 I got a comment from viewer Words Words, referring to an earlier comment where a viewer felt unloved and unwanted. And Words Words's comment was that everybody wants to be wanted, but by people that we want. What about the people that nobody wants, mentioning the poor, disabled, disfigured, non-related elderly or mentally ill? And Words Words says, when feeling ugly and unloved, go and love those whom you yourself consider ugly and unloved. And you may see the very definitions of ugly, unlovable, and even love itself change. So this is a very interesting idea and a very interesting new perspective to apply. Feeling unwanted, it's really a really powerless feeling because we are simply placing hope in other people and wishing that other people would behave in a different way towards us. So it's entirely powerless. We can just simply wish, oh, you know, I wish that other people would behave differently. It's not something that we can control. But choosing how we behave towards other people, that is something that is in our control. So what about this idea? I really see two ways of looking at this idea of if you want to be loved and you want to be wanted, of starting it yourself. First is what I talked about in that previous video, the idea of you appreciating yourself. You decide for yourself what is good and what makes you good. You decide your own value and you choose to love yourself. But I hadn't considered this other angle, which would be you can actually give that feeling towards other people. And that somehow this leads to a better result for you, even though it's not something that inherently automatically solves the problem of being unwanted, because simply showing love for other people does not automatically make you desirable. But there's something about it. Through the act of seeing the best in other people, looking for the good, it's like a disposition of being open to seeing what is good about people. Instead of assuming that a certain type of person, okay, that person is in a certain group. They are mentally ill, so that's their group and they're done. They're criminals, they're underclass, or whatever the outcast of a group is for each of us. We put somebody in that group and then, okay, that's their box, okay, that's a crazy person. Okay, that's a homeless person. Okay, that's a criminal. They're in their box and we no longer need to apply any more thought or feeling towards them. That's, they're done and they are unwanted. They are, they're people that we don't want and we just keep them separate. But imagine taking on the attitude of being open to seeing the good qualities in these people. And you could say, be open to the good in anybody and to really test it. You can test it by trying it out on what you consider to be the very worst people, the very lowest people, you can test it on them. If it works on them, if you can see the good in the very worst and lowest people, find something to love and appreciate in these people, then really you can certainly do it for the people that are easier to appreciate. Does that solve the problem of wanting other people to want you, not directly? But as the viewer comments, you may see the very definitions of ugly, unlovable and even love itself change through this change of attitude. This is a transformational activity through changing perspective on these other people. It will inevitably change the way that we look at ourselves, the way that we see what does it mean to be loved and what does it mean to be wanted. So I think this is an excellent idea and something certainly worth trying. So thank you for that comment and I would like to hear if there's any follow up from if anybody is trying this, I would be happy to hear what is it like? What is a way that one can do this? We're not going to open our door and invite homeless people and criminals into our home and yet I can't in principle say that you should never do such a thing. It seems quite impractical but that would be an extreme but possibly extremely principled thing to do. But how can we actually do this? How can we actually extend that idea of love and extending the idea of expanding the circle of who that we consider worthy as the term the commenter used? It may be going too far to become friends with all of these people that are considered unworthy. Is that too much? And from a practical view it's too much even though in principle it can be good. But it seems like even just a shift in perspective, just the willingness to look at somebody who would be easy to dismiss and to notice that reaction of dismissing them as being of a certain undesirable type, notice that and then give it a second thought to reconsider despite everything that I might prejudge about that person. Let me be open to the good that can be in that person because I believe that in even in the very worst people there is not total badness. Even in the extreme worst cases there are still elements of good. There is a center of good even if it is in the extreme cases completely corrupted and clouded over with bad actions. There is good to be found and that's in the extreme cases in I think in most cases of people that are in a so-called undesirable group. There are a lot of difficulties. There are there is corruption of the good nature but it is still there and it is absolutely findable and it is worth remembering and it is worth giving these people a chance, giving them a chance to show the good that is in them. So I would love to hear any experience with trying this perspective out and maybe some of you are already doing this to a much more advanced degree than me and how is it going? What sort of effects does it have? I have to imagine that one way or another this perspective will lead to a changed view of yourself and the world.