 I'm forcing you, my dear, to save the dangers that society faces is not necessarily bombs or a nuclear explosion or a terrorist attack, but family structure. The rise within the marriages and the family, this is perhaps a greater problem and a greater disaster toward society than the wars. Because this is very close to us, wars. Not many people are affected by wars, but family problems you see almost everyone is affected. Allah SWT speaks in the Qur'an that even some of the prophets of Allah, even some of the prophets, they are the awliya, they are the closest ones to Allah, they also have family problems. So the issue of the family and the issue of marriage problems is an issue that is a danger to society, to a person's life, to a person's health. You see someone who is struggling within the family, that affects their health. You see they'll have high blood pressure, they'll have heart problems, they'll have stress. It has an impact on a person's social life. People begin speaking about a person. If a person does not have a solid sound family, you see he becomes or she becomes the talk of the town. Everyone starts talking about this person. And the religion of Islam tells us that if a family is not healthy, this will also have an impact on a person's afterlife. It will also have an impact on our relationship with Allah SWT. O you people who believe, strengthen yourself and your family from the fire that is fueled by rocks and people. Allah says strengthen yourself but don't only take yourself to paradise. Also think about your family. Think about the people around you. Think about your spouse. Take people, take as much people as you can with you to paradise. And when we gather to remember Imam Hussain, this is the lesson that we learn because when we look at the lives of the prophets and the imams, we see that they invested in their family. Just as much as they invested in their relationship with Allah SWT. Just as they invested in their prayer, in their salat, in their zakat, in their hajj, you see that the prophets and the imams, they constantly did dua for their family. Look at Zakaria. He prays that Allah gives him a durgah. Look at Ibrahim, at an old age, he does dua. So Allah gives him a progeny. And look at Rasulullah SWT who also does dua for a progeny, does dua for a family. This is the dua of Rasulullah SWT praying to have a sound family, to have a healthy family structure. However today, when we look at the statistics, when we look at the studies, we see the rising divorce rate, the rising family problems within the Muslims. We used to think that the Muslims were immune. We used to think that there were no problems within the Muslims and it was just others that were going through family problems. You look at many people around you, you hear stories from here and there and you see many people are getting divorced. I read a study and this is an old study, this is probably 15 years old. Now the number is definitely higher. It says that the divorce rate within the Muslims is 31 percent and I'm sure the number is much higher than that. Not much higher but it is probably higher than that. So the Muslims are not immune to family problems. And we see that the religion of Islam and the Qur'an and the Prophet and the teachings of Islam, they stress upon the family. Look at what we hear during the month of Muharram, Imam al-Hussein, if he would have gone alone in Karbala by himself and he would have been killed on the day of Ashuraa today we would not be gathered here. It was because of the family of Imam al-Hussein. It was because of the women and the children of Imam al-Hussein. That was the investment that Imam al-Hussein had in his family that saved the religion of Islam and you could also invest in your family by saving your own faith and helping the religion of Islam grow. So when we gather during these nights in the month of Muharram, we're not just gathering to remember a man who died who was killed a thousand, four hundred years ago. We're not just gathering to strengthen our aqeedah, our ideology. We're also going to learn how to strengthen our relationship with our own families, with our own loved ones. This is one of the main lessons of Muharram. Our religion of Islam sees the family as a holy institution. It has a sanctity. Maybe this society or others, other places, they do not look at marriage as a holy institution and this is why they have legalized it for whoever wants to come and consider it a marriage. They say, yes, go ahead. As long as the government allows it, as long as they're in love, let two guys, two women, whatever it is, let them go ahead and get married. The religion of Islam sees that marriage has a sanctity. It's a holy institution. مابنية في الإسلام بناء أحبه إن الله من التزويد. This is a hadith of Rasulullah. No foundation, no institution has been built in the religion of Islam. More beloved to Allah than the institution of family and marriage. As a holy institution, perhaps it is holier than building a masjid because we might build a masjid and the masjid might be empty. But when you invest in a family, you will have generations that will build masjids and that will attend the masjids. Investing in a family is the most important institution in the religion of Islam and there are requirements to have a successful marriage. Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala speaks about the marriage as one of the signs of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, one of the miracles of Allah. ومن آياته from the signs of Allah. ومن آياته أن خلق لكم من أنفسكم أزواجا لتسكنوا إليها وجعل بينكم مودة ورحمة. This is one of the signs of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala. If you want to see a successful marriage, if you want to have a successful marriage, you have to invest in a marriage. You have to sanctify the marriage before you enter into a marriage because the religion of Islam, it sanctifies the marriage and we look at the best role models. The best marriage in the religion of Islam was the marriage of Amir al-Mu'mineen al-Fatima al-Zahra al-Alihum al-Salam. These Ahl al-Bayt, which this marriage took place in the heavens before it took place on earth after the martyrdom of Fatima al-Zahra al-Salam, Amir al-Mu'mineen used to always cry. Why? Because he had lost a partner who was so loving, who he felt so attached to. This is the Islamic marriage, the marriage of Amir al-Mu'mineen al-Fatima al-Zahra al-Alihum al-Salam. He used to cry. Many years later, Ammar, the companions, they would ask Amir al-Mu'mineen, they would tell him, Oh Ali Ibn Abi Ta'ala, you teach us patience but we see you continue crying. You continue crying for Fatima. He says, Fawwallah, ma aghwabtuhah wa la akhrahtuhah ala amrin hatta qababah allah al-Zahra al-Zahra. He says, in how we had a special relationship, Fatima al-Alihum. In that relationship, I never forced her to do anything. I never angered her. I never oppressed her. And then he says, wa la akhwabatni wa la hasatli amrin. And she also never made me angry throughout this whole time. We were married not one time did I become angry with Fatima. And not one time did she ever go against what I say, did she ever disobey anything that I'm saying. And then he says, wa la qatkuntu anzur ilayha fa tankashufu anni al-humum wal-achzan. And I used to just look at her face and I would forget all of my problems and all of my worries. This is Fatima al-Alihum. This is that marriage, that holy marriage. And that marriage, it did not come out of nowhere. That marriage, there were many challenges. There were many problems and difficulties that the Ahl al-Bayt went through. They did not have an easy lifestyle. The Ahl al-Bayt, Rasulullah, their lifestyle was not easy but they worked. They strived to build a healthy marriage. They strived to build a successful marriage. And this is what we have to do in order to achieve a healthy marriage. There are a few ingredients for a successful marriage. The first is that before you get married. When you are married, you have to take marriage seriously. Marriage is an institution that must be taken seriously. It cannot be seen as a joke. It cannot be seen as, I'm just getting married, you know, in our cultures, the older generations. A man and a woman, as soon as their body is physically capable of getting married, as soon as they grow, they tell them, okay, now you have to get married. It was just about being physically capable of getting married. And then they would go and marry a person off. Maybe it used to work back then, but now the struggles and the challenges that a marriage faces, you will not survive by just getting two people married. The marriage will not survive by just getting two people married that are not ready to get married. Today, you see many youth, they're old. Their body is physically capable of getting married. But psychologically and mentally they're not ready to get married. In order to get married, one has to be committed. And this is the first thing that a marriage requires. This is the first ingredient. It requires commitment. It requires a person to be independent and make decisions. It requires a person to honor the marriage. You see some people, they're married, but they act like they're single. They act like they're not married. This will definitely cause a failed marriage. It will cause problems within the family and problems within the marriage. So this is the first ingredient. Second is that there has to be compatibility when choosing a spouse. When choosing someone to marry, there has to be taqafat compatibility. And this is an issue that Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam stressed about. This is an issue that is mentioned in the Qur'an. When you get married, you have to marry someone who is with the same mentality and same mindset. Same type of thinking. Otherwise, if you bring two people, one is thinking something and another one, their thinking is at a completely different level. It will cause problems. There has to be compatibility when it comes to education. When it comes to thinking. When it comes to the mindset, this is very important. Today, many of the divorces, they'll tell you, and especially within the Muslim community, they'll tell you that I'm educated, the man will say I'm educated and my wife is not educated. Therefore, there's no compatibility within us. And therefore, he tries to justify for himself to go and start another relationship. This is a serious problem. Why? Because they try to say that there is no compatibility. Now, who caused this? This is why the religion of Islam stresses on the issue of education. Everyone has to be educated. The man and the woman, by our cultures, they say, no, no, no, let the woman not be educated and let the man just be educated. Just focusing on the man being educated and then later on when problems emerge, later on in the marriage when problems emerge, they'll say there's no compatibility. Compatibility on everything. This is a very important issue. Finding someone at the same thinking level, same mentality, but then there are some priorities. Some people, they say we want compatibility, but then their priority is that I want someone who is good looking. This is their top priority. Someone who is extremely good looking. There's nothing wrong with looking for someone who is very good looking. But then, is that the most important thing that you're looking for in a marriage? A hadith from Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi says, من تأزو جمعة لمالها أو جمالها فلو ذلك. If someone marries a lady just for her beauty or for her wealth, then that's all that he's going to get out of. That's all that he's going to get out of that marriage. But if he has a different priority, and that is the satisfaction of Allah SWT and other priorities, then he will have both worlds. And also today, we see many problems emerge. When a man, he goes and he proposes, and the first question that he is asked by the girl or the girl's family is, how much money do you have in your bank account? What kind of a car do you drive? What are your investments? This is the first priority that many people think about. This is looking for a doomed marriage. This is looking for a problem later on in life. Imam Al-Husayn, he has a beautiful hadith. He says, إذا جاءكم من ترضون دينه وخلقه فزوجوه وإن لم تفعلوا تكون فتنة في الأرض وفساد كبير He says, when someone comes and proposes, and he's a mu'min, he's a believer, and he has good akhlaq, allow him, it's okay. Let him marry him off, because if you don't, there will be a fitna, there will be a problem. Why? Because the religious, the one who sees himself religious, he will say that I go and I propose and I keep getting rejected, then he's going to leave the religion. He's going to start sinning, he's going to start looking for other types of relationships, illegitimate relationships, and same for the girl. So the first priority, according to the religion of Islam, according to the Qur'an, should be the faith in Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. And if there is no compatibility when it comes to the faith in Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, we will see that there will be problems. Problems will emerge later on. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala speaks about this issue in the Qur'an. At that time, during the time of the Prophet, there were some slaves. The religion of Islam, it abolished, slowly abolished slavery, but there were slaves at that time. So Allah says in the Qur'an, wa la amatun mu'minatun khairun min mushrikatin, wa la wa abjabatkum. If you were to go and marry a female slave, who is a mu'min, this is better than marrying a free mushrikah. Even if she is beautiful, even if you wanted her. And then Allah also says the same thing for the man, wa la abdun mu'minatun khairun min mushrikatin, wa la wa abjabatkum. And trusting and allowing a slave who happens to be a mu'min, a mu'min who happens to be a slave, allowing him to marry is better than giving your daughter to a mushrik. Even if you like the mushrik, even if you thought that the mushrik is rich, even if you thought that the mushrik can probably bring more happiness later on. And then Allah says in the Qur'an, wa la'ike yad'una ila n'ar wa Allah yad'u ila l-jannah. Those, they call for the hellfire, they will lead a relationship into the hellfire and a mu'min will lead a relationship to paradise. Go and look at the lives of the prophets. Allah mentions a story of two prophets, two stories of two prophets. They were prophets, but there was no compatibility in that marriage. The wives of Lut and the wives of Nuh. The wife of Lut and the wife of Nuh. