter of time until The ship would sink with them as the captain So they just wanted to get off of that Before the ship went down they had to go they had to leave They had to go somewhere where where less was expected from them where there were less requirements lower standards and Of course they could find that was someone who is More on their level Someone who is below the standard that you expected from them Someone who is not on your level Or at least the level that you were at When they first met you so they go down to a level where They can be more in control But it's not so difficult for them because being with you was Greater than their ability They weren't able to Maintain something of that standard of that level They couldn't maintain that but they wanted the payout They wanted the benefits and the conveniences But they were never at the standard That was required for that position. That's just how it is. I mean if you have a business and You want to At the very least maintain your Your sales Your sales projections Or maybe you want to improve them so you appoint someone as a sales a A sales officer for your company Because naturally you assume if they're experienced in sales and they have the skills and the abilities The odds are that your sales are going to Be maintained at the very least or You should be expecting them to improve If someone has the required skills and abilities things are going to improve They're not going to get worse Things are going to get better for you And you're going to reap the rewards The problem is if you employ someone who doesn't have the skills and abilities or experience and Instead they've just finessed their way into that position They've just manipulated you. They've just tricked you then At some point you're going to notice That productivity begins to go down You're going to notice that Your business's performance isn't as good as it was before because what you've done is You've given the position to someone Who doesn't have the necessary Skills and abilities and qualities It's just Based on what they've told you it's just talking without any actual Proof of what they're capable of Of what they're able to do and that's why in the end You're left to deal with it. It's like things might have been going well for you before But by the time you've finished dealing with them You will have a huge mess to clean up and of course they have no accountability They just run off and do the same thing somewhere else. It's like the ship is sinking and They just got to get off the ship before it goes down Because they know it's about to go down with them behind the wheel so yeah don't just Listen to a person's words Look at their actions Maybe observe how things went down in their past relationships Look at the people they surround themselves with Their friends their family because most often The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Just relaxing here on the couch Yes, definitely an important thing to consider not only to understand what you've just Been through with a narcissist but also It should help you to protect yourself With anyone you meet in the future You've got to look at it Are they just Talking or do they have the skills can they put those skills into practice? Can they make things happen because most of you I'm sure you already know that you have the skills You have the qualities to upgrade someone's life To put them in a better position But you got to look at what the other person has to bring to you. Can they upgrade your life? Can they make your life better? Or at the very least Can they maintain the standard that you currently have? Because that's what you should be looking for at the very least It's no good for someone to get involved With a person Where all they're going to do is take They're just depleting you They're just weighing you down They're leeching off you That's not gonna benefit your life in any way. That's just gonna bring you down You're not gaining anything in that situation Which is like what we went through with a narcissist They didn't bring anything of value to us So when it's all over We leave with a loss Because we were involved with someone Who didn't have any value to bring to us and we need to identify this from the beginning Whether or not people Have any significant value Because a lot of people are just Not working on themselves They're not trying to be better And they're certainly not trying to bring anything to someone else's life If they're not even Improving anything in their own So yes, be very cautious Observe the people that you're dealing with Instead of just focusing on what you have to bring to them You've got to start looking at What value do they have to bring to you? That's how you avoid this Because if a person has value And you're involved with a valuable high-value person The odds are you're not going to leave with a loss if anything goes wrong You're going to be okay. The problem is when we entertain low-value people people who get all of their value from External things And it's just something that they Just use for themselves They're not trying to share anything with you People like that are not going to benefit you in any way. You're basically just becoming someone's caretaker You're just looking after someone Making their life better But then what's happening to you? Your performance goes down. It's all right wanting to take care of someone But who's gonna take care of you? That's why relationships Are meant to be reciprocal There's meant to be an equal exchange of value Because that's how things grow and develop and become greater over time If there is no exchange of value, there is no relationship It's just a one-sided transaction So at some point you're going to end up in a lot of debt Something to think about An important message 70 live viewers, please give this video a thumbs up Let's get this message out there to help survivors around the world Thank you all for joining me on this live video. I'll talk to you in another one very soon