 فشرف بل اشتغالي بالعلم ولا تبغي به ما عشت يا بدا بدا وياله من شراف عظيم الحمد لله رب العالمين له الحمد الحسن والثناء الجميل وشدوا لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له يقول الحق وهو يهد السبيل وشدوا أن سيدنا ونبينا محمد صلى الله عليه وعلى آله وأصحابه والتابعين لهم بإحسان إلى يوم الدين أما بعد وفي نهاية المرحلة منهج الحق وخذت ببعض العمام العلمة عبد الرحمان ابن ناصر السعدي ورحمه الله تعالى قمنا بسيطة الهاتف في which إن شاء الله تعالى we're going to carry on from سم وإياك والمرأة الذي انصحبته خسرت خسارا ليس فيه تردد and beware of any person by whose companionship you would suffer great loss without any doubt so the author says وإياك والمرأة الذي انصحبته خسرت خسارا ليس فيه تردد the author here is warning against an evil friend a person if you mix with evil will come to you from them that person can be a friend of innovation and it can also be a friend of desires so it can be a friend who has the illness of doubts which is an innovator or a disbeliever or it can be a friend that has shahwat desires so there are two types of people that a person should not be a friend اصحاب الشبوهات and اصحاب الشهوات the ones who possess doubts stay away from them and those who have desires and they are people of desires you also need to stay away from them وإياك and both of them are also mentioned for the people of innovation it's called as خودم أهلو الاهوائي والبدع they also call them أهلو الاهوائي والشبوهات شهوات that is also the case because if you befriend those type of people and you mix with them تؤدي إلى تأثور بهم it will lead for them affecting you and they will affect you internally and they will also affect you externally unless you sit with them in order to teach them and to educate them and to advise them but if it's the sitting of مؤانسة friendship and to enjoy time with them and to laugh with them then it will come a day where you will speak like them speak like them and act and carry yourself in the way which they carry themselves and we see many people like that who got affected just by people they hang around with it was said to عبد الرزاق من همام الصنعاني رحمه الله your teachers that have taught you عبد الرزاق من همام الصنعاني was the teacher of who? he was the teacher of محمد but he had to share with him ولمام عبد الرزاق من همام الصنعاني he had to share with him doesn't mean that he was a rafid or anything like that but he had the minor to share with him and if you want to know more about this concept and how I met حديث وارن sometimes narrated from people who had to share I advise you to go to the كتاب ميزان العتدال written by ألمام الدهبي the first individual who he talks about his name is called أبان in which ألمام الدهبي you talks about if I'm not wrong in the name but it's the first individual in which he brings in his book when he speaks about him he says شيرعيون جلد he was a خارج كوشعي and then he talks about the types of تشيع there are in that beginning of his book ميزان العتدال the point here now is عبد الرزاق من همام الصنعاني حد تشيع عنه and he was the teacher of him إمامه أحمد ابن محمد ابن حمبل رحمه الله so they said to عبد الرزاق your teachers are teachers of the sunnah you took knowledge from people of the sunnah but where did this تشيع come to you from and so he said there was a teacher I used to go to and when I looked at his character and the way he carried himself it affected me it affected me and it had left these the remnants of this or what has remained in me from his from his belief I picked it up from him so when a person sits with a person they do pick up things from them so that's what we find many people today another thing that today takes the same ruling is sitting with people over social media it's another thing television is a نوع من المؤانسة watching television people pick up attitudes from there it's a صحبة, it's a friendship okay have you not seen a person who imitates a football player or imitates a rapper they've never met this rapper the reason is because they've lived with this rapper over social media over the internet over television you see that also falls under this وإيك والمر الذي انصحبته be careful and be cautious of the individual that if you befriend what will happen to you خسرت خسارا ليس فيه ترددو you're going to be in a state of loss and a state of crisis and calamity ليس فيه ترددو which is that لا شك في وضوح خطورته والرائب that there is no doubt about it's dangerous and it's severity الله sometimes you see an innocent young boy or an innocent young girl that you see in primary school in primary school when you saw that