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala says that they're an example. They're an example for the kufar of how two women who were the wives of the prophets, but just being the wife of the prophet, it did not save them. And they were, their ultimate end is the hellfire because of their actions, because there was no compatibility. And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala also speaks about Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa ala. Rasulullah, Allah threatens in one verse the wives of the prophets. Allah tells the prophets, ya ayyuhal nabi kulli azwajik. O prophets, tell your wives in kuntunna turudna al hayatat dunya wa zinataha fata alayna umat ta'akunna wa usarrakunna sarahan jamila. Tell the wife, the wives of the prophets, if you are looking for this life and the enjoyment of this life, then the prophet says, tell your wives I will divorce you right now because the prophet was living a completely different lifestyle. And then the verse it continues and it says, wa in kuntunna turudna Allah wa Rasulah wa dhara al-akhira fa inna Allaha adda l-muhsinati min kunna ajran azeema. However, if you want the afterlife, then you will stay with Rasulullah and Allah will reward you. So even when it came to Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa ala, Allah orders him to find compatibility within his own family. So the issue of compatibility is a very important issue. Third, the third ingredient for a successful marriage is patience. It might be something very easy to say, just be patient, but it's very difficult to actually be patient. You know, many times we tell people or people tell us be patient, it's okay, it's okay, but that patience is very difficult. Not many people are patient. In fact, most people are not patient. But the hadith of Rasulullah says, as-sabru min al-iman karratsi min al-badan. Patience to faith is like the head from the body. They have to be with one another. Faith without patience will not last. And patience without faith also will not last. So the main ingredient, a very important ingredient for marriage is that there has to be patience within the family. And if there is no patience within a family, you see that the marriage will crumble. The marriage, it will fall apart. And the spouses within the marriage, they will be living a life of misery. Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, the whole purpose of marriage is so that people live in tranquility. Allah says in the Qur'an, in the verse that we recited earlier, wa min aayatihi an khalaqa lakum min anfusikum az-wajan, for what? The tasqunu in ayah, so that you find suqoon. So that you find tranquility. But when a marriage has no tranquility, it will be defeating the purpose. It will go against the whole purpose of marriage in the Qur'an. The purpose of marriage is so that there's suqoon, there's tranquility within the family. There has to be patience. And of course, no marriage goes without problems, goes without struggles. But Allah says in the Qur'an, fa inna ma al-usri yusra, inna ma al-usri yusra, with difficulty comes ease. And Allah repeats this verse again. And indeed, with difficulty comes ease. But you see sometimes there's no patience and it leads to aggression, it leads to verbal assaults within the marriage, that institution that's supposed to be a place of love. It leads to verbal assault and sometimes it even leads to violence. I don't know if you remember last year in Dearborn. Amen, he's mowing the lawn, he's working in the lawn. His wife, she pulls up in the car. One second, one second of anger, he goes and he's arguing with his wife, then he goes and he takes a gun and he shoots her in front of the children. And then he shoots himself as well. Within one minute, these children, they lost their father and their mother because there was no patience. Because it was a moment of anger. And of course, this is something that is very common, although it is hidden. Not many people know about it, but studies show that in the United States, every nine seconds a female is assaulted. So it causes problems. And just the lack of patience, the lack of respect within a family, it could lead to catastrophes, problems. Well, you know, what's the solution? Sometimes one moment of anger, it can bring so much regret, a lifetime of regret. And of course, this abuse, sometimes it goes the other way around. Sometimes we see the woman there abusing the man. There was a man, one day he goes to work with a black eye. So they told him, what's wrong? He said, nothing, you