 alrighty welcome back you are still watching hashtag why in the morning and wcw what do i keep on saying wcw anyways wcw is the segment and we are still having an amazing conversation about how to have healthy competition it doesn't matter in what avenue ensure that you still stay on that hashtag and still with the amazing beautiful ladies on set i'm going to come back to you straight charity and behind the scenes we are talking about how to just you know and show that now in this case how do you keep a healthy or maintain a balanced competition in what way whatsoever whether it be business yeah number one stay focused okay know what you want and go for it yeah avoid the necessary distractions yeah number two just work hard invest a lot of energy into what you are doing number three do what you feel is good for your heart yeah your mental health is very important you see some of us do things to please others and forget about our own self yeah in as much as you are trying you are in a competition but remember that your mental health is important there's going to be the end of that competition what next do you want to come out of it broken yeah there's life after it yeah that's what i can say and then just to be honest in it be honest yeah have objectives yeah what you want to achieve by the end of it and work towards them yeah interesting i love the fact that you mentioned honest why should i be honest kwanzaa to a person who is competing with me whether it's work relationship business why should i be honest but i love the fact that you emphasize that and also mental health nicole for you how would you maintain a healthy competition whether me come and best you know a healthy relationship should end up in a win-win situation so i think you should just respect first of all and then honesty and then um communication communication yeah okay nice interesting uh let's let's uh backtrack a little bit it will depend with the situation when it is bad just leave it bye i'm by it will depend after competition is it is it beyond repair you you you give up so then we just leave it because you see uh like out of uh in a competition not because we really wanted to lose but because there were no uh the odds were against you yeah the ground was not leveled for you so you can as well recollect yourself and say i want to fight again yeah and you fight speaking of that not permanently damaged and as in no matter how he or what she tries you believe you can heal from anything you can heal you can heal from anything so long as you want to heal you see what is important is the wheel do you want to heal if you want to heal you will heal but if you if you want to keep on scratching the scars it's fresh every time because like you see some of us get into relationship with with with very funny intentions yeah like you went there so genuinely you really wanted the best out of that relationship but you never know what the other partner thinks of is out to maybe destroy you don't even to hurt you or to just take advantage especially financially yeah all of us can only take advantage of the the the husband financially i'm a the boyfriend as in and it must not always be the way we are putting it now there's even men take advantage of first financially okay i need some two k urgently yeah they do yeah so in that situation a little level here understanding friendship the mutual connectivity like in every relationship that is by the end of it and you should also learn to let go when you can't it's beyond you is this thing of any benefit to me if it is not if it's just hurting me it's it's draining me what do i do yeah do you feel like and i'll also like you to think about that you are emotionally wounded mentally wounded do you will you encourage what to to go and seek a shrink they say a shrink but in this situation let's say a therapist i'm a canceler i'm a pastor it is important but someone like me i've never visited any therapist i'll tell you you'll scream and i'll scream out and everybody we know that charity is not okay but there's someone with a different persona most of these guys were introverted what i do yeah and they feel that maybe this person will we'll go around talking about me any like they really got their self esteem on that point how do you how do you how do you reach at a place you know when i believe for example your friends with the charity Nicole how do you trust Nicole to a point I didn't answer come and be a member of the kandani like charity i trust people very fast i asked myself why would this why would i not trust Nicole while i feel i'm so much honest to her that's how i went when she does that when i'm out of it you see when i pour out my heart me yeah i don't if because i'm always honest but i find it very easy to trust me and there's no to me that i've never been out of it me let me drop it back to you Nicole at what point do you trust your bestie for example it takes time to trust someone yeah so it's natural it just it just comes out yeah it comes up point i just start telling her my secrets yeah she tells me hers i can't tell you my secrets if you don't tell me yours i love the fact that like it's a win-win situation but to each other have you ever been at a place i do confess here to your friend you have a best friend and i don't think she can fail me unless i'm wrong and like what what is private in a relationship okay what should i treat as private in a relationship yeah because these video sequences they're everywhere when i have a girlfriend somewhere like this is what is happening to me how can i handle this this this and this that is why even people commit suicide but someone like me but do you think you can expose them when you're at a place anyone can take advantage of you in terms of attacking you even your enemy like for example and then all of a sudden i'm going to spread the rumors about you yeah it happens so you will not defend yourself you'll just sit there and me become a kid when i honestly said okay i i said it yeah it came down to me and i said it how do i protect myself how do i even defend myself while i said and you see it's even very painful like when someone attacks with with what you you you literally told him or her it becomes very painful yeah so on that note uh maybe we can finalize uh what was maybe your craziest uh life-changing experience if you say and then what was your craziest experience just one you let the craziest yeah my my my my friend a girl friend that was inviting her to me the same thing you're asking her like someone had shared with so much about this guy a lot of people is like yeah and then in the process yeah but she is my friend now you made your still friends with her yeah at a point at a point your enemies and then ask myself why would i hold this grudge for how long will i hold it it has happened i've accepted they they're they're even staying together they even have children right now good why would i hold it that much yeah see who's an iphone visit them you could have a brother we're in the same way state by the way wow interesting shocking at the same time what about you Nicole what was your craziest one take the wheel i don't think i have any because my friends are genuine as in i have never had a friend was what about your craziest experience to general and uh he'll help you like uh i can't think of any okay no worries on that note uh let me just sample uh some of your feedback faster faster as we sum it up thank you so much is she single i don't know who who exactly is it Nicole or charity we'll get to know in a few uh thank you so much thank you so much hey good morning good morning too uh situation i'm Eugene and ever and i say so and then the last one someone and then lastly thank you so so much for your feedback thank you so much from your crush so thank you keep your feedback coming on the hashtag why in the morning is the show facebook instagram and twitter and you want 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