 In today's set-ups, I think there is a lack of spirituality in the marital set-ups many a times we see that because people are very much consumed with materialism and the need to possess and the I want culture is all there. So it's reflective when we see people looking to get married and the huge costs in wedding ceremonies even I say it puts some of our youngsters off because some of the requirements is that you need to have a car you to have a house you to have an amazing job you to have a savings you have to have this and the other I need to have well you know some of our ladies I spoke into looking to get married they say you know it's once in a lifetime I need to have this wonderful amazing occasion and you know by the way today in the United Kingdom has been shown that an on average a wedding costs 30,000 pounds now this might be quite difficult for for example University student someone who's just graduated with a huge burden of loans to be able to afford something like this just because there's high expectations oh well someone else did it and if I don't do it in a very lavish place everyone will say oh this is not a great wedding so I'll be the talking of the people. Does the whole culture of trying to please people with regards to your marriage? It's all about you know meeting the standards that society sets rather than what pleases Allah and I think there's two very important areas here that we learn from the life of Imam Ali alaihi salam and Sayyida Fatima first is spirituality so in my humble opinion having studied their lives as much as possible and I've written a section of a book on marriage on the life of Imam Ali alaihi salam and Sayyida Fatima book is coming up very soon inshallah is absolute most spectacular most powerful quality of Sayyida Fatima and Imam Ali in their marital setups is their servitude to Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala and the fact that they had this connection to the only beloved Allah Ta'ala so when Sayyida Fatima alaihi salam and Imam Ali are asked by the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam to evaluate the other Sayyida Fatima is asked she replies Nimal Baal he's the best husband but in which way Imam Ali alaihi salam then quantifies it when he's asked about his beloved wife Sayyida Tunisa the lady of light the Prophet asks her and she replies he replies Nimal Allah that Fatima is the best aid support and assistance in the goal of worshipping Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala obedience of Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta'ala so Amir al-Mu'mineen summarizes Fatima in this wonderful line that if I was looking for the best individual to help me in my goal in life to be the best Abdullah the servant of God then I have Fatima