know, he tried to hide it. He said, nothing, nothing happened. What happened? You have a black eye? He said, no, my wife, she gave me roses. He said, they told him, she gave you roses? Roses, they don't cause a black eye. He said, yes, she just forgot to take them out of the vase. So she threw the whole base at him. And he had a black eye. This is an issue of patience. Being patient, it also requires that sometimes it's not just not causing problems. Being patient requires that you show love and affection because this is also the marriage. Sometimes it's difficult to show love and affection but it requires patience. And there are many narrations that speak about this issue. Showing love and affection towards the family in a hadith from Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi, he says that when a man, qawl al rajul, le zawjateh, inni, o hubbuki, la yadhaab, an qalbiha, abadah. When a man tells his wife, I love you, this does not leave her heart. And you see Rasulullah, he had to speak to the Arabs at that time because sometimes for some man, it's very difficult to just say, I love you. Rasulullah, he had to even teach them how to have, how to live a successful marriage. One day a man came to Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wa alayhi, and he told him, inna lii zawja, I have a wife, idhaa dekhalat, idhaa dekhalatuddaaar, talaqatni, when I enter, she welcomes me. Wa idhaa karajtu shayyatni, and when I leave, she walks me to the door. Wa idhaa raatni mahmouman, and when she sees that I'm going through problems, I'm depressed, I'm sad. She tells me, ma ya hummuk, what's wrong? In kuntah tahtam, lirizkik, faqat takaffal bi zairaik. If you are worried about your wazib, your sustenance, don't worry about that, Allah will provide for you. But if you are worried about your afterlife, then you should worry about that. So Rasulullah, sallallahu alayhi wa alayh, he told the man, bashirha bil jannah, go and tell her that she will go to paradise for that small action. That action. Bashirha bil jannah, wa kullaha inna ki aamilah min umman illaah, walaki fi kulli yawm ajr 70 shaheed. You are one person who is working for Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. And every day that you do this, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will reward you the reward, the reward of a shaheed. The reward of 70 murders in the way of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. That was the third. Fourth, a relationship, a successful relationship should not be based off of selfish desires. What leads to divorce? Divorce is when one person refuses to give in, one person just wants to walk out of the family. One person says, no, it's just me and they're only worried about themselves. Of course, this is not all the cases of divorce, but many times this is how it is when one person decides to leave. It's not both of them are leaving, selfish desires. They could be very damaging to a relationship. Sometimes you see someone in a family, he's married, but he only wants to have fun. He only wants to travel. He only wants to go the places that are fun and travel. This is damaging to a relationship. Or someone who the husband is, or one of the couple, today men and women are both working so you can't just say the husband. One of them is working and the other one, the whole day is at the mall, spending. Spending at the mall, spending the money of the other one who's working. Isn't this selfish? One is working and the other is just spending. It's America, yes. Salla'ala Muhammad wa'alaikum. Oh, holy, holy, holy. This was the fourth. The fifth is the fifth thing that damages a relationship and damages a marriage is greed, al-Bukhul. When someone is greedy, it will cause problems. Of course, we're talking about someone who is capable of giving and does not give. Sometimes someone who doesn't have, sometimes Amir al-Mu'minin, he used to come home, he sees there's nothing in the house and he does not have anything. But he used to go and work and bring back one dirham. Amir al-Mu'minin was very generous. But then sometimes you see someone who has, but yet they're very greedy, they're very stingy with the family. This also causes problems. And the hadith says, ليسني بخيل حبيب. Someone who is greedy and stingy, this person will not have a Habib, this person will not have anyone that likes this person. Even if he's a mu'min, he's a religious person, he prays, but no one wants to be around someone who is stingy, someone who refuses to give. And the hadith from Rasulullah says, البخيل بعيدٌ من الله, بعيدٌ من الناس, بعيدٌ من الجنة. The bakheel, the greedy person, he is away from Allah. He is away from the people and he is away from paradise. And then the hadith also says, والسخي, the kareem, the generous person, قريبٌ من الله, قريبٌ من