 Mentally strong people are very reliable people. They seldom break down and seem to weather the storm just fine no matter what they are passing through. A mentally strong person is likely to keep it together when confronted with tragedy and take rational steps than people who are not so strong. A lot of people are not mentally strong. Being mentally strong really doesn't mean you don't cry or feel hot. You are not Superman, you are still human. The only difference is that you have a higher tolerance for pain and have an attitude that allows you to stifle what you feel in order to do what needs to be done. Successful people usually have to develop this trait along the line. Success comes with a trailer load of failures. If you are not mentally strong, you cannot push through and succeed with any of them. You need to develop a tic skin against all the things the world will throw at you. The higher you climb, the more intense the criticism, hatred, discouragement and even failure. No one is above failure no matter who you are, if you slack, you can still fail. In today's video, I am going to share with you 9 surprising traits of mentally strong people. 1. They have high emotional intelligence According to Forbes, unlike your IQ which is fixed, your EQ is a flexible skill that can improve with understanding and effort. It's no wonder that 90% of top performers have high EQs and people with high EQs end $28,000 more annually on average than their low EQ counterparts. Emotional intelligence clearly sets a person apart. If you have high emotional intelligence, you can transform setbacks into opportunities. It really doesn't matter what the setback is. What matters is what you choose to do afterwards. When you react to the things, you give them the right to govern your mood. When you respond, you choose what to think and you are in control. Most people who can respond rationally to emotionally draining situations have a high emotional intelligence and tolerance for bad news. 2. They don't fret over things they can't control Mentally strong people know that things are bound to come up. They also know that you can't do anything about it. They try to live in the present and spend as much time with their loved ones as they can. They know that life isn't fair and that no one chooses cancer and other related diseases. They also know that downsizing has later to do with an employee's competence and more with the economy. They work so hard but accept that such things can happen. Settling them in their minds allows them not to feel distraught when it does happen. It also makes them more prepared. They may have savings or investment interests that can float them until they find another job. Recession, death, the weather, the past, the future, other people's minds, and traffic are things you cannot control. You need to be able to deal with it without feeling stressed out. Life is tough enough. Your mental disposition at each point in time can determine whether it will be more tough or not. Lighting up, it gets better. There are also unexpected surprises, a gift from a friend, a letter from a niece, a promotion you were not expecting, and even a brand new car from your girlfriend for your birthday. Not only bad things happen, good things too can happen. Number 3. They are confident. The mentally strong people need to be confident in their ability to push through. They sometimes have to be strong where others are not. Not being confident is really not an option for them. They have to believe and push for what they want. They already know failure is part of the success process but they choose to believe in themselves. They choose to believe that if they try, that they too can succeed. This can propel them even when all they are currently experiencing is failure. If you want to become mentally strong, you need to believe in yourself. No one can believe in you if you don't believe in yourself. You have the ability to cheer down mountains if you can envision it. Who are you, a lion or a duck? Ask yourself where you are headed and what you are willing to give to get there. How strong is your resolve? The stronger it is, the better. Number 4. They are positive. People who are mentally strong are usually positive. They have to be. After everything they have been through, they know that in the end, one's mental disposition changes a lot of things. If you fret about everything, if you lose all your money in a day, you will go into depression. A mentally strong person would reason that he hasn't even become rich yet and see it as an opportunity to build from scratch. Sometimes when you hit rock bottom, it resets everything in you. It gives you an imaginable drive. This is different for everyone though. Mentally strong people choose to see opportunities and thereby stay positive. They're not in a hurry to sit down and wallow in misery. They know it is ultimately unproductive. They give themselves time to process the whole situation and then get back into their game mode. Number 5. They practice self-care. When you have a lot going on, you need to make time for yourself. Take yourself out and bath with scented soap if possible. You need to feel refreshed and relaxed. Life is already stressful enough. Mentally strong people know this and they take care of themselves. They take vacation from time to time, eat healthy and exercise. You don't need to be up 24-7 to succeed in life. You simply need a plan and consistency. Walk on your goal consistently every day and you're good to go. Hang out with your friends. Being too busy can make you feel lonely. Life is not that serious. As you go, keep tabs on the things you are working on and make sure you don't get carried away with a chill of the moment. In the end, you will be alright. Number 6. They evaluate their actions. Mentally strong people understand that they may sometimes act out of line without even knowing. Many of them reflect on their actions. If they had an altercation and yelled at someone, they usually go back to analyze the situation and see where they went wrong. Afterwards, they apologize. They don't allow ill will to fester between them and people. They do not want to get to a state where they act out without even knowing how and why. They check the people they hang out with and determine where such behaviors are coming from and cut away from the toxic friend as soon as they identify them. Number 7. They get enough rest. Mentally strong people know stress is a major cause of mental challenges and unhappiness. They try to get as much sleep as possible. They also take power naps at work when they feel tired. They know tiredness and sleep deprivation can affect the quality of their work. They don't joke with their work. People who desire to become this way need to commit to getting enough rest. You need at least 8 hours of sleep to avoid all the diseases associated with sleep deprivation. Number 8. They move on from bad experiences. If you have helped them in the past, people like this are likely to move past it. They can even forgive you before you ask them. They understand that malice is a burden. They relieve the pain whenever they think of you. They forgive you to set themselves free to accomplish their goals. If you want to be this way, you have to get rid of your enemies. In reality, there will always be people who hate you, but for your mental health, you shouldn't have people you hate. You need your head to be full of beautiful memories of loved ones and ideas you are seeking to implement. There should be no room for negative thoughts. Number 9. They do not do things they know will hot others. People who are like this go out of their ways to make others feel better. They do not go out of their ways to hot people. They are not vengeful people. They look out for their friends and genuinely care about others. They also look out for things they may be doing that is haunting the people around them without their knowing. These type of people perform excellently as leaders. They look out for their people and don't implement policies they know will make them uncomfortable. Mentally strong people have a lot of wonderful traits. If you desire to be like them, adopt some of their traits and you may well become one.