 ہم اے ہمپر ا="#فوان و حاہات اور سادیات لگتا ہوں گا محمد صلى اللہ علیہ وسلم ہمیرود ہم کے نظر ہے اور ایک ایسا کی سادیات و حاہات بھی بھی جوٹلی سینے کے ساتھ اور ہمیرود ہمیرود جوٹلی pike کے بارے ہمیرود سوائلہ ہی برینزر دور ہے کیا انہوں کے بارے ہمیریان کونجلہ ہم کیا ہمیریان کونجلہ ہمیریان نے موشلی منہا بات میں وضع ہمیریان ، یہ جز Whamimalی سرین مجھی ایثا لینا پہنے کی جب تو بتاگا جاتا will üzerine ۔ بہت بات ہے ، بہت سیم سے انگر그렇ی ہے اور ہمارے اپنے پیت میں مدر جانتا ہوں۔ میں بہت سیمہ اپنے بیدے سے اپنے بہت بہت بہت مجھے بہت مبارے کے لئے میں لوگوں کو مجھے بہت کسی کی طرح کیا ہوں۔ بہت سے نی Photo لہذا ہم اسے بھرانے اللہ سبحانہ و تعالیٰ Julian جب آپ کس چیز کیا لے اور می کرے گی ہے جو بہت ایک ایک بہت ایک سوچ اسی مجھے اولا یہ کہا رہا ہے اور یہ جو بہت ہر capitalist ان اور محافظیگہ کیا기 ہے، ان سے جو جو جو جو صاری حمدہ آج Johar رہے ہیں تی تھی جب جو آپ جو جاا جا جیتے ہیں جان کے لئے میں کوئی good تھی جو ایک بڑ利 سہنہ sair دے جس ان کی معلومات کہتے ہیں ، estoy حالتی ص信ہ میرہ۔ ولوے کہ اور آئی ل e امچ کیمعملت کیا ہے گا صِرا۔ میں ہنیچوں میں لگی留 within بر چاہیے تاک ہوں والے Rong سے رجا کو معلومت کریںз צے پے مجھوں کا://什麼地ه不過 balance کچھ بہ締ہ کیا ساری حالت کو دیکھتے ہیں، ورے دیکھیں گے کوئی مجھے پیدا هنا سکتے ہمارا ہے۔ جب آپ کو کم پر کتنے کے لئے ساری بھی مجھے کم مجھے پیدا کرتے ہیں۔ جب آپ کو کم مجھے پیدا کرتے ہیں، کسی بات بھی تھی ، ہمارے دیکھنے کے لئے آپ کو کم ازواء کیا تعلیف دے گا۔ اسلام میں پاس جو آپ کے لئے تعلیف ہوتا ہے ، یہ آپ کے لئے تعلیف ہے۔ my own spouse so we need to know the various degrees of correcting people i believe that if you correct someone by convincing them what is right and wrong the effect of that is far deeper and to force them to do the right thing so if i convince my child to leave something bad he will not do it even behind my back because he is convinced but if i force him to stay away the minute i turn my back he is back there this is something that we need to know point number three time the time spent with one another should be maximized you know the hadid says liya saakabay took try and find your home spacious mashallah this home Allah granted even more space inshallah it is very spacious home i am impressed that the sound is better than some of the masjids in this home and alhamdulillah Allah جانت as good use of it and i'm sure that it is for this type of thing where we have tazkira and we have various points of benefit mashallah very nice i'm i'm thinking maybe of installing something inshallah maybe in my home so the time you spend with your family and at home is very important don't waste time outside for nothing don't be late to come home unnecessarily you have worked few days no problem but every day sitting with your friends we don't want that inshallah the next point is the tongue the tongue must be used to say the kindest words to say the kindest words if you have to say something say the kindest words so when i want to talk to you i must speak with a smile i must use respect i must think how am i talking even if you have broken a glass i can say my son don't do that you know next time i said my son don't do that you know and the third time i might want to raise my voice slightly just to to tell him look it's been three times but we need to do so with love and affection no matter what put yourselves in the shoes of others there is an issue today where people are very selfish each one wants to look at what is there for me in this particular equation not realizing we as muslim should ask what is there for me to give what am i going to give in this relation give in builds a relation receiving does not always build it can but not always because you know they say marriage is give and take it does not mean one gives and the other takes all the time it means you give and take both inshallah اللہ make it easy so the tongue must never be used for vulgar words or for abusive words hurtful words you know someone says for example if you tell them if the wife you if you go to the shop the wife says i like this cutlery you know women they like some beautiful things sometimes i like this cutlery you think i should rob the bank in order to buy it for you those are hurtful words don't say that you know some people say that you are very greedy you know what are you looking that direction next time when i'm not going to bring you here why are you saying that say no mashallah الحمدلہ it's a good good set mashallah one by one then when she says are we going to buy it you can say mashallah yes if we need it we will buy it what do you think do we need it they will tell you we have 10 sets back at home but maybe we can we can you know do it one more so you say okay inshallah we will get rid of two sets then we will buy this one inshallah so there is a way of speaking how you use your tongue it is an art so make sure that you understand the art of using your tongue you know why everyone has a tongue so what makes me special how i use it everyone has a tongue what makes me special how i use it so try it out wallahi you will be loved by all those around you you know how even if you have a difference of opinion you don't need to scream and say cutting remarks speak politely you know one day there was a man the true story happened with me he was driving his vehicle and i was driving so i took over because he was slow so when i took over