young boy or girl then they go to secondary school and they start hanging around with the wrong crowd and then you realize سبحان الله صاحب is ثاحب a friend can change your perspective in life and the way you see things ودالكة we are created as the scholar said we are created to take from one another in life we need to coexist so people speak like each other walk like anyone you admire and you respect you tend to find you speak like that person you imitate that person they affect you the way you carry yourself the way you are and as an individual so make sure who you take your friend and the person you hang around with now خذ العفوة من أخلاقي من قد صاحبته كما يأمر الرحمن فيه ويرشده أسكيز the conduct you may experience from those whom you accompany as commanded and directed by الرحمن here the author he says خذ العفوة من أخلاقي من قد صاحبته take with you forgiveness this line of poetry the author took it from the ayah straight away قبله تعالى the statement of Allah صورة العراف ayah 199 والله تعالى says خذ العفوة وأمر بالعرفي وأعرض عن الجاهلين take with you forgiveness come on good and turn away from those who are ignorant that's why the author says after that كما يأمر الرحمن like Allah commands you because Allah says to you خذ take command and as we know in أصول الفق والأمر تقتضل وجوب that the command indicates obligation if Allah commands you to do something it's obligatory and it's compulsory if the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells you to do something it's also obligatory and it's also compulsory you have to do it ابن تيميا said something very very powerful extremely powerful and he said this in his kitamah page 370 he mentions that ابن تيميا he says وهذه الآية this verse which I just read right now خذ العفوة وأمر بالعرفي وعرض عن الجاهلين he says this ayah جماع الأخلاق الكريمة it is the summary it is the conclusion of good manners فإن الإنسان مع الناس إما يفعلوا معه ما يحبوا أو ما يكرهوا because when a person is with the people they may do to you what you like and love or they may do to you that which you dislike pay attention to this فأميرا then this so when you're with the people one of two is going to take place right the author is saying when you're with the people one of two either going to do to you what you like or they're going to do to you what you dislike صح each time the verse told you what to do فأميرا أن يأخود منهم ما يحبوا ما سمحوا به ولا يطالبوا بزيادة وإذا فعلوا معه ما يكرهوا أعرض عنهم the first part he says خوذ العفوة which is to take with you forgiveness good with you وأمر بالعرفي sorry وأمر بالعرفي take with you good deal with the people in a very good manner carry yourself in a nice way in response to the good you deal with them in good what about if they deal with you in evil he goes وعرض عن الجاهلين the part that says turn away from the ignorant ولا يطالبهم بزيادة وإذا فعلوا معه ما يكرهوا أعرض عنهم but if the person does more than that which you if they do to you that which you dislike and you're not in favor of it then you turn away from them so if the people are you're with them you're either going to do good for you or they're going to do something which you dislike and it's harmful to you so the author tells us that what is commanded for you to do is what take from the good that which they do for you don't ask them for more don't demand for more because the word what Allah is saying here right now is وعمر بالعرفي عرف means what is standard don't ask for more and then if they do to you that which you dislike now turn away from them so that's why the author he mentions that this is what جماع الأخلاق الكريمة this is the summary of good manners so that's why it's very powerful and he himself رحمه الله تعالى عبد الرحمن ناصر السعودية في تسير الكريم الرحمن في تفسيري كلام المنان the book of his is a book صراحة which the author الشيخ عبد الرحمن ناصر السعودية gave a lot of importance to بالجانب التربوي that the the terber related matters in that book تهديب الأخلاق and he goes and he speaks about it I think a student of knowledge should go and look at it إن شاء الله تعالى when he says that خذ العفو من أخلاق من قدر صحبته which is what I mentioned كما يأمروا الرحمن فيه ويرشدوا نعم ترحل عن الدنيا فليست إقامة ولكنها زاد لمن يتزود خذ هذا العالم لأنه ليست مدينة ورغب إنه مدينة لمن يستخدم من يستخدم يستخدم منها كما ترحل رحم الله يقول ترحل عن الدنيا فليست إقامة خذ هذا العالم لأنه ليست مدينة ورزدنسي ليست مدينة ورزدنسي لا تفهم أخيه أخيه ورزدنسي لأن هذا العالم يستخدم منه رزدنسي لأنه يستخدم منه هذا هو عالمك وعلى هذا العالم هذا المكان ليست دارو إقامة ليست ولكن