الناس, قريبٌ من الجنة. The one who is generous, you see Allah loves this person. He's constantly giving. He's constantly helping out other people. He's close to society, everyone loves this person. And he's close to paradise. Of course we're talking about the giving that falls within the, it's a proportionate giving. There was a man during the life of Rasulullah, he gave away all of his money. Then he died. Rasulullah, sallallahu alaihi wa ala, he saw and he heard that his children were begging in the streets. He heard that his children were begging in the streets. So Rasulullah said, where's their father? They told him their father, he gave away all of his money to the poor people and he died. He's such a good person, he gave away all of his money. Rasulullah said, if I had known, I would not have allowed that person to be buried in a Muslim cemetery. Meaning that what he did was so wrong, leaving his own children. Allah says, Al-Aqrabuna, Al-Makroof, your family should be prioritized. You give, after you give your own family, after you give your Akrabun, that is the giving. That is the generosity. So this is the, this is the fifth. The fifth is that a greedy person, a greedy person will destroy a marriage. The sixth and the final is that the marriage should not be taken lightly. There are responsibilities when it comes to building a family. That institution, that holy institution, it should not be taken lightly. Many people, they don't care about their marriage. They don't care about problems. When someone is not happy and the marriage and that family, they don't care, they're careless. Are you going to do the same thing when your boss is unhappy with you? Are you going to do the same thing when your coworkers are unhappy with you? No, because that risks your life, that risks your job, that risks your income. Marriage should be taken the same way. The same way we treat our job, we go from nine to five. We are committed, we go on time. The family should also be respected when it comes to time. When it comes to spending time with them. When it comes to talking to them. Do you talk to your family the same way you talk to your boss? Or you're afraid of your boss? You're afraid that you're going to get fired if you show some disrespect. Would you do the same thing when it comes to your family? When getting married, you're signing a contract. Just like when you sign up for a job, you're signing a contract. But that contract of the marriage is seen by Allah, Subhanahu wa ta'ala. Allah is the one that is bringing those two together. Therefore the institution of the marriage is a holier institution than anything else. And it should not be taken lightly in the way that the marriage should be respected. And in order to respect the marriage, in order to show love to the family, you have to be worried about the afterlife of the family. Some people, they'll put a roof over their family's head. They'll bring the bus car. They'll bring the bus clothes. But then you ask them, what have you done to prepare your children, to prepare your wife, your husband? For the afterlife? They're saying nothing. They have not done anything. This is a very important issue. Yā yuhalladīna āmanu qu'u anfusakum wa ahliykum nāran wa quduhan nāsu wa l-hijārah. Oh you people who believe, strengthen yourself from the, and protect yourself and protect your family from the hellfire. Yes, you care about the future of your family and the future of that institution. You should also care about the afterlife. That is the eternal future. And here, when we look at the imams of the ad-dabayt, when we look at the prophets, we see that their advice to their family, their advice to their children, they had to do more with the afterlife than this life. Because this life, you could always get something to eat. You could always get something to wear. You're not going to die out of hunger. But you will suffer if you're not ready for the afterlife. Ibrahim alayhi salām, that prophet of Allah, he came and he brought his family, his wife Hajar and Isma'īl. He came and he placed them in Makkah in a land that has no grass, it has no water, it has nothing. Why? He says in the Qur'an, he says, Oh Allah, I have left my family in a valley that has no grass and there was no water at that time in Makkah. Why? Oh Allah, this is so that they pray to you. This is so that they build a relationship with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala. This is the struggle of Prophet Ibrahim. Nuh alayhi salām, he advises his son. Rasulullah, he advises his family. He used to stand at the door of Fatima al-Zahran, Amir al-Mu'mineen, every day. The last six months, some narrations say eight months of his life, every day before prayer. And he would say, As-salāmu alaykum yā ahlā bayt al-Nabuwah wa ma'din al-Rusālah wa muqtala