he started making signs you know and he was so angry some of these people they get upset why are you taking over so we stopped at the traffic light he was next to me he was screaming screaming at my face he put his window down screaming and i just looked at him and i had a broad smile just like this just looked at him and after a while he stopped and he started laughing because he realized that this is a waste of time i'm not going to receive anything his idea was to make me angry but you don't become upset you know that reminds me i need to add to this list and that is something came to my mind now also with a t that is temper control your temper make sure that you your temperament is always correct inshallah i will add this later on this evening and i will say that i thought of it whilst i was talking so the next point is to talk to one another and communicate properly we cannot have a house where people are quiet you don't talk to me i'm not talking to you what is the problem i don't know you know when when husband or wife is with a sad face i need to know why are you sad maybe it's a small headache but you are not talking to me so i think so many things in my head even the marriage can break sometimes because i start to think what's wrong quiet but did i do something did someone phone you and tell you something what happened quiet that type of miscommunication or lack of communication wallahi it can destroy any relation so communication is essential for a healthy relationship very very important then we have truthfulness should not be compromise don't compromise be a true person be honest you know be straight forward be upright be truthful inshallah you will find your relations always in order the next point is tolerance tolerance of the differences here and day what that means is one day you cook chicken one day you cook uh fish one day you will have vegetable one day so what it does not have to be according to my liking all the time we have a problem you know the quran الحمدلہ it has set rules and regulations but some people have misunderstood it when the quran speaks about a man being the man of the home it does not say that you are not you are not allowed to compromise one or two things and you are not notifications give your family any decision making some people their friends tell them make sure you wear the pants so he comes home innocent wife what a good woman such a nice relation but he thinking of his friend his friend says who wears the pants he says hey sit down who do you think you are talking to you want to prove a point to an outsider so be careful how you speak to one another it does not have to be according to you all the time انہوں کہ یہ غowsکا ہے ، اس کے ایک ساتھ ذہب یہ نہیں ہے۔ آپ کے ساتھ بھی بھی باکرامیہ میں بجاتتے ہیں ، آپ کو کیا جنگ پر کارکتے ہو canتا ہے دونا ہے تھا۔ یہ ایک دل ساتھ بھیوکارہ ہے۔ دون کی بھیوکارہ نہیں ہے۔ اور حالا ہمuce نمیت بھی نیکتا ہے۔ جزاکم اللہ خیری کو بھی لیکن ایک بہت سکنے پر ہے۔ میں جب آپ جس کو کس دایا ہے کہ آپ کو سکنی پر بہت سکنے ہیں کہ میں پر ہے کہ ہم کیا ہے؟ بھائے بھی ب,... today's world is very different remember we are living in an age of television and internet and mobile phones and technology that is the age so don't think the norms are according to me and you the norms are changing they are according to technology you know in twitter and facebook the people will say what is a good Malay dish that they cook here some food what now what curry so someone will say today I had curry and the world will say wow you know how was it made what happened 3000 people from across the globe are commenting about one bowl of curry in your house and they don't even know sometimes that the salt was more but just because you uttered words of this nature the world is commenting and everyone is they know what happened they know what is going on you know so you need to be careful how you speak and you know you need to have tact people must really be feeling very comfortable in your company because if they are wrong they will be corrected politely and if they are correct they will be acknowledged and appreciated do you appreciate those who you live with question there was a boy in my community and I have a good relation with some of the youth you know young people even some very young young boys 10 12 one young boy little bit mischievous so I told him together with some others that brother I need you to have an A4 page on which you write the following words and you must tick off how many times you use them in your house what are the words جزاک اللہ خیران one of the words please thank you and the words like these a list of words so every week he must come to show me that list to say I used it five times this week I used it six times this week the idea is to develop these young children and you can give them a prize although he is not affiliated to me but because he comes to the mosque and he respects me we try to help them so this is just a system we as adults ask yourselves how many times do I use those words with those who live with me even those who work for me I say جزاک اللہ خیران thank you very much I really appreciate it I have a habit when someone even if you're on an aircraft or anywhere someone comes with something for you thank you very much I really appreciate it you know and