ما يفعله هو أنه دارو دارو إنتقال إنه مكان where we نذهب إنه محاولة وكل من of us سننقذ هذا العالم عليبنا بيطالي بنسد إرتحلة الدنيا مدبرة هذا العالم م preparation ورزدنسي وقد يمخزبنا ورتحلة الأخرى And the آخر has come towards a direction ولكلي واحدة منهما بنون And each and every one of them have it's people جنه The dunya has its people And the hieraphtah has its people فكون من ابناء إلى أخيرة Be from the people of the hieraphtah ولا تكون من ابناء الدنيا And not the people of this dunya فإن اليوم ما عملون ولا حساب و غداً تمورو is حساب ولا عمل but tomorrow it's accountability no actions today it's actions, no accountability tomorrow lack of which is the hereafter is accountability no actions some of the حكماء some of the wise people said إمنو راجب الحمبر يبنز إنس كتاب جامع بيان العلم sorry إنس كتاب جامع علوم الحكم إمنو راجب رنز إنس كتاب جامع علوم الحكم that one of the wise said some of the wise have said عجبت ممن الدنيا مولية عنه والآخرة مقبلة إليه يشتغل بالمدبرة ويعرض على المقبلة I am fascinated by a person who the dunya has left him and the Akira has faced him he busies himself with the one that has left and turns away from the one that is facing him and as we know the situation of us in this world is like a traveler عبدالله إمنو عمر رضي الله وتعالى عنه ودره he said that he said that the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم أخذ رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم بمن كبي that the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم ربنيه بيسوده فقاله ستمي كن في الدنيا كأنك غريب أو عابري سبيل be in this world like a stranger or a person is crossing a road and from that day on عبدالله إمنو عمر used to say عبدالله إمنو عمر used to say from that day onwards إذا أمسيت فلا تنتظر الصباح وإذا أصبحت فلا تنتظر المساء وخد من صحاتك لمرضك ومن حياتك لموتك if the evening occurs do not wait for the morning وإذا أخرى do not wait for the evening وخد صح من صحاتك لمرضك take health for when illness occurs and also take your life as an opportunity before death comes be a person who's prepared and ready a person who saved God وعلى فرائد الإسلام والشيء الذي يجب أن يكون فرائده في الوصول ومبتعدنا عن الحرام فار from the things that have been prohibited from you لأن كل one of us is going to leave this world and we're going to be rewarded in accordance to our actions وذلك من رجب الرحمة الله يس out about this hadith that I just read وهاد الحديث واصر في قصر الأمري في الدنيا هذه الحديث is a foundation it's a foundation showing us how short this world is وأن المؤمنة لا ينبغي له أن يتقل الدنيا ومسكلا وذلك هذه الحديث also shows us that a believer should not take this دنيا as a place of residency فيطمئنه فيها which he then finds tranquility and comfort ولكن ينبغي but rather what is needed from him is يكون فيها that he becomes in it كأنه على جناح سفر it's like he's on a traveler يهيئ جهازه للرحيل he's preparing his items for departure وقد اتفقت على ذلك وصايا الانبياء and all the prophets unanimously agree upon this advice to their followers قال تعالى حاكين الله said talking about عن مؤمي آلي فرعون the believer of آلي فرعون that he said يا قومي my people إنما هذه الحيات الدنيا متاع my people this dunya is a very short joy وإن الآخرة هي دار القرار and that the hereafter is the place of residency permanent residency وكان النبيو صلى الله عليه وسلم يقول and Ibn Rajab says that the prophet used to say مالي ولد دنيا إنما مثل ومثل الدنيا كمثل راكب قال في قال في ضل شجرة ثم راح وتركها what am I to this dunya except the example to me and this dunya is a person who was on a riding beast and for a period of time he went under a shade so the sun was burning him so he went under a shade and as the sun kind of went down and it got better he got up and he left that's all I am in this dunya it's like that shade I took it as a shade and I'm going to leave it and you know how long it takes for the sun to go down the heat to be gone a bit it doesn't take years or months it takes hours and after that the sun is gone the person keeps it moving and that's all it is for me in this dunya the prophet is saying then the author after that he says so don't take this dunya as a place of permanent residency but rather what it is this dunya is a Z it's a provision for the hereafter it's storing and packing up and based on what you pack is what you're going to use later if what you take with you is beneficial stuff you take with you good food you take the right equipment it will last long but if you forget water you forget the fire you forget important things what's going to happen to you the chances of you getting