 Strict trigger thing is mine right? She loves that and it sounds so cool. Who does this Tristan Paredes think he is judging the way people sing like that? What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel, my channel is all about mental health and what I like to do is pull different topics from the YouTube community to try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being. So if you're into that make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. So today I am talking about Tristan Paredes. So for those of you who have been around for a while and don't know how to spell my lovely girlfriend's name, let's do a quick little lesson. This is Tristan and this is my gorgeous Tristan. All right, see the difference? It's a little pet peeve of hers when people spell her name wrong but I also don't appreciate when people spell my name wrong but not my first name, my last name. I wonder how many people know my last name? Whatever. Anyways, so my girlfriend Tristan, oh god this is gonna get confusing. This is gonna get really confusing isn't it? Okay, so my girlfriend Tristan was watching Tristan Paredes last night and like I like his stuff. I watch, I love seeing him react to things. Those of you who don't know, he's a vocal coach and reacts to like different singers and all of that and it's really interesting like I love music like a lot of people do and I like hearing people who you know understand like you know the science if you will and the strategy behind singing and my girlfriend Tristan was watching him last night and it was his video Billy Eilish ends my career and I was like editing a video and I heard him talking and I'm like oh my god me and Tristan are the same person. So something I'm always trying to do with my channel and the way my channel is kind of pivoted this year is I'm always trying to teach all of you how to see the similarities rather than the differences right. I'm trying to help you see like these youtubers that you're watching they're doing a lot of the things that you're doing they're struggling with a lot of the things that you're doing. I'm trying to have you learn from them right and it was interesting because when when Tristan was making that video about Billy Eilish I was like wow he's a vocal coach and I'm like kind of like a mental health coach and me and him are dealing with the same thing right. So anyways here's some of the reaction that Tristan got from Billy Eilish's audience as well as Billy Eilish. Right whatever queen cat people are always saying mean things on the internet I don't even have to look at it all the time what but what look at look at Billy Eilish's snapchat. Billy snapped about what what who else came from her story what what do you tell what what the heck what is going on queen cat what is going on look at her snapchat you imbecile what is this I don't what. So yeah Tristan was a little bit flabbergasted by this whole situation because you know as he goes on in that video and I'll link it down below he's like you know I didn't really say anything about her you know why was she so upset but I could really connect with what he said right here. What the heck like those reaction videos are not for her those videos are for like her fans that want to learn how to sing like her or like sometimes new people get introduced to her music through those videos so like I don't know why she wouldn't like them. Exactly exactly you guys that is what I'm talking about all the time and and a lot of you get it a lot of my subscribers people who have been around the channel you get it you understand what I'm doing I often tell people like I'm not making videos about youtubers I'm making videos for you all right so Tristan what he's doing is he's making videos for fans or people who you know want to sing like this person or if somebody's being trying to be an aspiring singer they can learn from these other artists right and that's what I'm doing here on this YouTube channel I want to take what you're already consuming and try to teach you how to improve your mental and emotional well-being that's why I say at the beginning of every freaking video so most of the time most of the time there's no harm there's no shade anything like that towards the actual YouTuber but the thing is is that Tristan and my job are very similar because we we have to tell people things that they don't want to hear all right like we have to tell people hey you're not doing this to the best of your ability hey you're awesome at this but you could do this a little bit better right so in Tristan's instance he's teaching people how to tweak their voice maybe some form and different things to do with their mouth I don't know stuff like that right to critique them and people can get really defensive about that my job you know I've worked in addiction treatment for years and my job is to go up to people and say yo the way that you're running your life is not good it is the reason why your life is such a mess I have to tell people that you know why because when I got clean this over people had to tell me that so when tough love Chris comes out on this channel because I have to tell you that too and trust me people like Tristan people like myself we get it hell even like my girlfriend Tristan she gets it because she worked in you know the mental health field too and she's becoming a social worker like we have to tell people these things right and here's the thing I hope you guys realize this like this is one of the reasons why I do not take offense to your comments I have worked in addiction treatment I have had people come in who are dying right they have lost everything in their life too family won't talk to them friends won't talk to them they lost their wife they lost their children they lost their husband they lost their family whatever it is right and these people come into treatment I'm telling them a bunch of stuff they don't want to hear they come up and they cuss me out and they hate me throughout treatment but do you know do you know how many phone calls that I've gotten after people left treatment where they apologized to me and said Chris I'm sorry for treating you like that I understand why you told me all those things now it makes sense thank you so much you saved my life so do you think that I get offended when people like you go down in those comments and start acting ratchet you must be crazy because I sleep fine at night well I don't sleep fine but it has nothing to do with the comments so it's a little bit of sleep apnea but we're working on that I went to the gym today but this is a great example right here I want to show you kind of what happened with Tristan Perettes and James Charles so Tristan made this video because James Charles was getting a lot of flak about his cover of Ariana Grande um got as a woman and James Charles got really defensive about it so Tristan said some things like this in his reaction video comment may think there's not a single note in that cover that is wrong every single note is perfectly unpitched there's a one that's sharp or flat because I went in and corrected every single one now my tone on a few of the notes may be a little bit off because this is where I've got to stop sister over here sister's being a little bit what's the word just say it sister's being delusional is and you know what for a vocal coach your pitch isn't very good either different from the rest and boy if you confess you might get blessed that was not bad too again but the the only thing that I want from you sister I just still want a little bit more nasal airflow and a little bit more presence in your voice because your voice likes to it just loves to go into this breathy thing and sort of like a doled out sound instead of slow but what that led up to was James Charles admitting that he gets overly defensive about this and he invited Tristan out and they did an entire collab together where Tristan helped James craft and hone his skills so that's one of the things that we all have to do we have to realize like is this person saying something to us to be malicious or they're saying something to us to help us better ourselves right like don't get me wrong do not get me wrong there are a lot of judgmental people out there giving a lot of unsolicited advice and you have to learn how to filter that information my best advice to you is to ask yourself what is this person's intent right what what is this person trying to do are they trying to harm me or are they trying to help me you know what I mean so like I think it's very very very important to think about that the other thing I want you to think about is something that I've been experiencing a lot lately since my channel's been like blowing up recently is that you see people just blindly defend who they follow and this is something I've talked about a lot of times a lot on my channel I talked about in my Shane Dawson film theorist video where people are just gonna go and defend who they're gonna defend they're gonna hate who they're gonna hate without gathering all the facts right so a lot of people went after Tristan you know because Billy Eilish was like talking crap about him right and they just went over there and said this to him like oh Billy said this well I'm gonna go after him and Tristan's like wait what you know so I want you to like kind of be mindful of that like there's nothing that makes me giggle a little bit more than when people come to my videos and they comment when they clearly didn't watch the video something I've been saying to a lot of people lately is like do you ever feel a little bit silly commenting on something before you watch it like I just wonder I'm really curious about that right but anyways anyways I want to hear from all of you down in the comments below like how do you take criticism right do you do you get really defensive do you take it in do you ask yourself like are they trying to help me or they're gonna try to help me improve like let me know like down in the comments below because I really this is a really interesting topic and I want to make some more videos on it all right but anyways that's all I got for you with this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos and a huge thank 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