 hey survivors in this video I am going to be telling you how to get revenge on the narcissist please like comment share and subscribe click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos if you would like to donate my paypal links in the video description if you are interested in one-on-one coaching you can email me at nagsforthekoaching at gmail.com how to get revenge on the narcissist if you want to get revenge on the narcissist you need to identify their insecurities weaknesses and vulnerabilities you need to identify their uncertainties or what makes them lack confidence you should then reframe the situation and find ways to provoke manipulate and gas like the narcissist you should find whatever it is that they are insecure about and then provoke them by provoking them you will then reveal their true colors you will reveal who they really are rather than what they portray themselves to be it will cause a narcissist injury and they will act out in ways that you haven't seen before be cautious as they may do things that are harmful or unfearable to you when a narcissist engages in acts of sabotage competition or projection it suggests that you have caused a narcissist injury by engaging in this form of revenge you will definitely hurt them but you will also be putting yourself at risk when the narcissist is triggered to self reflect they will often lash out or do something to hurt you the difference with the narcissist is that there is no cut off point for the amount of pain that they can inflict on someone once you have hurt them once they will desire to take revenge from that one incident and it will just go on and on no amount of your pain and suffering could ever be enough for the narcissist because no matter how much damage they have caused to you or your life in their minds theirs is always worse no matter what they do to you they will never be able to make you feel as miserable as they do that's why when the narcissist experiences a narcissist injury there is no cut off point for the abuse they never give up trying to make you feel the way that they do they don't self reflect or look within so they never resolve the pain or suffering that they are experiencing they spend their lives taking it out on other people using them to boost their self-esteem and regulate their emotions if you do decide to target the narcissist insecurities weaknesses or vulnerabilities it will cause a narcissist injury you will get revenge on them but be very cautious you never know what they will do to you if you prefer a safer option of getting revenge on the narcissist you should identify what the narcissist needs from you the narcissist is dependent on your attention and your admiration of them they need you to validate their existence and make them feel as though they are something of value or significance if you want to get revenge on the narcissist you can take away the attention and admiration that you would normally give to them they may be dependent on your financial resources material items or sex if you want to get revenge on them take those things away you are essentially treating them like a child but this is the only thing that narcissists respond to they are self-absorbed and lack empathy so all they really care about is their own needs if you stop giving them what they need you will be taken revenge on the narcissist another thing the narcissist needs is for you to be dependent on them your dependency on them makes them feel as though they are some something of value or significance it makes them feel as though they have something to give narcissists have to feel as though they have something to validate their existence they have to feel as though they have something that you would want otherwise they would feel completely worthless and insignificant they are dependent on your expectation of something from them this makes them feel as though they are something of value or significance if you want to get revenge on them stop expecting anything from them it takes their power away it makes them feel powerless and as though they have no control over the situation stop relying on them to give anything to you or do something for you their self-esteem and their emotional state is dependent on your reliance of them when you are relying on them or expecting something from them you are giving your power away you are giving them the ability to control you the narcissist is dependent on these types of situations to function they have to feel as though people are relying on them or expecting something from them to validate their existence and make them feel as though they are something of value or significance when you take all of that away and start depending on yourself the narcissist feels invalidated as though you don't need anything from them withhold your time and attention from the narcissist stop relying on them stop expecting something from them stop depending on them that is how you get revenge on the narcissist recognize that you were more of a benefit to them than they ever were to you they needed you more than you needed them and it should be no surprise that they needed you you have so much to give give it to someone who will respect what you have to offer give it to someone who will appreciate it give it to yourself and use it to better yourself and improve your life start working on yourself exercise eat a clean healthy diet do the things that you love to do focus on your own happiness rather than catering to the narcissist demands if there is one thing the narcissist hates to see it's your happiness especially when it is coming from something outside of them when you are happy enjoying your life and not even thinking about them that is the ultimate revenge on the narcissist the last thing they want to see is a source living their lives out having a good time they do everything they can to prevent that from happening whatever they are trying to prevent do it and that will be the ultimate revenge on the narcissist thank you for watching i hope this video resonated with you please like comment share and subscribe click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos if you would like to donate my paypal links in the video description coaching inquiries you can email me at nagsfevercoaching at gmail.com we have a private Reddit community where survivors and frivers can share their experiences and knowledge if you are interested in being a part of this community you can sign up for our patreon page the link is in the video description check out the nagsfever merchandise store where you can purchase your own nagsfever t-shirt or mug we have a variety of designs and it is a great way to support the channel the link to our nagsfever merchandise store is in the video description thank you for watching and i will talk to you soon