 Hello everyone. Welcome to another Narc Survival Live video. I'm out here on another beach not too far away from the other one yesterday but I think I like this one more. It's much bigger. I'm just looking over there. Maybe I can go over there for a walk. See what the views are like. Okay so the topic today is self-preservation within the narcissist fake world. Now this is a very different topic compared to what I usually talk about and I have done a few videos on this topic already but I haven't touched on it for a while so I think it will be interesting to get into it here now. Self-preservation. First let's talk about what self-preservation is. It's about preserving yourself, preserving your mind, your mental, emotional and even physical health, preserving your ideas and beliefs about the world or at least those of which are positive and beneficial to you. To me that's really what self-preservation is. That's what it's about and of course being a narcissist can affect all of those things. It can affect your mental, emotional and physical health. It can affect your ideas and beliefs about the world. Your ideas and beliefs about yourself. It can affect all of that. So yeah it can be very difficult to receive yourself in that world. You may find that you begin to lose yourself as time goes by you're no longer the person that you once were. You find that it's affecting your health. You find that your perception has changed not only on yourself but of other people. You begin to see things differently. It creates a distorted mindset because the reason why I call it worlds is because what's actually happening is you are being pulled out of reality and then you're lured into another world with distorted meanings and interpretations with different translations, different definitions of things and at first it may seem like things don't make any sense. Like you're trying to put the pieces together but it just doesn't add up. It can't make sense of it. It's like a puzzle but as with anything with practice the more you practice at it the better you get. So you might have a puzzle in front of you and at first it's very difficult. You can't figure it out initially but then maybe after a few hours you begin to realize okay this piece goes there and this piece goes there and it begins to create a picture. It begins to become more and more clear until eventually you don't even have to think about it. Once you put a few pieces together you can see the picture coming together so you're getting quicker and quicker the more it goes along. In the beginning of doing this puzzle it takes you more time just to put one piece down but as you get closer and closer to the end it becomes a lot quicker because you've already put some of the pieces down. So I hope you understand what I mean in that analogy there and yeah it's the same thing it's you know with the narcissist in their world it doesn't make any sense initially but as time goes by the pieces begin to fit and you see the picture and you adopt their meanings their interpretations of things which originally didn't make any sense to you. I just want to show this few of the rocks and the water there before I woke up this way yeah but before you got involved with them it didn't make any sense it wasn't until you spent time around them that you began to see things differently you began to adopt their perspective you entered their world and I'm telling you that once you enter that world it's very hard to get yourself out of there. It's kind of like Alice in Wonderland you've gone down the rabbit hole it's not so easy to find your way back out because you're playing on their field with because they always have to take the authoritative position and it's about arrogance of feeling like they know everything they know more than you and yeah that's what puts them in that position of power and only that but if you look at it we willingly put them in that position where they they have this authoritative control over our lives they dictate what we think they dictate other beliefs everything and I think the problem is that we you know this is the number one issue with it is that we don't question it we let someone just walk into our lives and impose all of their rules and we don't question it we don't look at it ourselves and think is this something that I agree with is this something that I believe in we don't do that because many of us have already been primed from a young age to not question anything we've just been told what to do to follow the beaten path and you know that's really the perfect mold for the narcissist to come along and tell you what's right and what's wrong what you need to do and that's why in all honesty I mean you know we talk about preserving yourself but many of you you don't even have a self to preserve because from the very beginning you were told who you are you were told who you're meant to be what you're meant to do so you never knew who you were anyway many of you you think you lost yourself from being with a narcissist no actually you just lost who you thought you were you lost who your parents and teachers told you you were it's the truth and it's the same for all of us really I mean we've all been programmed from birth we weren't allowed to grow into being ourselves in an environment where there isn't such a heavy influence on us from our parents teachers society the media I mean all of these things shape the people that we become so yeah I mean these are things that we all have to take into consideration I mean that's even before we get into the narcissist and their world it's really beautiful view here this beach but yeah these are all things that we should consider as well and I think in the other videos that did touch on this topic I didn't really go down that road I kind of skipped all of that but it's true who you think you are is not actually who you are and when we develop that self-awareness that's when we need to go within ourselves to really find who we actually are our identity our authenticity because up until that point we were always told who we're supposed to be and that's the thing isn't it why why were we told that I mean if you look at it in the world who does that benefit does it benefit us from the day we are born we enter the system we're told you go to school you go to college university you get a job and then you save up you buy a house or many of you are paying for a house for the rest of your life you know if you're not paying in cash and then on top of that you're paying the interest and this is what we're told we're supposed to do from a young age we are pushed into the system and yeah I mean it's like before you know it your entire life has passed you by like let's just look at it like as an example if someone works in the UK for instance like nine hours a day actually no eight hours a day and that's one third of the day so if it's one third of the day that's pretty much one third of your life but we don't question it we're told that it's normal but for me I remember when I was working a nine to five job I never felt like it was normal I would literally calculate it in my head I'm thinking what so I already spend about one third of my life asleep and now I have to spend another one third of my life working and that doesn't even include the time it takes to get to work and then to go back and they're on top of that it doesn't include the time it takes to get ready in the morning if you're working in the morning and then even at the end of the day when you get back you're just cooking your food maybe you have a shower and then you go to sleep and start again and many of us we do this for what 11 dollars an hour and then even after that we get taxed on everything everything you buy there's a tax and then you got income tax which just lays to the system so we're already primed to be that way from the very beginning by the government by the elites so it's so easy for us to just fall into that position with a narcissist who's really just it's a similar personality it's just a lower level of what we've always known the path that we've always followed in our lives maybe unknowingly but we've all gone down that path and so it can be very difficult