fil-malā'ikah as-salā, as-salā, it's prayer time. This is a prophet. This is someone who cares about the future of his family. When you care about your family, you care about the prayer of your family. You care about the akhlaq of your family. Laqman, Allah gives us an example of Laqman who advises his son. It tells him stay away from shirk, associating a partner with Allah because that is the greatest act of oppression. And also, we look at the Ansar of Imam al-Husayn. The companions of Imam al-Husayn, they were not all men. There were families that were with Rasulullah. The shohadah on the day of Ashra, there were families. There were some women that died with Imam al-Husayn, alayhi s-salām. There were families that came. Sometimes it took for a wife to convince her husband to go and sacrifice, to go and defend Imam al-Husayn, alayhi s-salām. Some men, their wives were against them participating with Imam al-Husayn. It took a struggle within the family. One of the companions of Imam al-Husayn, alayhi s-salām, this family, they were a Christian family. Wahab al-Kalbi. While Imam al-Husayn, alayhi s-salām was traveling, this family, they were traveling, and suddenly they saw the camp and the caravan of Imam al-Husayn. So they saw Imam al-Husayn and they heard from Imam al-Husayn, they joined the religion of Islam. They joined the religion of Islam days or weeks before Ashra. And then they brought their caravan with the caravan of Imam al-Husayn and they started traveling with Imam al-Husayn. Wahab and his mother and his wife who he had just married, he had just married her. They reached, they were with Imam al-Husayn, then they saw that there was an army that intercepted the army of Imam al-Husayn and Imam al-Husayn was in Karbala all alone, there was no water. Many people, they left Imam al-Husayn but this family, they decided to stay with Aba Abdelah. They had just converted to the religion of Islam. And the day of Ashura, Wahab, he has just gotten married but his mother comes to him, she tells him, oh Wahab, and here you see the role of the family. She tells him, oh Wahab, we have just joined this beautiful religion. What do you say? You go and you sacrifice yourself defending the Imam of our time. He tells her, yes, I will do so, but his wife, who he had just married her, she tells him, oh Wahab, you're going to leave me just like that. We just got married. You're going to just leave me just like that. Wahab, he saw that Imam al-Husayn was in need and he saw that the companions of Imam al-Husayn, they were dying one after the other. He decided on going and fighting. On one side, his mother is cheering him. She's telling him, fight on one side, his wife. She's telling him, oh Wahab, you're going to leave me. He continues to fight courageously until suddenly he hears his wife. He hears his wife telling him, ya Wahab, qatil doona tayibin wa binaat tayibin. Oh Wahab, fight courageously, defend the household of Rasulullah. Wahab, he comes back. He tells her, you were just telling me to not fight. You were just telling me to stay away and not fight. She tells him, ya Wahab, la ta'lumni, inna wahaya ta'l husayn gata'at niya. The first Shahidah on that was another man as we are remembering the onslaught of Imam al-Husayn. There was another young boy, a boy who was 13 years old. This young boy, Hamr ibn junaad al-ansari, his father has just been killed in the battle and he was with his mother. He comes to Imam al-Husayn, alayhi salam. He asks for permission to fight. Imam al-Husayn, he sends him back. He says, take him back to his mother. The boy, he goes back, his mother. She had sent him to Imam al-Husayn. And then he comes to Imam al-Husayn. He tells him, ya. She says, oh, this young boy was only 13 years old. He carries his sword. He goes in the battle and he begins introducing himself. Everyone, they would talk about which lineage they're from, which family they're from. This young man, he goes and says, his mother, his mother. And she says, bayyadallah, we're killed. Imam al-Husayn, he stood all alone, wa'eedan gareeba, his companions, one after the other. And he says, ya, abdaya, fursan al-hayja, an-iyamun tantabroom, wa bayna imamikum, gomu an-naumatikum, yaakikum, wa Allah, isratitu gassiroon. Nassalukatlah, Allah, wa nadooq, besmika al-Azim, al-A'zam, al-A'azzil, a-jallil, a-kram, yaa, abalival, kulouk, firlil, mu'mineen, wa al-mu'minat, al-Ahya'i minhum, wa al-amwat, tabi'a Allahumma, baynana, wa baynahum, bil-khayrat, inna ka-mujeeb, ad-da'awat, inna ka-ghafir, al-khati'at, inna ka-ala kalli shay'an qadir, we're also asked to recite this verse three times for the shafa'at al-mari'at. Bismillah, al-Rahman, al-Rahim, amma shifu al-suh, amma shifu al-suh, amma shifu al-suh, wa al-hamdulillahi, khabbil al-alameen, wa sallallahu ala muhammad, wa ala ala...