 What's going on you guys? It's your boy Lloyd here with the Single Guy channel. So today we're going to be talking about a question that I got recently. Let me pick it up. And the question is the following. He writes, hey Lloyd, I've been texting this girl for a little bit. We matched on Tinder and it seems like she likes me, but she's taking a really long time to respond. Sometimes I'll text her and she'll take a whole day to get back to me. How can I get her to respond quicker? What am I doing wrong? Okay, cool. So this is, I paraphrased what he said obviously. But basically this guy is dealing with an issue that's a very, very common question that I get is that a guy is texting a girl. Typically they match on a dating app or something like that and the girl is taking a long time to get back to him. Or maybe he got her number in real life and she's just taken a while. So the first reaction that a lot of guys have to this is like, okay well she's not interested because she's taking a long time to get back to me. And that's very possible. In fact very frequently women will take a long time to respond to a guy if they're not really interested in him. They do the kind of slow fade out thing where they take longer and longer and then eventually you don't hear from them. I've been guilty of doing that too. Women do that all the time. But how do you know if that's what's happening or if she's just taking a long time to respond because maybe she's busy or maybe the messages you're sending aren't very good? So I've seen a lot of guys as messages and in those situations I think they can do a lot of improvements to their texting meaning that like they're sending messages that are just the way they're going about things is it's natural that she's going to take a long time to respond. So in these positions it's not necessarily that she's not interested. It's just that they could go about it a little bit better. So here's some tips that you can use to get a girl to respond quicker to your messages. Tip number one, break up the messages. So if you have a long thing to say to somebody I would break it up. Don't put it one big block. So in the left screen I have an example about this. Basically the guy was talking about his day and he was telling her all the stuff that happened and he put it in one big block. Rather than putting it in one big block where she looks at it and she's like oh damn I have to type a freaking essay to respond to this. I mean even if I see a message like that if it's a girl that I like I'm going to take a while to respond because I have to think of what to say. You know I'm probably going to be writing a freaking essay or something like that. So if you or a guy who's doing that instead of saying one big block say today went to the beach, swam in the ocean, water was super cold, you know can't wait to, couldn't wait to get back into my home. Whatever that's a bad example but it's an example of something that instead of putting in one big block you break it up. Now if you can say it a lot more concisely when you're doing that she kind of reads it the way she thinks so she thinks okay went to the beach today cool I like going to the beach too. Like it's easier for her to respond to each individual thing than one long big block of text. Okay tip number two make sure you keep it fun and playful. Sometimes if you especially are matching with a girl on Tinder or you first got her number a lot of guys want to get very deep and intellectual with this person. I would recommend that you wait to do stuff like that. Okay make it fun playful at the beginning just tease her flirt do those kinds of things make it positive. Those things are more likely to get a response especially if you delve into a lot of negativity that responses can start to get a little slower. Okay so if you make it fun positive flirty she's much more likely to respond but if you're talking about serious topics like you really want to delve deep into her you know her psyche or get to know her that's fine but I would recommend that you wait a little bit before you do that because she's going to take a lot longer to respond and think of an answer because now you're taking it much more seriously. If it's silly and playful she's not going to think too much about her answer and so she's going to text you back faster. Okay tip number three is to mix it up if you've been sending a lot of messages you know send her a picture or something like that or you know tell her something hey check out what happened to me today or something like that if you don't have to make it that how are you doing every single day how are you doing this fine if you're seeing it once in a while but if you say it every single time that starts to get into a routine it starts to get boring and she's less likely to want to respond to you. Okay tip number four is to relax okay relax you guys just because a woman is taking a long time to respond it doesn't say anything about you as a person it doesn't mean she doesn't like you um yeah sure there's a chance for that but there's a chance she doesn't like you even if she doesn't respond on time okay so worrying about it is only going to make it worse now what I recommend that you do is have other things going on in your life that you're not really worrying about this so much okay if you have a life where a lot of it's staring at your phone waiting for a message you know something's probably up me in my life I'm always doing things and you know even if someone that I really like texts me it usually takes me a little bit of time to get back to them because I have all this work and stuff that I'm doing for this channel and this business so I have a lot of stuff going on okay so if you have a life where it's you know it's engaging with the stuff around you is occupying you I think that's a more fulfilling life than if you're just waiting around for your phone okay and the final tip that I have for you guys is basically have other options okay if a woman is not texting you back at the rate that you want her to text her back it might seem like a small thing but it also might be indicative of a larger thing if that's something that's important to you find somebody who's going to do that you know if you get if this is just a person who you know for whatever reason she's just very slow to get back to people she's not very communicative um that's a sign that may be a relationship with her or maybe even a hookup or something like that might be more trouble than it's worth okay I like to be with people that fit kind of my personality and mold and the ones that don't you know like we're probably not the best match for each other but if the person is part of my mold then yeah sure they're going to do things that fall in line with my values and so if you value getting back to somebody quickly and being you know communicating to them then find somebody who will do that for you okay just because she's taking a slow time to respond to you it's not always your fault okay so there's plenty of fish in the sea you guys that's how a high value guy I mean that's how a high value guy thinks um is he's not thinking about oh what did I do wrong but this girl's you know she's not responding to me super quickly he's going to be like well this girl's taken too long to respond I'm going to text the girl who will respond to me quicker okay um and so I'm not saying drop her just because of that you know if there are other qualities you have to take that into account too um but I'm saying if that's something that's really important to you you should find someone who is going to satisfy that for you okay cool so yeah and obviously there's the chance that she might not be that interested so you know if that's the case then that's the right move anyway okay so follow these tips you guys if you find yourself getting into conversations with women that are taking too long to respond try using these techniques um but like I said you guys make sure you keep your options open make sure you have stuff going on with your life and I think that's going to solve a lot of your problems all right thanks a lot you guys if you made it to the end consider subscribing I come out with videos like this every single week if you have any other ideas about ways to get girls to respond quicker or ways to get people to respond quicker in general put them in the comment section below would love to read them if you're interested in getting coached by me personally there's a form in the description box below click on the link and if we see if you seem like a good fit we'll get back to you thanks a lot you guys good luck out there