destroyed is very high that is the same if you don't if you do the same when it comes to taking the provision for the hereafter the poet he said anyone who strives he gets what he's worked for and anyone who plants he will reap the fruits of the efforts and the hard work that he put in anyone who plants good the fruits that he will take are good rewards but if you place bad seeds into the earth the fruits are going to come out are going to be based on the seeds that you put in and that's what Allah said in the Quran و تزود فإن خير الزادي تقوى و تقوني أولي الألباب take a provision for verily the best of provisions the best provision you can take with you is تقوى و تقوني أولي الألباب all those of you who are wise come with تقوى so the best provision to take with you is what is تقوى when you're a traveller what's the best thing to take with you water because it's life and death situation water is what you need your body requires water you can't be dehydrated if you were told to take one thing with you you would take water right in order to live I mean and if it's to hear after the provision that you should take is a تقوى it is a تقوى و لذلك ابن أبي الدنيا in his كتاب الزهد أنا أبونا عيمة الأصبهاني in his كتاب حلية الأولياء و طبقاته الأصفية he brings a خطبة done by عمر بن عبد العزيز عمر بن عبد العزيز done a خطبة and he said the following كتب الله عليها الفناء و كتب على أهلها منها ضعن فكم من عامل موتق عما قليل يقرب وكم من مقيم مغطيب عما مغطبط عما قليل يضعن فأحسن رحمكم الله من هالرحلة بأحسن ماء بحظرات فرق بأحسن ماء بحظراتكم من النقلة و تزودوا فإن خير الزادي التخوى عمر بن عبد العزيز يسان النس خطبة veryly this dunya is not a permanent residency الله سبحانه وتعالى has destined for this world الفناء for it to perish and to go and Allah has written for its people to transit from this place to another place and that statement itself alone if a person ponders on that is the reality of the dunya so when the author says it's a place that you were brought to go through an exam it's dimwitiness and it is an idiot way of thinking to spend your effort in trying to find a life in the place you were brought to stay for a very short time now and follow the path of those who preceded you to the everlasting abode which has no end the author now goes tread on the path of those who have preceded you he's talking about take their path especially the prophet's companions peace be upon him the companions of the messenger may Allah be pleased with them may Allah be pleased with them because Allah told us in the ayah 100 surah and those who preceded and those who followed and those who followed may Allah be pleased with them may Allah be pleased with them so we were here three groups of people are mentioned the from the and the third group is what so we only have the opportunity to be from what those who follow them good by taking their path you will find success in this world and you will also find success in hereafter عبدالله بن مسعود said فإن فإن فإن الحياة لا تؤمن عليه فتنة أولئك أصحاب محمد he said if you want to hold on to عبدالله بن مسعود if you want to hold on to and stick to a path then stick to the path of those who are dead for verily the one who is alive for verily the one who is the one who is alive is not assured of safety verily they are the companions of the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم the author then goes on to saying الى المنزل الباقي الى المنزل الباقي means they have proceeded us by going to دار الأخرة the place of permanent residency and their life has gone but they spent their life upon على الاستقامة والسداد they were steadfast they were upright they died but they spent their life with what العلم النافع والعمل الصالح beneficial knowledge and righteous actions is what they came with so they are what فهؤلاء هم قدواتنا so they are our own models and they are the people هم القوم لا يشقي من يقتدي بهم he will not be from the people of the hellfire the one who treads on their path and imitates them ويسير على مناهيجهم and takes their methodology as a methodology إِلَّمْ تَكُونُوا مِثْلَهُمْ فَتَشَبَّهُمْ إِنَّ التَّشَبُّهَ بِالْكِرَامِ فَلَحُوُ if you can't be them or you can't be like them then imitate them فهؤلاء because of the very imitating the righteous people is a virtue so we need to turn to their path and follow them when no way is close to them ما نحن فى من مضع إلا كبقل فى عصول نخل طوال so we are nothing in comparison to who they were may Allahات باركوه to make us from those who follow their path and follow all that is الذين يتبقون لهم ومن يتبقون أخرين لكي يتبقون لهم.