 Hallelujah, praise the Lord, praise the Lord. I'm back again and I just want us to have a discussion as we read the word of God and since we are talking about relationship things I don't want to go very far from that so I want to address a certain group of people today. This important group in the society, some people maybe they feel as if they are too late before they are married nika mami ya ka imezidi, muntua me fikisha 30 ya na ona mabeshti wake wate wa meolewa, badu ye bado, bajamao me fikisha 35, badu hana muntua na ona mabeshti wameshapata ma wives ya mebaki, but these people are so important by the way in our society and I have a word for you people. Number one, know that you have come from very far to give up and do not lose hope because it's not according to God's word to lose hope. It's against God's will by the way to lose hope. When we look in the Bible in the book of Joshua one, Joshua one verse nine, it says that have I not commanded you be strong and courageous do not be afraid, do not be discouraged for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go. Number one step, do not do not lose hope. It's against the will of God to lose hope. In every situation you are going through actually not only because of relationships, in every situation that you are going through do not lose hope. The word of God I kukubalisha lose hope. When you feel like you want to lose hope go back to the word of God and be encouraged in him. Are we together? Praise the Lord. And again the word of God also in the book of Isaiah 34 Isaiah 34 verse 16 you'll see the word of God saying that look in the scroll of the Lord and read none of this will be missing and not one will lack her mate. So let's all agree that neither of us will lack a mate. So there's your partner somewhere. Nivila tulabda hamjapatana, ama li patuana mungine hako kwa relationship, inginen baya kwa saba hamjapatana, but there's no one who was created with no mate. There's your partner in this world, patuna wako ako. So alewa na se mangas, you ribi hangu mi na onanga nikahili kunyua supu, nikahili chemuswa. Your ribi is still there. Your ribi is still there. Usi danga nike. The Bible says that neither of us will lack a mate. But I think that there's something that we are missing. There's something that we might have been missing because we've interacted with these people and you find that when they've been in relationships, some of them they've been in marriages but they break. Relationships ime break marriages, ime break wengine wama toka apu akiwa so hard. And most of them say that me I don't believe that marriage can work. I don't believe that are made for any relationship. And you see these people wako na ma gradges, nitu ame beba ile uchungu alitokana kwa ile relationship. Una patata mengia kwa ingine tu na ile tu uchungu ya kutia from the other relationship, but it can never work that way. It can never work that way. Whenever we have the gradges in us, do you know what those gradges do? Betanas start now growing from us due to those gradges that we have from our previous relationships, from our previous marriages, maybe that zili break. And this betanas comes along with so many emotions. You feel rejected and now you think that every other person is rejecting you. You don't feel loved in the society. You feel even the urge to revenge. This is whereby now you find people killing one another. Because of these emotions that come along with these betanas. But let me tell you, these emotions or these betanas, it will not change the situation that you are in and it will not even change the person who caused the situation. It will not change them. In any case, you just live as they just live. When you see this person and you feel like vomiting, you feel like fainting. Wao maisha wina indelia, but now you live as a slave of them, which is very wrong. It's not according to God's will. And one of the things that these emotions come to do to us, they will change you. They will change your character. And you'll find that they spill over to the people now who are around you. You find a single person and maybe you have a baby. But because of the betanas that you came with, you came along carrying from the relationship, now you are spilling over to your children, to your family members. Let me tell you. The Bible relates, the Bible in Asemanga, betanas in a relate na poison. That is what the word says. Betanas is like a poison. But let's go to the book of Ephesians 4.31 and see what the word is telling us to do in that case. Ephesians 4 verse 31. The Bible says that get rid of all these betanas. Range and anger, blowing and slander, along with every form of malice, be kind and passionate to one another, forgiving each other just as Christ God forgave you. So hizi betanas zote ile kukua hatume hatua from the previous relationship. I don't know by who, by who. The only thing that you can do is just forgive them. Just forgive them and move on. Rather than live, you live your life as a slave of someone else who is living their life to the fullest. Just forgive them, just as God forgave you. You just pray to God that you will be able to forgive them because that is what God wants us to do. Praise the name of the Lord. But also we are not going to ignore now the other fact. Most of those people who are mefkisha io miyaka they feel as if they want to lose hope. There's a group that wants money from the relationship, all these betanas, whatever, whatever iye nye tume handle. But there's something more. If you look at your relationships, maybe zene zime break, maybe there's a pattern una una ime ime ingiakua. The first relationship, the second one, the third one, maybe kuna maliuna una unafika, iyo ina break. Kia pili muna nanzabizulu una una ime fika the same place, sama the same thing happens una una ime, ime