to get out because that's the thing you may find that when you wake up to this world of a narcissist you realize that it's so much bigger than just them it's everything it's not just a narcissist was fake this entire world is fake everything all of these systems and it's really sick when you think about it because these are people's lives that they're messing with and it's before you're even born it's already planned out how it's gonna be for you and that's how you know just how messy less and ruthless they really are to already know I mean to plan it out beforehand and you already know the effects of how it's going to be and not only that but it's a cycle it's repeated again and again on all of us and it's indefinite you know they act like they care about us like we're important and you know we all we work together we contribute to the community to build a better world for all of us at least that's what they tell us that's what they make us believe truth is they actually don't care they don't care about any of us they're all secretly laughing at us and how stupid we are for believing their lies all of these things we've been told and this isn't just things that have happened recently it's been like this for a very long time we've been under their control we've been under their spell we haven't really been aware so it's kind of like we're an autopilot we're just these zombies moving aimlessly through life with no real purpose I mean just look at the goals that people set for themselves in today's worlds people's goals are graduating getting their dream job at an office maybe at a bank and then buying their dream car so they can drive on the roads driving the city and then having their house I mean what is this this is the matrix none of that stuff even matters there's no meaning there's no purpose to it it's all actually just a distraction from ourselves that's all it really is it's distracting you from who you are but when you become aware of it that is when you take your power back that is when you realize that the entire time you have been sold a lie we were lured into this system and there was manipulation lies and future faking we were fed a false narrative but at the end I mean if you ask someone who is on their deathbed you realize that I think everyone realizes in the end that this isn't what we're meant to be this isn't what we're meant to do we're just so this dream it's all just a distraction everything from the money your job your car your house it's just this reward system that they have created to enslave you all of these things are that's all it is but sadly we don't realize that until it's too late and then you can't go back and that's why it's so important to become aware of this now it's so important to put your focus and attention on the things that actually matter in life instead of these things that you have been told matter because none of that is even real it's a distraction that's really what the world is the world's and more and more every day every year that goes by it's become this fun house with all of these distractions all of this escapism but none of it is actually any good for your mind it's not really good for anything so yeah these are definitely things to that you need to think about on a deeper level and it's not just for me to feed a narrative to you you need to go within and analyze it yourself because that's the only way that you're going to develop a really deep understanding of it as I have myself I mean I'm sure many of you you remember that movie The Matrix there's a lot of truth to that movie that's actually how things are in the real world but of course this world isn't really even real just want to show this the cliffs and the sea it's a really cool beach I hope you guys enjoy it just as I do I don't know if there's gonna be a clear sunset again today it's looking quite cloudy but it's just nice to be down here anyway it's really peaceful having a great time check out all the rocks there really nice views you just walk along this bridge all the way around the coast normally you would only get these kind of views on a boat so it's great they put this here how about you guys anyway you any of you thinking of traveling soon anyone got any plans let me know down below where you're planning to travel next I'd like to cure from you let me know I don't know how far down this path goes don't know if I can walk till the end can't remember what time it gets dark here I'm sure it will within the next hour but you can really see the beach from you but yeah some people are power hungry they just want power more than anything and they will do whatever it takes to get it their desire for power overrides their empathy they just don't care about anyone as long as they have power that's all they care about the power to influence and control they don't care about fairness quality they don't care what happens to you I thought that was real yeah they really don't care about what happens to any of us which is pawns in their game of chess the only thing they're concerned with is power and control and yeah sometimes when they think they're losing their power and control it may seem like they care but sometimes they do things just to keep you dependent on them as well so yeah important points to consider but you need to preserve yourself you need to find ways to bring yourself back in to yourself and what I mean by that is your awareness it all starts there because you cannot you cannot identify what the issue is until you become aware of it instead of submitting to the societal agenda and these media influences all of these things that are just telling you what to think they're telling you what to believe instead of doing that you need to trust your own intuition and only that but find truth tellers because there are people who they don't watch that stuff for a start they don't watch the news they don't follow politics all of these things because they know it's all rubbish they know that it's just it's like the Wizard of Oz it's like some man behind a curtain who's pulling all of the strings pretending to be God I mean that's really how it is with the presidents prime ministers the kings and queens that just puppets someone else is pulling the strings someone that you don't see and sadly that's how it is for the majority of people in this world you think that this person is who they say they are when that is just it's it's already been influenced by something else it's it's really it's been molded by other things and that's the same for narcissists too I mean we forget that most of the time I would say narcissists are it's a learned behavior they've learned it from other people I mean when we're born we don't we don't know anything we learn these things from other people we take on these personality traits so yeah I think it's important for us to understand that because many times we just think that this is who this person is when you actuality they have been molded and created by other people especially if they lack that self-awareness they don't know who they are they never took the time to discover who they are I mean we have to take the reins we have to take control of the ship to do that and these types of personalities almost have an inability to do that I think this is as far as I'm gonna go before it gets dark yeah it's been a nice walk talking to all of you going deep on this topic I mean I've said it already but yeah I mean for the self-preservation the number one thing is your awareness and on top of that I would practice deep breathing at least three times a day once when you wake up in the morning another time in the afternoon and then again before you go to sleep at night just the awareness and the breathing is very important and then you can do other things like exercising going for a jog these are the kind of things that really get you back into that mindset to where you're not always under someone else's influence you're not always in reaction mode because that's really what it's all about when it comes down to the self-preservation it's about taking back control of your mind anyway I'd just like to thank you all for joining 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