 constantly trying to see where you stand with a guy, what you mean to him, whether he thinks your boyfriend girlfriend or not, asking him where this is all going, forcing him and locking him down into a relationship or commitment or marriage before he's ready. And so I don't want you to get confused with making sure that you're getting yourself into a good situation, which is like, hey, I'm not going to sleep with him without knowing whether we're going to be exclusive or whether he's interested in a relationship. What I'm talking about is trying to get him to be exclusive and getting him to be in a relationship, which is a vastly different thing, right? One is communicating what your needs are, setting a boundary and saying, Hey, I'm not doing any more here, unless I'm getting what it is that my needs fulfilled. And the other one is trying to force something to happen so that you can so that you can have a result that you want to have, even though trying to force it is actually more likely to make things blow up and for him to pull away and for him to not want it.