break. So I think you need to check the previous relationships wuneni nini zinafanya zi break. Is it you or is it the people you are dating? And maybe now you try to approach the other relationship in a different angle. Number one, my husband mentioned badu hapa akasema that you don't start existing as a husband when you get a wife. You first exist as a husband before you get a wife. For ladies who first exist as a wife before you are married to a man. Number one, if you are a man, are you ready to be responsible? Even before you get married, are you ready to be responsible? Are you ready to be faithful? If you know that you cannot be faithful to one wife, you better stay single. Ladies, are you ready to submit to your husbands? And also for you, are you ready to be faithful? And most people misquote submission. Submission is not at una unengie, to marriage una kaliwa na the husband. Everything he says you believe, so no. Submission, atok yangalia kwa bibilia, it simply means in a respectful manner changing your husband's opinion if need arises. Your husband might say you do this thing na maybe high five, ama maybe you need maybe to bring also your opinion. You don't bring it out in a non respectful manner. You bring it out, you make it understood in a respectful manner. That is simply submission. Submission is very easy. Very easy. Very, very easy actually. It's just, nika matuku kusho respect to your husband. Ata mkipata pesa labda na takakufanyi hivi na wewa na takakufanyi hivi. Sia tu na mambiya, wewa wewa fikiri yangi. At least you oni wa toto skulfis una fikiri atuku. No, no, no. You don't do that. You just change the opinion in a respectful manner. You come to an understanding. I hope you are understanding one another. Tuna elewana. I was saying now that after you look now to these patterns then you may break your relationship, the previous relationships. You try now to approach the other relationship in a different angle. I've said if you're not ready to submit as a woman, don't actually think about marriage. Because if you choose to have a marriage, you break. When you get into marriage, naku na vitu na say ma, mi, mi po nangu aizi ni ambiya. Mi po nangu aizi ni ambiya. One month, musha break up. So start preparing yourself in your single hood to live as a wife. And again, there are some things that we ignore. There are some things that we ignore when we are dating. I'm about to take you in our single hoods. Tuna jipata, tuna ignore the issues of compatibility sana. You don't just get into a relationship and you just stay without knowing that person. You know these things of culture. People are in relationships. You don't want to speak about your culture. People are not talking about these things. We are not talking about our religion. I'm a Catholic. You are a Pentecostal believer. When we get married, which faith will you follow? And you find now that you get into marriage without having an agreement over these issues, then a later conflict. And you find that the marriage is not working. So within this period of dating, each time you have a relationship, let's discuss about this issue. Let's discuss about our visions. Let's make these things to be compatible. To remember a culture, to remember a soul, remember a lazin, to kikenda kwenge into marriage, we are so much compatible. Let's look onto these things. Remember that it's not according to God's will to lose hope. Remember that don't carry bitterness. It's poison according to the word of God. Just forget and forgive. You might not forget. You might live with that scar, but aiku peinu kiyona uju kwa sabulisha sana meheana. May the Lord bless you so much. I know that we are going to bear great fruits out of this and we are going to celebrate God for your marriages. May the Lord bless you. Let's believe as we pray. Mother Lord, we thank you for this wonderful moment. Thank you for this chance, O God. Thank you for the gift of life. Thank you for the gift of all these people, King of all glory. I pray Jehovah that you're going to elevate them, O God. If anyone of them is passing through something, Lord, may you come through for them, King of all glory. Anyone who is bitter, King of all mighty, may you come, Lord, and help them to forgive those who have caused the bitterness in them in the mighty name of Jesus. Those who are trusting in you for marriages, Lord, may you direct them to their right partners. May you King of all glory make the relationship to work. May you be in them in the mighty name of Jesus. We pray and we give you glory. Amen. Amen. Amen. Amen. Thank you. Thank you so much. Thank you. God bless you so much. All social media platforms. So if you have any other question or you want to follow up on a particular topic, just DM them and they'll be a blessing in your life. There's something that he has shared and God is just prompting me to share with you guys when it comes to bitterness and that anger. In 2021, I broke up with my, well, my fiance. We broke up and it was so bitter and it became so bitter and angry. And one thing that helped me, I went to God with it. I just said, God, I bring you this bitterness. God, I bring you this anger. God naletaia sira kwa kwa. You deal me with it. And one thing I can tell you is that God healed me proper. And three things I learned from that breakup. Who am I? Where am I going? And who I want to go with on that journey. Those are very three key things that can even help you when you're going through a breakup and you want to begin a new journey. Three questions. Who are you? You need to know who you are. Where are you going as a person? And on this journey, whom do you want to tag along with? And that you're going to go with that person for the rest of your life and you're never going to regret. And you need to be ready for this journey.