you appreciate it you say a few good words and wallahi it makes a big difference you know some people they think oh there is a sheikh that sheikh he's just going to sit like this you know anything comes just nod his head you know we you need to speak if you are Muslim you have a Muslim name you have Muslim identity you need to speak إنشاء اللہ and make sure that people get the correct words from your mouth then a very important point trouble makers should never be a part of your friends who are trouble makers they carry a tail from here and they take it there they carry a story from there and they bring it here only to carry a story is enough for someone to be considered a trouble maker so don't carry tails you know tell they call them tell tail tits that's what they called them wallahi very dangerous if you have friends like that it's poisonous but if you are like that it is suicide Allah protect us so remember you don't need to carry every tail if you want to take a good story take it if it is bad bury it under your toe finished make dua for them bury it under your toe you know I saw this and that and you know this person said this and that person relax just make dua if it is necessary you let someone know and number two if it is good you can let others know as well so that is the issue with trouble makers then the point technology and telephones must be used to enhance your relations not to destroy them many people use their telephone to break a relation because your telephone you can access anyone across the globe at any time make sure you access the right people if there is someone wrong cut it out block I always tell my friends that you know a lot of the applications they have they have an option to block someone whether it is WhatsApp whether it is Facebook whether it is Twitter you can block someone so why is there the block button when you are not using it block them don't worry don't say no I'm too kind I won't block block them they might block your happiness if you don't block them so it's important Insha Allah that we look at that issue as well then the second last point I mentioned I started with the word tea tea to drink isn't it tea and meals at home with your family is absolutely priceless try your best to have your tea your meals at home sometimes in the weekend also you can picnic and so on very very important to develop your children of today and your spouse your family your relations you know even if it is big family gathering and the last point we have is prayer تحجد تحجد adds a lot of value and spirituality and it protects us from Shaytan the reason why I say this is prayer five times a day that we pray for Allah تحجد we pray for Allah but because it is optional many of us do not get up I'm saying try it try once a week try it see how you feel you know they say Saturday night the non-Muslims go to the club isn't it مسlims will sleep early to get up Sunday morning for what for تحجد try it try it and you will find very big difference in your life very big تحجد once a week we are starting with you know it's like an auction you are selling a product they say if you haven't read okay who is going to read once a month who is going you can answer yourself in your heart I don't need to know it was not for me who is going to read once a week insha Allah and we go ahead insha Allah so may Allah سبحانہ وطعالہ help us to tolerate one another I want to end by saying be the best person you can be because you are going to die did you hear what I said be the best person you are going to be because when you die you will leave behind a legacy and some people will know you this man was very good all they say this man he was okay you know he used to swear a lot he used to he used to really shout us too much he was doubting me too much people are waiting for others to die today you know that sometimes people are waiting I know اللہ گرانٹ اللہ گرانٹ are secure from our disease I know of one family where the wife became sick so a friend is telling me I wish that was my wife لا حولہ ولا قوة اللہ لا حولہ you understand what he is saying he has such a bad relation with his spouse and because of too much talking loudly and shouting he says I wish it was my wife how can you wish your wife was sick but I learned from that that this man is waiting for her to die imagine so Muslims should not get to that level we need to live in such a way both sides all sides nicely I tell people when you are living with your more relatives you need more patients if you have one relative one bag two relatives two bags of patients if you have your in-laws ten bags of patients you will live with them happily you need to work hard there is no room for laziness you will have to do things the more you sacrifice the more they love you all of us when we are lazy people don't like us so Insha Allah we will try our best to be kind to one another to be patient to make life easy for those who live with us just make life as easy as you can Allah will create ease for you in a few days we will hear some of these points in some of my talks Insha Allah but today I've just mentioned it I read it out of my phone we ask Allah to benefit us we are hearing a thang we will stop there Sallallahu Wasallam و بارکہ علا نبینا محمد سبحان اللہ و بحمده سبحانك اللہ و بحمده