 Next question is from Composed Cocktails. Do any of you have experience helping a significant other get in shape? I'm having a hard time balancing being a good or nice boyfriend, while also trying to be strict or real with my guidance and advice. Who picked this question? I did. This is really good, right? Okay, so I like this question because this has been an interesting journey for me. I used to have a rule that I would not train my girlfriends. I never did. So all through my 20s. It's a slippery slope. Well, here's what I found. I was so passionate about the job. I had a really hard time. And every girlfriend did in my 20s. It would be like, will you train me? Or will you write a plan for me? They would ask that. Like a voicemail. Yeah, they do it just like that. Please me. Yeah, so they would ask me to do this. And whenever I would try, I would get really frustrated because we would be working out together and it would turn into giggling and flirting and not taking the form and technique serious. Or if I was putting them on a diet plan, they followed it for a few days and then they were off of it. So I'd have all this kind of wasted energy into helping. And I took my job so serious. It was so hard for me to switch to this. It ain't that serious for her. She wants my help, but then she don't really give a shit that much. So I just made like this hard rule. Like I don't train. I don't train girlfriends. I don't do that. It wasn't until Katrina, did I meet somebody who I actually train, diet, and eat with? And for me, it really was. I waited. And for the first two years, we didn't. I didn't help her at all with any of that stuff. I waited until she came to me and like really, really, really wanted me to like dial her hand on all those things. Otherwise, it comes off as like me trying to push all that on somebody who really deep down doesn't want it that bad. And that was always like this struggle in the relationship. So I mean, my advice is to make sure that the significant other really wants the information that you want to give to them. Because sometimes they just say it because it's like, oh, you're a trainer. You're knowledgeable about nutrition. You're knowledgeable about working out. So help me out. But deep down, they really don't give a shit that much about it. And they're not going to treat it the same way that you want a client to treat it. So that's a slippery slope because telling your client, hey, you know, that's not on your meal plan or maybe that's outside of your micros is different than telling that to your wife or your girlfriend. They feel like tyrannized. Yeah. Or like, why am I not looking good? You know, my fat or what's in you. So you have this slippery slope going on. I agree with Adam. Number one, make sure they're asking you don't approach them. Don't go up to them and say, hey, do you want me to have them ask you and they really want to do it and then define what that looks like. Say, what kind of trainer do you want? Do you want me to just focus on your workouts? Do you want me to like help you with nutrition too? Do you want me to call you out? Or do you want to just, you know, be boyfriend and girlfriend and then I train you in the gym and, you know, and that's it. And then here's the second. Here's the other part. Don't take it so seriously. I hate to say that, but I mean it because if you value your relationship more than that's more important, you know, sometimes being right is not as important as everybody being happy. You got to remember it's your job. So it's like you're asking your partner to step into your work every single day. And then you're also asking yourself to outside of work, work more. And it's just the worst thing is to get in an argument or a fight with your significant other over their lack of devotion to the workout plan or diet. Like what a silly thing to argue about. Any other profession like, you know, somebody coming home and they know that they work on cars. And it's just like, why haven't you fixed it? You know, it's just a different dynamic, you know, at that point to where it like, oh, get to it. You know, it's like this, this sort of it's not, there's not a whole lot of urgency. And so to actually get somebody else involved, I highly recommend. And this is something that, you know, I did. Justin trained my girlfriends. Yeah, I trained his girlfriends, you know, Jerry trained mine, you know, like so that was, I have a unique situation cause I started out training my wife before we were even a couple. And I realized right away, this is going to be unprofessional real fast. And so I sent her off. Spotting her? Yeah. I might fall down, hurry up and grab that. Yeah, no, I was like really professional, but also I was like very much like, dude, yeah, like this is going to be a thing. And so I got somebody else to train her and like kept tabs, but down the road it was like only until just recently actually where like Courtney has been asking me a lot more about like what she should be doing, what kind of food she should eat, like what, like how her training, how her posture looks like, like form technique, like all that kind of stuff. I just kind of like waited, I waited for that opportunity and she was like, you know, really into kickboxing at the time and would ask me all these questions, why her knees and her back hurts. And I'm like, I had to be real. I'm like, this is why. And you're not doing this, that and the other. And then I just leave it at that and then walk away. Yeah. It really, it's up to them to then, you know, follow up and want to be educated on that subject. 24 Hour Fitness used to do a really cool thing. If you, if as we had it, we used to get training sessions for half off. So basically you're just paying to cover the cost of the trainer and stuff like that. And the company's not really making any money off of, off of you, you getting personal trainers. So I always bought it for all of, like every girlfriend trained with like my best trainer at the time. So Justin's trained one of my girlfriends because he worked with me during that time that I was dating her. I trained a lot of people's girlfriends. So I would like here. Yeah. I mean, if they were coming to me and they were asking that, I would say, listen, you know, you're far better off. I'll get you my best trainer and they'll do this and you know, and they'll coach you and help you. You'll do better. And it always worked out much, much better that way. I don't want to be that person. Like you said, or you alluded to Sal, like it ain't that serious. Like it's more about our relationship and like blending my work and job, especially if you take it seriously into that. It can strain the relationship. It depends on the people. Like Jessica loves when I train her in the gym. She really enjoys me telling her what exercises to do, watching her form, pushing her and motivating her. I am not a great client for someone else to train. I've just not, I've been working out so long and training myself for so long. And sometimes she'll give me critiques and I can, I'm not as receptive and she gets annoyed. And so we've had these conversations. So it depends on the person. I would do terrible with that. Yeah. Like imagine, like if you, you know. No way. I'm just not. That's why I don't even work out with workout partners. I don't need your opinion on it. Yeah, I know. I know I'm not a great client. I know it. I know I'm not a great client. I mean, there'll be very few people that I think would be able to train me. And you know, so. Well, that's an interesting topic. Do you have like in mind like somebody you would actually allow to kind of run you through some workouts? You know, the only way. I can't even think of it. I know. It's tough. The only way I could is if I was pursuing something specific and I was looking for. Exactly. So let's say. Like MMA training. Yes. Or like Olympic lifting. Exactly. That too. I am not by any means, you know, proficient in Olympic lifts. And I know there's far better. There's many Webster. Right. Right. There are far better coaches out there. I would 100% hire one and love to have one teach me. Yeah. Traditional resistance training. I can't think of anybody. You're not good. Bodybuilding coach. I can't think of anybody. Full Daru or yeah. Like PJ performs if I'm trying to like actually jump higher. Yes. I would do that. Yeah. Like if I was going to do a jiu-jitsu tournament, I would probably want to work with a coach. Yeah. It would have to be a very specific goal that I have that I'm aware that this person's far more educated than I am on it. But general health and telling me what I need to do. Get the fuck out of here. And you're just, you're so set in your own way and what you do and you feel like you know your body. And I know I'm a pain in the ass with that. So. Yeah. And I think the key is not to take it so seriously. I think when you take it too seriously. Yeah. Have fun with it. Oh, I've made the mistake. You're out to dinner and then they order something. Yeah. And then you're like, oh, you show much for the diet. Now you're just an ass. Let their own guilt talk to you. Yeah. Now you're just an asshole boyfriend for husband. Especially the waitress hears you. I got that look once. Like, did you just tell this bitch what stuff to eat? They're called servers. But you don't stand a trainer too. You know? Stupid.