 وَأَقُولُ فِي القُرْعَانِ مَا جَاءَتْ بِيهِ آياتُهُ فَهُوَ الْكَارِيمُ المُنزَالُهُ وَأَقُولُ قَالَ اللَّهُ جَلَّ جَلَالُهُ وَالْمُصْطَافَ الْهَاديِ وَلَا أَتْ أَوْوَالُهُ كيف سأفعل مع أبي أجل الذي يجب على أمي ويجب علىه الحمد لله رب العالمين والصلاة والسلام على ابت الله ورسوله نبينا محمد وعلى آله وصحبه أجمعي الأول شيء يفهم is that the rights of the father and mother are not lost because one of them is oppressive so you definitely have to keep that in mind that the rights of the father because he insults your mother doesn't mean that he has no rights as a father we have to bear in mind the rules and the laws of Islam as well as wisdom so we don't help one over the other based on emotion but based on what Islam says we have to base our interaction or our involvement in this kind of discussions and arguments we have to base it upon what Islam says and one of the greatest things that a person can do in this situation is to help their father to stop this kind of abusive and insulting behavior أنا صر رضي الله عنه he narrated قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم ونصر أخاك ظالما أو مظلومة فقال الرجل يا رسول الله صره إذا كان مظلومة أفرائي تا إذا كان ظالما كيف أنصره قال تحجره أو قال تمنعه من الظن فإن ذلك أنا صعوبه أفراد صلى الله عليه وسلم قال ترانسلاتي of which is help your brother whether he's an oppressor or oppressed أمان said أمس إن شاء الله I would help him if he's oppressed but how or what do you think how I should help him if he is an oppressor the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said you prevent him or stop him from his oppression and this is what it means to help him so one of the greatest things that the person can do for their father in this situation is to stop him from oppressing his wife I from oppressing their mother and to do so in a way that's respectful of his authority respectful of his position as a father gives him his rights as a father but still helps him to stop that because ultimately that's could be the sin that prevents him from gender ultimately so helping him to do that is part of so the person has to find a wise way of doing that at the same time have to be careful that their involvement in this argument or these arguments is Islamic and not based on emotion or based on you know, for example, maybe there are things that the mother is doing which are also wrong but the person completely ignores them on an emotional level you know, just says I'm not going to I'm not interested is very, very important a person judges between them Islamically and fairly and helps the oppressor to stop their oppression and helps the oppressed by stopping them from being oppressed and does so in a way that's respectful to the rights of the parents we also have to bear in mind the principles of forbidding evil because if you're going to forbid an evil and bring about another evil worse than it then this is not permissible in Islam to do there are some people وإذا قيل له التقل لها أخذت والعزة will be there are some people, if you say to them have تقوى of Allah their pride and their you know, their perceived honor causes them to engage in more sin than if you were to be silent so for example a person's father insults their mother the person says you know, dad this is not right Subhan Allah Allah bless you but this is not right you have to think about this you know ظلمات يوم القيامة that oppression is the darkness يوم القيامة how will you stand in front of Allah and the father then goes and physically beats his wife physically starts to attack her وَاَخَذَتُ الْعِزَّةُ والعِثْمِ he got so his honor got insulted by the person giving him advice so he actually started to do worse what that child did didn't help it made the situation worse and it actually caused the mother great harm so it's very important that if you're going to stop an evil you can't bring about an evil that is worse and definitely again, where as we've said in other questions you need to vary the methods of advice how to reach the father and ultimately the goal is to protect your mother from being oppressed and protect your father from oppressing her and to give the parents their right in a way that is respectful and bearing in mind their status in Islam but in a way also that stops this situation from happening and Allah عز وجل knows best السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته how can you do a two second action right now that will give you a share of the reward of everything we're doing on this YouTube channel simple like this video and click subscribe why it will allow YouTube to recommend our videos to other users and imagine the huge amount of reward that could be waiting for you on the day of judgment if you did that with a sincere intention of spreading the Dean of Allah you'll be rewarded for every single person who benefits from one of our videos as a result of your like or subscribe that's an easy two second action that you definitely don't want to miss out on do it now click like and subscribe and don't forget to make that intention